Breasts are for sex only...not for food...

[rosebea]

...so my SIL told me today. I am sat here crying and I don't know what to do. Today my SIL told me that I was disgusting for still breastfeeding my DD and I was being cruel to DH by continuing to exclude him!! My DD is only 6 months old and i am trying to do the best for her and DH understands this and supports me. It's just SIL who feels like she can get at me by putting me down. She loves to say how she bottle fed her two so she could have sex asap after the birth. SIL said her partner told her that her breasts were his and sexual not food. I can't believe she actually said this...I feel like I can never do anything right on that side of the family. Sorry for ranting...

she sounds like a prat (sorry). You know you're doing a great job so ignore her.

WTF?

It is your SIL who has the problem, not you. You are not disgusting, you are doing the best you can for your baby.

hes a prat, shes a prick good on you for breastfeeding

how odd... i managed to breastfeed AND have sex.

not at the same time I might add..... but you know what I mean!

why do they have to me mutually exclusive?

your SIL is a total idiot. Your dd is only 6 months old! thw WHO reccommend that babies are bf for a minimum for 6 months... keep going you're going a fantastic thing! Its the best start you can offer. You can still have sex if you want to... Any grown up man will understand that you are feeding and how important it is. Please ignore your SIL, its a very backward view!

Ignore her.

Silly cow.

This might make you smile though.....

Ds (4yrs) said to me recently, 'Now that you have finished feeding baby Joshua, Mummy, what are you going to do with your boobies??!!'

what a cow

Please don't listen to her - are your own family more supportive? And what does your dh think of "his side"?

Ignore her!

Collision, rofl thinking about how you responded.

Is she your dh's sister? If she is nxt time ask her if he got the brains and the looks what the hell did she get?

Fucking nutter.
She is the sick weirdo not you.

Where does she live??? I'llcome and nut her for you.

Rosebea, how horrible for you :(

What a prize arse your SIL is - breastfeeding has got nothing to do with your sex life anyway, they are two completely different things. She is completely screwed in the head if you ask me, and I'm sorry if it sounds out of order to say this, but she sounds jealous of you and the great breastfeeding relationship you have with your dd.

Breastfeeding is without question the best thing for you and your dd. Keep it up for as long as you both enjoy it, and don't let twisted uptight mannerless people interfere with something that is absolutely none of their business!

I just stared at him blankly and said I would have a think about it!

Still makes me laugh!

You might not be able to 'do anything right on that side of the family' because they are just plain wrong.

Aside from how mean she's been to you, it worries me that any woman can say as you quote of your SIL 'her partner told her that her breasts were his and sexual not food' and actually believe that.

More fool her that she didn't have the brains or the guts to put him right - or admit to you that she knew he was wrong.

TBH if my partner ever said anything like that I'd lamp him one. As Kbear says, you're doing a great job, far more important than pandering to some idiot husband. As you say, your dh understands and supports you - remind your SIL that's one of the reasons you married him, because he doesn't undermine or humiliate you and he can put his children before himself.

Sorry, rant over.

Why does your SIL have such an unhealthy interest in her brother's sex life anyway? Nosey weird cow.

You're doing the right thing :) xxx

just laugh at her. she's not worth worrying about, silly tart.

what an insecure and selfish git she's with if he can't share his breasts with a baby!

I'm still feeding my dd after 16 months and I don't think you'll get any complaints from my dh

you are doing the best for your baby. absolutely the best. she has missed out on a wonderful experience and you are experiencing it every day

DH is supportive and thanks for all of your supportive replies! She just likes to make me look bad in front of MIL! It's just making me wonder if maybe it is time to stop. DD has stopped paying as much attention during a feed. But I love feeding her, I'm just so confused!!!

Rosebea, listen to us, we are not confused, we all agree:

your SIL is a weird rude twat

breastfeeding is fab

keep it up

trust us on this one

:) :) :) :)

she sound just like my mates sister, her husband didn't 'allow' her to bf as he felt her boobs were 'his' not the babys!

glad your dh is on your side, thats the important thing, not what an ignorant fool like her thinks. take a deep breath and eat a chocolate and don't let her bother you!

Dont stop.

Carry on and if you are both happy then there is no need to stop.

Why the hell these people need to get involved with such private things is unbelievable.

Why do you even care what she thinks as a matter of interest?

How bizarre! I could quite easily manage sex and breastfeeding (not at the same time of course, that would be wrong ). Ok, so DH can't touch em braless without getting squirted, but we can cope without!!!

She's mad, enjoy feeding your baby for as long as you want.

I'm with jamiesam, only i Bridgwater they'd say 'I'd nut'im'

Seriously odd approach. I was PG with ds2 whilst still partially bf ds1, and it wasn't an immaculate conception.

She (and her partner) have ISSUES, do not allow yourself to be dragged into their odd world.

rosebea,you're doing wonderfully!!
Are you new on MN btw?

Feel revolted by your sils tmi revelations about her sexlife.
Bleaaarghh!!!

ps, who said bf-ing means your partner can't enjoy your boobs too? my dp loves how big they get and adores playing with them, her dh is missing out

Who are these weird selfsh adults that want to deny a baby her right??
She needs her head sorted. Preferably by akarate expert.

WEEEEEEEIIIIIIIRRRRDDDDDDD!!!!!!