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Infant feeding

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^^Extraordinary breastfeeding - tonight on C4 ^^

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harpsichordcarrier · 01/02/2006 17:27

new thread for RTKM

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sharklet · 02/02/2006 14:42

I did enjoy the programme and found it was a great deal less sensationalist that I had expected. I thought the young girl (Kirsty?) was fabulous! What a great inspiration to young mums and all mums planing on b/fing. I wish there had been something like that when DD was born.

I did think the mum with the twins had alllowed herself to become a pacifier for her twins. I admit to doing that myself on accasion with DD but managed to break out of it. It wasn't a very good example of a positive experience, that and the fact that she and her DH had obviously not been intimate in 2 and a half years. I was really happy for the Dad not becasue of the sex aspect, butt here was a moment when he said his son now ran to him for hugs and not the always to the mum, that made me smile as I think we can sometimes forceout the dad with reliance on the breast as a form of comfort.

The spanish lady seemed lovely, and very well meaning. I think had the baby been a tiny baby I'd have tried the same thing, but I don't think I'd have tried it with an 18 month old who had clearly never had anything but a bottle. Thats just me and I admire her for trying.

The lady feeding the 8 year old was obviously the most extreme case. In all honesty I don't see she had done anythign but good for her kids in allowing them to self wean. I do suspect that aside from the b/f in g she seemed in many way fairly indulgent of them and I suspectt hats whats led to such late weaning. I felt sorry for the older one, and was shecked when she said that often her mum and younger sister had b/f in secret so she wouldn't know. That seemed a bit wierd and I did feel for her. As for her Dh having the odd sip, well really who cares. Men like breasts and for them they have a different function. Who cares if he swallows a bit in the process. I don't hink theri story helped much the cause of most extended breastfeeders as it did to an extent put them up for derision.

I'm glad they didn't havea voice over giving a didactic slant to either way of thinking. Perhaps it would make people think twice.

It would be wonderful if you could feed your older child in public without feeling insecure or needing a legislation to protect that right. I'm proud to have fed DD until she self weaned at 22 months, much to my surprise. She does still have the odd suckle every few weeks just to make sure she can, and I'm sure she might do from time to time in the future. I hope she might have some memories of what b/f was for her and for or relationship and hopefully she might decide to b/f her own children in the future.

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 14:47

bounville its nice to know im not the only one going through that have a boyfriend now but all very recent as dd was so time consuming didnt have any time to myself until she started nursery last week!! i was lucky she went into a routine very easily with regards to feeding sleeping etc but health issues have made things difficult despite breast feeding she is allergic to loads asthmatic and has bad excema and at the moment is being tested for diabetes i did try demand feeding but she just snacked every hour or so and i felt i permanently had a baby attached to my boob!! i was knackered turned out she had reflux so couldnt help it but at least not demand feeding meant i was getting 5 hours sleep at night by a couple of months old

donnie · 02/02/2006 14:48

haven't really read this thread properly but had to add my tuppence worth....some of the women on the programme made me mad - allowing your children to feed until almost 8 yrs old and having 'names' for breasts, grabbing your mum's boobs and demanding to be fed at that age - the term 'freak' doesn't begin to cover it IMO! it seems to me that this extended breastfeeding is a sex substitute for these women.Poor partners!
and that woman who was trying to force her tit into the adopted toddler's mouth - WTF???

hunkermunker · 02/02/2006 14:52

Sharklet, your line about a voiceover has just made me laugh - I'm imagining the Geordie chap from Big Brother doing it for this prog...

"Day 2628 in the Big Booby house. Veronika lifts up her top for her seven-year-old to dive under."

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 14:53

can you imagine if those kids ever got married themselves it wouldnt be champagne to toast the bride with but a nice bit of breast milk!!

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 14:54

sorry if that offends anyone but the family were total fruitbats!!

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 14:54

probably offended fruitbats there

bourneville · 02/02/2006 14:56

nulnulcat, i got together with boyf just before finding out i was pg . roller coaster ride but he's still here - most guys would've run a mile .

sharklet · 02/02/2006 15:00

LOL Hunker - I'm in stiches now. It brings up some pretty scary visions in my head!

I can't get the guys voice out of my head now "The big booby house" It could catch on you might have yourself a franchise there!

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:01

thats so nice! least there are some decent men out there met mine at a wedding he was playing with my daughter and dancing with her for most of the night hadnt even spoken to him

nanneh · 02/02/2006 15:07

donnie - what looked like a freak sho wto you can be interpreted in other ways by other people.

In fact I think the Spanish woman was trying to create a bond between herself and the adopted girl and she also made a point that breastmilk has nutritional value even for an 18 month old which is actually true.

Ok, I don't think I would try and breastfeed an adopted child who had NEVER been breastfed before, simply because a child at 18 months isn't going to learn how to breastfeed naturally, it's too late at her age. But I thought it was quite touching that she was trying to bond with the child physically that way.

She never actually forced her tit into the girl's mouth, did she ? She offered it and the girl wasn't interested, so she didn't offer it again. She gave her some BM on a spoon.

fastasleep · 02/02/2006 15:11

Any pro breastfeeders fancy some slightly wonky breastmilk bar soap?

I thought 'screw it!' and put my huge batch up for sale... mainly after the lovely Levanna offered to buy 3!

It's on the for sale board... I'm only asking like this because I didn't exactly think about the cost until afterwards and then realised I'd wasted nearly 40 quid making it

bourneville · 02/02/2006 15:12

nulnulcat, at your boyf. It's so true that the way to a mother's heart is through their kids!

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:16

but you can bond with your children without having to breast feed them i didnt bond with my dd immediately i fed her was completely out of it on all the drugs still so dont remember any of it but a few days later i remember looking at her asleep and crying i loved her so much dads bond wiht their kids without having to feed them, they dont get a chance to anyway if mum is breastfeeding feed them that is not bond with them

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:17

bounville lol!! knew he had ulterior motives for taking a interest in her!

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:23

total change of subject i just found my handbag full of yoghurt!! toddlers dont you just love them!

nanneh · 02/02/2006 15:25

nul- yes totally agree I wasn't suggesting you HAVE to breastfeed in order to bond. My breastfed 19 month old does not suckle at my DH's breasts, but has an amazing bond with my DH as well as with my mother and brother !

I was just answering bonnie re. the Spanish woman "forcing" tit into Chinese toddler. I felt very emotional at the sight of her trying to breastfeed the adopted girl, I thought it was a very touching way to create a bond. She had waited 3 years to adopt and it was her way of bonding with the child. I didn't think it was pervy in the least.

bourneville · 02/02/2006 15:25

Actually I think a lot of fathers find it hard to bond with their babies until a bit later on when they start getting interested in the rest of the world ie not just mum & food. From what I've read anyway... my experience was just with a boyf, dd wouldn't let anyone other than me hold her for very long and it frustrated boyf cos i think it was very important to him and our relationship that they bonded. Reading up i was interested to hear that even fathers have similar problems in the early months. In fact I remember feeling like that in the first few weeks, when i just felt like a milk machine and in fact it was others who were getting attention from her not me!

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:27

nanneh your dh very lucky my dd tried to take a bite out of her dad when he took her swimming when a baby i was weaning her at time so perhaps she was being hopeful!! he found it painful i had to smile he was exdh!

bosscat · 02/02/2006 15:31

sharklet, I don't think the husband was saying he got a bit of breastmilk accidentally during "love making activities" but rather he referred to looking at the girls and wondering when it was his turn and said "all men like it". He insinuated and so did his wife that he would actually breastfeed which is totally beyond the pale in my opinion.

nanneh · 02/02/2006 15:31

nul - lol - I said DS hadn't suckled, didn't say DS hadn't tried !! DS was a summer baby and I rememebr how hot it was when he was born. DH loves going around the house in the summer with just shorts on and DS tried more than once to have a go at his nipples !

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:31

my ex dh said he was worried about bonding with dd as he couldnt be there all the time told him i didnt want him there all the time! he had left week before she was born wasnt at birth saw her a few times in first year not very interested at first but all has changed now shes a walking talking little person despite hardly seeing her for 1st year of life he says he loves her more than anything and she is most important thing in his life so perhaps bonding has more to it than feeding cuddles etc

bourneville · 02/02/2006 15:33

Like i said, it's probably harder to bond with a little baby (that's not yours or that you don't see often) than with a walking talking little person.

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:34

now theres an idea for a new topic how long would men breast feed for if it was down to them?

nulnulcat · 02/02/2006 15:35

two sides to that most men are obsessed with boobs so would like having a pair of there own but at the first sign of any pain then it would be no way!!

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