Breasts are for sex only...not for food...

[rosebea]

...so my SIL told me today. I am sat here crying and I don't know what to do. Today my SIL told me that I was disgusting for still breastfeeding my DD and I was being cruel to DH by continuing to exclude him!! My DD is only 6 months old and i am trying to do the best for her and DH understands this and supports me. It's just SIL who feels like she can get at me by putting me down. She loves to say how she bottle fed her two so she could have sex asap after the birth. SIL said her partner told her that her breasts were his and sexual not food. I can't believe she actually said this...I feel like I can never do anything right on that side of the family. Sorry for ranting...

Don't worry Jaimesam I kind of understood, The discretion factor has never bothered me, I was just worried that it meant she didn't want to breastfeed any more.

Hey Jamiesam, it's ok. It does get to you when someone on here has a go. My solution was to go and do something else and forget all about pooey old MN for a while. :)

Jamie,sorry if I upset you,it just enrages me,this 'hide it away' attitude..
Nuff said.
Re 'discreete,it is about the millionth time I have seen it spelt wrong on here,thus am like mad man runnig amok wit an Uzi.

rosebea, haven't read all this but, am frankly stunned!!

you sil said her partner said....huh? does she HAVE a mind of her own?? don't listen to a word she says hun! you are doing really well by still bf at 6 months & sil is clearly clueless!

heavens no, ds1 breastfed until he was around a year, but with ds2 it only finally ended when he was around 20 months - they chose when it ended, not me or anybody else!

:o at Moondog the great speller 'runnig' amok 'wit' an Uzi................

ROFL :o

Don't listen to your sil - leave a copy of "Fresh Milk" by Fiona Giles out on your table when she visits!! - now that will turn her thoughts around :)

So just because she's distracted doesn't mean she wants to stop feeding? She does still feed but she's normally yanking on my hair or trying to look at something behind her while still attached!!!

Any old English bylaws that state you can divorce an Interfering, Misinformed Old Bag of a SIL? You'd have a V.strong case Rosebea.

Well done for getting to 6 months, heres to the next 6 & beyond!

No, she's just fascinated by the outside world and that's outweighing her desire to feed at the moment. When I asked my HV about it she said "to be honest, we'd be quite concerned if he weren't acting that way". It's just a normal developmental stage. I did have to try to feed DS without distractions for quite a while, though -- no one interesting allowed within eye- or earshot, no television, etc. And I did find that at his most distractable, when he wasn't getting as much during the day, he did up the frequency of his night feedings (which we didn't drop until about 9 months). But he's definitely still interested.

E bay do very pretty & reasonably priced nursing necklaces. Wish i'd had one when my dd got to 6months &started getting distracted.

Shes 23 mnths now still feeding v.frequently throughout day,& the distractions aren't really a problem as the feeds are not longer than 5-10mins each now.

what a prat

i've loved breastfeeding... loved sex too .. can't they do sex and food at the same time? course they can

i just stopped breast feeding today . ds 20 months. the end of a lovely little era.. [sigh]

Rosebea - absolutley not, she might be at it for years yet

Oh, and busybusybee - thanks, I'd didn't notice either of those masterpieces in Moondog's post. My heartbeat and blood pressure have just dropped to a more manageable level.

(aw bugger, another typo, where's my magnum in case moondog comes back.....)

I was on here moaning about breastfeeding necklaces the other day cause I wanted a really nice one. I just looked at that site Sleepycat, they're lovely!!!!!!! Have you bought one from thee? Are they ok?

of all the silly comments...
a women who lets her husband tell her what the bits on her body are for, deserves only scorn and maybe pity
am always amazed that people are so divorced from the fact that they are mammals...weird!

Rosebea, for next time, I was going to advise you to tell your sil to effoff with a smug smile on your face.

Instead maybe that the best defense is a good offense and say something like: BLEUGH! spare me the details of your sexlife puh-lease. you are putting my baby off her food/ you're making my milk go sour, etc, etc.
Then watch her huff.