Due in December 05 - thread 6

[ninah]

HELLO!

evening all, would have posted earlier but have been catching up on the thread!!

Took all the kids to an adventure play land thing today so managed to just sit and supervise!! Although did send one off to hospital with her parents cos she hurt her knee!! Nothing serious just bruised ligament!! Poor thing!! Still 1 less for me!

Sweetheart: congrats on the scan babe, according to the chinese thing my ds should have been a dd and this time it says dd again so reckon its a ds!!
Unfortunatley i really CANT afford not to work at the moment, obviously im doing everything i can to rest including not picking up the babies and spending most of my time on the floor! DH has taken over housework so i do nothing when the mindees have left. I wouldnt want to do anything to endanger my baby but according to the consultant even walking could cause a bleed!! If anything else happens obviously i will have to quit but being self employed means no work: no money and also means letting alot of people down. Most of the parents are great tho and understand my situation and i have childminder friends who accompany me places to help!
Am going to a country park with them tomorrow so can sit under a tree all day!!

Still sick, am really getting fed up with it now! Am gonna talk to doctor on Friday about some anti sickness pills.

nobody has posted yet this morning...wow. Hope everyone is ok and havent got the miserable weather we have up here. Dh has taken DS out swimming so house is eerily quite...

Morning all,

After much thinking last night and many tears I have decided to leave Mumsnet for a while. That Chinese Calender has really thrown me and I can't get it out of my head, stupid I know! I couldn't even bring myself to talk to my dp last night so I just lay on our bed all evening crying - Having my little girl just means wat to much to me and I just can't see myself with a boy and have got it in my head that I am 100% sure its a boy.

Theres so much other stuff going on with redundancies etc.. that I think things are just getting ontop of me - I need a good break but can't as I have to carry all my holiday over to my maternity leave coz we can't afford that either

Anyway, the last thing I want to do is put a dampner on this site or upset anyone at a time that should be exciting. We all know that we are all extra over emotional at the moment so I am going to take a back seat.

Good Luck to all who have scans coming up and Bonkerz make sure you take it easy!!!!

p.s if anyone wishes to proove the calender wrong feel free to post it, I'll keep my eye on this thread from time to time.

kangel hun dont be silly about bringing a downer and the chinese calender is not accurate otherwise what is the point in the scans telling us the sex. hold on will find u a reallllly stupid sex predicitor i did the other day brb

changes everytime

oh kangel
Don't go! the caledar is a joke thing, look how it was wrong for bonkerz
please don't take it seriously!

Nemo - I got a boy again. 2 girls are also pg in my office and they keep sending predictor stuff and comparing what we all got - I just can't deal with them today and have already been in tears once, I just want them to leave me alone! They keep going on and on about the heartbeat sounding like a horse or a train - one is a boy and the other is a girl. I think the horse is a girl but wasn't really listening.

I really feel like i'm cracking up and feel like locking myself away in a room on my own. Please tell me i'm not the only one.

I just can't seem to cope with my feelings at the moment and am beginning to wish I'd never got pg, I feel scared and generally an emotional wreck.

Sorry girls.

kangel - please don't feel you have to leave, the calender things are just a stupid game. I just clicked on Nemo's twice and got told girl the first time and boy the second.

I think you are right that you need a break. Can you throw a sickie at work - this weather is ideal for migranes in pregnancy!!! I think I'm right in saying you shouldn't loose any money if you take 3 days off. Could you give yourself a long weekend?!?!?!?!?

You have to prepare yourself for the fact you might not get a girl, if you do then thats great but if you don't apparently little boys tend to be much more loving to their mothers than girls!!!!

btw,

the heartbeat spped/sound gives no indication of the sex - no midwife worth their salt would predict the sex on that basis.

Could you have a quiet word with the girls in you office and ask them not to send you stuff??????

I know if its a boy that once its in my arms the feelings will come flooding but I just can't get these feelings out of my head now and they are driving me (and my dp - who isn't talking to me at the moment after last night!) mad!

This is why i'm not going to find out the sex just in case! Someone needs to slap me and shake me out of this! (Talking of shakes, I really fancy a strawberry milkshake but we're not allowed them coz of the bacteria in the machines).

I'm sitting at my desk and just keep welling up all the time!

Regarding the other 2 girls in here - they need to be gagged and I could quite easily do that with my fists!!

I've got so much to do at work you can't see my desk and everyone is on at me from all directions so I can't really take time off as it all just gets left and it just makes things worse for me when I get back.

God listen to me - so positive today....NOT!!!

kangel - take your lunch hour, go to the nearse McDonalds and get yourself that strawberry milkshake. Find a quiet park bench and just chill out for an hour!!!!

I think McDonalds is OK because they have to clean the machines daily and as the milkshake is kept at such a low temperature the bacteria can't live. Well, I had a McFlurry the other day and it's the same stuff isn't it - I'm alright!!!!

If not surly the milkshake in a sealed bottle is OK!?!?!?!?!?!

Perhaps if you feel l ike this it might be best to find out the sex of the baby, that way it will give you time to bond if it's a boy. My SIL had this problem last year. She really really wanted a boy and was told she was having a girl. She cried for days but at least she had come to terms with it by the time the baby arrived!!!!

There is a Wimpy down the road so I think i'll get one at lunch. Bottle ones just aren't the same.

Will have a think about finding out - although am 99% sure that I don't want to know. My scan is on the 9th so I have a while to decide.

I just want to be happy!

aw hun the predictor i sent was stupid how can the amount of rings u wear and the weather today affect the sex of ur baby/weight and labour length?????????? I think SH may be right about finding out the sex hun as u can then bond a bit better rather than being in shock when baby comes.
Deffo go for the milkshake ive been having mcdonalds ones

hello again kangel
Had to nip off to flower arrange this morning
I agree with sh, I think it would be good to find out at the scan and get it over with. I did that with ds and it was by no means too soon as he had already aquired some pink clothes and a dress with strawberries on. It may help you get your head round things. I promise you boys are lovely too! really! baby will be a mix of you and dp after all.
Please don't let all the games etc worry you and as for the silly girls at work, we all have these colleagues, they drive you mad when you are having a low day but really they are nothing to do with you, they are completely incidental to your life - ignore them!
Last but not least, please stay and chat from time to time, doesn't mattter if you are up or down, we want to hear what is going on with you (esp TP Tuesdays! )

Thanks everyone, I have been to the wimpy and got a strawberry milkshake and accidentally walked out with a hamburger & chips too!! Who cares, I feel better for eating it and am off shopping tonight and the mood i'm I dred to think what I will spend!!

I feel like my head is going to explode!

now you're making me hungry kangel!
look on the bright side you have a yummy lunch a great shop to look forward to and you are having a Baby! I am off this afternoon cos it's graduation day here will be busy eating drinking and chatting (so no change there)
Hope you feel a bit more cheerful once you've hit the shops ... I'll look out for you tomorrow

Thanks Ninah - have a nice afternoon.

Just got back from my trip "up north".
Kangel, I'm so sorry you are feeling so down. Please don't leave us.
I think SH is right, you need to take a couple of days off sick. You sound like you are getting wound up over everything and that's no good for you at the moment. Worry about the work when you get back.
Take a day trip to the sea-side, go paddling, build a sandcastle, eat an ice-cream and watch all the lovely squashy babies eating sand. I guarantee it will do you the world of good.
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Ninah / SH - so a boy for me eh?? Chinese predictor gives a girl so still non the wiser

I betting on a jelly baby - just eaten a whole bag whilst driving home!

Shopping trip cancelled - back home for another evening of tears.

ohhh kangel!!!

Can't you take yourself off to the pub - or the cinema????

Kangel, can you do some internet shopping instead? Then you get the excitement when it arrives as well as the joy of getting out your credit card.

Kangel, I was the same as you when i first got pregnant. I desparately wanted a girl as i had 4 nephews! Found out at 23 weeks that i was expecting a boy and it really helped me to bond with him. I gave him his name and spent untold amounts on BOY things for his room. My ds is loving and caring and a mummies boy! I really want another boy this time!!! People cant believe that i would rather have a boy but i love the closeness you feel with a boy and not sure if im ready to have a daddies girl just yet!! Hope you feel abit more positive in the morning after a good nights sleep (or does that exist in the 2nd trimester?)

hi all, recovering from tummy bug and did TP weds instead of tues but same measurements. See you all tomorrow.

morning ladies. starry hope all is well asap, and you feel better?
kangel, dont go, theres no point in leaving mumsnet and being sad, think of us as your support network girls or boys we are all so very fortunate to get this far arent we, and like everyone I promise it will work out okay whoever is in that tummy. just focus on 'new baby' arriving at christmas, rather than a particular sex. hang in there.
george - LO, at jelly baby, I have a jelly belly so is that a jelly baby for me too then? hoep youre not too busy at work, how long til mat leave now?
anyone know if next are putting any maternity things in their sale this weekend? not sure i can be bothered to be shoved and pushed if i get there and its all NONmaternity stuff!
have on rather nice skirt from next as we 'speak'. its cotton with blue white huge flowers on and a great blue stretchy roll over top bit, feel attractive and summery for the first time in ages.......
bonkerz hows the summer hols going? my last one breaks up today so houseful here!! its quite nice tho. we have new juicer and they have been experimenting looking forward to trips to beach and forest too.