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to put tape over my nipples to stop 2 year old DS from BFing?

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ilikeyoursleeves · 05/08/2011 22:25

DS2 has just turned two and I am still BFing him. I have loved this experience and I also BF DS1 for 14 months. However, I am now starting to want my boobs back! DS2 constantly asks for 'more boobie MORE BOOBIE' and seems to want to feed even more now that he ever did (apart from when he was a newborn). He paws at me and pulls my top down and screams 'BOOOOOOOBIES' when we are public Blush (I wish I had called them something else now LOL).

I still do like feeding him at night and when he wakes up but I feel it's time to stop now. He obviously loves it though and I feel bad about stopping it if he still likes it. I have tried saying no to wind it down but he just shouts even more for it. So I am seriously thinking about taping them up or bandaging them and telling him they have run out of milk.

Would that make me a terrible mum? Any tips to cut down / stop BFing?

OP posts:
niceguy2 · 06/08/2011 09:28

OK I'm a guy...so obviously no experience here. Also not read all 5 pages, so probably setting myself up for getting flamed here.

But how about saying "no"? Controversial I know...but NO. The only thing I can equate this to is when it was time to wean DS off his beloved dummy and my DD off her thumb. Yes they followed me around moaning and crying but surely standing firm is really the only solution here?

MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 09:29

Countess - you're not a freak for breastfeeding Hmm but that comment was way out of line and upsetting for people who bottlefed, you were trying to make ffers feel like shit and it worked.

BimboNo5 · 06/08/2011 09:29

Who mentioned a three year old? The comment was made to be insulting to formula feeding. It seems the very pro bf people on here make a rod for their own backs, being happy to excuse/allow derrogatory comments regarding ff yet jumping up and down when someone says something they dont like about bf....

duchesse · 06/08/2011 09:29

niceguy, yours is probably one of the more balanced and helpful comments on here actually! Smile

corriefan · 06/08/2011 09:30

I just don't get why a person would judge someone else's feeding methods at all, it really puzzles me. Do what you want and leave others alone.

duchesse · 06/08/2011 09:31

"The sight of a toddler with a grubby bottle". (my italics)

BimboNo5 · 06/08/2011 09:31

Countess so someone upsets you with a comment you want to upset them back? Its very school yard is it not?

duchesse · 06/08/2011 09:32
faverolles · 06/08/2011 09:32

Personally, I found fabby's comment really offensive, but the thing is, on these threads it's often the bfers who bite their lip, whilst ffers go down the "how dare you......" route.
Also, it seems it's not possible to say what breastfeeding offers a child without someone being offended and claiming that bottle feeding offers the same things, but it is different, no criticising intended at all, and not saying one is worse or better, but different.
Why was it not possible for the op to have sensible advice from knowledgable people (which she did have) without pathetic bitty comments and babies hanging off nipples comments.
Fucking well grow up!

BimboNo5 · 06/08/2011 09:33

I give up. Duchesse and the like obviously think its fair game to be insulting to people who dont choose their prefered method of feeding. Just dont start whining when the bf v ff slagging off carries on because people have these attitudes as you are clearly one of them.

altinkum · 06/08/2011 09:33

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MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 09:33

Bottle feeders usually have more than one bottle for their child countess Hmm why would someone let their child use one bottle the whole day Confused

corriefan · 06/08/2011 09:34

Niceguy, the thing with that is you can take dummies away; you can't chop off your breasts, so you end up grappling with your child when they are seeking comfort from you. Imagine saying NO everytime your child wants a cuddle- for them the 2 are closely linked.

RitaMorgan · 06/08/2011 09:35

You know what, if someone started a thread asking about getting their 2 year old off a bottle, you wouldn't have a load of posters telling her they don't think it's right, they're glad they breastfed etc etc. The comment about the grubby bottle was illustrating that flipside.

BimboNo5 · 06/08/2011 09:35

But its not faves clearly as Countess felt the need to bite back with her very rude comment. And you see it so often in these debates 'well im glad I chose to give my baby the best' 'you cant be very maternal if you didnt want to bf' etc, all aimed to hurt and humiliate. Im not saying people dont make twatty comments about bf as well but you hardly make yourself look the more rational side when you resort to crap like this.

faverolles · 06/08/2011 09:36

Um, missy, just to turn your post around to fabby's post -

"you're not a freak for bottle-feeding but that comment was way out of line and upsetting for people who breastfeed, you were trying to make bfers feel like shit and it worked."

See what I did there?

altinkum · 06/08/2011 09:36

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duchesse · 06/08/2011 09:37

Proof that all it takes to derail a perfectly serious thread about BF is one stupid "bitty" or "not right" comment.

duchesse · 06/08/2011 09:37

And I say again, why are you here if you cannot HELP the OP?

BimboNo5 · 06/08/2011 09:37

Rita some people wouldn't be able to resist bringing bf into a debate about a 2 year old still on a bottle. And for the record I always copped for people's opinions about my little one still having a bottle until he was about 3...I didnt deal with it by shouting my mouth off and being offensive about breastfeeding

mamadivazback · 06/08/2011 09:38

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PenguinPatter · 06/08/2011 09:38

ilikeyoursleeves I had this problem with youngest who I stopped just before 2 years. It was constant and I had several bouts of illness and frankly after 6 years being pregnant or bf I'd just had enough.

The older two self weaned during subsequent pregnancies and my friends hadn't got this far or didn't have this issue.

I found the winding down approach didn't work with her at all.

I went for week of non bf bras and tight tops so access was restricted. Did find she latched on when in bed for a cuddle when I wasn't paying attention but sorted that by wearing a nightdress with in built bra - as my boobs are massive from Bravissimo - so access was restricted and I felt good about myself.

I did feel guilty that I was pushing giving up and the fact we were just before 2 years and part of my wanted to grimly hang on past that point. I was worried I was being selfish but DD after initial few moans and attempts hasn't seem to miss it. She changed the morning routine and now plays with siblings and goes down with them to breakfast with DH rather than come in for cuddles but on positive side gives me more time in the mornings to get me ready and I get cuddles during the day.

I don't regret it - I was starting to resent bf so it was time for me to stop.

duchesse · 06/08/2011 09:39

FFS this thread is NOT about feeding choices!!!

duchesse · 06/08/2011 09:39

Sorry Penguin that wasn't for you.

RitaMorgan · 06/08/2011 09:40

Why are formula feeders even on a thread about breastfeeding a 2 year old? Apparently either to be offensive or be offended Hmm Maybe this isn't actually about you?