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Maybe you could invest in a thin double/king one to put on your bed TiredFeet.

Congratulations to your DS Floozie!

Tiredfeet No not at all.

Floozie Great news on your DS!!

I went to see the physio today and they've given me a support belt. I'm not too impressed with it at the moment, it's getting in the way of loo visits.

Can you not wear it under your clothes so its not in the way?

FFS at the parents of measles child.

Been to work , did 3 hours. Met with different manager as mine is still off & we went through some of my work & what I'm not happy doing. If my office is too hot to try & use one on other side of the building or take loads breaks or go home early.

Caught up on some of my cases. Should see most of my team on Monday at team meeting &clarify a bit more. Sent my mat letter & matb1 form in but it's the same place that lost my sick forms so not hopeful. Just been on the phone to payroll asmy 2 lots of back pay is still missing

God, sorry about work nymph that's rubbish. Must admit I phoned HR 2 weeks after submitting my letter & MATB1 to see what the score was and they rustled about a bit, found the letter and then started talking in a way that made it clear they hadn't read it at all - DOH!

Aww well done to floozies ds, what a clever boy

Dilly, I have the same problem re smokers - we live next door to a barber and a taxi cab office (odd layout of accommodation + businesses, so both are next door to me on the same side!) - the barber smokes at the back of the shop in the patio which adjoins mine - means if I am in my patio at the same time, all I get is the vile stink of smoke wafting over. And in the evening, if we sleep with the windows open, the cab office workers all go to the back yard of their work area which is right under my bedroom window, and the smoke just wafts in. I am sure the taxi boss only employs smokers - seems like they ALL smoke. I also have to walk through the throng of them when I leave my front door. Yuck. I HATE smoking, I just don't understand why people do it. I don't feel like I can say anything as it is their space and they are doing it outside. Grr.
I am going to win the Lottery soon and live in a big house with no neighbours for a few hundred meters at least!

sam, what did the m/w say? Crazy thoughtless ignorant parents, Geeze, some people!!!

tiredfeetsorehips, that air mattress sounds like heaven! As long as you are comfortable, I'd say it sounds like a solution!

nymph, hope your work situation gets sorted and you are happy. Got my next work meeting on Monday, dreading it, really. :/

I am good. Had some dramas with a maternity wear online store (one of the big ones) who I ordered a bunch of stuff with a whole month ago that never arrived. Been chasing and going round in circles for weeks, very frustrating, and after much patience on my part, decided last week I'd had enough and cancelled my order (lost a month of wear out of it, (and it's not like you get loads of wear out of maternity-wear in the first place!), and one item especially was for a party that has now been and gone). Today, they email to apologise profusely, will be processing my refund asap, AND sending me two of the items for free (amazingly, the two items I liked the most, but obviously they don't know this!), as a gesture of goodwill! Woo hoo! Very happy about that! And I checked their website over the last few days and the items were even more reduced in the sale, so it's actually a blessing they never arrived as I'd have paid the higher price, and been peeved about that!
And NCT have come through and given me a cheque for the full amount of the refund re the cat lady drama! Yippee! It pays to fight, I reckon!

Going to look at wood flooring tomorrow for our lounge, bedroom and landing (I am sick of carpet), and hopefully getting to BabiesRUs too, to look at a swinger/bouncer/rocker thing. That's about it!

Yes tiredfeet whatever works!

Well done AbFab!
I'd be so upset by the smokers, that's awful, but as you say you're not even sharing a building with them so...tricky...

Abfab- starting believe in the 'don't mess with a pregnant woman'

Been on to payroll , they tracked down one payment which was hidden amongst one of the 8 lines on my payslip. The other was' too late for this month' and may be paid next month.so that's£280 from may they kept a month & £50 a month for May & June they still owe me. It can't be saving 25% just by not paying me so taking bets now how long it takes for my maternity stuff to be recognised and how much they owe me by the end.

Dilly, I am. I absolutely despise it. It spoils my pleasure in my own home.

Hee hee, nymph. Quite!

Oh dear though re all your payroll issues! Not on at all.

ABFab you need to sail down there in the middle of the night clutching your long white cotton robe to you with your hair all anyhow, bare feet....that'll freak them out! Heh heh...

Thanks Dilly.
I hadn't got time to look it up as the school decided I should keep on teaching till the midwife got in touch the girl got sent home and told to go to the doctors to confirm what she had got. Am so with her bloody parents. The midwife pretty much said what Dilly said- if it is Rubella they checked for immunity with first lot of bloods so I would have been informed if i wasn't and with measles I probably had it or the jab when I was a kid- really frustrating that I can't remember though!! So fingers crossed.

Keep on fighting Abfab some good results there!!

Dilly, sounds tempting! But I think I need to keep good relations with them, not have them hate me for requesting a smoking ban.

Am on your behalf, sam. Seriously stupid parents. Grrr. Am sure you are fine of course, but you just don't need the aggro.

Afternoon all

sam I would be angry too - glad that you are ok but how annoying.

I've finally booked NCT classes - gone for an intensive one over two days so have taken two days off work to do it as has DH - I'm a bit worried as it's in the area we are hopefully moving to, but we are in the middle of buying a flat and I've got no idea when we will move so I'm hoping it will be the end of September when the first meeting is!

Is anyone else a bit worried about their maternity cover at work? I'm probably being silly but I'm getting a bit stressed about the idea of someone else doing my job and keep having nightmares that they won't want me back. I know I'm being silly but I'm just a bit funny about it all...

Hi piesy that sounds pretty standard to me! I think it is really unnerving. I don't think you're being silly. I don't think I will have mat cover now, just bits of my job carved up and handed out to other people - how will I ever get them back!? Any thoughts anyone on how to survive mat leave?!

AbFab you're right, I know, I was only teasing really but I do feel on your behalf.

Having a conversation with the midwife outpatients specialist. She's going through my complaint point by point, with the community mw's replies. So far, its all centreing on communication.

Elsa It is under my clothes, but because it's one of those under the bump things it sort of covers the top of my pants and I have to move them out of the way and then wrestle with the stupid thing to get it back in the right place again.

Elsa Dr-patient communication is my specialty at work, I do quite a bit of training on it and man it's bad! Healthcare professionals who are in practice now haven't usually had any communications training at all, believe it or not and it's hard to get them to go to supplementary training...er..so yeah, what I mean is, I'm not surprised!

Thanks, Dilly.

LOL Hermya- I was struggling to understand the 'its under my clothes' bit!!! Just got your context!

1/2 hour conversation with the midwife outpatients specialist. There's lots of improvements she's suggested including making patients aware of the mw team and who my mw jobshares with. The mw of course refuted what I have stated and has thrown a lot of energy into nitpicking semantics rather than addressing points in hand and naturally 'cannot recall' the off the cuff statements she made to me about birthing options. I don't expect her to remember, I'm one of many patients and she was only in my house for 9 minutes.

The specialist asked me if I was content now that I could receive antenatal care in my community and go to the JR for the birth. I said yes, but is that particular mw ok to see me because I have complained about her and she has had full access to my email and what I wrote about her (I'm personally not massively comfortable with having intimate care provided by her now) and no one has checked, so they're going to ask her and get back to me. hmmm. Its all rather sour now.

Elsa- I would request another one tbh especially if she has tried to deflect the blame.

Piesey- I don't get covered. They expect the rest of my team to pick up the slack even though they are already stretched

Abfab Thats horrid, is there anything you can do to minimise it?

Elsa My word, you'd be better off giving birth in a field with a rope and a bucket really wouldn't you.

Pisey Never even entered my mind to be honest. Mind you my job is the sort where the stuff I deal with changes constantly so any new work is just dealt with by whoever is there.

Thanks, Hermya. Only shut the bedroom window, I guess. We live in busy London so it's not as if I am getting fresh air anyway, smoking or not!!!
I don't actually sit out in the patio much any more (not mainly because of the smoke), and as for walking out of my own front door, I really don't see what I can do. It's their outdoor space. We won't be here much longer (two years max, I think) - but could still end up next door to smokers, I guess, so you're still smoked out if you want to sit in your own garden. Unless you live in a mansion!

morning all, I am feeling glum and bored today - I sprained my ankle yesterday afternoon and so stuck at home on the sofa with my feet up. I hate not being able to do anything, especially when its lovely outside. I'm a bit stressed about it too as I don't drive so I walk everywhere and DH is about to go away for a couple of weeks so I'm going to be really stuck if it doesn't get better. Still I guess its good news for the taxi company! and the air mattress really has solved my sore hips problem so at least I'm not suffering with both at once

abfab and dilly sympathies about the smokers. I can see its hard to know what to do really. It would really annoy me though! But yes like you say abfab even out of London there's always a risk of ending up with a next door neighbour that smokes incessantly. I know when we moved in I was all excited about the garden, then it dawned on me that we could end up with awful neighbours who ruined it for me (so far we have been lucky though, infact I suspect I am may become the annoying neighbour with the howling baby ).

elsa goodness I can't believe they even suggested you still have that midwife. It sounds like she was being very defensive in the meeting so probably (even if she won't admit it) knows she has mishandled your care. Really hope things get sorted, I can't believe what a hard time you've had trying to get this sorted.

hermya I hope the support band is helping, even if it is a bit of a hassle?

tiredfeet sorry to hear about your ankle, although good news about your hips.

elsa hope you can get a different mw and give birth with someone you feel confortable with attending you.

After saying my hayfever has been managable so far, today has been unbearable. I'm sneezing so hard it hurts the bump (and scares sproglet) and threatens my bladder control! My nose is bright red so that scares everybody else! Called the mw to see if I can take beconase (the only thing that ever works) and she said that would be fine, but pharmacies probably wouldn't give me any when they see I am pg. So, have sent dh to get it for me, and we will see if that works. Fingers crossed! I'm currently taking refuge in uni cos it has aircon and so filters out most of the pollen.

Hope the rest of you are enjoying your weekend.