It's interesting that we've moved from 'as soon as they can ask for it' to 'when they can say full sentences' in the opposition to EBF stakes. I agree with Yank and often bring it up on here. Babies are born able to ask for milk. The method of asking just matures over time. And 'full sentences' is of course, completely arbitrary because some speak in full sentences at 1, some at 2, some at 3, some at 4, some never. It's just societal influence. We aren't used to seeing older children bf and something out of the ordinary, particularly associated with a part of the body fetishised by our society, is strange to somebody with no direct experience of it.
I suspect I would have found natural term bfing odd years ago. I never encountered it though. I fed dd until she self weaned at 3 and a half and it was completely natural and a continuation of a relationship, not a bizarre and arbitrary decision to feed an older child. I have a 2.4yo now and he will wean when he's ready. I've bf him every day for 2.4 years. It's not a new thing to me, it's a biological norm. I certainly don't mind other people finding it odd. It IS odd and it is new to them, seeing a 2.4yo being bf. A personal reaction to that is fine, I merely expect the person seeing it to accept that it's their reaction and no more no less. It's fine to find things strange because we all do things differently. It's believing you're right and other people are wrong or trying to impose your own beliefs on other people which is the problem. The problem with it being seen as 'odd' needs tackling from a societal level, not a personal level. It's just conditioning. We don't see it around us or depicted in any way other than the terms described above. It seems to be erroneously linked to a type of parent I've never met. Wishy-washy, tofu-knitting, patchouli-wearing hippies apparently. I suspect I do conform to the stereotype a bit. I am a pacifistic hippy wearing mostly patchwork. I do co-sleep and used a sling exclusively and I am AP up the wazoo. I should point out though that I might not shout and I don't say no either but I am not afraid to deny things or set boundaries. In fact, you'll find that like a lot of AP parents, I have very high expectations of my children and their behaviour and thus far, both dc are well-rounded, well-behaved and lovely people. The AP = can't say no thing is such a massive myth.
I find lots of things odd. Like pushchairs and reins and purees. But that's because I don't use them, they're just unfamiliar. I understand on a practical level why they're a good idea and know that my reaction comes merely from my own life experiences. Sadly, the difference remains that society paints some things as normal or 'acceptable' and others as odd.
And all that 'keeping a child a baby', 'all about the mother', 'sexual and creepy' stuff is bollocks. That's definitely all about the person doing the criticising and just an expression of ignorance.