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to put tape over my nipples to stop 2 year old DS from BFing?

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ilikeyoursleeves · 05/08/2011 22:25

DS2 has just turned two and I am still BFing him. I have loved this experience and I also BF DS1 for 14 months. However, I am now starting to want my boobs back! DS2 constantly asks for 'more boobie MORE BOOBIE' and seems to want to feed even more now that he ever did (apart from when he was a newborn). He paws at me and pulls my top down and screams 'BOOOOOOOBIES' when we are public Blush (I wish I had called them something else now LOL).

I still do like feeding him at night and when he wakes up but I feel it's time to stop now. He obviously loves it though and I feel bad about stopping it if he still likes it. I have tried saying no to wind it down but he just shouts even more for it. So I am seriously thinking about taping them up or bandaging them and telling him they have run out of milk.

Would that make me a terrible mum? Any tips to cut down / stop BFing?

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RitaMorgan · 06/08/2011 08:07

I won't be alive their entire lives will I?

Anyway, no one can breastfeed forever.

hairfullofsnakes · 06/08/2011 08:09

What is your problem missy? Of course she is not going to give them breast milk forever! Are you so insecure about having not breast-fed that you have to attack others?

MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 08:10

I don't quite understand Rita, so you will until you die or are you just trying to get around the no cows milk question as its soo bad for children?

MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 08:12

She said cows milk was gross, so I was presuming she will NEVER give her children it, and learn to read pp I did breast feed all 3 of my children

Mishy1234 · 06/08/2011 08:12

Not anti-breastfeeding MissyMoo? Some of your comments have hardly been supportive and why are you resorting to name calling?

RitaMorgan · 06/08/2011 08:12

Missy, suggesting anyone will breastfeed forever or until their children are adults is just moronic.

I would never judge your decision to give your 3 year old a less suitable milk product from the breast of an unrelated animal, so why judge other mothers' decisions to feed their toddlers more naturally?

hairfullofsnakes · 06/08/2011 08:13

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RitaMorgan · 06/08/2011 08:14

Also, just to let you know - humans don't need to drink animal milk so it isn't really a problem. HTH.

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MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 08:16

I'm not anti breastfeeding, I feel that BF a child over two just isn't right, they're like little people they can walk, talk, feed themselves at that age. Why not express it in a cup at that age so the toddlers not getting out your norks out in public?

SoupDragon · 06/08/2011 08:19

oh, so you're only anti breast feeding over a certain age.

What is the right age to stop, just so we all know?

MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 08:19

Someones got their knickers in a twist eh hairfull Hmm

I know they dont Rita, my two eldest dont like milk apart from in their cereal so rarely have it.

RitaMorgan · 06/08/2011 08:21

Definitely 2 then, not 20 months? 2 years 3 months?

You do know you don't have to get your norks out in public to breastfeed Missy? You could always just get one nipple out, keep covered up if you want to.

SoupDragon · 06/08/2011 08:22

Anyway, in answer to the OP, I would start dropping the day feeds and not give in however much he shouts. Explain that it's a bedtime thing. At the moment, he knows that if he shouts longer and louder he'll get what he wants.

DD was 2 1/2 when I stopped and only had feeds when i wanted her to go to sleep :) I didnt care whether any ignorant people thought I should have stopped.

Mishy1234 · 06/08/2011 08:24

You are entitled to your opinion MissyMoo. The fact that YOU feel uncomfortable about it doesn't excuse some of your ignorant comments and name calling. Feeding children over 2 is entirely normal and has been proven to be beneficial to the child.

There are loads of things I don't like or feel uncomfortable with, but I'm content to raise my children my way and not criticise others who do it differently.

MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 08:27

Rita- if you read OP she said her toddler pulls her top down for boobies in public, surely it would be easier to express so the child is still getting the nutrition from bm without the embaressment of flashing a street/place full of people?

bonkers20 · 06/08/2011 08:28

"Why not express it in a cup at that age so the toddlers not getting out your norks out in public?"

  1. No need because I'm not feeding my toddler in public and
  2. I can't be bothered. Tell me something that's easier than "getting my norks out" to settle my toddler at 1am.
  3. I've managed to BF in public without anyone seeking my breasts.
SoupDragon · 06/08/2011 08:29

Except, of course, that the toddler may well be after the comfort of nursing and still pull her top down.

MissyMoo321 · 06/08/2011 08:30

I am not criticizing anyones parenting at all, I was merely expressing my opinion, to be fair I was just abit het up by the 'grubby bottle' comment.

SoupDragon · 06/08/2011 08:31

Mother "Yes, DS, I know you want a nice warm snuggle complete with the comfort of nursing and milk at precisely the right temperature and consistency but he, have this plastic beaker of cold milk instead."
DS "Gosh, yes please, mummy, that sounds spiffing."

ballstoit · 06/08/2011 08:31

'I'm not anti breastfeeding, I feel that BF a child over two just isn't right, they're like little people they can walk, talk, feed themselves at that age.'

Luckily the Op wasnt asking for your expert, researched and eloquently argued opinion on when to stop feeding. There are many things that I think 'just arent right in parenting'...I just dont feel the need to ram them down other peoples throats when they are asking about something else entirely.

Loonytoonie · 06/08/2011 08:32

OP, DC2 self-weaned when DC3 was born. The taste of my milk changed apparently and she didn't like it. As ballstoit suggested, having another baby may be an option that could help? Grin

DC3 is 3 next week and has been a boob-a-holic from the word go. I remember at aged 2, it was particularly exhausting at times, lots of yanking and demanding "booba's" and night feeding was a pure challenge. I slowly introduced the phasing out of day-feeding/comfort by telling her that she was a bog girl and that booba's were for bed time. It worked, but phase it in slowly. I couldn't go cold turkey on either of us. Don't want to either. She's now telling me that booba's will finish when she starts school "'cos then I'll be a big girl". Luckily for me, here in Wales they start aged 3 Grin

Ignore all the other comments OP. These usually an underlying cause for them, based on sadness/guilt/ignorance.

Fabby, just for info's sake, baby's don't nipple feed. Too painful and they don't get any milk out Smile.

mum0ftw0 · 06/08/2011 08:32

aww, I sympathise.
I put on very tight sportsbras and inaccessable clothing when it gets too much. Even resorted to locking myself in the bathroom.

I think bandages are okay, whatever works

bonkers20 · 06/08/2011 08:33

soup then teach the toddler not to. We teach them alsorts of things at this age - not to pick their noses, not to pull their pants down, not to scream in shops. Teaching appropriate BF boundries is just another. That's all.

SoupDragon · 06/08/2011 08:35

Yes, bonkers, I know. Hmm

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