Page 16 | How to stay awake during night feeds part 7 - put in your orders for sleepy dust!

TeaandHobnobs · 2013-01-29T23:26:12+00:00

Can't believe we are on part 7! --and I'm still here-- Welcome one and all [smile]

ChilliBanana · 12/02/2013 01:05

Ugh 2nd feed here, looks like every 2 hrs again.

stitch your poor dh, is there no painkillers he can take?

StitchAteMySleep · 12/02/2013 01:19

He has had 800mg ibuprofen Chilli, just not kicked in yet.

BrainGoneAwol · 12/02/2013 01:58

Thanks for all the info/suggestions. So, decided to enlist the help of dp. Started bedtime at 7, with feed at 8. Did one resettlement at 8.15 with a teen feed, but dp did the two more after that, the last one being at 9.30 - Babybrain has just had his first feed since 8 . Sadly dp and I were chatting about how we are going to do this so I didn't get to sleep til 10.30, but nevertheless...!

Hoping this is the start of something new and not just babybrain being knackered, because I was out for most of the day.

Going to repeat this from now on and from the beginning of march (we're on holiday to devon end of Feb which might mess everything up) dp is going to do any resettles during the night that are less than 4 hours since the last feed.

Will let you all know how it goes.

In other news babybrain has his first taste of solids at the weekend which was hilarious . So far sucking on a slice of pear is the favourite. Toast was ok, banana produced some very funny faces!

Sex. Oh dear. I still haven't managed... Poor dp isn't completely neglected, but at first I was just too sore -birth ended up in the op theatre, and not for a cs and now I find myself quite claustrophobic. I'm trying hard not to be, but it's difficult.

stitch your poor dh. Hope the painkillers helped.

heff hope things improve with your dsis

susie hang in there. Hope you get a better night.

Attempting transfer shortly. Will see whether mammoth feed has made any difference.

StitchAteMySleep · 12/02/2013 02:24

Feeding again, Stitch seems to have forgotten that she will be 1 soon and is waking on a newborn schedule!

Susieloo · 12/02/2013 02:43

2nd feed here so pretty much bang on the same as last night, how can he go from waking once a night or not at all to needing three feeds a night, I did try and settle him without milk first time around but he wouldn't have it, I'm probably too quick to put a bottle in his mouth because in desperate to go back to sleep.

Hello marbles, nice to hear from you. Hello to everyone else. See you in a couple of hours, can't believe I was talkin about graduating a week ago, hahahahahahahahahahaha ............. may be demented.........

larlemucker · 12/02/2013 03:54

Sorry to hear of the lack of sleep suzie.
We're up for first feed, 3am ish seems to be our pattern for waking. Lets just hope Ivan successfully transfer before 6.30am unlike last night!!

larlemucker · 12/02/2013 03:55

Who the hell is Ivan?!!!!!

BrainGoneAwol · 12/02/2013 04:41

If he manages can we all borrow Ivan?

second wake here. Still better than previous nights, but why do the sleeps deteriorate during the night? The gaps between babybrain's wakes always get smaller...

Out of interest, do people still change their 6+ month olds during the night? I can't reliably be sure if babybrain will be dry by morning.

Sounds nasty stitch. Isn't there a growth spurt or regression or something at 12 months?

susie it's so hard though not to do that. I know bf will settle babybrain and I just don't have the energy to deal with getting him to sleep without.

MrsNPattz · 12/02/2013 05:00

First feed here, really good as it was such an early bed time for him. Thanks for replies - I woke up and remembered what I'd written and was so embarrassed but I think we maybe need to do it more often and will invest in some lube!!

Lol at Ivan and on the lakes!

Heff look after each other

Hi Marbles! and hi to everyone else

larlemucker · 12/02/2013 05:14

Opinions please!
At MILs the other day, have always got in quite well with her. Anyway she'll be taking care if baby larle 1 day a week come sep so we are going round quite often so they get used to each other. So she is rocking baby larle as he was crying, which he always does when we are round there, and said "oh that's a spoiled cry"
What do you think she means by that? Baby larle is 6.5 weeks old so yes when he cries he gets picked up and fed/cuddled/rocked etc. whatever helps calm him. I don't think I'm spoiling him and I admit I really struggle when she has him and he is crying, I just want to go get him off her!
Just worried that she'll cc him when she has him at that's what she did with hers but I don't want to use cc (if I can!!)
Am I over reacting to her comment? How do I tell her that I don't want him left crying? The last time we told her how to comfort him she tutted at us.

Sorry for long post

Pinkponiesrock · 12/02/2013 05:17

Woke for feed here at 4.30, had a transfer fail already. Back on boob and Baby pink is back to snoring on my arm like a little piggy so away to try again, fingers crossed.

MrsNPattz · 12/02/2013 05:24

All was looking good for a quick feed and back to sleep until the whole feed came back up again meaning me, little man and the bed has had to be changed I'm getting quite worried about how often he is sick, any advice? He's wide awake now!

Larle i would be upset by that comment too. Your little is far, far too young to be spoilt! Can your DH have a word?

larlemucker · 12/02/2013 06:16

Second transfer fail, what is it with this time in the morning?

MissingMyMarbles · 12/02/2013 06:51

That would piss me right off too, Larle. Just smile sweetly at her and say, " oh, you can't spoil a baby with cuddles at this age" It'll be a while before she has baby Larle regularly though do by then you'll have your own routine and be able to be very prescriptive with her.

Best night in I can't remember how long! So hoping this is the start if something beautiful Down at 6.40, intruder at 7.20, fed at 9.40 and 11.40, DH dealt with a very minor transfer fail by stroking her head briefly, fed again at 2.40 and 6.20, no further transfer fails. I feel like a new woman, hence posting instead of sleeping Mystvtry and get another hour, g'night!!!

Susieloo · 12/02/2013 07:39

Morning we are up-not too bad a night with only two wakings so feel quite normal ish.

larle I would be upset by this too-I think it's a generation thing because my mum was shocked that I wouldn't leave babyloo to cry, especially when he was really small like baby larle, I used to get all the 'he'll be mollycoddled' and really spoilt and I made it very clear that leaving him to cry wasn't an option and they gradually came round to what I was doing and would then reassure me that he wouldn't be let to cry when I wasn't there, realise this is easier because they are my parents and not in laws. Mil is having babyloo this pm while I go the dentist, quite worried about how he will be - he did spend lots of time with her yesterday so I'm hoping it will be okay.

Can't offer any advice re sex mrsn because I had a section so all my worries are around how hideous my stomach looks because of the c section scar 'apron'!! I'm also too knackered to be that interested and I frequently get woken up with the oh so subtle penis nudge which I bat off.

Have good days everyone

larlemucker · 12/02/2013 07:59

3 hours sleep just isn't enough

Ameybee · 12/02/2013 07:59

at the oh so subtle penis nudge susie! I just pretend I'm asleep!! Babies are the best contraception ever! We rarely start off in the same bed anymore so its off the cards! Mrsn I did occasionally find it uncomfortable but I think part of it was psychological thinking about 3rd deg tear!

We had our usual night
Bed at 7
45 min intruder
1030 bottle
4am bottle
6am co sleep
7am up

Suppose that's not too bad and not many transfer fails.

DD woke up screaming at 11 tho - she occasionally gets growing pains (I think) as she screams her knees & legs hurt? She's inconsolable until we give calpol & it kicks in. Maybe I should mention it to gp. I slept in with her till 4am poor love xx

MissingMyMarbles · 12/02/2013 08:11

Up for the day at 8 - woop!

Too knackered for a lot of sex at the minute. A bit uncomfortable anyway but probably improving with frequency.

Amey my DD1 gets dire kegs and knees at night sometimes too. I also think growing pains. Calpol and rubbing help.

Happy Tuesdays everyone

larlemucker · 12/02/2013 08:35

Marbles what's a dire keg? Sounds painful!!!

ChilliBanana · 12/02/2013 08:50

Larle my MIL was a bit funny with baby chilli when he was younger, wouldn't hold him when he cried, refused to feed him, but she's fine with him now. I would have hated that comment though, how can youspoil a tiny baby?

Thanks for the info funch, I guess I'll just have to play it by ear as to how much milk to leave. I'm not precious about him having formula as I always intended for that to be the back up, but we still don't have a prescription for hypoallergenic formula yet, seeing the doctor tomorrow so hopefully that might change.

Typical - baby chilli has been up at 7 on the dot for the last week, so I said we'd drive dh to work today as it's freezing out. Except baby chilli decided today was the day for a lie in, so I could have had one to!
Sorry to hear about all the transfer fails, they are so disheartening, especially more than one

funchum8am · 12/02/2013 08:56

I miss the penis nudge...both just too tired though but should improve as sleep does.

Woke for feeds at 1:20 and 4:30 and up at 8:15 Averted 4am screamathon by feeding her so I guess she is truly hungry then. Not getting excited as I know it could all go backwards (sympathies susie) but at least I feel perky today.

I have to change babyfunch at nights sometimes...I only do it if she is dirty, not for just wee.

Off to work today for child development A level class to study babyfunch, should be fun

larle mil comment would wind me up in light of her caring for baby in the future but you have a long time to try to tackle her attitude. it is a really common problem judging from MN threads!

funchum8am · 12/02/2013 08:56

I miss the penis nudge...both just too tired though but should improve as sleep does.

Woke for feeds at 1:20 and 4:30 and up at 8:15 Averted 4am screamathon by feeding her so I guess she is truly hungry then. Not getting excited as I know it could all go backwards (sympathies susie) but at least I feel perky today.

I have to change babyfunch at nights sometimes...I only do it if she is dirty, not for just wee.

Off to work today for child development A level class to study babyfunch, should be fun

larle mil comment would wind me up in light of her caring for baby in the future but you have a long time to try to tackle her attitude. it is a really common problem judging from MN threads!

GoatBongosAnonymous · 12/02/2013 09:54

Hello again from the bleary-eyed depths of sleep deprivation (nods in recognition to other bad-nighters, for *susie). A cold and upset tummy (Kid's)does not help.
heff for you. Sounds so tough. If you ever want to offload/rant/etc I have an ear ready - I know how awful it is having to stand and watch a family member do this to themselves and to you.
mrsn love the wedding photos of your little man, and good to see an outing of the Royal Stewart tartan!
funch fab that the cc is working, long may it continue. Kid usually has a little cry before he can sleep, I now just leave him to it and a couple of minutes later he is out. Funnily enough DH finds it much more difficult to leave him than I do, despite him thinking we should go for CIO! I couldn't, but also bad nights are not a problem of self-settling but of broken sleep and discomfort, so CIO not going to do a thing.
I am with the just-too-knackered-for-sex crew. We manage on occasion, but rather infrequent at the moment. Also kid still has that amazing radar that picks up when we are even thinking about it, cue wailing! DH reckons he is worried in case we are making a rival for him!
larle definitely agree that you can't spoil a weeny baby, you could always go scientific on MIL and point out that being spoiled requires a social interaction well beyond the developmental stage of a 6.5 week old...
Kid is asleep, am about to trying joining him.

MrsNPattz · 12/02/2013 10:10

I lost 2lb and got my first half stone and 5% award Really proud that I kept going through the tough times, I'm sure there are more to come and it proves I can do it.

We definitely don't do the deed very often - that's only twice since little man was born. And the more we do it the less I want to because it's not comfortable - even sore sometimes. But I think we need to power through!!

Water babies again this afternoon - can't wait.

BrainGoneAwol · 12/02/2013 10:20

larle we've had very similar comments. At Christmas mil told us to leave him crying upstairs because she wanted to do the usual thing of a relaxing evening sitting around and playing games. Right.

On subsequent visits he has cried and she's called them crocodile tears or when he was wriggling said he was angry!!

Each of these times he's been on her lap and wanting a feed or sleep and it has clashed with lunchtime.

Luckily, much as I would love some real help, the fact that babybrain won't take a bottle means he can't be left for any length of time yet.

When the time comes I think the threat of us saying we won't let her babysit will stop her leaving him to cry.