How to stay awake during night feeds part 4 - Food porn a plenty

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What a horrible day , baby evil would not settle all morning, had loads last night about 8oz each feed, sometimes 10oz . This morning 5 and half oz. I've felt so inadicate all day, he would not stop crying. infact I almost burst into tears when my mum fed him and he was fine.
I would have taken him in the car to sleep but its still not fixed, DP is phoning the insurance company, as we don't really have the funds to fix it.
She took us out to tesco as I was out of infacol. He even manged to cry in tesco, everyone looked it was awful everyone staring at me. went over to my mums and she told things will get better, and I'm a good mum.
But why don't I feel like it? I just feel like I'm missing something, clean, warm, fed, burped, comfort, and not over stimulated. My mum said babies sometimes just cry.

Pizza tonight for tea, my mum said to try the hungry baby milk as it worked for both my sister and I. I'm still not sure, but if there is a repeat of last night, I'll try anything!

Any advice? I'm keeping him upright when feeding in an anti colic bottle, he is having infacol, I'm burping him all four ways. I'm trying to feed him before he gets too worked up, but it's not working. At night I'm feeding him in a darkened room, with no stimulation.

a sad Evil

I asked the hv today how to stop baby small waking every hour in the night and she said to put him down in his cot when he is sleepy but asleep so he can learn to go to sleep on his own- he is 11 weeks. I've just done our bath/bed routine and put him down very very sleepy but he's just screamed, I really don't think this is going to work . Anyone else do this or does everyone feed to sleep?

Hi girls. I feel like a new woman after getting my hair done just to get my eyebrows waxed tomorrow and I will nearly feel like my normal self (for a little while ) I have vouchers for a spa that my work got me when I went on maternity leave, so next time hubby is off I am going to get my nails done and a head massage.

amey so glad your eyes are better.

marbles so glad DD1 is feeling better.

funch how did you find out about baby screenings - would it say on the cinemas website?

small I feed or rock to sleep - usually feed especially at night.

evil I haven't got any advice I'm sorry, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry you are feeling rubbish, but that you are a good mum and this will pass! Enjoy your pizza - you deserve it xx

small I had almost exact same advice from my HV and had the same results as you.

So until I can figure out what I want to do (if I'm prepared to let him cry) I'm still feeding him to sleep. Not the best I know but don't want to start something half hearted.

Quick Q.... Does anyone else's baby wake up one hour after being put to bed then settle after 2nd put down??

Baby always wakes 30 min to 1 hour after going to bed. Then sleeps for a few hours after 2nd time. (Doesn't sleep through but a few hours lol)

v it sometimes takes us a few put downs lol I usually know when it's the 'real' one though

At the moment I feed to sleep but we have cluster feeding every evening which reaches a peak then I know he's totally gone - floppy arms and he goes down then, before then he cat naps and snoozes. During the day naps are a nightmare!?
Evil - virtual hug! We all have days/weeks like that! Just start again Tomo! My MIL thinks babies can sense when u get anxious and stressed & I have to say I think she's right - sometimes when I hand baby bee to someone else screaming and fussing he just goes to sleep!! Being a mummy is the most rewarding and wonderful thing ever but man its difficult! I had PND with my first & I have to say getting out n about every day really lifted my mood, I do a walk every day even if its just ten mins xxx

evil you poor thing what a stressful and upsetting day, please don't doubt yourself you are a great mum and you're giving your baby everything possible to keep him happy, there are sometimes just days when you feel you can't do anything right and nobody knows why. Babies cry, perhaps not for no reason but sometimes for no obvious reason and as long as they are healthy, dry, warm, fed and loved then whatever it is won't be drastic and is certainly not your fault. Enjoy your pizza and remember tomorrow is a brand new day.

small its up to you what you do re sleeping, if you don't like the hv's approach then follow your instinct. I've noticed a lot of hvs can be quite 'old school' in their approach to sleep and that's fine but only if you and your baby agree! IMO 11 weeks is too young for any kind of sleep training, all the research suggests 6 months is when they start being able to learn so there is absolutely no harm in feeding/rocking/cuddling to sleep when they are tiny. Think of it in the long term, 6 months is nothing in an entire lifetime and when he is 16 he won't need rocking to sleep so at some point in between he will learn (and then if you're mad like me you'll miss it!). Hope you find what works for you :)

mrsn that sounds fab glad you're feeling more like yourself! I'm hoping for a spa day from DH for Xmas, I've been dropping hints like nobodies business so hopefully he'll cotton on!

funch how was skyfall with baby funch? I'm so gutted I missed it! I went in to see if they are showing it again but they said no :( although they were lovely and said I could probably get away with bringing her to a morning screening next week as it will be really quiet by then so I might risk it. They've got Twilight on in December though, I'm definitely going to that one!!

How is everyone else doing?

Evil Try not to feel down about it, your Mum is right sometimes babies do cry. Hope you enjoy your pizza and have time to yourself. How old is your little one? Is it possible that LO has a tummy ache from eating too much? 10oz is a fair amount, Or maybe reflux?

Small It might take your little one a while to get used to self settling, it took a while to get MiniPop to do it, and a lot of crying and shusshing and patting and reassuring (and a bit of help from Ewan), but the last time we did it he cried for 7 minutes and then went to sleep (he is a bit older though)

MummyV google 45 minute intruder :) could that be it?

Heffa How's DD1's arm today?

We had a fairly good night last night, 10:30pm - 5:30am, which isn't bad. Shame DP woke me up in the early hours when he finally came to bed . Breakfast feed is at 8:30am, so even though MiniPop had a feed at 5:45 he was still awake at 7:30 wanting to be up and getting dressed..

evil I have had days like that, it is horrible. But sometimes the next day is better, and you are doing everything right so hang in there.

heff skyfall was great though I had to do a fair bit of walking about as babyfunch got a bit shouty! But as it was a baby screening no one minded, or at least no one showed it, which is good enough for me.

I generally feed to sleep - I have no choice, she falls asleep most feeds! HV said the same to me so I have tried putting her down awake a few times and it worked, but I think this is because she is too young to fight sleep - another week or two and it could be very different!

Evening everyone

We are on first feed of the night and dp has just come to bed and bought me some toast which was amazing but bed now full of crumbs.

Great sleep minipop

evil totally agree with everyone else, sometimes I think babies just cry.

The baby screenings at odeon cinemas are called newbies and there is a list on the odeon website that tells you which cinemas offer them, I would love to go and see skyfall and definitely twilight but we would need to get a train and babyloo would want me to carry him round for two hours and he's just too heavy!!

Thank you everyone for asking about kit day, it was fine and i mentioned to my boss that I wanted to extend my leave until may and she was supportive but asked me not to tell the other three members of my team because they are so stressed trying to cover she thinks it will depress/freak them out, I'm meeting two of them for lunch tomorrow-today now-so think I probably will tell them so they are forewarned but ask them not to tell my boss I told them!

Attempting transfer-I feed to sleep and then hold babyloo for about ten minutes so his milk goes down and then attempt to put him down

I think I've completely messed up tonight

I'm not sure what I was thinking. Baby J fell asleep about 4.30 whilst I was at a friends house and by the time I got home it was close to 6pm. So I decided to take him straight to bed.

He usually wakes a couple of times early evening but then settles down by 8/9 ish which he did however tonight he woke about 10 and will not go back to sleep. He's not hungry & he's been changed but is just screaming at us.

DS has a cold and is so snuffly that he isn't comfortable lying flat and just wants to be upright on me or comfort sucking/feeding.He's too little for cal pol so no relief available. DH just took him for a bit but he just cried so was not at all relaxing. Having just today poo-poohed the idea of introducing a bottle in the evening, am now so tempted, just to let me have more than an hour of sleep at once. I know it won't feel so bad in the morning but right now I could just walk out and check into a hotel and sleep and sleep and sleep!

evil sorry you've had a stressful day, babies do just cry! Don't feel like a bad mum because your not x

heff how is yor DDs arm?

small at the minute indont feed to settle, LO has her feed and then more often then not falls asleep or 10min, does a huge poo so I change her then cuddle for 10min or so until she's nodded off or really sleepy that she will happily lie in her Moses basket, to be fair she has been good at settling and now she's getting older sometimes when she don't sleep after a feed she like to lie flat on the floor like she's nosing around

madam aww sorry your LO has a cold. Hoping he settles fr you soon and you all get some sleep soon

First feed of the night here. LO went almost 4 hours! Never been that long so I was shocked, think we'll be back to 2 though now as she didn't have an amazing feed and last night he clustered for just over an hour

Sorry if I've missed people off name check but waves to everyone

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First feed here and it's early for us but I'm not surprised as he was asleep at 8 - super early for him. So it's still a pretty good stretch as I went to bed at 9. I could tell he was exhausted - he was grumpy yesterday and didn't sleep much.

susie glad your kit day went well and your boss was supportive! And thanks for info re cinema, we don't have an Odeon here I don't think

vicky hope you have managed some sleep!

evil hope you are feeling better!

This could be a long one......he has been wide awake for an hour, 2 nappy changes including a poonami, sicky, left boob, right boob, Ewan, and still nothing........I hope he doesn't think it's up time cause he went to sleep so early!!

First feed!!! Since 7.30! I wasn't sure she was going to settle well at all because if all the fireworks! This is the longest ever - 7 1/4 hours - and yes, I am gobsmacked My boobs were like rocks and classically I am hoping she's not sick. I have no reason to think she is, other than she's just skep for ages and DD1 is still poorly.

V we quite often have a 30-40 minute intruder Tonight she was down at 7, but then fed again briefly at 7.30.

Evil sometimes babies do just have a spell of crying It's really hard and stressful but unlikely to be anything you've done or not done when you've checked everything as you said. We all have 'rubbish mummy' days sometimes and it's horrid, but it does get better (((Evil)))

Hi to everyone else. Sorry not to name check further, resettling and checking DD1

WOW well done marbles that's amazing

I was just about to write a post on how slow the board was tonight and that I hoped it was because everyone was getting some sleep and not just too tired to type (that's a lot of T's)

We finally got baby J to sleep not long after last post so I got 2.5hrs. Hopefully going to try transfer now

2nd feed of the night and I'm watching with interest marbles!!!!

V v tired, really hoping he goes through until 7 - I'm going out for lunch today and babyloo going to my mum and dads, he was angelic yesterday apparently so hoping for a repeat today.

Well I'm glad most people feed to sleep! I thought I was missing some magic trick that everyone did to get their babies to sleep! I agree baby small is too young for sleep training so I'll just have to carry on for now. The hv suggested only letting him cry for two mins and don't let him get hysterical so I could try a bit everyday and see if he gets used to it.
Glad you enjoyed the film funch and glad tour kit day went well susie. I'm going to look round a nursery for baby small on Thursday I thought I'd better put his name down as they get long waiting lists, I'm still hoping I won't be going back though.

I have been too tired to post so far though up several times. Sorry to others also suffering and yay for minimarbles!

Babyfunch has woken grizzling and snuffling loads and will only feed for 5 mins then fall asleep, so then wakes again after a short time. I am just. So. Tired.

Clearly far too excited by 7 hours sleep. Second feed. An hour later .....

Back to 2-3 hourly feeds here - the 5 hour was a fluke :(! Struggling to keep eyes open! X

minipops - he is five weeks and a bit.
Thanks everyone, for all the support. I feel loads better after some sleep.
I tried the hungry baby milk last night, I'll let you know how things go.

I'm waiting for baby evil to go to sleep, sleepy dust to you all.
Evil