December 2010 any one? Come keep me company

[OnlyWantsOne]

well... this is scary

OMG, I'm sorry, just ignore me TheChangeSpiral I am really dumb sometimes. Had a ridiculously crap day with DD which just culminated in me yelling at her because she wouldn't get in the bath I think I'm just stressing too much.

snozzcumber People who've had them say that homebirths are actually less painful. I know this sounds incredible but they say that you shouldn't underestimate the power of being relaxed in your own home. That said, you might find you would be much more relaxed in a hospital and what's right for one won't be right for another.

Also, the pain relief during hopsital births can actually slow the process down. I've also heard that the chances of 'intervention' to hurry things along is much greater in hospitals and many women find this distressing. Intervention is often not needed medically, only because there's a queue of women behind you also waiting to give birth and you've had your chance to do it naturally.

Having not given birth at all yet I can only go on what others have told me but the only horror stories I've heard have been from hospital births, although I'm sure there are plenty of home birth horrors. My friends who've had homebirths just rave about them and what fantasic experiences they were. I'd like to try to have one if I can.

Wholelottalove No worries at all my dear - I'm so sorry to hear you've had a rubbish day

Comtessa - I'm having a similar sex issue here with my DH. It is really too bad - but I keep thinking he will "come" around. hehe. No, really though, this is a problem for me and a sensitive subject for DH as he always wants to feel studly and like he is a serious maverick. So bringing it up is a feat in itself as he has a fragile ego. (Annoying!). Speaking of annoying - one minute I'm head over heels for DH, the next I do not even want to see his face!

This being my first pregnancy - I now am sure I'm having every symptom any pregnant person has ever listed. Highly emotional - crying at the drop of a hat and at silly things. My eating habits are completely bizarre. Today I am craving mexican food and PB&J's. Also, a few times I will order something and then when it is in front of me, it disgusts me and I cannot bring myself to eat it. :P

I'm also having nausea all day and am so tired I feel like lying in bed all day. Even opening the refrigerator makes me gag! I know this will not last, and that is my saving grace, but it is very different from my normal schedule. I'm also going to bed very early and unable to wait for dinnertime to eat.

Sorry for the complaining. I'm happy to be pregnant, but just thought I would vent a bit! Looking forward to the second trimester as they do say it gets easier.

I agree with what you say TheChangeSpiral.

I would love to have a home birth, but will try the birthing centre at St. Marys. That has me nervous though - I wish you luck on the home birth. Everyone I know who has had one, does seem to have a better and less stressful experience.

That being said I have no problem with anyone who chooses epidural and hospital birth ... I may end up there too!

Keeping options open.

ebrookm it does get a lot easier in the second trimester, honestly! Hormones not so crazy and generally sickness and exhaustion lift a bit. Plus you look pg but not absolutely huge an uncomfy.

I had a hospital birth first time and had pethidine which did nothing for me. Asked for epidural but didn't get one due to anaesthetist only getting to me when I was ready to push! I am thinking of home birth this time, wouldn't go for pethidine again and know I can do it without epidural. Also, I do think there's something in being more relaxed meaning you're not fighting against it and perhaps makes things easier. I think it's always wise to keep options open though as you never know and each labour is different.

A good book, although the stats are mainly from the US is Naomi Wolf's Misonceptions - it goes through all the risks around escalating interventions etc.

TheChangeSpiral - I am sorry again, I'm glad I didn't offend you, I feel like a right grumpy (and slightly paranoid) cow.

Urgh. I am another one who is really delighted to be pg but feeling a bit crap as reality hits. Had an upset stomach most of today too and DD suddenly seems to have morphed from a lovely little toddler to one who is constantly pushing at the boundaries - all very normal I know, but I'm still learning how to cope with it and being knackered is not helping! Ok, rant over

wholelottalove - will check out that book by Naomi Wolf. Thank you!

It's good to know we will start to feel better and I hope you're little daughter is an angel the rest of the evening.

Signing off - have a great night Mummy's.

Evening All

Dp has booked a private scan on Friday for us Im so excited as should be nearly 8 weeks then

How are you all feeling? Im washed out, DD and I just ate a whole tub of Rachels organics honey and yogurt - heaven

If I had a home birth I might be worrying that I didn't have any bourbons for the midwife !

Hi everyone, congratulations to all the newbies.

I'm feeling pretty crap all of the time. I've found that sugary foods & cheese seem to have the best effect on calming down the yukkiness. I kind of feel like I have no enthusisam for anything whatsoever, feel pretty useless, but dp keeps 'telling me off' when I say I feel like that telling me I'm far from it.

On the sex front, dp said he would feel a bit weird, but he seems to want it more than normal tbh. Maybe it's because my sex drive is normally waaaay higher than his, so now I'm not overly interested it seems that he wants it more. But when we have had sex it's been really 'close' like it was when we first got together, and doing things we've never done before too.

snozzcumber - I'm a firm believer in just playing it by ear. When pg with ds1 I planned a hospital birth with as much pain relief as possible. I wanted epidurals, the lot! then transferring downstairs to the mw unit afterwards. In actual fact the mws had to make me take the g&a because I didn't need it. Everyone else in my ante-natal group (we had a 'reunion' afterwards) planned natural birth with only g&a. They all had epidurals. ds2 was born in a mw unit, only had g&a, again upon mw insistence. I really wish I'd been brave enough to have him at home. This time I'm hoping for a home birth, but I'm sure sod's law will mean I'll have to go in for some reason, or it will be the most painful one of the 3!

OWO - Oooh how exciting re the scan!

I have my dr appointment tomorrow to let them know I'm pg. I can finally find out what happens next.

Sorry to anyone that I've missed.

Racey - Im planning on a home birth this time, DD was a quick 4 hour blissfull birth and Id much rather be at home with my family than in hospital and yes VERY exciting about scan

Hi, Can I join!
I'm so excited to be pg, had faint fr bfp yesterday and faint cb bfp today and no signs of AF due yesterday so I'm tentatively joining here! Mumsnet EDD calculator gives me due date of 26th Dec due to my 25 day cycles, but standard estimator would give me 29th Dec, so somewhere around then, but have put 26th as dd (aged 4.11) was 1 week early, and have since has treatment to my cervix which makes me more likely to be 2-3 weeks early, so fully expecting this little one to be early!
Haven't really had any symptoms yet other than a few funny twangs, but sure they will start soon!
Have updated the list.

nymum- age 36- baby no.4-edd 1 December
Mowzan - age 33 baby no1 - EDD 2nd December
OnlyWantsOne - age 22 - baby no2 - edd 2nd December
Comtessa - Age 29 - baby no.1 - EDD 2nd December
ebrookm - age 33 - baby no. 1 - edd 3rd December
Likethemapples - age 35 baby no1 - edd 5th December
Firsttimer2010 - age 30 baby no1 - edd 6th December
PJen - age 36 - baby no1 - edd 6th December
Heading4home - age 35 - baby no2 - edd 6th December
RaceyLacey - age 30 - baby no3 - edd 8th December
Moomaa - age 31 - baby no3 -edd 8th December
Mumnerves - age 33 baby - no. 1 - edd 7th December
nes100 - Age 33 - baby no.1 - EDD 9th December
SpanishLady - age 35 - baby no1 - edd 10th December
trytobebrave - baby no2 - edd 11th December
Littlesnoo - age 32 - baby no1 - edd 12th December
TheChangeSpiral - age 30 - baby no.1 - EDD 14th December
Mamaeff - age 35 - baby no.3 - EDD 14 December
TheBronzeHorseman - age 37 - baby no. 2 - edd 17th December
Wendyb65 - Age 45 - baby no. 1 - EDD 17th December
Miffster - age 39 - baby no.1 - ED 16th December
Wholelottalove - age 29 - baby no. 2 - EDD 18th December
crazykat - age 22 - baby no.3 - EDD 18th December
93PJB - age 34 - baby no.2 - EDD 18th December
notso - age 29 - baby no.3 - EDD 22nd December
washingonawednesday - age 29 -baby no.1 - EDD 25th December
Littleb - age 34 - baby no. 2 - EDD 26th Dec

Oh, I would like to announce to you all ladies

IM GETTTING CHICKENS!!!!!!!!!

Morning all

Hooray for chickens! (Although now you're an expert you're supposed to call them hens )

Feeling much less tired today and thought the morning sickness had subsided too. When I first woke up I might have made the mistake of thinking I was completely normal. Alas it was only waiting round the corner for me.

... just wanted to try it out

mmm Hens indeed (however when I last bought "chickens" they all turned out to be cockerels)

Ive found eating foods that once before never ever seemed appealing to me, muller fruit yogs for example.

However, had no MS with my DD, and not really suffering yet either.

Really excited about my scan on Friday to you too Spiral

I told my boss yesterday, which is just as well as I'm totally wretched today and have had to take the morning off. The combination of a heavy cold and morning sickness is really kicking my ass! Like everyone else I'm so grateful and happy to be pregnant but I'm normally happy and healthy and feeling constantly ill is really denting my spirit.

OWO - I've been wolfing down hummus, which I normally can't stand and I've been craving marmite, which (contrary to the advertising campaign) I can normally take or leave.

Hello,
Can I join in? I am scoffing ginger oatcakes and jaffa cakes at the moment to stop the sicky urges. I think I'm due Dec 14thish. On the chicken front, My 3 hens have all stopped laying eggs is that in sympathy I wonder....
I am getting tired all day from about now, I have to do a days worth of things in about 4 hours!

Hey TomsMumLP, Ginger outcakes sound good - what brand are they and where do you get them? - I'm eating a cheese an onion sandwich at the mo!

Im eating everything

so far today Ive eaten 2 muller yongurts
half tup rachels honey and greek yoghurt
a banana
5 jaffa cakes

2 cups of t... and now its time for sandwiches

Congrats TomsMum.

Today I have been mostly eating sausage rolls & fruit pastilles. My sandwich made me feel sick, I managed to force down 1 bite before it found its way to the bin.

I've seen the dr today, she was horrible, I've only ever seen nice dr's at this surgery si I'll be making sure I don't see her again. On the plus side I've spoken to my mw who will be making an appt to see me around 10wks.

Afternoon!
Am feeling much less tired today, and got over disappointment at not flying to Tunisia this week for hol, but worryingly, yesterday evening had very light, light brown discharge. A bit like the very last hour of the very last day of a very light period, not enough to warrant using a towel or pantliner. Sorry if TMI. Read every thread on mumsnet on the subject and was reassurred but still crossing fingers all well. Anyone else had that? Am wondering if should call GP anyway, as would love an early scan at E{U for reassurance...

Woke up with sore boobs and was pleased about that! Lots of energy today and have been throwing out about 200 old paperback books to charity shop. Still not been feeling nauseous. Just not that interested in food either. When I eat, I eat lots but not hungry until I do. Eating high protein and lots of veg though, which fills me up for ages.
Sorry epic long post.

Miffster I've had spotting on and off for the past week - some red, some brown. I was really worried but have been reassured by experienced friends that this is perfectly normal. The doctor did recommend resting as much as possible though in case it's a sign I'm not taking it easy enough. I couldn't agree more (as I write this from bed at 2.30 in the afternoon )

Hey Miffster,

I had some very, very light brownish spotting in week 4/5. In fact it was so light I only really noticed it after sex - more TMI I'm afriad!. I read that you only need to worry if you see fresh, red blood. If you're worried though there's no harm in getting in touch with your GP, all they can do is reassure you.

RaceyLacey, when I told my GP I was pregnant he looked me dead in the eye and said "...and how do you feel about that?" I guess he was tryig to be sensitive to every eventuality but I must say it just felt a bit like someone pouring cold water over me!

miffster I'd echo what others have said and try not to worry (although easier said than done).

Congratulations and welcome to new people joining

Well, I've been eating dried toast only as have a horrible upset stomach which was awful last night and most of this morning. Seems to be easing a bit now but I may have tomorrow off work to rest - I'll see how I feel later. Had to cancel my booking appointment with midwife this evening, but it did feel a bit odd going in there at only 5 weeks.

Wish I could hit fast forward to about week 14 or so...

littleSnoo and RaceyLacey my GP experiences was also a ridiculous story... ha ha. When I found out I am pregnant I called the GP and the girl said "come in today"! So I packed my back at work, drove 1 hour home and made DH to leave work and come too. They called us in and nurse saw us first. She took a look at me and said in thick Chinese accent "why are you here taking pregnant women's place?" I got so annoyed that I said "First I AM pregnant! Second your admin girl told me to come!" Then she asked me if I have my book from hospital! I confused asked what book? She got more furious saying "you haven't been to hospital before coming here?" both me and dh staring at her and saying "which hospital? Don?t we need a referral?" And she said okay I refer you to St Mary?s! I said wait a minute, don?t I have a choice?? I don?t want to go to St mary?s! She got super annoyed and said go out of the room and wait out there Dr should see you NOT me! We got out and amazed why we are so blamed to go in to a room when we were called. Then GP saw us, who was a mute thing. She didn?t ask anything but ?which hospital do you want to go to?? We asked what are the differences and she said they are all the same. So we decided on one just because and without any lack of knowledge provided from her side! We went in enthusiastic and happy and came out of her room feeling stupid and ran over! I am not originally from UK and find the health system in London really not matching my expectation from home.