**AUGUST 2010** happy days as 3rd trimester comes our way

[CherryPie3]

New thread

We really are getting through a thread a month lol!!

Hi all,

So sorry to join this thread very very late and in the middle of such a sad time for Caz, her DH and their little baby girl

A very good friend of mine was due at the end of April and this happened to her - she had a check up with midwife one day and all was fine, she went into labour the next morning and by the time she and her DH got to the hospital there was no heartbeat. It's the most devastating news for everyone involved so, although we've never chatted, Caz, I really wish you my most sincere sympathy.

I'm due at the end of August and have only started using MN very recently, and only found this thread today. How is everybody else doing? We're down to the last 8/9 week countdown now and both excited and apprehensive. Anyone else finding they are really short of breath? Not sure if it's the heat, the way the baby is lying or my iron levels are low - possibly all 3 - but finding shortness of breath to be a real killer...

Hi LittleMiss and welcome

If you want to post your stats (due date, your age, is this baby no. 1/2/3, general location) Cherry will add your details to the list at some stage.

It's really quiet here at the moment, I think we're all in a state of shock and disbelief over our poor Caz's news, so please don't think you're being ignored, people are just trying to get their heads together.

I know what you mean about the shortness of breath, I've been put on iron tablets by doc, and with 6 weeks to go baby is dropping a little which is making life easier.

Welcome littlemiss, as dibby mentioned, we are all a bit subdued at the moment.

Third trimester exhaustion and sadness over what our lovely caz is going through has knocked the stuffing out of us a bit.

My last Monday at work today before mat leave starts. So tired though - was wide awake at 3.30am and just couldn't get back to sleep.

Hope everyone is doing well and has paddling pools at the ready in preparation for this week of hot weather!

Hi all,

Sounds awful to say it after Caz's sad news, but I am having an officially Good Day today. After all my stresses about pre-school with DS over the last few weeks, he had a fantastic session there today. Still cried when I left him, but when I came to pick him up he'd clearly had a whale of a time, and managed to eat his snack for the first time, and happily had his nappy changed by one of the helpers (who he seems to have developed a major crush on ). And then he got really stroppy and said he didn't want to come home. It probably sounds a bit silly, but I feel like a gigantic weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and I can now get on with properly preparing for no.2 .

No.2 has been a bit of a tinker in the last day or two. He's generally head down now, but he spent all of Saturday head up, as if he's just reminding me that he could still be breech if he wants to .

My less good news is that we took the car to the garage on Saturday because the exhaust has been making a funny noise. Turns out it needs an entire new system including catalytic converter - which will cost an eye-watering twelve hundred pounds . Given that the builders are hopefully starting on the loft conversion next week as well, I'm feeling a little stressed about money right now...

Anyway, better go and find out why my son has been shouting in bed rather than sleeping for the last half an hour. I've never heard a child sound less tired .

Welcome, littlemiss.

(due date, your age, is this baby no. 1/2/3, general location)

My stats, then

Due date: 28th Aug - but I have PCOS and they've ended up changing my dates about 4 or 5 times from 3rd Aug to 28th so it's anyone's guess lol

Age: 26

Baby no. 1

General location: Belfast

Lovely to meet you all and to join your thread. I'm sure everyone is very subdued and I'm sure Caz will really appreciate all your support when things have sunk in a bit for her. From going through this with my friend in April all I can say is that the support is very gratefully appreciated in the aftermath when she just needs to talk and needs someone to listen.

afternoon everyone,

welcome littlemiss

thats really good about your ds elusivemoose!

had a nice weekend away at my little sisters wedding, found the travelling very uncomfortable though!

Saw midwife last week & baby is now head down,
My iron levels are a bit low so have started taking spatone, other than that all is fine.

Is anyone planning on using a tens machine in labour?

Im thinking of hiring one to try, not sure the best place to hire from though?

Hello ladies

I don't think we should feel guilty for having good days or talking about our pregnancies. It is very hard not to though. I must admit i have stopped complaining about being booted constantly by the baby, at least i know he is healthy.

Today i am feeling very grateful for my crushed ice maker on my fridge. Keep waking up at night in pools of sweat (nice) without actually feeling that warm.

7weeks left exactly

Welcome LittleMissSnowshine. Are you a fellow snowboarder or skier? God how I missed it this year...

I don't think for a minute that Caz would want her sadness to detract from the rest of us enjoying and appreciating how blessed we are. As others have said, I think her news has helped people put their aches, pains, frustrations, etc into perspective - I was feeling worn down last week because a head cold seemed like the final straw on top of the restless legs, not sleeping, burning feet, heartburn, etc - but this week, I'm determined to be thankful & joyful. Life can be truly shit sometimes (as Caz's situation shows) so if anything her gift to us is a reminder to be mindful & live happily whenever we can.

And Elusive, today is officially a Good Day in Weehectorland too. I have a nursery...well, its looking quite sterile at the moment but all the furniture has now been assembled. I'm delighted with the Stokke stuff and we're already seeing how clever the design will be in the future. So, I'm off now to decant all the baby gear that's been cluttering up the spare bedroom into the baby's room (which is currently being called Hector's House - which is another point, we are really going to have to stop called the baby Hector and start trying to call him by the name we've chosen for him). Maybe its just my current hormonal state but I'm finding organising the room quite emotional - much more so that hearing his heartbeat for the first time and up there with seeing him on ultrasound. I keep getting drawn in there.

You can add me to the incredibly breathless list - 35+4 today and LO is still transverse. Occasionally he sticks his head down but mostly he's got his head out one side, bum out the other and his back curved up right under my lungs so breathing is a right PITA. There's just none of him at all down the bottom, he's all scrunched up under my ribs. I'm just wondering when he'll choose to sort himself out or whether it's going to have to be a CS Still got til 37 weeks til a decision has to be made but that's only 10 days away. (and before you suggest it, I've been OFPing like a fiend to no avail!)

Glad some of you are having lovely days, it's so hot outside I'm not too keen on pottering out!

HI all glad everyones having a good day
Has anyone tried peptec liquid for heartburn? The doc gave me some today and its worse than gaviscon, made me heave and nearly be sick. However I have been geting heartburn for the whole day constantly so will have to try again before I go to bed

My bp has been playing up again this week, it was high so spent thurs, fri and today at docs to be checked, luckily today it was back to normal. Which im glad of as the doc was talking about sending me in.

34 weeks on wednesday so only have 5 weeks left till my cs

Think I will be getting dh to put the swimming pool up this week

babyducky - I'm thinking of giving tens a try. I know it's available in the hospital we're going to but I'm thinking it's going to be more useful in the very early stages of labour, when we're still at home so I'm going to look into hiring one too I think. I know NCT hire them out but no idea whether these are the best ones or not: www.nctpregnancyandbabycare.com/shop/hire-services/tens-hire

Chulita - Eep, I hadn't really thought about the prospect that the baby might just stay in that position. I've been waiting patiently on the 'dropping' or 'lightening' stage to happen, but I've stupidly just realised that maybe not all babies actually do this. Drat!

Weehector - Not really much of a skiier or a snow boarder, tho have given it a go in the past! Just liked the name Our nursery is coming together now as well, feel a bit superstitious about putting the cot together for some reason, but it's painted, we put a laminate floor down, have assembled the changing table and moved a chest of drawers in, which I've filled with clothes and other baby stuff. It's exciting! Musing about whether a nursing chair is a worthwhile purchase or not - anyone got any experience using one of these? Worth £150 or maybe not?

kcoffin27 - Doctor gave me a prescription for Ranitadine for heartburn. I don't take it every day but just whenever the heart burn starts up in earnest. Not finding Gaviscon all that great tbh, works for about an hour max and tastes horrible!! Again, waiting for the baby to drop because that's meant to sort out breathlessness and heart burn too. Fingers crossed only another couple of weeks before that happens...

You mean there is actually something worse than Gaviscon? I can get 1 teaspoonful down ok but the 2nd one is hit or miss > projectile vomited over the whole kitchen at 3am on Saturday night.

weehector it is possible the same as gaviscon maybe bit worse. I am in constant pain from the heartburn but cant get anythin down to help it rennies are ok but they dont work for longer than 30mins. I have run out of things to try, milk doesnt work either. I have a constant fire that wont go away im so fed up of it.

Chulita I have a nasty feeling mine has turned transverse again too - I could have sworn it was hiccups I felt in my side last night, when normally I feel hiccups low down into my pelvis. Oh well...

I agree, Caz's news does put all our aches and pains and niggles right into perspective. I'm thinking of them both.

Do you think we ought to start a new thread..but also keep this one going...its seems to wrong to post mundane things/moans after but equally as I am sure Caz will appreciate life simply carries on...but equally I want her to be able to find us when she is ready

My mundane news is that i am seeing the midwife tomorrow

Good idea Cazzy or perhaps start a thread especially for Caz?

New thread is a good idea - I just feel a bit frivolous compared to what Caz and her DH are going through.

Re all the heartburn mine has been chronic - my doc has prescribed Omeprazole capsules. These, for me, are like magic pills.

babyducky I hired a tens machine last time and this time round I have bought one. I have the Elle tens and although I haven't tried it when I tested it on DP he squealed (when it was on half power) and said ow ow ow get it off that hurts.

I am also considering acupuncture to bring on labour as I was 10 days over with DD and that was bad enough in May, the idea of going 10 days over in August is not my idea of fun.

The baby I have on board is currently auditioning for spellbound from britains got talent, it is such a wriggler I am really uncomfortable. This would usually make me a bit however at the moment it makes me and I am grateful for the sleepless nights due to a very wriggly baby.

I'm devastated for Caz . I read the news last week but didn't feel able to post anything until now. Makes you realise you can't take anything for granted when it comes to babies and pregnancy. I really hope she is OK, what a tragedy.

I hope she feels strong enough to come back some time and let us know how she is getting on.

Everything is fine with me. I saw the mw last week and she thinks baby is head down. I was measuring a few days over but she said that was fine. Still on for homebirth and been re-reading my Hypnobirthing book (Mongan Method) which is great - really hoping to use those techniques more this time around.

Thanks for the tens info littlemiss & coffeelady, I think I might hire an elle tens, off to have another look now!

Also got to get the last few bits for my hospital bag today.

I too hope that caz feels strong enough to come back on & let us know how she is, still been thinking about her a lot xxx

Neenz Have you read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth - I read it over the weekend (hoping for homebirth as well) and found it absolutely awe inspiring. Did you use hypnobirthing for your last babies?

Gaviscon is my drug of choice at the minute, but heartburn not half as bad as it was now baby has dropped down a little (34 weeks yesterday).

Have 3rd antenatal class tonight - "breastfeeding" DH asked this morning if he really needs to go as he doesn't have necessary equipment (plus I think there is some football thing going on at the moment...)

Beautiful weather here today in sunny Devon, feeling grateful for my blessings (plus only 6 days left at work)

Am humming and ahhing over getting a nursing chair, there's a nice one on Kiddicare that's got really good reviews for £120.00, but I've spent my HIP money on a new kitchen sink

Dibby, yeah I love the Ina May book! I am re-reading it now and agree it is awe-insiring.

I used some hypnobirthing techniques with the twins (breathing through contractions and visualisation to help the cervix open), I only wish I had used them at the pushing stage too. tbh I didn't actually believe you could 'breathe' a baby out. I thought the MWs would laugh at me for suggesting it. So when they shouted 'Push!' I tried to push as hard as I could but it was totally futile. I didn't have the urge to push, got totally knackered and ended up with forceps. I realise now if I'd used the visualisation and breathing techniques the baby probably would have moved down on his own. (Ina May talks about this a lot with Sphincter Law and the power of the mind to influence the body). So this time I am prepared!

I'd like to train to be a hypnobirthing practitioner, plus a doula and a Bfing counsellor! When all my kids are at school probably. I am a journalist atm which is ok but I could never imagine myself going back to my job FT - I'd be really bored and a 9-5 job is not so convenient when you have kids at school. I'd love to be my own boss!

Ive just finished reading that book too Dibbydab, well worth reading, made me feel very positive

Im finding my natal hypnotherapy cd v good aswell, I've fallen asleep most times I've listened to it though!

Hello ladies,

sorry I've been a bit incommunicado. I heard back from Caz this morning and she wrote a very moving birth story which she's asked me to repost on here. I will do so when I get home later - maybe a good place to start a special thread?

I also have her address so we can start planning the rose idea properly. I think the suggestion a small group of us oversee a paypal account is a good one, who else would be happy to do this?

Caz is too emotional to post right now but says she will be back with time and wanted to emphasize that we should not feel guilty for continuing to enjoy our pregnancies.

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Aw that's lovely that u have heard from caz, it's nice that she wants to share her story with us, a new thread sounds good.

Paypal thing is a good plan too.

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