December 2010 any one? Come keep me company

[OnlyWantsOne]

well... this is scary

littleSnoo With a bit of luck my MIL's visit will be over by Christmas day, I hadn't really thought that far ahead, I hope she's not planning on being here that long.

OnlyWantsOne - We were going to find out the sex because my Husband wanted to know but I have persuaded him not to. We had IVF and lots of people knew about it so lots of people know we are pregnant already. I told him I'd like to keep at least one part of it a secret - the sex! I like the idea of not knowing until the baby is handed to me

Just googled 'how soon can you feel second baby movements' and I'm definitely imagining things! Lol! Clearly wishful thinking going on. Was a weird twitchy feeling though - I wonder if it is my uterus stretching?

morning all, really dont have time to catch up with you all individually, i'll have to come back later for that.

couldnt bring myself to do the injection, dp had to do it for me

i freaked out when i tried. it didnt hurt and took a few seconds.

i'm only on it until week 13 so shouldn't be too big by then, although at the rate i'm going i will be huge!

will pop back in after work to try and catch up a bit better.

crazykat I love cooking, at the moment the smell of eggs cooking (mainly fried eggs or scrambled) is making me heave though, and I usually love them.

rosie I need to look at some maternity clothes soonish.

Deuling I honestly think the change from no children to one was the hardest as it's such a huge difference, but you do get used to it pretty quickly, not having much choice has a big part to play there hehe. I'm not really worried about having 4 (wow that sounds a lot writing it down!) as I know everything will be ok. I'm actually terrified about the labour, I was worrying about it before I was even pregnant, I had pretty OK ones as well

I would definitely set some rules now, you shouldn't have to be driving everyone about, you'll either be heavily pregnant or with a newborn and it's so uncomfortable being really pregnant that you probably won't want to. Wait and see how you feel personally but if you think you won't want to then set people straight now. Don't make it something to worry about, speak with dh and explain. He shouldn't be drinking either anyway. I wouldn't want mine to drink much at all, but I've had babies born prem and lots of pregnancy problems meaning many, many hospital trips so, I have different expectations. Dp hasn't drank at all since I've been pregnant and nor have I come to that hehe.

Wholelotta I can understand that, I decided to have the nuchal scan as, if something was wrong, I'd want to know beforehand if possible but I wouldn't be aborting either way. Reading what you said about taking the baby upstairs to feed made it all seem so real! If you see what I mean; made me shiver. I know it's real but, well, it's hard to explain. I felt movements really early with ds1 and ds2 (with dd, my first) I didn't until about 17ish weeks I think but with them I'm sure I did before my nuchal scan and that was at 11 weeks. I don't think it's silly. Don't listen to google, plenty of woman DO feel movements early on, I was one of them

Hopeful I'm 7+3 today and starting to feel sick quite a lot over the past few days, not been sick at all and haven't with other pregnancies so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it will stay just feeling sick. I seem to get it after eating though so that's curbing my eating, for now at least! I haven't stopped eating since I found out but I've slowed down a lot now.

OWO I will be finding out, I had a private nuchal scan in London with my last two and he told me the sex at 11/12 weeks so I'm hoping to get that done again, if they can't fit me in (they get quite busy) then I'll wait until my 20 week scan. Are you going to find out? I love knowing, I hate calling the baby "it" for so long, feels so impersonal.

LittleSnoo I love Christmas and have already invited my parents, grandparents, inlaws and dps silblings for Christmas day and I'm due then! I love doing it all though, I was 37 weeks on Christmas day with ds2 and I had everyone over then as well. I usually have everyone here as I hate dragging the kids about everywhere on Christmas day. I love all the cooking and baking, will be making my mincemeat for mince pies, biscuits, christmas puddings etc all as normal (I hope!).

mumatron maybe in time you'll be able to do it, if not then it's no biggie, I wouldn't be able to do it myself I don't think either. Make sure to keep your hands really still when you push it in or you will bruise really badly. When I do dps he never bruises but when he does it himsef (his hands shake through illness) then he comes up in massive bruises.

Morning all, sicky feelings again last night and a little this morning. Still getting up quite early and sleeping early, can't quite believe I'm in bed my 9.30 some nights! Does anyone else feel like they know what they're having? Ever since I found out I've had a really strong feeling that it's a boy, no idea why and I have no preference, but I really feel it a lot. We'll see I guess.

Have a scan at the hospital tomorrow morning so I'm getting nervous now, keep thinking they'll tell me they can't see a heartbeat or it hasn't grown but trying to stay positive. I'll feel so much better once it's over tomorrow. Hope you're all feeling well this morning.

JodieO - I have no inkling, infact sometimes I wonder if there's a baby in there at all!

I have another scan tomorrow too and started to slightly worry again last night about if it will be bad news. There's no eral reason the think so but I am just anxious I guess. I guess it's normal to worry. What time is your scan?

My symptomms are still minimal though I woke very early (husband snoring AGAIN!) today and felt quite sick.

Morning all.

OWO We're going to find out the sex so we have time to swap bedrooms round if we need to (DS has a small room and DD a bigger one she shares with DSD at weekends). We don't want to leave it till baby's born incase DD blames him (if it's a girl she won't have to swap).

JodieO How do you have time to do all that? I usually make christmas cakes for family mid november and buns for us and DC's and I'm usually icing them while dinner's cooking. I've told DH we're having beans on toast this year!

Wholelotta I'm sure I felt fluttering on sat night and I'm 9+3. Everyone's different and lots of people probably feel movement early but dismiss it as it's 'too early'.

Dueling My scan is at 9.50am, what time's yours? How many weeks are you now?

crazykat Well you make the mince a few months in advance to give it time to mature, same with the Christmas puddings and I make the pastry for the mince pies a couple of weeks before and them freeze them all once baked. You can then either defrost them first or reheat from frozen. I made a Christmas cake last year too, but again, that's beforehand so you can feed and then ice it. I prepare all the veg and potatoes etc on christmas eve so really, there's not a huge amount to do on the day itself; just the starter and cooking.

Hi JodieO I'll be 9 weeks at the scan, it's at 8.30 am

I am hoping I can stay with my mum at Christmas! She only lives a few miles away so not too far to take a newborn or to go if I am overdue!

Good luck, I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. My parents live here too, and they're moving closer, the bungelow they've bought is ready to move into in about June and is just under a mile away. I preferred being at home with a baby though, much as my parents' place feels like home, I really love just being at home with baby. Plus I don't want to disrupt the other children too much, need to work out when to tell them yet!

Hello all, I've been lurking for a while but had an early private scan yesterday which revealed that there's something in there so here I am!

I'd been really uncertain because I've had only a tiny a bit of very mild nausea a few weeks ago and nothing for ages, no tiredness, I basically feel completely normal! I'm 10 weeks and my NHS scan isn't til the end of the month, but I need to tell people at work this week, plus am on hol after that, so really wanted to know if everything was ok. And it is! £100 well spent, feel so much better now.

I know it's still early days but it's a relief to know things are ok so far, and I can actually enjoy feeling fine instead of fretting about it.

Just put myself on the stats list - 6 Dec here we come!

Good luck with the scans Dueling & JodieO. My first is next week, very excited but nervous- like you said JodieO that no heart beat or somethings up.

We are planning on not finding out the sex. Would like it to be a suprise but we will see how our will power goes!

I've got abit of a dilema, wondering your thoughts. My best friend is getting married 4th December, I'm due Christmas Eve. She asked me before I was pregnant if I'd be a bridesmaid. The thing is I live in Northern Ireland & she is getting married nr London. I don't even think I'll be able to fly at 37 weeks but say dating scans say I'm a bit earlier or something do you think I'd be mad to go? Even as I'm writing this I'm thinking yes but she is my best friend & I'd be gutted to miss her wedding...I know she will understand but I'd so love to be there. How were people who have been pregnant before feeling at 37 weeks? Fine or not able to move never mind travel?! I literally have no idea how I'll feel & what to do!

Thanks in anticipation of your thoughts

hi Heidi, Congratulations

I completely understand not wanting to post until you were sure. I did the same. Like you I feel normal too, not even tired.

How are you going to tell people? I have to tell my boss in a few weeks and I just don't know what to say. Do I just blurt it out

I can't wait until I get a ptoper bump and I can start wearing clothes which show it rather than big baggy T-shirts and layers!

Hi Heidi - welcome! It's such a frustrating time, early pregnancy, when you're doubting your own pregnancy test and nothing shows.

I had my scan this morning (because of brownish spotting and some cramps) and everything is fine! Embryo is measuring exactly right for dates (7.2 today) and heartbeat was good. In the right place, too! I am a bit shell-shocked, TBH - I had convinced myself it'd be another MC. And now things look fine. Still a long wait until my dating scan, but much more optimistic now!

Thanks for all the support and good wishes here.

Oooh - I don't know the answer to that rosietoestoo but I think you have to get a doctors not after a certain stage if you want to fly.

Am sure your freind will understand, when will you tell her you are pregnant?

oh and heidipi I noticed from the other thread i Pregnancy that you are a 40 year old first timer. me too! Scary isn't it

Hello again - Dueling yes I'm an oldie! Part of my anxiety has been because a 20-something colleague who has just gone on mat leave had horrible MS til her 5th month (had to keep sending her home, couldn't even have a cuppa in front of her cos it made her heave) and I just couldn't believe an old bird like me can get off so much more lightly!

But so far so good, am sure little one will make it's presence felt sooner or later!

Let's start a Don't Worry If You Don't Feel Pregnant campaign - it can be really worrying when all you hear is morning sickness, exhaustion, twinges, gone off fave foods etc.

Rosietoes I had to look into flying in late preg last year for a colleague - basically it varies from airline to airline, some won't accept you after 35 weeks, others will with a docs note if the doc thinks you're ok to fly and not going to go in early labour. Nothing dangerous about flying - they just don't want you popping on the plane!

Ooh Dueling just realised I didn't answer about telling people at work - I told my boss just a few days after I found out, we're a really small team so she's have noticed me avoiding lifting things, not having a Friday drink etc. That was fine, but I've got to tell another layer of people at the end of the week (technically I don't have to but there's planning going on so it would be a pain if I held off another 3 weeks) which is partly why I wanted the early scan.

There's a few not very understanding men involved but I'm giving them lots of notice and I'll do everything I can to make it go smoothly so they'll just have to lump it. Because I'm older for years I've been the one with no family commitments who's available for everything at the drop of a hat - very willingly, there's no grudge - but it's my turn now! All being well, of course (that's my catchphrase, not sure when I'll stop dropping that into every sentence...)

Great news reshape

Welcome Heidipi, WholeLottaLove I am convinced I felt fluttering at the weekend and I am 8 weeks today.

Can't wait until my scan on 9th June, it sems like forever away. Had great plans when ttc of not telling anyone until about 14 weeks therefore avoiding these early weeks dragging but having been so ill everybody knows and each day is feeling like a month.
Sickness is still bad.

JodieO you are Christmas mad like me, I hope to be hosting either Christmas Eve or Boxing Day this year, we have a kind of rota system.

Mumatron poor you with the clexane. I found it easier to do it in my thigh but I was 36 weeks pg with dd when I first started using it and there was no skin to pinch on my side.
It is hard but I had the threat of not being allowed home unless I did it myself which spurred me along.
I will be going on at about 16 weeks until a few weeks after the baby is born, I hope they will still let me have a home birth.

That's brilliant news reshape. notso We were going to keep it quiet until after the first scan - DH told everyone the day after we found out. He did the same with DS, that man just can't keep a secret.

I wish I was that organised JodieO, I always plan to do everything like that but still end up doing it at the last minute. I'll have to do better this year though.

rosietoes after 34 weeks with DD I was terrified to be too far from home incase I went into labour as I was born 6 weeks early and convinced DD would be too. Second time round I felt fine at 37 weeks, just couldn't wait to have him.
Everyone's different my advice would be to see how you're feeling a bit closer to then.

that made me giggle about your DH crazyKat. We told my BIL and I think he's told EVERYONE! I remember being at a xmas gathering a couple of years back where a friend annonced she was pregnant but not quite 11 weeks so it was 'still a secret'. About 5 minutes later a hush fell on the room as we heard BIL in the next room on his mobile saying very loudly 'oh yeah, and did you know... Kathy's pregnant, yeah... she just told us now'. We should have known really.

Afternoon all, boy you guys can chat!

Welcome Dueling and Heidipi, I just joined up yesterday, I'm 39 and first timer, so glad there are a few other "oldies" about

Rosietoes sure your friend will be sad about the wedding but happy about your news. I'd say it's probably too much to say you'll def be a bridesmaid, but depending on how you are feeling/what GP and airlines say closer to the date, that you will try and come and have a special role.

Mumatron do you have to put it in your tummy? That just sounds like such a tender place.

Christmas, can't even think that far, patiently (not!) waiting to hear from MW to get booking appt and especially a date for a scan - not liking the not knowing exactly what is going on in there! Out biggest concern is that main hospital is almost 2 hours away, but on the 4 public holidays at Christmas/New Year, the ferry is off, so it adds another hour to the journey. And really don't think I could cope with moving into OH parent's upstairs flat with our two dogs, especially at that time of year. Lovely people, but everything is OTT at the best of times!

heidi welcome. Glad your scan went well.

rosie by 37 weeks I didn't want to travel anywhere and by that time with my first pregnancy my daughter had been born! It would be cutting it too fine for me but see how you feel I guess. Actually I think there is a higher risk for babies and mothers when flying during pregnancy, more info here www.flighthealth.org/pregnancy.htm

Dueling My clothes are tight already, won't be long until I'm wearing mat clothes at this rate!

reshape really glad your scan went well, you must be so relieved now.

notso 9th June will come around really quickly I'm sure I know what you mean about it feeling like ages already, I've told quite a few friends and it feels like forever! I think I am Christmas mad! Hehe. My family loves coming here to me and the children so it's win, win really, and dps family will be here this year as well.

crazykat that's the only thing I'm really organised about tbh, I'm usually very choatic about everything else!

walkthedog do you think you'll be planning a home birth just in case then? Sounds quite scary to me, the not knowing if you'll be able to get into hospital or not.

We've managed to get an allotment today, there weren't that many plots left so it's great! Complete novice though so I'll be busy reading up and hitting b&q, need to get it all weeded and dug through; will be busy!

Hi all, not posted for a while. Had an early scan on Sunday and it was such a relief to see a heartbeat - little bean measured 2cm and 8wk 5days which was 3 days more than I thought. Not going to change due date yet as will wait for 12 week scan.

I havent got my midwife appt until 24 May by which time i'll be (according to scan) nearly 11 weeks so hope I manage to gtet 12 wk scan in time for nuchal test.

Hope everyone is feeling ok and welcome to the new posters.

Jodie - i think its amazing that you have the energy for an allotment. I am just managing to get through the day - I am a complete baby lol

Congrats on the allotment JodieO I can't get one here as the waiting list is so long

Yay for the scan Angelgirl79 ... I am only seeing the Doctor for the first time on Thursday and will be 9 weks so also slightly worried I will have to wait too long for the MW to get in touch.

Angel glad your scan went well I'm always tired but this allotment will be worth it hehe, it'll be really good for the children to get involved too and I've always wanted to grow my own veg

Dueling There are two sites for allotments here and I've got one on the new site and there are still about 10 plots left. I'm really excited about it