Urgent School say my Sons hair is too short!

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My son told me last night, that the his hair is cut too short. The school have had, if it happens again, that he will have to go into isolation until it grows to a acceptable level. I need to contact school this morning to speak to them about it. It looks neat and tidy and it grows really quickly. His hair is mixed and he doesn’t look after it properly. Is there anything, that’ll can say to the school, or will l just have to accept that it’s too short?

This is disgusting. Can you get support from your MP or Councillor? I would be absolutely livid.

Schools are ridiculous.

The school is wrong in dictating what your child's hair should be like. Having a hair cut will not affect your sons ability to learn..

I could affect their ability to learn. Uniform is there for a reason and that’s to prevent pupils who cannot always afford the latest trends from being singled out. They then feel miserable and are bullied and that affects their learning. Uniform is not all bad, even though it might seem so occasionally.

Sorry this came up on "active", my DS once went to the barbers and got a grade 1 on back and sides instead of a 2, the school told him he would be in "reflection" which is basically isolation until it grew to an acceptable length. They would not move on this, DS just thought it would make his hair cut last longer. I ended up keeping him off school and homeschooling for nearly 2 weeks as was not going to have him punished for a hair cut error

picture ... what exactly is disgusting about a school enforcing a rule??

Also, a fade haircut is not exclusively a black pupil’s hairstyle.

Surely curly hair when pulled straight is long enough? Not his fault it springs back. Ridiculous rule unless the hair somehow manages to attract all the other kids attention and takes away from their learning in class via distracted - by - hair - which seems highly unlikely.

Just another thought - I had an issue with a school and got legal advice, the advice was extremely helpful and the first half hour was free.

These schools do not care about young people or their education at all, they are dreadful.

These schools do not care about young people or their education at all, they are dreadful

What all schools all the time?

@Frazzledbutcalm

picture ... what exactly is disgusting about a school enforcing a rule??

The rule itself is disgusting IMO. I'm a liberal so don't believe in bullshit hair policies. I am lucky my school has reasonable rules, it was abig part fo why I chose it. Not everyone is as lucky as us, and a lot of headteachers are obsessed with this nonsense.

I am an ex-teacher, I know what matters in a classrooom.

@ChardonnaysPetDragon

These schools do not care about young people or their education at all, they are dreadful

What all schools all the time?

No, these schools with silly rules - If I had meant 'all' schools I would have used the word all.

If the haircut fade rule applies to all pupils and he has just had a warning then it isn’t to do with race I would just be pleasant with the school. Loads of boys I know are obsessed with the fade cut so if he has gone with his dad and asked for a cut he knows isn’t allowed then maybe he was trying his luck. In this instance I would be more exasperated with my child than the school.

The rule might be stupid (disgusting is just a ridiculous wrong word to call it) ... we all probably don’t agree with it. BUT it’s the schools rule - a one that all parents at the school have signed up to and agreed to abide by.

The agreement of the rule itself is a whole different thread.

My DS is in sixth form and has a skin fade. As far as I'm aware he hasn't had any comments from the school about it which I am amazed about as they are actually really strict on appearance. I think they may be giving some leeway due to post lockdown haircuts? A kid walked out yesterday with a buzzcut which I thought looked much worse than a fade! Things is, a week after it's done it looks much better as the regrowth takes away that harsh skin appearance.

@HartstonesMustard

Who gave you the sense of humour labotomy? Please calm down. It’s hair. He’s not hiding fucking drugs in there to sell to the other kids, is he? Curly/Afro/wavy hair tends to spring up when dry. So his hair may actually be the correct length.
Why are you so upset about hair rules? I don’t mind if it’s policy at school to have a particular hairstyle. That’s yourchoice. Not your kids - kids can’t be held to an agreement they signed, as legally It’s not enforceable. So if anybody should be punished , technically it’s the parents of the kids who break the rules.

If it's partly shaved, how can it not be too short?

...why is this urgent?

These schools being?

How many schools and how do you know about these schools not caring about young people?

Anyway, I realised this is a board I don’t usually post on, the thread came up in Active, so I’ll let you to it.

@Frazzledbutcalm

The rule might be stupid (disgusting is just a ridiculous wrong word to call it) ... we all probably don’t agree with it. BUT it’s the schools rule - a one that all parents at the school have signed up to and agreed to abide by.

The agreement of the rule itself is a whole different thread.

I think disgusting is the right word.

I sick to the back teeth of how petty and pathetic our education system has become. The focus is absolutely not on what is best for young people or the country as a whole any more. This sort of disruptive bullshit from head teachers is alienating a reasonable proportion of young people and we all nationally pay for that in lost education, lost motivation, lost skills etc.

My son got a days isolation for having a fade style haircut. His hair grows so quickly that I had asked for it shorter, but it was hardly a skinhead. It was a normal smart haircut that suited him and he has had before. Schools are so weird about hair. I bet some of the teachers must hate having to enforce stuff like this

My sons school once told me my autistics sons hair was too long... can’t win can you! Personally I can’t see a problem with short hair. I mean what does it really affect? What do they expect you to do? Magically grow it back? A wig? A hat?

YANBU.

@Blindstupid

lettuce ... how is it indirect discrimination?? The haircut doesn’t follow the rules. It’s really that simple!

You realise a black (sometimes mixed) person''s hair doesn't show growth in the same way as other backgrounds. Therefore, I'd ask do they want neat and tidy or untidy but within the rules? If they put a No. 3 or more in this kid's hair he'll just look untidy. But I guess it's okay if it's within the rules.

It’s totally ridiculous imho and a lot of boys like a fade cut, and why not? It’s taking care of their appearance in their own way.

However I wouldn’t be ‘gunning’ for the school, it’s not a fight I’d want to make as it’s not important enough. If they are a good school, and it is the one you want, then just go along with it.

I would however never allow a school to put my child in isolation for any reason (other than if they were an immediate risk to others).

Can we please stop bandying round the myth that uniforms prevent bullying/level the playing field between poorer children and those from wealthier backgrounds. Children still know who is from a poorer background because of their shoes/PE trainers/bags/coats.

Also, I was bullied for the fact I wore completely correct uniform (trousers bought from the supplier which were tapered with a crease down the middle) whereas most others followed the rules designed for people who couldn't afford those (plain black trousers which were available from office ranges in high street shops)

Absolutely bizarre behaviour from the school. I don't see what difference it makes to have short (or long) hair.

I'm not sure it's discrimination, since the rules apply to all kids, but it's certainly petty as fuck. In a pandemic, this is what some schools focus on? It's no wonder that teachers often don't get support from parents when they are wasting time policing children's hair.
My boys used to have buzz cuts when they were little (school constantly infested with nits). Short hair is more practical really. If they persist I would definitely do as a pp suggested and note all other infringements of school.uniform policy from other kids and ask whether those kids are in isolation too. Absolutely ridiculous to put a child in isolation because of a haircut!