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AbFabT · 05/06/2010 16:32

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RooBear · 18/06/2010 16:24

I have thanks tiredfeet now I'm home, its not so bad least i've got a job I suppose, just don't want to have to learn new things when I return as I'll be forgetful enough after 6 months away as it is! and don't worry about your bump, people have said 'oh your blooming' then the next person will say 5 months? there's nothing on you!' so you can't win! congrats tyson's DS!

DillyDora · 18/06/2010 17:15

Aw bless Tyson!

Now, I'm copying over a post I have on the other thread as I need your advice:
Now that I'm 22 weeks I'm just thinking about kit for Toby Joe. Had thought we'd get a moses basket but I just don't think I've been thinking things through rilly... maybe crib in our room ( cos it should fit him up to 6 months) and then a cot/cot/bed? We plan to have him sleep with in our room for 6 months but having said that might want to hoof his crib into the other room for some sleeps/naps so don't want the cot bed until he has his own room (August 2011....he'll be 10 mo) am I making sense?

nymphadora · 18/06/2010 19:47

We are having a cot. No basket as dd2 was out of hers at 4m so seems a waste to buy one. Will have carry cot for pram if baby really doesn't like the cot at first

AbFabT · 18/06/2010 19:52

Thanks for the book tips, tiredfeet. Don't let the bump-size comments bother you. I do think it's just people making conversation.

I think I am one of the old ones, but I don't remember Weebles!

We're co-sleeping, Dilly. Also getting a baby hammock though for daytime naps when/if I'm not napping too, or if I am exceptionally tired.

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floozietoozie · 18/06/2010 20:53

Dilly I found a Moses basket useful because it was so portable so I could move it around the house easily as in the beginning I didn't have ds out of my sight awake or asleep ( probably paranoia because he was prem and at higher risk of SIDS). He was in it until he was six months adjusted age, so eight actual. A cot bed is far better value than a cot IMO, that's what we've got (but we were given it and it's good quality).

Well as the last of the scanees I'm very happy to report all is fine with the baby. Yee haa. However, my cyst is continuing to grow, now 6cm, which in itself isn't a problem but the somographer referred me to the midwife after because she said it's a complex cyst (medical definition) and there's something in it. It was previously classed as a simple one. I wasn't worried because as I've said I've had endometrial cysts removed before which are known as chocolate cysts because they tend to fill with blood. But when I saw the mw she said I has to have blood tests done to rule out "anything" malignant" and got me in to see the consultant next week for the results. I was tired this am and while waiting for the bloods to be taken I did start thinking, oh god, what if....? Once I'd got home, had lunch and a nap common sense reasserted itself and I'm ok now, as I really do think it will be nothing. It's just that word malignant is going to put the s**ts up you initially! I will be glad to have that confirmed though. It's like - after everything with the amnio I really want a quiet life. Good news in other aspects, I had my cervical length measured as if it's short that can be an indicator of prematurity and that was fine. Sorry for long post on that!

Is anyone else still clueless about names? I think I need to get on the case. Dp has thought more about it than me .

SamanthaB123 · 18/06/2010 21:06

Hello, having a miserable time and haven't posted in a while. I've been having severe back pain on the left side and some lower abdominal pain too. I've been to hospital twice now and while the baby is fine I'm still waiting for a diagnosis. They think that it is ureteric colic which is pain associated with a blockage in the kidney - maybe a kidney stone. I am going for a kidney scan on Monday which should give some answers and over the weekend I just have to manage the pain with paracetamol. I was given buscopan to take as well but it isn't entirely recommended in pregnancy so I've decided not to take it. I know it's great that the baby is fine but I feel really flat and am very uncomfortable.

Hope everyone else is ok, I haven't read all the posts so if I've missed something important I'm sorry! SB x

nymphadora · 19/06/2010 08:02

Sam poor you. At least baby is ok. No suggestions just make sure you get loads of rest ( are you off work?)

shieldbug · 19/06/2010 08:43

samB sorry to hear you are having such a miserable time. Get lots of rest this weekend - make dh/dp run after you. Is there something nice you can treat yourself to like your favourite book/dvd/food to cheer you up a little? Hope the scan on Monday shows what the problem is and that it can be fixed. Thank goodness your baby is still fine. Sending you lots of hugs.

floozie Glad the scan showed all was well with your baby and that the cervical measurement was good. Good luck with the test results. SOunds like you have the best attitude to it, and if you've already had a cyst of one type, the chances are this one is the same. Still, wouldn't it be nice if everything was straightforward and uncomplicated in pg?

re sleeping arrangements: I'm getting a cot and will put sproglet in it from the start in another room. I know I will hear any cries straight away but it gives sproglet a chance to get themselves back to sleep without an instant response from me. Hope that doesn't sound heartless, but I want it to be able to establish a good sleeping pattern as soon as possible.

floozietoozie · 19/06/2010 09:10

SamB you poor love. Will that mean an op if it is a stone or can it be treated another way? Hope you get to rest while you feel bad.

Thanks Shieldbug. Re sleeping, are you planning to bf? If you are, you might find it easier having the baby next to you in the early weeks because you'll hear them as they are in the process of waking before full on crying starts and it's easier to latch them on when they're calmer. I can understand you wanting a good sleep pattern - it's the holy grail - but a newborn isn't going to sleep through for a while because they need to be fed every few hours. Also it means you won't have to get out of bed - priceless when you're sleep-deprived! I hope I don't sound preachy or a know-it-all and I don't think you're heartless!

SeaShellsOnTheSeaShore · 19/06/2010 15:34

Hi all! Just back from a couple of days away, sounds like you have all been busy! I'm skiving from the unpacking so can't stop long but good to hear all your news (mad cat ladies exp)
Tyson - really pleased you have got the go ahead for your home birth
SamB hope things get sorted asap for - sounds v painful
floozie glad scan went well Floozie - I remember when NCT said they feed every 2-3 hrs through the night, we were like, nah, that can't be right, but OH YES!! It was so much easier initally - for a start I was so sore and knackered I couldn't be arsed to walk across the bedroom to him, let alone into another room - he was next to the bed, me with ear plugs in try to block out some of the (very cute when you are not exhausted) snuffling that goes on!
Elsa - ooooooh, now SPY is a very cool job ;)

Right, got to carrying on unpacking and shower a very stinky dog x

SeaShellsOnTheSeaShore · 19/06/2010 15:36

forgot to say - got a whole stack of clothes for LO and a potty for ds from a fete today - for £7 - bargain!

AbFabT · 19/06/2010 19:24

Cat Update
Just been emailed back by a different person at the NCT who is covering for the initial person I was dealing with, and she apologises for the initial response saying it's not representative of the NCT, and if I am happy to stay, is going to insist the venue be moved to the main hotel where all the other sessions are - only issue being if the rooms are all booked - but that's a great response, and I am pleased! So, room being available, I am back on. We'll see!

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AbFabT · 19/06/2010 19:25

*By covering, I meant the initial person is on holiday.

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nymphadora · 19/06/2010 19:38

Good news Abfab!

Hermya321 · 20/06/2010 01:36

Good news Abfab! Glad to see that the NCT are seeing sense.

ILoveGregoryHouse · 20/06/2010 06:36

Morning all.

AbFab that's good news. Totally unreasonable of them in the first place.

SamB, hope they get to the bottom of what's wrong very soon. It's miserable for you.

I've been awol for a few days as DS3 has been a total nightmare - he's gone mad for his daddy - and he's been ill so it's been terrible. He screamed for half an hour non-stop at the boys' swimming yesterday. I was very upset and embarassed. Doc said on Friday he had a bit of an ear infection but I think it's more than that so am taking him to see my favourite paediatrician this morning - if he's just playing up, this is the guy to tell me.

Parents arrive on Friday and then it's just three weeks til we fly back. The heat here is terrible right now - about 45 degrees all day. No fun at all.

On the plus side, I've started watching Glee on DVD and am now hooked. It's hilarious. And baby is settling in to nice regular pattern of kicks and thumps.

Right, better get grumpy knickers ready for docs.

DillyDora · 20/06/2010 10:30

Morning all,

I am sitting here very very still - threw up my breakfast yesterday and really felt like hell, went back to bed and slept for 2 hours straight but never really picked up, missed the party (no wearing of new frock) ...bah! So, today I am moving veeeery slooowly....

Sam so sorry you're in pain, that's miserable. I have a wee kiddley stone and it's stopped hurting, maybe sometimes they do?

Floozie sorry for the fright re the tests, hope all will be well. Good news about the cervix thing (now, when am I ever going to say that again?!) and that bubba is really well.

Thanks for sleeping advice. Had a look on ebay last night and felt better as there's so much stuff so cheaply. We're selling some chests of drawers but as we were messing about with them yesterday the mirror fell on DH and smashed everywhere - aaaaargh! He's ok, just one small cut but I sh*t myself when I heard it go.

Good news about the NCT AbFAb so no more smacked legs for them.

Hope the little man chills out ILGH and the paediatrician is a help.

Think that's everything
xx

AbFabT · 20/06/2010 11:57

Thanks! Cat Woman might hate me and pick on me in class though, as I've caused the hassle! :-/
Still waiting to see if the main venue has the room free on the necessary days though.

ILGH, sorry to hear the LO is poorly. And ouch re the heat! Phew!

Dilly, oh no, no party. What a shame. Hope there's another one soon so you can wear your new dress. Can you still sell the drawers or is the mirror part integral?

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nymphadora · 20/06/2010 12:52

Oh dilly What a shame , is it a bug or just pg?

I took dds swimming this am . I didn't do much (floated around a bit while they swam lengths ) but was nice to be light for a bit & I can recommend Asda(online) for swimming costume. I ordered Thurs and it came yesterday.

Going to start aquanatal this week or next to try & get a bit fitter. This morning has worn me out. Was v snappy until I got some food in me.

LAzy rest of the day. dh is at work so I'm going to get the ddds to help me tidy round a bit. Better hunt out some money for bribery! They do basic stuff for free but will do washing & all sorts for money

SilverSky · 21/06/2010 07:05

Morning all, am lying in bed knowing I should be getting up and getting ready for work. Will listen to the news and sports and then drag myself up.

I seem to have caught Husband's bad throat. Generous git that he is. Local pharmacy said you cant take anything except gargling with salt water, despite the trainee there nearly selling me a throat spray and I had already told him I was pregnant! Eejit.

Haven't read all the thread but I will catch up later.

I am 23 weeks today and have decided to go offon mat leave at 37 weeks. I think it's worth risking a couple of weeks of being bored but resting up and doing nice things before our world is completely rockedand turned upsidedown. Exciting times!

DillyDora · 21/06/2010 08:42

Morning! Lovely day!

Thanks Nymph and AbFAb it's just pg I think, I totally overdid it last week going out after work 3 nights in a row till late and just wore myself out.

AbFab oddly enough the mirror was the wrong one, there was supposed to be one that went with the CoD but when we picked up the furniture we grabbed the wrong mirror, I think we can still get a few quid. Yes, Cat Lady is really going to pick on you and ask you all the hard questions and tell you off if your breathing isn't right...

Sorry you're feeling rough silver hope you feel better soon, I just want to go back to bed!

xx

nymphadora · 21/06/2010 09:13

Tooo hot! Am back hiding in my room with all the blinds shut and its only 10 past nine

Spent most of last night going to the toilet. Baby LOVES trampolining

ILoveGregoryHouse · 21/06/2010 10:02

Silver, have you tried honey? Doc yesterday when I took DS3 in said it's the best natural cough/throat soother.

shieldbug · 21/06/2010 11:11

ILGH how is DS3 at the mo? Hope he is feeling better.

dilly sorry to hear you weren't feeling too well. Hope you are better today.

floozie, yes, I am hoping to bf. I hadn't realised the bit about the baby being calm enough to bf. There's so much I know nothing about! thanks for the advice, and no, it certainly does't sound preachy. Any tips at all are brilliant from those who have been there before!

SilverSky hope the throat doesn't get you down too much.Another remedy for a sore throat is gargling with a sage infusion (pick leaves, infuse in hot water, allow to cool). I believe it has antiseptic properties and should be harmless.

AbFabT Glad to hear the NCT classes are getting sorted out.
I have heard big fat zero about NHS classes, but there aren't any NCT ones close (I would have to go into Belfast, which would be a hassle). Hope I can get something sorted out. Even if they are a bit useless, it would be nice to meet other pg women and maybe make some new friends.

Elsa123 · 21/06/2010 11:23

morning! Silver it must be in the air round our way as my DH is ill today too, it started with a sore throat and now a full on cold- he never gets colds and its knocked him for 6- he's even not gone into work today! I think honey may be a good bet too and less foul and vomit inducing than a salt water gargle. Also, if you have difficulty swallowing, you can take paracetamol to ease the pain.

SamB- how're you feeling? It must have been a pants weekend trying ot manage that pain with paracetamol- I hope you get a resolution this week.

Floozie- I hope the tests come back ok for your cyst.

AbfabT- good news about the NCT- hopefully you won't get picked on.

I went for my hospital referral last Thursday all excited that I may finally get some continuity of care. They redid all my notes and then I waited for 1.5 hours to see a doctor and when I went in, he did not even look at me and started asking questions like have you seen your midwife between 25-30 weeks and your last scan said you should have another growth scan at 32 weeks, have you had this? When I said, all confused- 'well, no not yet' he started berating me and saying that the reason for my poor care was my inability to go to these appointments. I then said....I'm 23 weeks!!!! Someone between the midwife doing my notes and him getting them had written that I was 35/40 despite my EDD being 14 Oct. He was such a tool that he confirmed my EDD and still thought I was 35 weeks. I said 'honestly! do you think I look even close to 35 weeks??!!' and that was when he reluctantly looked at me and conceded that my tiny bump on my tiny frame was unlikely to be a bump of 35 weeks gestation.

He then said that I really should be getting my antenatal midwife appointments in the community and I explained (again) that was the reason I was there as I'd barely seen my midwife and I'd organised all my own scans etc becuase of her ineptitude and also the stuff she'd written on my notes that was not true. All he could do was say that they should not be seeing me as I was fit and healthy. I asked him to actually read my referral letter and he sighed, got up and went to get a midwife to explain to me that I needed to get antenatal care in the community....left waiting in the room for ages on my own, I could not help but cry with frustration as I'd had such hopes for a decent service and was once again getting the run around. He came back in with the midwife and said to me again that I should get my care at home and the GP surgery should have a 'team' of midwives. I'd already told them they did not have a team, that they had one midwife who worked 2 days a week, but only came to this surgery every other week, but if she was on call the night before appointments would get cancelled.

So, the upshot is, they want me to try and sort out care in the community, but they have booked me in for a growth scan at 36 weeks. So I now have to go back to my surgery and try and sort something out. Not the easiest when I have lodged a complaint against the only midwife.....but hopefully I can actually give birth there. I can see it now- its going to be in the car or something isn't it??

Cheesed off wasn't the word and I genuinely do not think I am being unreasonable in hoping that someone will carry out my antenatal care.

Rant over x x x

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