December 2010 any one? Come keep me company

[OnlyWantsOne]

well... this is scary

Hi everyone, well I stopped eating cereals 5 days ago, and no more nausea. Yay! Milk makes me feel ill anyway, and seems that was the cause of it all! Do have a really sore throat today though .

I'm ready to stamp my feet and have a true toddler/teenager style tantrum as I want a booking in appt & a scan appt...NOW!!!! I'm not very patient at all. I'm 9+4 today, I hate the waiting!

I have a doppler from DD, however, my sister has it, and I think it would raise suspiscions if I asked for it back

IIRC you can't usually hear a heartbeat on a doppler until about 14-16 weeks.

I have a doppler and heard the heartbeat last time (and the time before) at about 10 weeks, you need to do it right though to hear it early.

Morning all, lovely day here but stressful weekend. My ex has caused so much trouble with the children that my daughter (8) didn't even want to go and see him this weekend, so then he tried to make her feel guilty by saying how it "wasn't the same without her there" and how much he missed her etc, really inappropriate stuff to be saying to an 8 year old. Then telling the other two how he couldn't "afford" to be buying fruit as he didn't have the money, but he's going on holiday with his new girlfriend in 2 weeks!!

He's such a liar and I told him I don't want him making them feel guilty, especially when he's lying as he clearly does have money, how will he eat and drink out there otherwise? He just puts the kids after himself obviously, he needs to sort his priorities out. If he can't afford to feed his kids properly then he shouldn't be bloody going away anyway. My parents are disgusted by it all.

I just want to shield my children from it all, he has no right to upset them and make them feel bad, selfish, ignorant man; not that he even acts like a man. The thing with it is that he doesn't even think he's wrong!! How can you talk to someone that thinks they're right about everything?? He just thinks it's all me causing problems and drama but really, it's him. This is a long cycle of abuse though, was always the same and I'm just so glad I'm out of it and with a lovely man now. I'm not prepared to put my kids through that though, no bloody way. I just don't know what to do for the best Sorry for the epic post.

Gosh Jodie, he sounds lovely. Can't imagine why you aren't with him anymore.

I think kids grow to see each parent for what he/she is. Ever your 8 year probably already knows he's a jerk.

Today is a good day for me. My blardy migraine is (almost) gone and I got a scan date for C&W. So, that means they have accepted me and I'm in! Yippee. :-)

I now have two nuchal scans on the same day. One at FMC (which I have to pay for) and one at C&W. Wonder if they will both produce the same result?

jodie do we have the same exp? he sounds exactly like my dc's father. he is always trying to give me less maintenance, yet he works full time. i am forever hearing 'i have no money' etc, but he and his new gf are throwing an engagement party in 2 weeks and have recently booked the venue for the wedding. not to mention his stag do, a weekend in ibiza. makes my blood boil. cant afford to buy dd school shoes though.

anyway, been to see gp to get my claxane prescription

no one has shown me how to inject myself. i'm more than a bit scared tbh.

hope everyone else doing ok.

yay I have an ex like that too - its taken a whole year for the CSA to get him to cough up some money - arghh moron!!

Really, the doppler from 10 weeks?

Jodie - I could go on forever about my boys 'dad'. He really doesn't deserve to be called that. Sounds very similar to your ex. I was due to start counselling on Fri, but she was ill, so will br starting this weeek instead. I hate that I have to send them off to someone who doesn't give 2 hoots about them. He doesn't support them in any way shape or form. Claims he can't take them out cos he has no money. We live in Portsmouth, there's a beach at the end of the bloody road! There are parks everywhere. there's no excuse, and the only reason they want to go round there is becasue he has just bought a ps3 (with that money he doesn't have!). He feeds them lies about me and I have to bite my tongue to not blurt things out to them. Can't wait til they're old enough to hear and understand why I was the evil person to break up the family.

Still no word from mw.

Racey, why don't you cal the hospital and ask them when you should expect your scan appointment to come through?

I must say, I am surprisingly impressed with C&W, I sent my self referral in last week and got the scan appointment in the post today. I called to see if I could have a later time, and while we were on the phone I asked her to confirm that this meant I had been accepted. And she said yes and that my first midwife appointment is 21st May. Yippee, I've never known the NHS to be so organised and efficient.

I just hope this doesn't mean they are hard up for business. You know, like the restaurant which is empty on Friday night.

Hi Chaps,

Having a sick day, my head is banging and can't take any migraleve so have thrown in the towel for today. Had a lovely weekend, DH and I went for a city break to Lancaster, but I was totally exhausted when we got back. DH did all the driving which was pretty impressive as he's only just passed his test, so glad he passed first time as I'm not really up for driving hundreds of miles at the moment and my worst nightmare would be driving myself to the delivery suite

Hi all,

Joining you all, just about recovered from the shock of bfp this time last week - unplanned but both very happy.

Recently moved to area, so hadn't joined a GP practice, but did last week, saw GP, handed info and told midwife will call at some point, and scan could be anytime from 9-12 weeks.

Pretty sure I am 6+4. Which makes EDD 31st Dec.

Hi all, just checking in. I've had my scan date through finally, for 14th June. I was hoping it would be a bit earlier as I will be 13 1/2 weeks by then and not sure I'll be able to hide it from work for that long... Five weeks still seems ages away!

Dear all - much sympathy to all with sickness and tiredness. Thankfully am over the sickness now (11+4) but soooooo tired. Am slacking at work to point of negligence for my clients but just cannot concentrate and need to sleep!
Congratulations and welcome Walkthedog - is this your first pregnancy?

xx

wholelottalove there is a chance that you will also muss the nuchal measurement window which is 11+3 to 13+6

Can you not call and ask for one sooner?

Hi ladies,
Sorry I've been absent - I've been constantly exhausted and sick. Now DS has a tummy bug which is just dragging on and on.
Had my booking in appointment today with the midwife. It seems as though the local hospital is getting a midwife led unit set up! Hopefully that will be ready by the time this one pops
Hope everyone is ok.
Boooo to horrid exes!

Pernickety I really don't know what I ever saw in him, I think being out of that relationship makes me really see him for what he always was/and is. He was emotionally and physically abusive and I guess you get ground down after a while, so glad I'm with a man now that treats me like I'm a princess. Glad you got your scan dates, good luck!

mumatron sounds very familiar. So sick of him and his behaviour, making the dcs feel like crap and then I have to pick up the pieces. I'm sure he'll have enough money to fund his holiday though, sigh. Oooh, would it be really awful to wish for ash? . Have you managed to inject yet? When I do dp I keep it steady and slowly push it all in.

OWO seems like a few of us with crap exes! Yep I was aboutb 10 weeks when I found the heartbeat, took a little while to locate the first time but you get used to it!

Racey Sorry your counselling was cancelled, hope it goes well this week. I can't wait for that either, I hate them going to see him.

WalkTheDog Welcome

Wholelotta I agree with OWO, you could miss the window for a nuchal scan.

I called the midwives today and have a booking appt next Tues, she is coming here. From my past history she told me I'm under consultant led care so that should be fun....

Try and post later as dinner is almost ready, hope everyone's ok.

Thanks

Yep first pregnancy. I'm 39 - at least due few months before 40! My good friend is 40 this year and she is due just a month before.

I hate cooking!

Normally I love being in the kitchen but lately it just seems like a huge task, especially as I have to cook twice - once for DD and DS and again an hour later for me and DH. MS seems to disappear while I'm cooking for DC's then re-appears when I try to eat my dinner.

Migranes are the worst, I've been averaging one a week as I've had to stop taking pizotofen and can't take zomid when I do get one. I didn't realise how much easier they made life.

Hope everyone's okay MS aside.

mumatron, can't belive no one explained how to do clexane injections, bad form them. You put the needle just under your skin in your tummy & inject, at least thats what we do in hospital with non pregnant people. Mind you when tummy gets bigger I'm not sure where you'd put it...it makes you bruise a bit/a lot.

I'm still sick...really hope it will start to fade soon. Though it does just seem to be the morning now which is good.

Bought a maternity dress at the weekend- so premature but it was in the sale in topshop so couldnt resist! very naughty.

take care all

crazykat I feel the same about cooking, just had a mini meltdown about it which ended in my DH cooking for me. In our house I tend to do 90% of the cooking but I think this is going to have to change.

I've also sat him down and had a chat about how things are going to change around the house, this is our first and I am not sure he's fully aware of how different it's going to be once I have given birth and am trying to get to grips with breat feeding, sleep deprivation etc.

At the moment we have a lot of people call round or stay, including his brother who is here several times a week when I get home from work, and I am worried that he'll think we can carry on just the same when the baby is here. I will want to go into hibernation for a few days if not weeks.

Haven't mentioned to him my biggest fear yet, which is being suffocated by (his) well meaning family around or after the birth. His mum lives abroad but will be visiting in December as it's her 60th birthday. It's been planned for ages and will be great in one respect because she may well get to meet her first grandchild while she's over but I am quite scared that I will go into labour while she's here and everyone will know and expect to come to the hospital or round the house for hours on end. I had plans that if I did go into labour we wouldn't tell anyone until the baby is born so that we don't get loads of texts or calls or people wanting to come to the hospital. It'll also be a really social time which means lots of family drinks and meeting up and no doubt me being the taxi driver. Though my DH won't be able to drink either as it'll be the week of my due date so hopefully he will be sensible.

It's probably really silly of me to worry about all of this now but it's constantly at teh back of my mind.

Its' not silly to worry about it now - I started worrying about christmas shopping the day after BFP.

As for family wanting to visit the new baby explain to them that you don't want any visitors at the hospital as there won't be much space on the ward, but they are welcome to visit you at home (just not all at once). Also ask them to phone before they come to check you want to be alone aren't sleeping.

Also don't be afraid to tell any visitors that baby needs to sleep/feed/you're worn out and ask them to leave. They should understand, especially if they've got DC's.

Welcome walkthedog - sorry I missed you earlier

OWO and JodieO - thanks, DH and I decided not to have any tests this time around other than the dating and 20 wk scan so missing window for nuchal fold is ok. Although would be nice to get the scan earlier so I don't have to keep quiet at work - I am definitely going to be showing well before the 13 week mark!

DF - definitely not silly to worry about it! I had a bit of a nightmare with DH's family, especially his Mum after DD was born, and once I realised my EDD was just before Christmas this time I was thinking uh-oh as his entire extended family will be down, plus mine! You need to have a chat with your DH at an appropriate time so you can set some boundaries, especially as it might be hard if it's his family and he's not great at saying no to them. Everyone is different, but IME some visitors is nice, but it's horrible to be inundated or for people to stay for hours and hours.

If all else fails this time, I will be taking myself and new baby upstairs to feed/rest. I need to practise my assertiveness though!

This is really dumb and I'm sure the answer is no, but how early can you feel movement with second pregnancy? When I was lying down earlier I had some funny twitches which really felt like early movements, but surely far too early (I'm 8+3)? Probably wind!

Persnickety - I've got my booking appointment on the 19th at C&W! I'm in the Oak midwife team, which are you? Scan on the 15th June. I was really impressed with their efficiency too, now just got to make the next few weeks go really quickly, any ideas anyone?!

Welcome Walkthedog!

Feeling bad for you poorly ladies out there with migraines and puking - I'm feeling like I'm getting off rather lightly so far, only a small bit of nausea in the afternoons but none today. Maybe I'm just tempting fate, am 6+5 so maybe the worst is still to come!

I'm struggling to hide my poochy belly though, I'm convinced it's completely obvious. Bought a long shirt dress thing at H&M at the weekend, that can be my main going out outfit with some nice elastic leggings.

Big love everyone xx

I know what you mean Hopeful I haven't had many bad sympotms. Well, the nausia has gone, im just exhausted!!

Booking in on Saturday - I am 10 + 5 today and feel a little better - is any one here going to find out the sex?

I think DP and I are not going to however we will probably have to insist - as we will be having extra scans (genetic birth defect on my family side last year - mentioned it to MW and she properly freaked out)

Night all, Im off for a sleeep

DF I don't think you're alone in worrying about Christmas and in-laws. I'm not close to my family - both literally and figuratively but my in-laws are local. I've already told DH that I want it to just be him and I in the hospital - no visitors and Christmas is off this year. I think being 9 months pregnant should be the perfect excuse for crying off a few Christmas parties - just say it's doctor's orders if necessary .