December 2010 - good-bye flat tummies (as if I had one... ha ha ha)

[Persnickety]

Right, I've done the honours. This is our new thread.

And don't forget the stats thread

Yum I really am jealous now. Like your bump pic's too. I need to get a bit more computer friendly and get some pic's on too!

Thanks for those linksGGG and no need to apologise, I love it when people are passionate about something will def investigate, we've done many UK hols by train but never stepped it up to 'abroad'!

Lovely pics mumatron

Sorry about the buyer 93pjb

Found the perfect house today, detached,great gardens, big rooms, three big bedrooms and room to extent for a fourth and fifth, nice area, good catchment area for secondary school and under budget..............next door to PIL!!
Really not sure if I could handle it but it is ideal in every other way, don't know what to do.

notso i live next door to my pil. its fine for us but i will admit to getting frustrated at times. like today, i wanted to spend a few hours on my own out the garden. mil popped her head over 3-4 times. she means well and is just checking im ok etc, but i need my space sometimes!

That is what I am afraid of mumatron, and them 'helping' too much, I am a very independant person where MIL is lovely but mothers everyone to death, DH had never run or emptied a bath when I met him!
Also FIL would probably try and convince us to do all the improvements they have done some of which are great but others are a bit , and DH and I would never again be able to pretend we were not home when they were babysitting in order to sneak a couple of extra hours together

well, im quite lucky in that we work all day and mil works most evenings so we are not in at the same time very often.

and dp is not afraid to tell her to butt out if she does over-step the mark sometimes.

FIL is retired and MIL works one day a week at DC's school, and in three weeks time I will be finishing work.
Argh, the house is so perfect and I know I'll kick myself if we didn't take it and end up somewhere fugly but I just don't know if it would end up being a nightmare.

ooh, what a dilema for you. good luck with that one!

Thanks

You have made me want curry now, haven't had one for ages mmmmm chicken tikka saagwalla.

Glad the CVS went ok persnickety good luck for the results.

DH has been on late shifts for the last few days, last one tomorrow. God I'm bored!

On the train theme - although babies go free it is usually cheaper in the uk to get a family railcard and book them a seat as you get 1/2 price child fare and also 1/3 off the adult fare. Booking seats at the station really helps too as you'll be able to choose baby friendly coaches etc. First time I did London to Glasgow with dd on my own she was 6 weeks old and I would never fly on that route again it is just so much easier by train. Have done some continental trips on the train with her too including sleepers so really second ggg's passion!

Hey everyone, sorry I've been away a while but I've had even more issues with the kids and ex. Can't go into on here (just in case others are reading) but basically a lot more went on there than I first thought, the kids have said a lot more of what happened there and it's basically abuse so I've had to involve some professionals but at least it's all being noted and will be seen by the judge.

I finally know why I've been feeling so crap, I have low ferritin and low B12 levels, the dr is calling me on Monday to sort out management of it. So I'm anaemic but not sure which sort yet and also with the B12 deficiency which is really rare...typical. Also explains why I'm still losing weight, I've lost nearly a stone now, although I was about half a stone more than I should have been anyway at the start but it's been worrying losing weight like this.

Racey - I'm trying to be strong but it's so damn hard at times, I just want a nice, easy, and happy life for me and the kids. Your ex sounds awful and I can't believe what the magistrate said! How digusting, I'm so angry for you. When you're ready you'll be able to deal with things, I'm sure of that

GGG - I'm just from the UK and my ds1 and ds2 both call me mama for some reason, it's lovely Ds1 is 6 and ds2 is 3, dd (8) calls me mummy though.

wholelotta - That's a good idea not to worry until the time, hopefully it will come back negative at 36 weeks.

notso I need to have the glucose test too which I'm not looking forward to, because I have pcis the midwife said. I think it's great that you stepped in, well done you, too many people just turn a blind eye to violence these days.

Japhrimel how did the physio go? I had a session in the week and it was as I expected really, didn't tell me anything I didn't already know from last time. She told me it would probably get worse...but that there isn't really anything they can do other than a support belt. Few exercises, ie muscle ones but that's about it

MrsS I don't think you're going mad at all, the kids are lovely I'm 14+3 now and can feel definite movements.

Persnickety glad the cvs is over and hope the results are good.

I'm still waiting for my nuchal scan results, was hoping for a letter this week but maybe Monday, otherwise I'll be calling up to see what's happening. It's soooo hot today! Enjoying the garden with the kids today I think. I have another scan in a couple of weeks time, I voulunteered at the hospital for trainees to have a practise scanning on me. Means about an hour of scanning and good for future sonographers.

Oh, we found out last week that we're more than likely expecting a little girl!!! Really happy about it but surprised as I really thought she was a he! So tempted to buy some pink clothes but the stock in the shops right now isn't exactly winter clothing hehe.

I'm really wishing I'd booked something for this year now, would love to have a relaxing week or two abroad. Maybe I could still sort something, although would also mean passports for all, might have a look and see what's available.

Physio went great. I've got a load of exercises, including some on my exercise ball. Plus the okay to go back to doing my old Pilates DVD as I haven't found a prenatal one I like - I just have to avoid lying on my back too much, anything like crunches and any move that involves lifting both legs when lying down, which is easy enough. I was also told to start swimming and doing hydrotherapy so we're starting that this week when my swimming costume arrives from Jojo.

I was also happy to be told that if it doesn't hurt, I won't be damaging myself - I was getting paranoid about opening my legs or exercising at all.

I'm also going back in about a month, when I might get more exercises to do if I'm doing good with what I've got so far.

I'm lucky in that as I'm not working and don't have kids yet, I have the time to do daily swimming, pilates and physio. Plus I have a great massage therapist who really helps my hips.

all this talk about trains is making me want to go away somewhere, haven't been on a train for years.

jodie sounds like you are having a tough time of it, i really feel for you. my x is a knob but your sounds unreal! i had a txt today telling me that i would not be getting my maintenance as usual as he was going to buy the dc shoes nice of him to decide what to spend my money on.

japh im going to ask about physio at my next mw appt. it didn't really help much in last pg but i think my spd is going to be much worse this time. i am so big already.

have been out looking at baby things today, soooo tempted to start buying. i want to wait until after 20 week scan as i still can't relax about this pg. have picked loads of things out though. although im sure there will be loads of new pushchairs out by the time i come to buy mine.

Hi Ladies,

What's on for everyone this week?

I have my 16 week scan on Tues, Initially I was excited that I would get to see the babies every 2 week's but now am feeling anxious as I know that they are checking me frequently to make sure there are no issues. Need to stay positive. Fingers crossed for a good scan.

On a good note I have a wedding in Italy on next Sunday and 5 days by the beach. I can't wait. I'm already getting tired at work.

lavitbella sounds like a good week coming up. Hope the scan goes well.

I have caught DD's cold she's harboured for 2 weeks. Feeling extra crappy as I can't take anything for it and I'm not sleeping properly, despite being knackered. Seriously dithering about whether to go in to work tomorrow or not. Office would be a bit short if I don't but I've not had a day off sick for well over a year so it's not like I'd be taking the piss - is it?

Hi All

Glad it's evening and the heat is dying down. It was just a tiny bit too warm for me. Not looking forward to work tomorrow. I'm going to be counting down the weeks this pregnancy I think.

Nothing much on this week. We have a holiday booked for September, so I think July and August are going to drag, although will have another scan to look forward to at the beginning of August.

maxpower absolutely not taking the piss. If you are ill, you're ill. Sounds like you might need a day or two to rest. One way to think about it is that if you don't have time off you could end up more poorly and needing more time off in the long run.

Lavitabella good luck with the scan on Tuesday.

thanks WLL I suppose I'm just thinking if I wasn't pg and felt like this I'd go in, so why should I do anything different just becasue I am pg.

Mornin' everyone.

Lavita, with all of these scans of your darlings, I expect you to know which is which when they are born. DS has identical twin friends. I can't tell them apart for the life of me! But, they are only 4 (almost 5) and still very honest about telling me which is which. I'm sure it's only a matter of time before they pull stunts like going to each other's classes.

Well, no signs of infection for me. I think I overdid it a bit with dismantling the Little Tikes playhouse in the back garden on Saturday. Had some pain down in what I think was the placenta where the blood/tissue was extracted on Friday. But, took it very easy yesterday and no more pain. So, all seems well. I am dying to go to the gym. But, have sworn not to before Wednesday when I should have my results.

So, Tuesday is a big day around here. Good luck to LB for her scan and to DF and Chooster for their amnios.

And, where the heck is Aimee???

Morning all. Haven't been on for a while as had last week off in the sun (bliss) but have been reading through the posts. So glad you've come out the other end of the CVS Persnickety. Notso, you are a brave, brave lady. There is no way I could move next door to my PIL...not even if the house was amazing. But, I am aware that not everyone finds their PIL quite as irritating as I find mine...
Have a good week everyone...now, back to the 371 emails in my inbox.

Hi all,
I have been away travelling for work and fun for 3 weeks so for some of you my name may be new as I am noticing new names on here...

I am in 17 weeks now and my boobs don't fit in any of my previous outfits as I have grown two cup sizes... and
I could fit my belly in some clothes if my boobs would let it but practically impossible to fit these massive things in my size 6-8 previous clothes...

Has anyone felt baby movings yet? I am not sure if I do or don't. There is something moving and I suddenly feel that the baby is forward but it doesn't match the description of baby movement in internet.

I must confess that I am finding it hard to find time and read all the comments here but will do my best to read as much as possible to catch up. In the meanwhile hope all have been well and there are only good news to catch up on...

xoxo

I'm here Persnickety don't worry

Thanks for all the support and advice, has been another difficult few days and i'm absolutely furious and devastated by it all at the same time. Broke up with my boyfriend last night and went out with friends for support as I get none from home, he and his mother (nightmare of a mother in law feel sorry for any girl that gets married to him) came round to my house to discuss my future with my parents and basically slagged me off the whole time, my mother being a complete bitch agreed with what they ewre saying about me and now thinks bf is the victim in this situation and that I am a horrible heartless bitch that bullies him. I wasn't even there to defend myself!!! So, I'm now a single 19 year old mum-to-be with the prospect of shared custody already looming, meaning my benefits when bump is born will be affected. I'm also now more hated by my own family than I was before (didn't think it possible) and have a funeral tomorrow to deal with. I'm laughing so I don't cry.

As for other people Persnickety I think i'm almost as anxious as you are to hear a good result for you soon, constantly think about you and the others waiting for amnios and have everything crossed

PJen I have felt moving too from 14 and a half weeks, which I convinced myself wasnt right as I have an anterior placenta and this is my first, but it has continued since then and is definitely baby...didn't feel like how the internet described it though and i struggle to describe it...it's just a very srange sensation lol.

I think I have decided to keep bump, although I will probably have the idea of an abortion in my head until 24 weeks...am ignoring it though as I dont think i could go through with it.

Sorry this is soooo long and if I have bored you all, hope everyone is relaxing in the sun and feeling a whole lot better than we did in first trimester x x x

Aimee, Glad to see you've posted and sorry about all the crap you are having to deal with. You sound like you've got your head screwed on and reading your posts I felt that you wanted to keep your baby. Where there's a will there's a way, so good luck with everything. I think that being positive is half the battle and you will manage

Remember your mumsnet friends are always here for support even when you aren't getting any from your own family!

Notso - We live round the corner from my PIL, so not quite the same as they can't see our house so dont know what we're doing, butI like like living so close to them - from a babysitting point of view its fab! . Also there may be times when your LO is small that it will be great to chuck your other DC next door so you can catch up on some snoozes . But like you say it depends on how meddling they will be? Would DH / DP help in terms of having some 'ground rules'

Welcome back PJen - good trip?

GGG - good links to train travel! My DH works for an airline so we get cheap flights but even then I still find something lovely about the idea of going places by train.

Persnickerty - glad the CVS seems to have no effect on you, except for the twinges, but good you took it easy teh day after that. I'm a little nervous about my amnio tomorrow. Even though I've had CVS's before I still get anxious about it having a bad effect on the baby. good luck for your initial results.

All is fine here - I think anyway! I was feling the baby shuffle a bit... I wouldn't say I could feel it moving much but sometimes there was the odd twitch. On Saturday though I felt a flurry of activity on one side of the my tummy but there I've not had much since. At least not that I'm aware of. But to be honest I'm often on the go all day with work and 2 DS's that I dont think I'm that in tune to feeling anything. The only thing thats getting me down is the really bad headaches I've been having fairly regularly. I had another thumping haeadache righ behind my eyes last night and pretty much crashed out at 8.30.

So this week I've got amnio tomorrow and then my booking in appointment with the midwife on Thursday - a little late in the day I know but as I was refered straight from GP to the consultants at the hopital, I'd forgotten the mid-wife bit . But I do want to speak to someone about all these headaches. Never had this in earlier pregnancies.

Right, better push off... Got a meeting at 1pm so I'm dragging my feet a bit.

Persnickety I am a bit concerned about not being able to tell the difference. Have read a few books that says to paint their toenails a different colour! will be funny if they are boys

Headaches and migraines in pregnancy are the worst as there isn't much you can take from them. I get both a lot normally but usually get a break from them when pregnant but this time I'm averaging a very bad haedache or migraine a week. I've found sleep is the best thing but not easy to get with two toddlers.

aimee sounds like you're having a tough time at the moment. We're here for you if you need to vent. Have you thought about getting your own place to live?

Fingers crossed that amnio/CVS results will be good news persnickety and chooster.

I think I've pulled a muscle in my back and it's agony. Not too bad first thing but by 2pmIi can't stand for more than a few mins but sitting/lying down is really painful. Not good with DC's to look after and housework to do. Thankfully DD has gone to my parents for a bit so I've only got DS to entertain.