to put tape over my nipples to stop 2 year old DS from BFing?

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DS2 has just turned two and I am still BFing him. I have loved this experience and I also BF DS1 for 14 months. However, I am now starting to want my boobs back! DS2 constantly asks for 'more boobie MORE BOOBIE' and seems to want to feed even more now that he ever did (apart from when he was a newborn). He paws at me and pulls my top down and screams 'BOOOOOOOBIES' when we are public (I wish I had called them something else now LOL).

I still do like feeding him at night and when he wakes up but I feel it's time to stop now. He obviously loves it though and I feel bad about stopping it if he still likes it. I have tried saying no to wind it down but he just shouts even more for it. So I am seriously thinking about taping them up or bandaging them and telling him they have run out of milk.

Would that make me a terrible mum? Any tips to cut down / stop BFing?

Missy, it's hard to understand if you haven't been there, it's impossible to reason about it. My dd latched on as soon as she was born and was basically a pro, she loved the stuff, it was her answer to everything, a comfort, a bump, tiredness, hunger, thirst. It's difficult to put an abrupt end to something with such an emotional and physical attachment. To say no when a toddler is pulling at you could end in a physical scrap, so it is easier to blame access on clothing when you want them to stop, they see the boobs as theirs, not yours.

Most babies or toddlers wean easily or self wean like ds at 13 months; others love it at a different level and why rush to stop it when there are actually no negatives to it for the child? I fed in public because dd wanted it, so what? Noone gave a toss either. The eldest she was was on a long transfer bus journey in Portugal, the other passengers gave an internal sigh of relief that I'd put an end to her whinging, (that's if they'd actually been bothered enough to have an opinion in the first place)

People always say it looks odd/lazy/common whatever for older children/toddlers to still have a bottle though..so why is it different?

Thats kind of my point, more simply put

A child who's bottle fed sees that as their comfort, like a bf childs comfort is mums breast. Its just as hard to get them off a bottle, whats the difference? Lazyness? Like the parent of a 3 year old still on the bottle?

Which was a mirror comment to Fabby Chic's one about toddler hanging off nipples! It's a rhetorical device- hold the mirror up to the comment and see how it looks with slightly different parameters!!

I think that repeatedly quoting words from a comedy programme on a serious thread instead of supplying any life experience or useful comment or suggestions is intellectually lazy and designed to wound. Which I chose to summarise as "cretinous".

And it wasn't one person, it was several.

Duchesse - its still a nasty comment, you asked bimbo to show you one, she did, does it matter if it was a 'mirror comment' whatever that is

pfft

Pardon my ignorance, but what does "Bitty" mean?

I thought the grubby bottle comment was only made after Fabbychics weird/offensive comment about bfing, yet no-ones commented on that little gem, have they?
(as an aside, fabby, I've been agreeing with you far too much lately, so pleased that normality has been restored )

I'm bfing my fourth. I stopped sooner than I wanted to with dc2 and 3, because of other peoples opinions. This time, I will do what is best for me and my son, regardless of the fucked up attitude many people in this country have.

the grubby bottle was alot worse IMO what was with the 'grubby' bit? Do people not clean/steralise their bottles? Would a steralised bottle not be cleaner then a sweaty tit ?
Disclaimer: not putting down bf AGAIN in any way, just making a point.

Ahh I knew there would be an 'excuse' for derrogatory language used towards formula feeding yet nobody can dare upset the breastfeeders.

Thanks for defending me duchesse !!

Please go back and read FabbyChic's comment before calling me twatty and cretinous!

Do your own thinking missymoo.

OP came on with a genuine comment, with a problem that people who don't breastfeed for whatever reason are probably not going to be able to help with, and a bunch of people wade in with comments designed to make her feel embarrassed. How is that even remotely helpful?

However having a mature and reasoned debate about an issue if it means so much to you not slinging tit (scuse the pun) for tat insults to 'hurt' the other side, it just makes bf and ff so much divisive than it needs to be.

exactly bimbo

I know a mother that put mustard on her nipples to stop her 2.5 yo breastfeeding. It worked quickly, but I don't think I'd recommend it!

This is NOT a BF vs FF thread FFS! It's a genuine problem that I'm pretty certain some of you cannot help with. So WHY are you commenting on it, except to make the OP feel bad?

Im not putting OP down in any way, it was the grubby bottle comment that prompted me to post.

Who called you twatty and cretinous? And im sorry but 'she started it' how the hell old are you? Why are you not capable of ignoring the pathetic comments and challenging it with knowledge and maturity rather than 'well my Dads bigger than your Dad' type comments.

I used the word "grubby" precisely because of all the eeewww type "bitty" and "doesn't sit right" comments - as if extended breast feeding is somehow disgusting. I was trying to make a point.

I am sick of being made to feel like a freak basically!

I called her comment twatty, which it was. I think many can agree with that.

If a 3 year old carries a bottle around all day, going about all their daily activities the chances are that said bottle will be grubby. Most things that 3 yo touch are grubby.