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High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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tickleme63 · 22/01/2012 09:22

Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

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ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 14/02/2012 21:24

Thanks for the speedy reply. Glad you're not suffering! It's not biting, more like grazing iyswim. It's like he's using the top teeth to stay attached. It bloody hurts, that's all I know! I think I'll phone the nct advice line tomorrow. Anyway, hope you're having good evening.

Makenzie · 14/02/2012 23:52

Happy v day all.

Makenzie · 14/02/2012 23:57

Had hubby go buy the rockin play. I heard so many great stories but not working here. Radar goes off and dd is up right away when you set her down.

Ok I have to ask. I went to my 6 week check up and the doctor asked what kind of birth control I would be using. I just laughed my head off. The picture of my dd latched on to me and my hubby and I getting romantic just doesn't work for me.

Please tell me it gets a little easier when hn babies can crawl?

Makenzie · 15/02/2012 00:06

Has any of you tried the lull a band? Wondered if it helped at all?

Makenzie · 15/02/2012 01:52

Or colic be calm? Or happy tummi?

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 15/02/2012 06:35

Sorry mckenzie, not tried any of those & baby's not crawling so I can't help much! My DS has definitely got easier as he's got bigger though if that reassures you at all? It's really just the nights (& now the blisters! Hmm ) that are difficult. I'd also say that as they get older, smilier, more interactive, you get a lot more back from them so the hn stuff is more forgivable (the ladies whose babies are tricky during the day too may disagree!)

I wish I'd discovered white noise & swaddling when DS was as small as your LO - both might be worth trying at bedtime. Also google Harvey Karp & the happiest baby in the block. His techniques are great (sorry, can't link from phone)

As for the other question, I told my GP that exhaustion was working perfectly fine as birth control and I didn't think the coil would be necessary Grin

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 15/02/2012 06:38

Oh wow, almost forgot... DRUMROLL PLEASE... DS slept from 7.30 until 1.15 last night. Oh. My. God. That's his longest ever stretch of sleep Grin

Mampig · 15/02/2012 07:41

Don't be fooled!! They do this to trick you, you know! Wink
Seriously- that's great and hope it lasts Truth! But IME.... Cynical? Moi??

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 15/02/2012 08:05

I know! On Saturday night he only woke me once. 'Whoop' thought I, "we're getting there" Sunday night he woke me every hour.

I know it's a one off, but it gives me hope!

buttonmoon78 · 15/02/2012 08:05

Hello folks!

After two weeks of rubbish sleep ds has slept through for 2 nights Grin. Monday night was 10-7 Shock and last night was 1030-530 then an extra hour snuggled in with me. I still had to get up once each night about 2/3 to pop his dummy in but, heck, I can live with that!

Sorry life's a bit rubbish for some. Seems to go in fits and starts here so I don't think for a minute that we've got it cracked more that we've had two consecutive coincidences Wink

Also, in good news, ds in NOT allergic to egg - yay! We had to try it as he needs the yellow fever jab for going to Kenya at Easter but you can't have it if you're allergic to egg. Of course, his skin tests aren't until after he has the jab so I reasoned that I'd rather he ingested egg with the possibility of vomiting it up if he was allergic (seems to be his MO) rather than injecting it and him being unable to get rid of it if he was allergic. That sounds complicated even to me and I know what I'm on about!

So egg custard is a new tea time food. Might be breakfast too. He's just choked and spluttered on each mouthful of breakfast and given me looks like I'm trying to poison him. It's only the same breakfast he's been having for days and days! Confused

msbuggywinkle · 15/02/2012 08:34

Mackenzie my DD1 was much happier when she could crawl, then happier again when she could walk. And despite being a very intense person still (she is nearly 6) she was a delight as a toddler and hardly ever had tantrums.

Pretty rubbish night here, DD3 pooped, which woke her up and was then awake for sodding ages. Unusual for her, she normally stays attached to a boob and asleep all night. Still, there is coffee and my Mum is taking us all out for the day later.

JeewizzJen · 15/02/2012 20:15

Argh why is it so big an ask to lie in a cot without crying?? This boy has a built in cot sensor which causes him to wake up on close proximity to the mattress. I've been trying for the last hour to get him in, each time having to pick back up and resettle straight away as he flips out. DP trying now. Soooo annoying!! I'm now in bed waiting for DP to give up and bring him in so I can sleep!

LittleWaveyLines · 15/02/2012 21:06

Oh

My

Goodness!

I just had a WHOLE HOUR downstairs this evening! She didn't wake when I left the room or anything. In fact she's still asleep beside me now in the cosleeper - I'm just too tired myself to stay up much longer.

I almost feel like a proper normal adult again! Grin

Jeewizz Jen - in answer to your question I don't know and actually normally don't bother trying nowadays.... tonight's sleeping in a cot and not on me is an aberration (and she's nearly 8 months) Confused

TitaniaP · 15/02/2012 22:27

DS is 8 months today. Where does the time go eh?

He's knackered this week as what little routine we have has been shattered. Ho hum!

JeewizzJen · 16/02/2012 06:09

Brilliant LWL!! It feels amazing doesn't it! DS did it for a while (on my bed) but then reverted back to waking or only sleeping 45 mins.

As for the cot well I'm all for not bloody bothering but DP is really keen to get our bed back. Neither of us managed to get him in the cot even once last night over the course of 2 hours. DP is now suggesting putting DS in the single bed in the spare room with the bed guard. I'm not keen in case he wriggles down, I'm thinking perhaps the mattress on the floor instead? I think DPs idea is that DS doesn't like the cot mattress and the single bed will still be in a different room but still allows us to lie with him. Not sure if it makes sense to me - any thoughts?

Worryalotta · 16/02/2012 07:11

Sounds to me like you'll just end up sleeping in the spare room with DS!! Wink If that doesn't bother you and it keeps DP happy then go for it.

JeewizzJen · 16/02/2012 07:27

Hehe worry that's what I just said to him!!!

LittleWaveyLines · 16/02/2012 07:41

Babies are evolved to sleep with their mothers, and unfortunately some babies make this need clearer than others!

You'll end up with him!

buttonmoon78 · 16/02/2012 08:28

another good night...

He's stopped eating breakfast again though so not sure how long it will last Confused. He's been loving readybrek and now looks at me like I'm trying to poison him! Strange boy.

Jen If that happens regularly suggest gently that dp should be in the single bed so you can have more space with ds Wink

7m old today. Am in shock every time I think about it. My last baby and he's growing up too damn fast Sad

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tickleme63 · 16/02/2012 09:04

Aww my DS is 7 months tomorrow, Button :)

Can't believe it. Can't believe I go back to work in a month. It's going to be very weird.

DS said 'mama' last night Grin I know it was probably a massive fluke, but still lovely to hear! He's saying it today as well, bless him :)

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LittleWaveyLines · 16/02/2012 12:28

Happy 7 month birthdays to Tickle's and Button's DSs :)

JeewizzJen · 17/02/2012 07:11

Aww to baby tickle - I can't wait til I get a "mama"!!

After some more discussion about the sleeping arrangements DP and I have decided to try the sidecar cot approach, using his cot with the side off. Any of you guys do this? I think it'll hopefully let us try getting him used to his cot, and his own space without it being too disruptive. At least if he won't do it all I have to do is drag him over to me!!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 17/02/2012 07:25

That's what we have tickle He usually starts out in there but ends up right in next to me at around 5. It's definitely easy to just grab & feed but my DS likes the option of having his own space too (picky boy - sometimes won't sleep without mum, sometimes won't sleep with me)

Sadly, as soon as we're back from staying with my mum, DP is insisting that DS goes into his own room. DP went home yesterday. I suspect the cot has already been moved Sad

On the plus side, we had two nights of 5+ hours sleep Grin then last night, which was hellish!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 17/02/2012 07:27

Sorry - bit confused - that last bit was aimed at Jen

Hello to tickle anyway though Grin

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tickleme63 · 17/02/2012 08:07

Teehee

We used to do that Jen, when we had the room. Sounds like a good step - as you say, a way of getting LO used to his cot while having the reassurance of mummy right there :)

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