How to stay awake during night feeds part 3 - wishing for sleepy dust

[TeaandHobnobs]

Welcome all to a shiny new thread for moral support during night feeds, general food envy and chit chat

Thank you all for your sympathy, I'm sure I'll be feeling better soon. Did feel much better after a bath and DH had him all night so I am at least rested.
amey your little girl sounds very sweet.
babylon sending you a big hug
Baby small is doing his job and sucking the infected boob with great gusto!
We've been doing a massage course and he's only been awake for one session so far! He is starting to like it though I think as he smiled at me the other night. I've been doing if after his bath when he's not too overtired and screaming.

Hmm will have a look into camper bed. We have an air bed but its a bit knacked and deflates during the night.

I read some of those MN classics earlier to keep sane and I was in stitches lol mainly read the water flume one so funny

Poor you vicky :( I would def ring your hv for some suggestions. How old Is baby j now? Could he be hungry at night? Would u consider formula top up maybe? Sorry if these are things u have already tried. If it makes you feel better I'm on I think 4th feed of night!! I desperatly hope we are just having growth spurt as last week we'd started getting some 4 hour stretches!
Babylon - hope you're ok, sometimes a good cry makes everything feel better! When I have a full day on my own with both kids and they r both screaming I tend to join in & we all have a good cry!!! Then eat cake - no wonder I've not lost anymore weight - eek! Got told by gp at my 6 week check I need to lose weight (the last weight they had on record for me was from 2008 - had 2 kids since then!!) she said I was much heavier so def need to lose it! Considering weight watchers again ... Groan :( x

Hello. I've just found this thread. My son was born on Halloween and is BF so a week old today. I'm in the middle of the night from hell :( he hasn't slept for more than ten mins since 8pm and has been feeding loads. We've been up stairs since midnight with him feeding on and off but no sleep. Have finally decamped to the couch with sleeping bag etc in the hope he will sleep down here.

He seems to want to fees but won't suck enough to take breast in his mouth. My breasts feel totally emptied and he has woken my 3 year ol DD.

Help!

A lot of wakeful babies tonight - please don't tell me that sleepy mice migrate south for the winter!!

mummyv so sorry about the sleep deprivation. It's so hard to function like that. Hopefully the hv has some suggestions as well as those on here.

nervous just saw about the scan, hope it goes well. How long do you have to wait? (sorry, can't remember how old your LO is)

amey argh about pre-preg weight! Those midnight raids on the cupboards have not exactly helped the weight melt off and I caved last week and bought jeans in the new (but temporary!) size. At least they weren't maternity jeans! I am determined to have lost it by the time we take Kid home to visit everyone next August. (although I am thankful that my gp did not moment during the 6 week check, I might have slugged him one!)

amey I will consider anything at this point lol I just don't know which way to turn. Baby J is 20wks old. I'd give anything for those 4hr stretches back. At one point he slept from 8 to 12 to 4 to 7 which sounds like heaven right now lol

I've started weight watches again this last week but not much success as because I'm so tired all I want to do is reach for choc and easy food. And when I say easy food I do of course mean yummy food lol but I've got to do something coz I want to look slimmer for my bros wedding in April plus I don't want to be over weight in general coz I don't want to be a fat mum plus I don't want to buy any more clothes in this size

Izzy hello & welcome
This thread is a life saver, everyone is so nice here and there is usually one of us around

Fingers crossed for a good last stretch I hope not to be back here at 5.30

Hello Izzy, welcome! Sorry to hear about the bad night. I don't really have any suggestions, someone else might be more helpful, but hope you get some sleep.

Sleepy mice have definitely migrated well away from me anyway

Sorry your having such a rough night mummy, definitely speak to your hv tomorrow and I think even one night sleep if you could arrange a night nanny would do you the world of good.

Welcome izzy and sorry you too are having a rough night, it sounds like it be a growth spurt, babyloo had a few nights when he was very little of just non stop feeding and then it calmed down again.

Attempting transfer and then hoping to go through until seven

Have been awake since midnight. Rude word.

Oh dear goat that is NOT good....thinking of you and everyone else who is having a bad one.

I have managed a couple of hours' sleep and feel a bit better so the idea of sending DH and DD out for the day on Saturday is receding. About to attempt transfer again and try for a bit more kip, optimistically.

Welcome izzy, this thread keeps me going through loooong nights. I try not to check it during the day so there is lots to read up on every night!

Argh up again!! And he doesn't even seem that intrested In feeding! I just want an hours sleep!!! Please!!

Glad everyone else still not skinny Minnie's yet - I love healthy food but sadly all our healthy freezer stash is gone and when you'd rather sleep than cook chicken dippers and chips Is about your lot!!

Vicky, personally I would give a bottle of formula a go (easy for me to say) our first never settled at night properly and when we did give formula it was like magic - but I guess it only works if hunger is the problem. If you feel ok about it its worth a try!!

Izzy - we are 6 weeks ahead of you but I've not forgotten that constant feeding!!! I found psychologically it was much better to stay downstairs on sofa as I wasn't 'going' to bed, at least for first 2 weeks plus I didn't worry about him waking our toddler upstairs then - nightmare isn't it?! Do u have any local bf support groups? If you do just go n get them to check your latch etc, just to put your mind at rest. We use to do a shift change when toddler got up - so DH had both of them downstairs whilst I got a kip. If it got/gets bad we just take him out in car to calm him down!

Good luck for last couple of hours everyone! Xx

Thank you goat they do the scans between 4 and 6 weeks old and my LO will be 4w4d. Sorry your having a bad night

Waves at izzy this thread is a life safer at night and everyone is lovely

susie hope you had a successful transfer

Third feed here and LO only feed for 8 min, she only normally feeds for a around 10 but I worry she's not getting enough even though she's gaining weight. There's no chocolate left in the house. I'm sure really this is s good thing wondering about taking a stroll to the shops later for supply's and maybe a nice yummy cake

still no sleep. I asked DH if he would get up for a bit so that I could rest if not go to sleep for a bit. he got up no problem but made a right fuss over it. Moaning about how ridiculous it was that baby J wasn't sleeping, trying to chat to me about it at 5am!!! Huffing and puffing about it saying he had got no sleep either (even though he's been in bed all night and when I have returned to the room he has been snoring!!) I'm so angry about it, I don't make a fuss every time I have to get up ( apart from to you guys lol) I don't try to chat to him during the night I try to make it disturbance free as possible.

Not talking to him tonight about it coz I'm tired but if that's how he feels he can get his arse out of bed and share this night time hassle. Thought I was doing him a favour by doing it all myself seeing as he has to go to work.

Anyway I think I'm possibly going to have to move over to formula I don't know if my breast milk is enough now. ( however I did feed him a bottle at bedtime and u tried to offer him one at 5am but he didn't want it so he mustn't be hungry) I think he's using my boob to sooth himself

Nervous - hope scan goes ok, both of ours had it due to me having clicky hips as a baby, both completly normal. My friend scanned them both(as that's my department for work!) it's all pretty precautionary, which is a good thing. Are u having it because of family history or clicking/skin creases? (If u don't mind me asking).

Have u ever tried a dummy vicky? Both of ours weren't impressed but might be worth a try. I guess the formula might be worth a try as it might make him more settled inbetween - maybe he's waking not because he's starving but cos he's not totally full - if that makes sense. Unless you try expressed milk and see how much he's taking?

Well I think sleep is off the cards for me now! And my eye is still grim! Going to have a proper look at it when I get up but my friend who's an opthomologist said if its no better today I should go to eye casualty - great, long wait with baby in germy adult hospital!!! X

I feel really bad posting this when there have been so many horrible nights but this is our first feed since putting him down at midnight! I knew he was over tired due to hardly any sleep in the day. I woke up to a lovely leaky boob lol but I will take that over not sleeping any day. Really sorry for all the horrible nights - hope you all manage to rest today.

Thanks for all of your feedback about baby massage, I hadn't really thought that I could still pick things up with our actually doing it in the class (duh) so that's good to know in case he does cry/sleep/hate it.

Welcome Izzy

Kid is unbelievably grizzly. I am trying to persuade him that stopping would make him feel much better - as he is otherwise currently fed,clean, warm and hugged.
nervous it is never good not to have chocolate in the house! These things can only end badly!!
vicky it's a real pain when a dp is less than supportive. Especially when you are with LO most of the day and they only for a few hours.
Don't feel bad, mrsn we all want to cheer when one of us gets a good night!

Thanks goat hope your massage class goes ok!

Thank you Amey there's no family history it's because she was breech, they said that's what they do for all breech babies now as a precaution so hopefully all is okay

Great news mrsn don't feel bad about it, enjoy!!

Ladies with baby massage today enjoy too and update later

Just feeding again, I'm wondering if I can get another hours sleep after this one! Hope everyone gets some rest today and has a good day

Spent 2 hours in eye casualty n have to wait for swab results anyway, only thing that would help is steroid drops n they are reluctant to give them cos I'm breastfeeding :(. Just made my physio appointment after - lovely lecture on pelvic floor!!! Back home feeling sorry for myself! X

Well, I really enjoyed baby massage there was just me and another lady with her mother in law (she had twins!) and I actually preferred that, I am better in smaller groups. The lady doing it was lovely too. Mr was a bit grumpy but I managed to do must of it, and stayed for a cup of tea afterwards.

I have just noticed that little fella has a bit of flat head I think, anyone else have experience of this? He always looks to the same side and also sleeps with his head to this side so will have to see if we can change that. Just tried tummy time on his mat but he didn't like it.

I feel a bit guilty today, my SIL is getting married in Feb, and is having her hen weekend in Jan. I have just told her I am not going because I will hopefully still be breast feeding which would make it difficult and I don't think I would be ready to leave him for a whole weekend. Am I being mean? Should I have made more effort to go? I really don't want to so was honest with her.

amey sounds like you are having a rotten time, I have problems with my eyes and know how awful it is. Hope you can keep that chin up.

Hope you feel better soon amey

I've cancelled two things I was meant to go to in December because I'm not ready to leave babyloo or give up breastfeeding yet. Definitely don't feel guilty mrsn I think you will just know when it feels right to leave them and I'm sure your sil appreciates the honesty.

We are on last feed before bed and I'm going to eat a huge tea and get some sleep. I spoke to a bf counsellor today about my mashed nipple on babyloo's favourite boob, she recommended giving it a rest so I'm slapping on the Lansinoh and trying to not feed as much on that side, every time he latches on it feels like my nipple is being slammed in a door. She isn't sure why its happening though so I'm hoping we will just get through it like we did when he was a newborn.

Hope the sleepy mice catch up with everyone and scattering sleepy dust as I go

Hellp ladies, worst night so far last night, up and feeding every hour, followed by day at hospital as hv was concerned re weight/colour. Turns out he is fine ~ just going at own pace.

Glad you enjoyed massage Mrsn . It doesn?t sound to me like yoyy?re being unreasonable about the hen night if you?re making the effort to go to the wedding. It has reminded me l?m being a bridesmaid for my DB in April and SIL bought me a dress when l was just pregnant, so very much doubt itt?ll fit now. May be joining some of you who mentioned weightwatchers

Sorry to hear about your eye *amey/. Hope its better soon.

amey sorry ur having a tough time with your eye. Sometimes a healthy happy mum is more important than breast feeding. ( I should take my own advice on that)

npattz baby J had quite a flat head on one side and seemed only to face his left side but now his head is evening out & is using both sides more (still has a preference for the left though)

npattz no don't feel guilty. I had to turn down a night out coz I am still bf plus don't think I could deal with late night and baby J's current sleeping habits.

Do what feels right for you. I feel it's a shame to miss out on adult events but eventually we will get back to a version of our old selves (I hope lol)