Night Feeders Part 4 Up All Night Feeding, newborns, sleep regressions, toddlers, every knackered Mummy welcome!

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Here's a fresh thread!

Let's start by introducing us/babies again

Oh writer what an awful experience for you. Glad your DS is OK and that it's nothing serious. Am sure your milk supply will be OK by this stage...

mrsmugoo I like your rule about not getting up before 7!

kate how annoying - babies have such a knack of making you think you've cracked it by having a good night and then they revert back just to make sure you know who's boss!!

Not a great night here either, but not horrendous. DD didn't go down until 8.30 after a late nap, and then woke at 10.30 but DH shushed her back to sleep. I then fed her just after 11. I have a vague recollection of patting her back to sleep around 1ish and then I fed her at 2 and again just before 5 after which she slept until nearly 8. I am trying to only feed if it's been 3hrs since the last one if possible which seemed to work last night.
She's currently having a long nap (been down since 9.30) so hopefully if we get some good napping today the night might be better.

Thanks guys, he's had a few short feeds this morning so that's reassuring. His last nappy was nice and wet too

He's currently sleeping (1.5 hours so far) so hopefully he will wake up feeling a bit better and will take a more substantial feed

Oh dear Writer, that sounds like a horrible night. Glad he's doing better today though.

DS has been napping but needs to get up soon as I am meeting a friend in town for lunch at 1pm!

Thanks writer I like to learn about as much as possible.
In having a really emotional day today, I think it's because I'm tired. DS is asleep and has been most of the morning 8:30-11 ish and he's back off again now sleeping soundly which is lovely but again mainly on me or DP. How on earth am I going to cope when DP Goes back to work? It scares me a little. I also get anxious on days where I haven't had much sleep, does anyone else feel like this? DPs family want to take us for lunch tomorrow and I really don't want to go, as I know they will fuss over DS And too much attention tends to unsettle him. Am I being mean? He is only a week old...
I just want to lock myself in the bathroom and cry today but I don't want to look that weak.
Ps we only have a shower what I would do for a bath right now

sammy that sounds completely, completely normal to me. I vividly remember being terrified of my DH going back to work, thinking I wouldn't cope, and sleep deprivation can make you feel really weird and very anxious. One week is still so, so young. My DS was still only sleeping on one of us at that stage but he got used to his moses basket pretty soon after that. You will cope when your DP goes back to work -- often I find anticipating things like that is much worse than the reality when they actually happen.

Don't go out for lunch if you don't want to -- you only had a baby a week ago and you're perfectly entitled to still be in your pyjamas at this stage! I'm sure your DPs family will understand. Can you maybe compromise and instead of going out they bring lunch to you? That way they will get to see your DS and spend time with all of you and they can help out by bringing/making food.

Also, if you're feeling weepy then have a bit of a cry! It's not weak at all and it might make you feel a bit better rather than bottling it up

Oh Sammy - with your little one still only a week old you are allowed to be as emotional and anxious as you like. I would absolutely definitely not be going out for a meal - when my DS was that young all I wanted was to be left alone and it just be me, DH and our baby. I certainly wouldn't want him being passed round, babies that little just want to be with their mom - and that includes when they sleep. All he has known in his life is your womb, your voice, and your heartbeat and it's his instinct to never want to be away from you. It's exhausting having them constantly on you but actually it's a very beautiful and special bond x x

this is a really interesting read for those with sleep 'regression'

Started feeding just after 7, so earlier than usual as I'm gradually trying to push bedtime back to be the same as DS1 by clock change hopefully.

Those bf, do your babies have a really long feed for their last one? All our feeds in the day are around 10 mins but last one can be 40-60 mins!

cannot yes final feed is always longer for us (I'm doing it right now as it happens). Earlier feeds are too short to give me time to post on MN

I say "final" feed, he'll be up multiple times in the night, obvs

DS's bedtime feed isn't any longer than his daytime ones that I've noticed.

He has really picked up this evening and has had two normal breast feeds!! I feel so happy as I've been so worried about him getting dehydrated. He hasn't been sick today either.

He's had about 4 hours worth of sleep during the day and he still looks super sleepy. I've just fed him and popped him in his cot (whilst awake) to see if he will drop off.

He slept with me last night and I can never fully switch off when he's lying next to me. I was tired anyway from being up two hourly with him but it didn't help that I could only lightly doze between those wakings. If he happily sleeps in his cot tonight I should get a much better sleep myself hopefully.

I wish he'd hurry up and go to sleep as I'm desperate to catch up on last night's Holby City

Well, thanks to an unusually late nap he won't settle. Have sent DH up to have a go while I watch a bit of Bake Off

Glad your DS is feeling (and feeding!) better, writer

I had to take him out the cot in the end because he was too awake and hyper. I lay him on my bed and started playing his favourite lullaby (via App o

Pressed send too early...

I was trying to say I played his favourite lullaby via an App on my phone and he was asleep within 5 minutes

No longer at bedtime feed here either - all his feeds are super speedy at the moment. 3 minutes or so each side and he's done. No wonder he's on every 90 bloody minutes and isn't interested in his solids one little bit.

Writer glad he's feeding better and that his lullaby helped too!

Blimey missmugoo - that's speedy feeding

I have managed to transfer him into his cot and although he's moaning a little he hasn't woke up. I'm going to take my chances with my headphones and Holby City

Thank you for all your kind words and it's nice to know what I'm feeling is normal.
Guess what everyone my DS just gave me 4 hours sleep! Could it be coincidence? Could it be that I have him some expressed milk from a bottle before bed? Could it be the hot water bottle, rolled up towels in the Moses basket combo. I don't know but it's a dreammmmm! At least I can catch up on my sleep. He's feeding now, wonder if I'll be so lucky for the next 4 hours, I doubt it.

My ds will only sleep longer at night if he has a longer feed before bed - sometimes I need to make sure he has a longer feed rather than relying on when he finishes.

mrsmugoo I read somewhere that 90 mins is how long it takes to digest breast milk - ds varies between this and 2 hours.

I also read that 5 hours is a full nights sleep for babies so I'm pleased ds has gone for 4 hours 45 mins tonight especially as he was really distressed at bedtime again tonight. No idea what was wrong with him but it took an hour and half of screaming to get him to sleep and then he kind of buried his head into me and went to sleep. No idea what it was all about but it's the second night he's been like this at bedtime. Normally he falls asleep after his feed without much trouble maybe a little crying. And looking at my feeding tracker it was 6 hours between his last feed and this one.

That's brilliant Sammy - I hope you get another 4 hour stretch but if not at least you know DS can go that long and so there's light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm feeding DS now, he only went 6 hours, but as he's not feeding well I knew he'd be awake earlier than normal with feeling hungry. Hopefully this feed should see us through to a reasonable time in the morning

Great news Sammy!

DS did 8-3.15 so not as good as last night but still a massive improvement on the last few weeks. This feed should get us through til morning now

Night night cannot and writer
DS has awoke again but It's a start so I'm staying positive.
Hope you all sleep well

Auntiemaggie
for all the info, if 5 hours is a babies full night sleep that's useful to know and makes me feel better anyways.

A newcomer here. DD is 4 weeks and she is my third. Finding 3 a lot harder than I thought.... And I have almost full time help too.

She tends to not let me have an evening (although she did last night) and then is up twice in the night, after going to bed about half tennish. Those wake ups are an hour each. Good news is that she tends not to get up til almost 8am and between DH and our nanny, the boys get sorted out, leaving us to sleep.

It's funny how you make the same mistakes/put up with the same stuff/are just as clueless every baby; I feed to sleep and always have done!

Is the night waking and durations I have described and lack of evening standard for a 4 week old? I've no idea as obvs have forgotten everything that happened with the previous two!