High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

Am at size of your boobs!!!

I'm not - I swear they're still growing - had to buy new nursing bras last week!

Jan your mil sounds like my dad lol.
He gives ds everything.
I'm just worried if they say he's got intolerance ad he's not outgrown the reflux. Dad would give him food begind my back!
His consultant rang and ds got emergency appointment as feeding a 18 months old through syringe is not acceptable.
Mampig sorry no help here just a few smiles lol
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DS fed 2hourly overnight then woke me up at 5.50 singing a song to my boobs accompanied by friendly slaps... It would have been cute if I wasn't quite so tired! He's next to me giggling and babbling away now. How is he not tired too?

Spanner - no idea. My DD feeds hourly or 2 hourly all night, then wakes before 6 as well. Bright as a button. Well I'm not!

Puddle - I'm afraid they're frumpy, but they do the job and have hoisted my boobs up from waist level... I got them from mothercare in desperation, as all the other places I tried either didn't do my size, or didn't really do the job...

Argh. DS and I have the shits. Was up all night and feel dreadful. No-one around to help, DH is away with work. Any tips for getting through the next 6 hours until bedtime when I'm rushing to the loo every half hour? DS seems a bit better than me, he was worse last night though.

Ah, queen you and ds have what I have - r u fluey too? I came down with it on mothers day and have been bed bound since (aside from toilet). Luckily dh has been here and has been taking care of ds. I haven't been able to stand up for any lenght of time so I hope u r not going to shit n vom ur insides out take it as bad. tip don't fart it's not wind

Hugs for tickle and jan for your v different reasons! Am dreading going back to work in 7 months. Hope ur week is going well tickle and hugs for when ur missing ds. jan I would have been v tempted to shove said chiPs up mil's nose...

Welcome to new ladies!

mampig saw ur other thread, think he's playing? When ds is on nursing strike he either flat out refuses to latch or latches then pulls off - both cases accompanied by screaming and my head exploding. Tis horribly frustrating rather than ur funny little boy!

Thanks Tulip. Unfortunately you were too late with the 'fart' tip. Ahem.

Oh dear queen yes I was speaking from bitter experience too

Other quiche members, as you were, move along, nothing to see here now that dh has done the washing

can;t catch up on all the posts but sorry queen and missus you both are sick and hope you get better soon...
i feel totally burnt out can't wait til march is over - loads of birthdays etc im so tired with all the running around and stress from families. making special curry for dh birthday today - stuff in to bake but didn't get chance, baby seems to be over her mad growth spurt which lasted about 2 weeks, but wow she is completely active now - into everything and even more HN now it seems she is bouncing around everywhere and i cannot get settled to do anything.

ever get that everything sometimes happens at once? people call, want to meet, birthdays etc etc etc all at once when ur having no sleep, then when u feel ok and have a few days with no plans noones available. so frustrating.
on a good note dd has been giving me loads of smiles today and dhs pressie arrived from amazon in time yay.

Poor missus and queen!!! Hope you're both feeling better soon!

Jan, know the feeling- although I'm very much preferring boring atm, rather than busy, as we've had hectic few days!

We're 2 days in to dh doing all the settling at night now, and a little improvement noted. We now know that ds prefers to sleep in his cot, and being too close to me overstimulates him. Feeds are down to once a night- around 5 am. It's a dodgy one though, cos I do think he's wakening for the day (roll on clocks going forward!!). It's the hardest time to get him back to sleep, but dh brought him to me for a feed, and put him back down, with very little fuss!!! So dh is exhausted after taking the helm for past couple of nights ( and it's v hard for him to stay patient with ds in the wee hrs) , but in fairness has been brill. So I'm gonna try it tonight and see how it goes.... Have a weigh in tonight- will not be good after last few days!!!

Tickle, hope work going ok!

Mampig - I can recommend the 'shitting through the eye of a needle' diet. I haven't eaten anything in 48hrs .

Nice work with DH, I suggested that to mine as a solution. He thought about it, then came up with a different plan - which is making a giant bed on the floor of the spare room (will be DS's bedroom eventually) and us all decamping there for a while. I suppose at least it's better than CIO...

Queen!! Erm, I'll stick to SW!!!

Funny tho, I've kind of thought that if this doesn't work, I'll get bed for ds room!! But it's me that keeps him awake, so not much point!! I do like the idea tho... Anything for some sleep!!!

Mampig I'm really interested in how you've got your DH doing the evening settling!

• My DD still feeds about half hourly in the evening, wont let me go downstairs, then feeds 2 hourly to 4am, then on and off till she wakes - which at the minute is anytime between 5 and 6am. I am soooooo ready to night wean! Trouble is if DP goes to settle her in the evening (say, I have selfishly left her to go for a wee, she wakes and starts crying every time) she just gets more upset until I return....

How did you do it? How can I do it? I feel TRAAAAAAAAPPED by my little jailor... :(

I just want an evening to myself.... downstairs, eating at a table :(

Lwl, I had reached the end of my tether! So I made sure ds was fed (easier cos he loves his solids), did bf downstairs at 7, and left dh to it! Ds cried, but dh held him until he settled in to a sleepy state and put him in sleeping bag in his cot. I've changed to fully cotton sleep suits too, as opposed to fleecy ones. Every time ds woke in evening or during the night, dh went in. There were more tears, but dh just did same thing each time, held until sleepy, and into cot. If nothing else it has given me a break, and boosted dh to know he can settle ds if needed. Last night after 5am feed, I let ds stay in my bed, he wouldn't settle, so dh took him to his own room, and he settled again. Dd woke him at 7.30, but I'm happy to keep this going as its fairly gentle and slow, but we seem to be getting somewhere- we only had 2 wakenings last night in total!!

Thanks!
Hmmm wondering how much crying I can take - but good to know it's an option! I think it's one Dr Sears suggests in his Nightime Parenting book as well.

2 awakenings... my goodness.. I can't count how many we have at the minute, and I am indeed at the end of my tether so might be worth a try!

On the up side - I have just started CBT for my anxiety/PND! :)

Yeah, at one point I was losing count too. Had to make a decision though- I could see that my other kids were suffering through my tiredness, and so we just went for it! I haven't read sears so I am glad that what we are doing is seen as ok!! Early days though, but we just have to make this work, for our whole family's sake x
Good luck with the CBT- one tip- you get out what u put in, so really do try to implement the advice given, even if it's hard to motivate yourself! Oh, and make it clear that you're parenting choices are indeed yours, some therapists are good at trying to tell mummies how their baby 'should' be sleeping etc at 'this age'. And quick to 'blame' problems on baby!! But enjoy it too, it's the beginning of positive changes!!

Good luck with the CBT LWL, I hope it goes well for you. I was offered some sessions too but managed to pull myself up a bit thanks to family and friends and feel much happier, so decided someone else would benefit from the slots more than I would. All the best to you lady.

QK and Tulip Hope you feel better soon. I'm so sorry, but I laughed so hard at the fart tip... only because I've been there too...

I had a day of working at home today, which was great as DH and DS were around lots so I could feed him when needed and join in their play a bit. Back in the office tomorrow though, boo :(

Hey lwl i hope your CBT goes well the extra support of having someone else on board i hope will really help.
Good luck Mampig -- your dh sounds great! mine is pretty good too - but his time with dd stops around 1am - after that he cannot possibly function until 8 - 9am no matter whats going on!

made thai coconut curry for dhs bday tonight and he liked it - he usually hates my cooking so im chuffed. i told him i was finding it really hard at the minute with dd being so 'bouncy' all the time and he says its just going to get worse...i don't know how i will get used to a bouncy person 24/7 but i guess thats what mums do.... maybe its just me that finds it so hard at times.

last night was a good night. down at 9.30, feed at 1am straight down, then up at 6. would prefer her to sleep on a bit but am grateful for the extra hours kip! hopefully another night like it tonight...

Sorry to hear you're ill QueenKong and MissusTulip - that bug is going round our village and sods law says we'll get it tomorrow in time for our holiday on Thursday :( I had it last year and it was awful.

DS is hard work at the moment, he's got separation anxiety and isn't happy unless he's sat on me, but won't sit still on my knee preferring to scratch, slap, pull my hair and try to gum/bite any part of my body closest to his mouth!

I've got awful boob pain on the right side as well, breast feeding counsellor thought it was thrush but gp said not, so I'm just popping the painkillers and hoping for the best.

Well done on starting the cbt LWL - I hope it does the job! I practised my double hammock today, I tucked the bottom rail in DS's waistband which made it much easier, and he didn't try to throw himself off my back either.

Hope you have good nights ladies!

Thanks for the good wishes with the CBT. Today was a background thing - raking over childhood stuff to find out what my core beliefs are - that sort of thing. It sounds stupid but it was knackering!

Hey Spanner - the waistband trick is good! I'm using this method to get a good seat www.allthingsmaverick.com/post/16358576379/how-to-put-your-baby-on-your-back-jpmbb-style - find it works really well as well

Sorry, missed the rest of your post entirely with my excitement to talk slings!

Boob pain is not good - are you sure it's not a blocked duct? Would hate for it to develop into mastitis!

dd slept til 6 with feed at 1 - yay 2 good nights in row!

littlewavey hope the next sessions arent as draining - have been there - u can hardly think after them!

Thanks jan.

Another crappy night.

She went to sleep at 8pm, woke 8.20, 8.45, 9.30 - which is when I put the light out.
She was then awake and crying 11 - 11.45 ish, 1am, 3am, 4am, 4.30, 5am and awake for the day at 6am...

I actually made a note of the times for a change - just to see how often she was waking!

It's not good is it?