December 2010 - good-bye flat tummies (as if I had one... ha ha ha)

[Persnickety]

Right, I've done the honours. This is our new thread.

And don't forget the stats thread

You could just get black laundry pen and put an x on one forehead and an o on the other.

But, don't worry, apparently telling them apart is a priviledge of the mother. Although my last nanny swore she could tell twin 1 apart from twin 2. When i introduce them to people I say "This is x or y, and this is the other one." And they usually pipe up and say who's who.

So, does anyone fancy a meet-up for coffee on say a Saturday afternoon somewhere in West London? Maybe Richmond as it's accesible by car, train, and tube?

Aimee, you seem to be coping very well under the circumstances. I had a good friend in High School (in the states) who had a baby when she was 16. She did manage to graduate high school on time and got to college and have a career. Although, her mother was much more supportive than yours sounds.

Maybe shared custody will allow you the time to continue with university. What are you studying? Some single parents have the children 24/7 and never get a break. So, even though this reduces your benefits it should also reduce your bills and as far as I know, the bills are usually more than the benefits anyway. I've never been a single parent on benefits, so it's entirely possible I don't know what the heck I'm talking about. But, I hope it's helpful.

Another thought... what would happen if you picked up and moved to another area before the baby is born? Would x-bf have the same custody right if you didn't live near him?

aimee0211 I am proud of you for being so strong and going through this with such an attitude against being just 19. I wish I was as strong as you are when I was your age. Keep on the good spirit and stay strong. I am sure you will make an amazing mom... xoxox

Y I P P E E E E E E ! ! ! !

[GRIN] [GRIN] [GRIN] [GRIN] [GRIN]

FMC just called with all good news

Trisomy 21 (Downs) - normal
Trisomy 18 (Edwards) - normal
Trisomy 13 (Patau) - normal
x chromosomes - normal
cystic fibrosis mutation - normal

So, I can now wear maternity clothes and announce it to the world...

(the only slight concern is that I'm feeling a tad unwell and slightly feverish - but only slightly - so am off to GP at 5:30 to make sure there is no threat of infection to my lovely healthy baby boy)

Now why did my [GRIN] not work?

I see it is case sensitive.

Thanks everyone it's unreal how much this thread and this whole website have helped me in the last few months, especially the last few days

I'm not sure about custody rights, and I don't think moving to a completely new area is possible when looking for council houses, plus I don't think I'm independent enough to move away from all my friends and family, although in theory it would be soo much easier.

Crazykat I would love my own place to live, but it's soooo difficult. I'm on the waiting list for a council house but they don't count pregnancy at all until you are 29 weeks, meaning I am right at the bottom of the priority list making it almost impossible to get one before then. I can't afford the money up front needed for a private rented place either so that is out. Just can't wait to get out of here lol.

Trying to think positive right now and am counting myself very lucky that I have not had any problems with this pregnancy x x x

Persnickety didn't see your posts great news i'm really happy for you x

So pleased for your Persnickety definitely up for a meet up! Congratulations xxx

Wow persnickety so happy for you! Now once you leave the doctors tonight with the all clear I am ordering you to relax!!!!!! And a boy, how exciting! I can't wait until I find out!

Sorry it's a fleeting visit, so busy but have been reading, couldn't help but post after the news from persnickety!!

Persnickety that is fantastic news!!!! Congratulations!!! I am so glad that all this worry will finally be over for you. (And I am sure your feeling of being slightly feverish is only related to the weather at the moment - and feeling unwell - well, that's off and on throughout pregnancy, right?! I myself nearly puked on the dental hygienist this morning. ) Get out there and buy yourself some celebratory fat maternity pants! (And I am so jealous that you know what you are having - a baby boy - how lovely!!!!)

Aimee I can't believe what you're going through at such a young age. Stay strong, you're doing brilliantly. I would never have been that together at 19.

Good to hear from you Aimee - sorry that everything has been so rubbish for you. But as lavitabella says you really do seem to have your head screwed on and you sound like you'll be a capable confident mum (as much as any of us are / will be! ). Its awful that your own family aren't supporting you but I'm sure you will manage and you'll have such a lovely bond with the baby. I'm sure you already appreciate this but abortion post 20 weeks is very traumatic. I had a termination at 21 weeks because my baby was terminally ill and it was an awful experience. I'm not trying to scare you about it at all or try to persuade you against it, but the reality is grim.

JodieO sorry to hear things are worse with the ex situation but hope you get it sorted.

Persnickety so pleased for you

mumatron great photos

aimee0211 sorry to her about your split.

Just got back from Glastonbury so too knackered to do personals for everyone but will read back to catch up on the news.

Amnio tomorrow morning. Out of interest does anyone know how kong it takes to get results back on NHS?

I think Amnio takes longer to come back than CVS. A couple of weeks if I remember correctly but I'm not sure if that's right.

I'll go see what my friend google says..

(PS servers at work are all down hence my time on here today. What's a girl to do?

Oh, and I actually knew at the first nuchal that is was a boy. I was just trying not to personalise any part of this pregnancy in case I had to make a dreadful decision.

Oh, I just realised, I can change my name now and tell you all who I am...

Sory - I hope my post ddin't seem unhelpful aimee! I think you are doing really really well under the circumstances you are in.

Wow!!!!! SO SO pleased persnickerty that all is well . Excellent news - hopefully your good vibes will rub off on me and duelling. Am sure you'll be just fine re: infection but great that you are getting seen at the GP so fast. And a boy . I know I'm biased as I have two of them but boys are lush!

It looks like same as CVS. 3 days for rapid results and two weeks for more complete ones.

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Amniocentesis/Pages/Results.aspx

Thanks persnickety. So who ARE/WERE you?

We've decided not to find out the sex of the baby so I hope I remember to tell them this at the Amnio tomorrow!

Hi dueling - I've got my NHS amnio at 11am tomorrow morning and I was told 2 -3 days for initial results but 2-3 weeks for teh full set of results. I think we should get a good idea of the basics by the end of the week. What time is yours?

So, Persnickety what is your real (well, real MN) name then? Not that it'll make any difference to me, as I don't know anyone on MN!

aimee - it sounds like you had already made the decision not to have an abortion anyway, so glad that you're getting your head sorted on that part at least. I'm sure everything else will fall into place. Also, as I think someone on the AIBU thread said, don't forget that the adoption route remains open right the way up to the end, so don't feel like the 24 week deadline is your point of no return. I'm not passing judgement at all on what you should or should not do, as its only you who can decide, but as part of an adoptive family it makes me sad that nowadays people only seem to forget that its a very valid third option.

I can't remember how long ago it was, but there was chat on the thread recently about underwired bras. I just spoke to the lovely women at Bravissimo to make an appt for a fitting for one tomorrow, and they said that they have now had confirmation from the Royal College of Midwives that underwiring is fine throughout as long as it fits properly. I'm going to go for probably two sets that are not seasonal, and get a couple of pairs of pants for each, then if I need to change bra size, I can just change the bra but keep the set alive (and the same on the way back down, post bf). I'm determined to keep standards up during pregnancy - I haven't worn non-matching sets since I was 21. I've actually gone commando rather than wear non-matching sets

Can anyone remember - are you supposed to have a mw appt at 16 weeks? I have a consultant appt then but not sure when I'm supposed to arrange my next mw appt.

mrsnaplegs did you say that you'd moved areas just before giving birth? Sounds like you must be an army widow - as am I. DH has been told he'll be posted somewhen between October and January - and I'm panicking like mad. Was it a total nightmare??? (Incidentally, being sad, I've already found out that you can stay in your SFA for welfare reasons including an "imminent or recent birth" - doesn't help if they're posted to the other end of the country though, does it!)

hi Chooster mine is t 9.45 am. I'm trying not to read up too much about it. I wasn't scared but now I am making myself worry.

whatwillsantabring I had a letter with my blood results today and they say on that to make an appointment between 15 and 17 weeks with the midwife.

I am Strix.

Hi everyone, haven't been on in ages, and there are so many new faces.
I'm still sicky, and ended up in hospital with dehydration for a few days. thankfully am now on tablets that are actually helping so I'm more functional now.
My mum came down from scotland for a few weeks to help out, but left on saturday.
Had the nuchal scan a couple of weeks ago. results all good and saw baby having massive hiccups
Hope everyone is doing ok. been absent so long there's just no point in trying to catch up :S

Afternoon all,

Had a nice day a work today for a change, had loads of craft to do and my little ones were very cooperative. Baby has been going crazy bumbling around either that or I have so much wind I'm going to explode!
I've seen a bargain pram but would I be jinxing things to buy it now?

pjb thanks I would never have thought about booking the baby a seat.

Jodie so sorry you are having such a bad time, and for all your poor children have suffered. I hope the treatment kicks in soon so you feel better and that everything gets sorted for your DC.

japhrimel glad physio is working for you.

mumatron I'm having the to buy or not to buy debate as well, see above.

Lavitabelle Italy sounds lovely you lucky duck.

maxpower hope you are feeling better today and you took the day off guilt free.

Wholelotta I agree with the heat, however Autumn can be too hot for me!

Slightly not sure I can go through with it yet!

PJen the way it feels when the baby moves is so strange I don't think any of the descriptions do it justice.

Aimee poor you having such a tough time, it is hard to have a baby when your young, I was 19 when I had DD, although I had lots of support. I would rule out a late abortion if I were you, when I was 16 I lost a baby at 21 weeks due to an abusive relationship and it was horrific. Don't forget theres always support on here

chooster There will definately have to be ground rules especially where DC are concerned IF I agree to the move! Good luck with Amnio tomorrow.

crazykat hope you back gets better soon, at least you are having a little break.

Persnickety Great news and you're having a boy. Enjoy the maternity clothes and spread the word! Oh and who are you?

Dueling Hope you had a good Glasto, and hope all goes well tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you and Chooster WWSB The last time I wore non matching undies was when I was 40+ weeks with DS and I was wearing DH's boxers as thats all that would fit, was most when I had to strip off in front of the midwife to be examined.

Sorry for the mammoth post, trying to put off doing any housework

OMG I almost always wear non matching underwear. I am such a sloth. My poor DH always thinks it is a come on if I happen to match...perhaps that's why I don't do it?!

slightlyTired I haven?t seen a matching anything since I am pregnant. Bras all don?t fit anymore and most panties are now uncomfortable so commando on both sides is on order. I went out Saturday for brunch with girls and then met poor DH for a walk and he almost screamed seeing me as he claimed my nipples are now 3x bigger their usual size and visible through my dress. I ended up going to a pub?s toilette and tuck some napkins to hide them!

My underwear never matches, and I would sooner die than wear an underwire. You people are crazy.

I went to the GP this evening due to my slight fever today. I now have some ABs, which is good. Reminds me I'm not quite out of the woods on the dangers of CVS. But, part of me wants to celebrate the good results. DH is away (he always works away during the week). So I have come to the gym for steak and fresh orange juice. No cooking or cleaning for me tonight.

Strix/Persnickety