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High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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tickleme63 · 22/01/2012 09:22

Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

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JeewizzJen · 07/03/2012 07:24

Good luck button!

Fairly good night here, I think 3 wake ups and thankfully no wide awake hour during the night. Still up at 5am but hey, can't have everything (apparently) !

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tickleme63 · 07/03/2012 15:58

Bit of a shite night here, but have just managed to get DS to take the 3 naps he's had today in his cot... Can only normally manage the morning nap, so yay! He wasn't happy at all about the 3rd nap (despite being knackered) so ended up feeding him to sleep to calm him down, but still really pleased as he was just rocked a bit for the morning and lunchtime naps :) I just hope I haven't confused the hell out of him and pray he goes down in his cot at bedtime! He's probably sick of it Grin

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SpannerPants · 07/03/2012 16:27

I've just taken DS for his first nursery settling in session. He sat and played with some toys and other babies (well they sort of stroked each others faces and snatched toys off each other!) then started crying but was easily comforted by one of the nursery staff until he saw me - then he became hysterical until I picked him up! I think he would have been fine if I hadn't been in the room. Next time I have to leave him in there and watch him on CCTV. Going back to work is starting to feel very real now!

TitaniaP · 07/03/2012 16:40

Well mission get DS into cot is going a bit better! However we seem to be thwarted a little by teething so last night despite going down into his cot awake and being ssshhh patted to sleep (no tears!) he kept waking up and was all rosy cheeked. So I just brought him in with me. He is now frequently putting himself to sleep now though so I think he's ready to sleep on his own. He just needs a little convincing.

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tickleme63 · 07/03/2012 16:49

Titania That's great! :) Well done BabyT!

Spanner Bless your DS, but it sounds like he feels comfortable with his surroundings and carers! Praying for the same with DS. I can only be with him on one of his settling in sessions (DH doing the others as I'm working :() I'm so unbelievably torn. On one hand, I'm looking forward to going back to work and have been looking forward to it, but now it's so close I'm starting to feel teary :(

Balls. I even feel shit about him going in his cot for naps now. Trying to get him used to sleeping not on me/pram during the day, but I miss holding him :( FFS. Can't win.

One more :( Just cos.

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JeewizzJen · 07/03/2012 19:51

Spanner thanks for the jogger link Smile Glad the settling in session went ok for you... I can't even bear to think about doing it yet! Still trying to sort out hours with work, but I'm sure it'll going to come up all too quick. Sad

Titania and tickle great stuff on the cots! I'm hoping we'll be in that position at some point in the not too distant future. Tickle I think I'll be just like you - I will majorly miss it, in fact I think to the point that I'm putting off trying to make it happen! I'm going to have to do it at some point...

DS managed to do some crawling today for the first time! Still a bit ropey, but definitely propelling himself forward Grin Not sure how I'm going to manage that with him in a sidecar cot... any one got any advice on that?

QueenKong · 07/03/2012 20:14

Any news button? How did the appointment go?

SpannerPants · 07/03/2012 20:39

I'm the same tickle - I used to hate spending the evening pinned under a sleeping DS but now I miss it.

Sometimes I sneak into his bedroom when he's asleep and sniff his hair Blush Every day when he's napping, I should be either napping too or doing stuff round the house but I usually end up just watching him - he just looks so cute when he's dreaming!

Mampig · 07/03/2012 20:58

Tickle- I had exactly the same emotions about returning to workSad. I found that if I kept telling myself I had no other choice, it was a little easier, with less actual guilt. Unfortunately, I'm the bigger earner, so I must work full time too. I know dh feels incredibly guilty about me working, especially full time, but needs must! We are not wealthy, and just trying to make ends meet, and given the choice I'd either stay at home, or go part time, I even had to return early from mat leave, for financial reasons, so I kick myself up the bum every now and again and just get on with itWink

MissusTulip · 07/03/2012 21:53

wow I am in awe and Envy of you ladies whose LOs are napping in their cots. It's lovely having ds asleep on me (especially when he has a decent nap and I feel smug) until I realise my drink is out of reach / the biscuits are out of reach / I need to pee / my legs go to sleep / etc. Tho it does give me hope that one day we'll get there too and I won't be Blush at the nursery when that day comes and my ds is the only child that won't fecking nap!

Button - oh no bad bee! Hope DS's tests went okay today.

Puddle - teething in the Tulip household but no teeths yet, just a grumpy boy and me cursing my remaining wisdom tooth grr getting bonjela and calpol. Monday was horrible (again, what is it about Mondays??) - seriously felt like I was losing my mind due to DS grizzling, screaming, fighting, refusing to sleep, refusing to feed for hours on end. Had to take him upstairs and put him in his cot to get away from him - of course he was as happy as a sandboy watching his mobile while I sat downstairs watching him on the monitor and realising my hands were shaking. He has been a wee angel since then! Well, apart from the 4 month sleep regression. He has obviously been on Babies.net and learned 5 am is partaaaay time!

wishing sleepy night nights for all Smile

buttonmoon78 · 08/03/2012 11:59

Fabulous news - no type 1 allergies at all! Paed wants to do 3 food challenges on his worst reactions but thinks it's possible it's just hyper sensitivity related to his reflux. She suggested that when he grows out of his reflux the sensitivity should reduce.

Here's hoping!

JeewizzJen · 08/03/2012 13:06

Wow, that's great news button! You must be so relieved - it'll be amazing if it just gradually disappears too. Brilliant news :)

TitaniaP · 08/03/2012 15:25

Button that's fab news. How is the little man today?

I have the devil child today. Teeth and runny nose and grumpy grump grump! Did manage 4 hours in his cot last night though. He's never napped in his cot in his life however! Off now to try some teething gel and an afternoon nap!

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tickleme63 · 08/03/2012 15:47

Yay Button! :)

Currently battling to get DS to nap. Just got in from baby group and I think he might be a bit... wired Grin

He's babbling, shrieking (talk shriek rather than actual shrieking!) somehow managing to move backwards down the cot with all his gyrating... It all went quiet a minute ago, and I thought I'd cracked it, but now he's going bonkers, oops best go!

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SpannerPants · 09/03/2012 10:00

Great news Button - hopefully he grows out of the reflux and sensitivity very soon!

Hope everyone had a reasonable night. DS had a croupy cough the night before last so I was worried that last night would be bad, but he only coughed twice and slept really well - went for almost 5hrs between feeds so he technically almost slept through Grin And he went back to sleep for half an hour after his 6.30am feed so I had the longest lie in I've had for about a month (never thought I'd think that 7am was a lie in but compared to 5.30-6am it's amazing!)

LittleWaveyLines · 09/03/2012 10:15

Yay for babyButton!

7am is a great lie-in isn't it?! We've had 7am here as well today - but she didn't go to sleep until 9pm.

I'm getting angry, tearful and resentful today - not a great mum situation. All I wanted last night was half an hour on my own, and possibly a very small glass of wine. More than 2 hours sleep in a row would be a bonus

buttonmoon78 · 09/03/2012 14:15

Thank you everyone! It is a huge relief in the long run as I know that what we're currently going through is going to end sooner rather than later. But in the short term he's still reacting (meaning days of bad eczema etc) so I still have to ensure we're dairy and fruit free at least. I'm going to try again with wheat soon and then tomato as they're both in such a lot of stuff. But the threat of anaphylaxis is at least fading fast!

Spanner I have checked out the BJCM - am rapidly leaning in that direction! I've seen it on Kiddicare (where it's marketed as the Sidewalk ) and they've currently got them at £160/180 depending upon colour. I think I might have to order soon Grin

DS's sleep is no better at night - still no feeding but lots of waking. And he seems to have stopped sleeping in the day unless it's in the car or buggy for about 15mins. He IS asleep upstairs at the mo but only cos everything is totally silent. It seems Mr Nosy Parker wants to be up and playing if he hears anyone/anything. Gah! When is my house likely to be silent? There's always something going on!

buttonmoon78 · 09/03/2012 14:17

LWL it's ok to resent stuff. You kind of think that after 9m of having an increasingly greedy parasite inside you leaving you no room to breathe/eat that after birth you might manage a little time for yourself again. It was exactly like that with dcs 1-3 and I couldn't understand those who felt like you do because I had lovely easy babies. Now I totally get it! It can be suffocating. You will be ok, it will get better. It's just miserable right now. I promise.

JeewizzJen · 09/03/2012 14:45

Rough time here too, I think DS must be out of sorts although I can't work out why. The last two nights he's been pretty much awake from 1.30 - well, not wide awake but constant fidgeting and getting upset. In the end I've had to resort to him sleeping on my chest again but even there he's pretty restless. In the day he's only managing 30 min naps on the bed with me, I can get him to sleep a little more in the sling which I'm using almost constantly as he's so clingy and doesn't want to be put down. He's also right off his food.

We're both so exhausted. I wish he could tell me what's up so I can help. :(

TitaniaP · 09/03/2012 15:57

Really tough time here too. Worst two days we've had in a very long time. Night sleep isn't too bad, although its taking ages (as in screaming for an hour) to get him to sleep. He did manage 4 hours in his cot the other night. But the days are horrid, made me realise how far we've come. Constant whinging whining, screaming. He doesn't want to be held (pulls hair, scratches my face) and doesn't want to be put down (argh). Today he woke at 6.15 and at 8ish went back to sleep for 2 hours. He went back to sleep at 12.30 for 2 hours and he's asleep on me again now. The rest is lovely but he's been screaming in between. He's teething but that doesn't affect him this much surely? Whats with all the sleep. Supposed to meet friends for lunch. That's gone out the window!

Sorry for the whinge! LWL totally get what you mean about the resentfulness.

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tickleme63 · 09/03/2012 16:00

LWL and Titania Totally in the same boat. He's being so difficult right now I've actually just had to put him in his cot and left him to it to get my patience. He's really trying it right now. He's knackered but won't be fed, rocked, patted or anything to sleep. getting towards the end of my tether.

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tickleme63 · 09/03/2012 16:26

Oh thank Christ he's asleep. Patting finally worked but he was just crying and crying. Feel like I've almost let him CIO, even in my arms he was wailing :( Ugh.

Stiff drink required. Hubby is bringing home a shite load of chocolate and junk after work. God love him.

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TitaniaP · 09/03/2012 17:01

Tickle. I've had to do that a couple of times recently. Just put him down. Problem is he can pull himself up on the bars of his cot now, and he often then falls over bangs his head and screams louder!

Argh. He's had way too much sleep today. He'll be awful this evening. Plus he's been feeding like a newborn. Full moon??

TitaniaP · 09/03/2012 17:03

Oh and diet has gone out of the window this week. Chocolate really needed.

MissusTulip · 09/03/2012 17:51

I hear ya, ladies, things are shite here at the mo. I've had to put DS down in the cot and walk away several times this week, while cursing myself for reading 'why love matters' and the stuff about screaming damaging a baby's brain and how they need to be held. What the fiddly fuck am I supposed to do when I'm holding him (and all th stuff that goes with holding -talking, singing etc) and the contrary little creature screams anyway? Most of the time I can hold onto knowing that it's just him and I'm doing what I can but this week has been crap. Teething and some mad cluster feeding thing.

Sooo tired. May be ordering Dominos tonight, just for a change from things in breadcrumbs from the freezer

Button that's great news, I'm sure you are so relieved at the results for DS.

aaaaaaaaargh, he wants to feed again.