anyone else expecting twins?!?!?

[tabbycat76]

Hi everyone!

My husband and I recently found out on an early dating scan (like, very early, 5+ weeks) that we are expecting twins. We're being re scanned in 2 weeks time to confirm, but I'm wondering if anyone else is expecting twins. It's our first pregnancy so we're abit in awe of the thought, but wouldn't it be good to start a thread on twins so we could exchange advice, support etc. Looking forward to hearing from you! x

Hi swazzee - I think I share the same opinion as you on the antenatal classes however having been a midwife I feel I kinda know it anyway but would have gone for my husband. However, they're normally aimed at singleton pregnancies. At our local hospital, they have one evening class of antenatal info for twin pregnancies! ONE!!! is that fair?! I think I'll be booking myself into that because hopefully it'll go into top tips for feeding and positioning. As a general rule tho, they normally discuss stages of pregnancy, labour and pain relief, diff kinds of delivery and immediately post natal inc feeding methods. some units have a tour of the unit too so you're not getting lost at the crucial time. Again, ours doesn't do that either - glad we're moving too jjkm to a different area that may have a better set up for classes!

Ok, given that our house purchase is going through, it means we'll be further away from our families but only by about 25-30 minutes. I wonder what your thoughts are on this.....

My mum drives so her coming to help out and see us has never been a problem, however my MIL doesn't drive. She's been bought driving lessons by her kids which she hasn't used, but has since turned 60 so she has her OAP bus pass. I'm not convinced she uses this either tho as whenever we see her she's been driven to us conveniently by her daughter who visits aswell. Anyway, my problem is, is that when we move, she's refused to use her bus pass to come see us to help out if need be because she thinks it'll take her all day to get to us!!!!! (It'll take 2 buses and one change). She's obviously expecting my husband to go pick her up and drive her back to us, and then drive her home again. Round trip would take about an hour or slightly more. Is this acceptable do you think when you're the ones expecting help and yet you have to go get it?!?? Esp with twins?? Or am I being selfish and uncaring?!?? I'd appreciate your thoughts. I wonder how I could tackle this problem. My mum has suggested she use her bus pass to test it out so we know what she'd have to do but I think that'd add salt to what could be a fragile wound!

Afternoon all.

Hmmm tabby. MILs are a problem! How good is your relationship with her? Would you or your DH be able to just broach it with her and see what her expectations are? Then at least you would know and be able to offer alternatives if appropriate and you'd know where you stand.

My PILs live a good 2 1/2 hour drive away and TBH have never offered a jot of help to me and DH with either of our other 2. They are always offering with SIL however. We have asked them to help in the summer holidays with 2 days looking after the DSs which they ARE doing, but this is a first in 5 years. When they come down, we are going to have to ask them for help in the latter stages of my pg. My mum booked a trip to SA (where my dad lives part time) and its in October and November. She booked it long before I knew I was even pg. Normally my mum would be the one to be helping but she won't be here and may even miss the birth by a few days . So the PILs may have to step up.

My friend who had twins last year found walking difficult in the last few weeks so I'm anticipating needing help with the DSs in those last few weeks. Thats the part of this pg that I'm dreading most.

God I've gone on a bit, haven't i? Sorry. I've not even touched on VB or sections!!

To all twin-mums to be:

You are about to put your menfolk through a year of hell. There will be no skiving off to the pub or staying past 5pm at work or watching the world cup/ashes/formula 1. You will need him to be an extra pair of hands at all times, especially at 3am when the latching on is not working.

Therefore, when you catch him boasting about his superior fertility in having spawned twins, please do not correct him in front of his mates.

It is the only small pleasure he has left.

I thank you.

@ manfrom

tell us more! Well done on your superior fertility

I'm going to read your post to DP when he gets home, he really has no idea!

How old are your twins and what did you have?

PMSL manfrom. Please share more. Our DPs will be thankful for your insights!

And congratulations on your superior fertility.

Hi all,
Just a quick message... I posted near the beginning of this thread that I'd like to join as my twins were due in January, but I wrote that I was having some spotting. Unfortunately, the worst happened last Friday and I'm no longer pregnant.

I just wanted to wish everyone all the best with their pregnancies and hope everyone is feeling well.

Fingers crossed I'll be able to join a similar thread some point in the future!

All the best everyone, take care,
xx

Hi everyone - may I join the thread? Had my 12 week scan yesterday and I am expecting twin girls in January and am 12+5 at the moment. I already have a DS aged 2 so I am crapping myself as we have no family help. Very excited at the same time but I know we will not know what's hit us. Also DP has a vvv demanding job which means he leaves the house before 8 and doesn't come home until after 8 so solo parenting for me - eeeeek!

Manfrom - loved the post. I daren't read it to DP though as he is panic stricken enough!

mumlovesmusic So sorry for your loss. Can't even imagine how awful you must be feeling. Hope you are blessed again when you are ready to be so. Best wishes to you and yours. xxxx

mumlovesmusic so sorry to see your post. Please look after yourself. xxxxx

mumlovesmusic So sorry to hear about your loss. Hope your family and friends are being a great support. Hope we hear some good news from you in the future (big hug) xx

Welcome Amberc Congratulations, they told you already that it's girls? I'm 19 weeks and they've said they can't be 100% at the last 2 scans! probably because I have so many scans, should find out next Tuesday at my 20 week appointment. Are they identical or fraternal?

sassy34264, smokeybacon and lavitabellissima - thank you for your messages. It's hard because I was 14 weeks and so we had told everyone about the pregnancy so there's lots of people to get back in touch with. Still, we're getting lots of support and I'm sure we'll be back on here soon (fingers crossed, anyway) with a new announcement.

All the best to everyone,
xx

Thanks tabby. I think my hospital has some kind of breastfeeding class thing which I'll probably go to and they do tours separately which I may or may not bother with. I think I'd rather not know all this stuff in advance - it'll just make me more worried! They have to come out somehow, and I reckon when the time comes I'll do what I need to do!

manfrom that's hilarious. My DH is also telling people how strong he is to have spawned twins I think I'll leave him to it.

OK, so I have a scan on Tuesday (my first one since 13 weeks) Fingers crossed they can tell me what they are...

mumlovesmusic I just saw your post. So sorry. It must have been so hard to tell people the bad news after telling them the good, but at least all those people who know will support you now.

Good luck for the future and hope to see you back here soon xx [hugs]

So sorry mumlovesmusic I cross posted. I hope you have lots of support x

mumlovesmusic - so so sorry to read your post - I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like. My thoughts are with you and I hope that you'll be posting on here again in the near future with some fantastic news. Hugs to you and yours. xx

Not liking the rain today I had a great maternity outfit planned for today and it is pouring down. Might have to wear my wellies

I'm going to meet a friend for a spot of baby window shopping, not sure if i'm ready to spend any money yet, I'm being a bit cautious and want to wait until at least 24 weeks. It can't hurt to have a look!

Have my multiples talk tonight near Queen Charlotte's so i'll let you know if i learn any revellations!

Still thinking about Flatpackassemblydiva we haven't heard from her in a couple of weeks now, I hope the birth went well and we get some good news soon

I still don't really have any maternity outfits although I am huge. There just aren't any shops near home and I can't be bothered to go into Central london. I am also a bit loathe to buy things online as sending them back (which you inevitably do) is such a shag!

I got my new three child friendly car yesterday and am very excited but now I need to pluck up the courage to drive it (only passed test on MOnday and never driven alone!!!).

I know what you mean amberc - I really can't be bothered with shopping for clothes right now, but I can't really fit into my old ones. It's made worse by the fact I'm size 20+ and its really hard to even find shops which do my size! I found Dorothy Perkins do them, but of the 4 pairs of (same size) trousers I ordered, one was too big, and one was too small. Kept the other two, but shopping online is such a faff.

Well done on passing your driving test and good luck for your first solo drive!

Lavita, how was the multiples talk last night?

Interesting talk last night, lots about making your twins into individuals and not dressing them the same, giving separate presents etc.

Best bit really was the chat at the end with 3 mums of twins, lots of good questions were asked. Mostly that it is exhausting having twins and take any help you can get. Some asked about prams and one mum recommended the i candy peach blossom which was what I wanted.

Amber Congrats on passing your driving test, I still can't drive and am wondering when I'll ever learn!

Well Lavita, I have been learning on and off for nearly 3 years since I was pregnant with my little boy!

Did the mums say anything about putting the twins to bed together in the same cot/moses basket? I think they should but I saw a maternity nanny who said they should be split up .

I agree about twins having their own identities, I think twins look a bit dressed up in the same clothes, especially when they are identical.

Amber One mum said she always had them seperated another said they slept together for 5 months. The lady from the foundation said it was fine either way and it depended on the personalties of the babies, some like it, some don't. Up to you. They have a phone line though and you can call and ask any questions you like. In their pamphlet they also recommended Mumsnet!

When is everyone planning on finishing work?

I can't take it anymore, my back is killing me and I'm exhausted! I'm only 20 weeks on Monday!

Hello everyone, not been on here for a couple fo days, had another back step this weekend - for some reason my body seems to behave during the week (when my husband is at work) and misbehave during the weekend (when he's home) - i wonder if it's so that I can enjoy being waited on?!?!

So, your twin talk sounds interesting lavitabella. Re buggies, I hadn't even thought about which to buy but checked out the one you mentioned and immediately thought wow, perfect! I love the idea of having both babies looking toward me and having a slim line buggie but then I noticed it was just for babies and not for toddlers and older. I may be wrong so plese correct me. I've since researched other buggies for twins, and have only seen double buggies/buggies for baby and toddler (so not really practical)/buggies where one would be higher than the other. It's a minefield!

As for work, a friend of mine is pregnat with just the one and is stopping at 32 weeks. She's a midwife so is on her feet all day. I'm going to keep an open mind as like her I'm on my feet all day on the nursing wards so I've no idea when I'll leave. It's times like this I had ann office job! Bah!

Anyway, going shopping tomorrow for some maternity clothes (well cheap items to tide me over until I feel up to pacing the highstreet more). I've got a little belly now and my boobs are just huge so everythings a little tight. And when you're still suffering with ms, you don't want anything pressing on your tummy. Anyone got any advice what kind of things to get at 10 weeks?!? I've no idea really as proper mat jeans will be way to baggy round my tummy!

Sorry for the long post - I'll stop for now! ;)