Due March 2010 - "Hello Baby... Goodbye Pelvic Floor"

[Arcadie]

Welcome to the March Preggos. Here's hoping we see nearly 1000 posts before anyone pops!

Thank you Pacific I think Joe is a great name. (Not least because it was chosen by Luka Kovac for his son on ER... swoon... dribble) Does Joe work in German?

Well, they got used to Sam which caused major and ...

That's what I mean by not wanting to discuss it beforehand - oh, and apologies to anybody going for Edmund: 'tis a fine name, just a bit too grand for my offspring .

They are currently comparing winkies - at what point exactly should I intervene??
I am currently making donuts hoping that will be sufficient distraction...

Here goes!

So a quick:

very happy for you and DD1, pixie - Darcey Bussell in the making?

IWCAS bow-chicca-wowow! How ever it progresses, glad you're getting yours, lady!

arcadie I LOVE Gideon! I really like Gabriel, too, but DP put the kibosh on that as he didn't want his son to be known by the shortened version of Gay... . My cousin has an Immy. All I can say is, I love both the names you already have and if you have something in mind that 'follows suit' then good for you. You shouldn't worry so much about what others think, but to contradict myself, I think they're great names!

Oh, and reallllly like Joe, too pacific. Of course, that one of my very good friends is a Joseph (but always called Joe) is neither here nor there!

Ok, brain not remembering anything else I meant to say, because I'm too caught up in wanting to vent here (again)...

So, appointment with the Dr today for my 36 week antenatal. BP 110/79 which whilst not high in and of itself was 96/50 two weeks ao (and similarly low since 20+ weeks). +1 protein in urine. Plus I have sausage fingers (along with a constant ache in them all, complete numbness at nightwhen I wake constantly) and feet/ankles are swelling (never had any of this before... )

Dr took my BP again after I'd given her my sample and it was 125/83! Concerned about the upward trend she contacted the OB at the hospital who has advised I get checked again next week rather than waiting until my 38 weeks appointment.

I'm trying not to worry that I'm developing pre eclampsia, but I'm worrying that I'm developing pre eclampsia. And the thing is, I already don't work, have minimal stress, and pretty much lounge around on my arse rest up so it's not like I can make any adjustments to my lifestyle to help avoid it worsening.

On the bright side, I took part in a new product trial for Dove recently and ot an email today saying I'd been shortlisted to take part in a photoshoot, the resuls of which will appear on the website. As they've not even seenwhat I look like, I have replied that whilst I'm happy to take part I will be 37 weeks pregnant at the time (well, if I haven't needed to be induced... ) As I have no stretchmarks I think it could be a different/positive angle for thier campaign but I will apparently hear by the end of tomorrow if they want me to attend so I'll wait and see. At least it's a 'positive' distraction from my not-so-good news earlier.

Oh, and I'm supposed to go to book club tonight but giving it a miss. Don't feel great and besides have only read half the book.

Afternoon ladies

Well all this talk of losing bits of plugs and baby names is great . I'm 37 weeks today, so full term though I doubt baby's going to be here any time soon...

And that headmistress is crazy, and is setting a totally unhealthy "example". Shudder to think how that baby will feel when she's older and knows she spent her first day in the world at school

Pixie well done to your DD1! She must be delighted (and you must be so proud).

P&P how rubbish about the midwife - I'd echo the suggestions of trying the midwife supervisor/head of midwifery. Tis too close to be feeling anxious about how they'll handle your SPD (which, after all, is the very reason you're going early - which is why I'm at your description of them last time laughing at you!).

Pacific I love the name Joe. My nephew is a Joseph but has been called Joe since birth and I just love it. I also have a nephew named Tom. Just Tom, not Thomas, and i also love that.

Arcadie I also love the names of your DC and I'd say go with your choice. Sometimes the baby names section can be a bit but it's just people's opinions, so bound to get a bit heated at times.

Manda really hope your BP is just a blip [fingers crossed]. And also fingers crossed about the dove shoot - I'd personally love to see a pregnant woman advertising dove!

Sarah your poor DD and her mystery sponge! Sounds like you got good treatment at A&E though (the certificate had me going "aaaah" ).

Mummyelk hope your last day goes well - and that you enjoy tomorrow as first day of maternity leave

Anna I'm with you on preferring non-hormonal contraception - the pill kills my sex drive and I hate it!

Rebecca how cool about the water pool - we're picking ours up on Sat in South London - it's this one. Really hope the GTT comes back ok and doesn't throw off the home birth plans. I'm getting pretty excited about the home birth now, although the cleaning frenzy has started (am even hiring a carpet cleaner and making my DH clean the carpets before we set up the pool!).

So am officially loving maternity leave. Just had lunch with the ante natal crowd, and we had a surprise visit from the one who had the first baby (an adorable 3 week old boy). So great company and the chance to remind myself what it's all about!

I spent the morning washing baby clothes and blankets and want to pack my labour bag (or at least get all the random bits and bobs I've assembled for it in one approximate place) this evening. So feeling quite organised, and am just so glad to be able to focus on the impending arrival rather than pretending to care about my job

Big waves to all.
xx

Hi all

pacific Joe is a fab name!! WE would have used it too but my DH has a cousin and uncle with the name and life would just be too confusing !!!

manda - completely know how you feel. Had a very similar experience at the hospital today. I was there to speak with the consultant re water birth * which has been agreed - yay!!** but had my BP taken. Having been 100/65 at booking and generally about 100/60 ish throughout- mine was 140/80 today and I had protein in my urine. My fingers are swollen and very sore as if the skin is stretched to it's limit!! ( not that they look that swollen to an outsider just fat for me as normally skinny fingered!) I also had my midwife appointment cancelled as they felt it unecessary as seeing the consultant today so next appointment is also in 2 weeks time at 38 weeks. I also don't know if I should be worried. Consultant said 'just keep an eye on it' Like how exactly- I don't walk around with a BP monitor!!!

pacific any advice for us BP people??

xx

Hi everyone

Have been meaning to post for ages (I think the last time I did was twenty weeks!), have been trying to read the threads as they progress but they move so quickly, I often don't get a chance to do more than skim and by the time I have a chance to post, there are another 5 pages to read!

Can't believe how close we all are now, especially those of you talking of being engaged and shows etc. rebeccacad ... fully engaged ! My baby's not engaged at all yet at 35 weeks, was still moving a lot until recently, did a full 180 into breech position at my 34 week appointment but was head down again at the scan two days later (I think the midwife was a bit rough with the doppler and baby did a flip to try to avoid it!)

On the names debate, I agree with everyone else, everyone has an opinion, I say just pick something you like and ignore them all! (easier said than done i know). For what it's worth, I love the name Joe, I think it's very masculine, most Josephs I know call themselves Joe.

I hope those with BP and glucose issues are okay and that it isn't a sign of anything nasty and that it resolves itself.

I'm generally doing okay, apart from the annoying return of nausea in the past week. I told my midwife but she didn't have much to say, seemed happy that I was still able to eat and not throwing up. Is anyone else getting this?

Am considering a water birth, my NCT class and midwives at my hospital are all very pro water birthing so that's encouraging. Am a bit worried about how it is all monitored however, being my first, I sort of want to be told when to push and when not to push and I'm guessing they can't do that if it's all underwater?

Now who mentioned donuts?

hi everyone,

aaaaggghh can't keep up with you

pixie - huge congrats to your DD

manda - fingers crossed your BP comes down, but how exciting re the Dove campaign

pacific - love the name Sam (and Joe)- I want to call this one Sam but DH thinks it's too 'normal' which I can see as our DC both have relatively unusual names

arcadie - agree not to be swayed by others' opinions on your names but it is SOOO difficult not to be. I asked what people thought of Malachy on there and everyone was really positive which made me love it - it is only in the last few weeks that I have admitted to myself that maybe I don't actually like it that much

rebecca - wow at fully engaged - hope you've got your bags packed!

Had a lovely morning with DS (2) today while DD was at pre-school. He said I love you for the first time (wuv yoo mummy) and I burst into tears because I know in a week or two he won't be my little baby anymore. I found that SUCH a difficult adjustment to make with DD when DS came along and I know I will again, especially as my little baby will now be my neglected middle child . Any tips on avoiding middle child syndrome from all you mothers of 3+ gratefully accepted!

Wow, we're all nearly there! Not long now till we all get calls every 5 minutes saying 'have you had the baby yet?'

Just over a week to go before my c-section

So excited but scary.

Manda hope you get selected for the Dove photo shoot, I love their real women campaign

caitni your mat leave sounds lovely x

right I don't want to step on any toes but as due dates are rapidly approaching, new faces are appearing, lurkers are resurfacing and I am just generally confused and a little bit bored tonight I scrolled through the last thread and found siamese's superlist. I realise there will need to be various amendments done but here goes:

Becky7000 15 February #4 Boy
Mumsbot 18 February DS2 c-section booked
DrSkid 22nd February #3 Boy
Smac 25 February #2 Surprise
pureeandpearls 26 February #2 Girl induction 12 February
mawbroon 27th February #2 Boy
Donttrythisathome 1 March #1 Girl
Potpourri 1 March #4
onlyanauntie 1 March #1
369thegoosedrankwine 1 March #2
MissieMoosMummy 1 March #2
Tigresswoods 2 March #1 Boy
cyphercat 2 March #2
Caitni 2 March #1 Surprise
Horsiemummy 2 March #2
Oscarsmumm 2 March #2
Pipsonhisway 2 March #1
angfirsttimer 2 March #1 Boy
Scarysarah&co 3 March #3 Boy
BlueyDragon 3 March #2 Boy
TakeLovingChances 5 March #1 Surprise
hecklephone 5 March #2 Girl
BusyMissIzzy 5 March #1
EmLouT 5 March boy #?
BYM 5 March #2
Dalrymps 6 March #2 Boy
Scooby26 6 March #1 Boy
Iwonka 6 March #1 Girl
Evitas 6 March #1 Boy
Twofalls 7 March #2 Girl
Carrie2010 7 March #1
MandaHugNKiss 7 March #3 Boy
Lauralai 7 March #?
AHedgehogisDueinMarch 7 March #2 Surprise
itwascertainlyasurprise 8 March #1 Boy
Ilovegreenbeans 9 March #2 Surprise
Sariska 9 March #2 Girl
rebeccacad 9 March #1 Girl
therubyslippers 9 March #1
JasHook 10 March #1 Boy
Summer2010 10 March #1 Boy
mumofsevenplusfour 10 or 13 March #8
Anya4 11 March #4
wilkos 11 March #2
Lemonadegirl 11 March #2 girl
PacificDogwood 11 March #4 Boy
BulletProofMum 11 March #3 Surprise
Siamesecatwoman 11 March #1 Girl
Minicooper 11 March #2 Surprise
Josie22 12 March #1
Swingsofglory 12 March #2 Girl
Vixie123 13 March #1
Walnut8 13 March #1 Girl
slackrunner 14 March #2
Poppyjen 15 March #1
Annamama 15 March #2 Girl
Retromum 15 March #2
OhWow 15 March #2 Boy
Shroomer 15 March #1
Childofthe80s 16 March #1
SaraWoo 16 March #1 Boy
Scootergrrrl 17 March #3 Surprise
Mumof2point5 17 March #2 Girl
SleepWhenImDead 18 March #2
PixieOnaLeaf 18 March #4 Girls
Kay1980 18 March #2 Girl
MummyElk 18 March #2 Surprise
designerbaby 19 March #2 Girl
PennyScotia 20 March #? Surprise
Luckysalem 22 March #2
Veryworriedme 22 March #1
Betterbitofbutter 23 March #2
Mummyscrummy 23 March #2
Dana4nyc 23 March #? Girl
Easydoesit 24 march #2
Rindercella 24 March #2 Girl
Arcadie 26 March #3 Surprise
Afribaby 26 March #1
Gangle 26 March #2 Boy
Leolo 28 March #2
Fleximum 2 April #3

as a complete aside no word from EmLouT really hope all is okay.

OK, so how many of us are watching / trying not to watch C4 right now?

Smac - yay on the list. Should help us place our bets on who will pop when!

DrS - I know mine will only be my second child so I don't have middle child syndrome to worry about but I am already in mourning for my current baby, if that doesn't sound too silly. He seems so little to be "usurped" and so cute, especially when he keeps saying, "Cuddle, Mummy".

Hmm, ad for tena pants in middle of childbirth programme. Typical.

Really should be working but really can't be arsed. It's looking increasingly like a big redundancy exercise is on the cards. 'tis rubbish indeed.

Well done Pixie and Smac!!

Egads, I'm watching One Born Every Minute and am having trouble controlling my anger toward Steve...

pixie
and in my excitement about list reviving I completely forgot to say wow at manda being a potential Dove mod-elle
How exciting!
I'm sure I've missed lots of other things I meant to say as well but hey ho pregnancy brain is holding me back.
I had really bad back ache this afternoon and really thought that things might be happening but now I just think I was foolish for trying to look smart and wear heeled boots and should have just stuck to my normal flat comfy ones. I went to a WIRE (Women in Rural Enterprise) Networking thing for our new nappy business. I am a slummy mummy who stays at home and diddles around on her computer making a bit of money with her fingers in a few pies. I don't really do networking, I go to mother and toddler groups! I certainly don't do smart maternity wear! I made a real effort today to look semi-respectable, got Grandad down to mind DD, drove 20 miles to this bloody meeting and it was cancelled . I decided that I might as well go round the shops seeing I had some free time but I was a cripple. I was in a retail park and moved the car about 5 times to save walking too far. How tragic is that! I really hope this baby comes soon.

I'm not watching any birth related programmes. If I need another cs then I don't want it fresh in my mind from seeing it on the telly. I definitely don't want to see any of those big scissors they use for episiotomies - I had nightmares after watching the Dawn Porter thing when pg with DD!
pixie what about a shout out in pregnancy ?
Glad you did the cut not me

Ah, 1 born every minute was cathartic !
I was fine until seeing Lisa's baby in NICU - too close to home... Hope he will be fine. And Steve made my DH seem like the Prince of all Princes !!

Wow at Superlists, well done, you organised women!

I cannot believe we are likely to have our first threadbaby really really soon!

well done pixie and smac! My DD is now 20th Feb but will stick with 22nd as still in denail that i'm having a baby so the later the better!

sariska - I just watched that programme and could not BELIEVE that horrible husband - laughing at her, telling her she was moaning and not even holding her bloody hand . Also cried at the mum who had to have the c-section, oh and at the clip at the end of the waterbirth, well blubbed pretty much all the way through tbh

sariska (again) I also mourned the displacement of my DC1 when pg with DC2 - it is really sad for them and you BUT 2 years on (and a lot of jealousy later!) my DD and DS really do adore each other and I know they have benefitted hugely from having one another - it just (sometimes) takes a bit of time

Hello... im still here - just getting a bit overfaced with keeping up with you guys! My CTS only gets worse, and so i find it quite tough to type with splints on!
Also, my feet have expanded to now mammouth proportions and I can only wear flip flops!!! brr...

however, Ill give this a go -
IWCAS , like Arcadie I also am wishing for a happy ending / beginning

Arcadie love the wedding pics, and the other pg bridesmaid! Nice fertility vibes ofr your sister

Manda I hope they want you for the Dove ad, I would proudly point you out to my friends..

Pixie wow - clever daughter! Is the school very far away? I always wanted to board, Mallory towers style.. bet she'll love it.. obs shes a lot older but I think theres a doc about boarding 8 year olds on this week..

Rebecca any news on DH's job?

gobsmacked that we'll be having the first babies next week.. just watched 'one born every minute' and DH didnt faint, so that was a bonus.

I spent thursday/ friday on London as DH finished his contract and I went to meet his work friends before he left. Stated in a lovely posh hotel and intended to get a Clarins massage at Selfridges and shop for small clothes, but it became very obvious very quickly that 35+ is no state to wander round London, and I had to go back to the hotel and sleep until it was time to out on the lovely green dress and go and see Marcus Brigstocks new stand up, very funny. Then we went to see my parents in Norfolk for the last time childless - scary - and see my gran, who will be a great gran - she seemed excited in an understated way..

So, Im 2/5 engaged, very uncomfotable and swollen. But have done hospital tour, which was lovely - Calderdale Royal - very new. And DH is finally home and ready to do the nursery..

Waves to everyone else, and bows to mumof seven and Ill try to keep up a bit better

Pixie and Smac God bless you both for such PRETTY lists... (Although numbering people will make me cry when the numbers get out of order)

So looking forward to watching 1born every minute - really hoping it's on channel4 on demand as I was out watching "It's complicated" at the cinema. Not the greatest film ever made but a good chacne to see a friend anyway.

EmlouT Post soon my lovely - we're worried.....

It's back a bit but I can't get over that headmistress. Very helpful example I don't think. Great for her if she feels she can do it; not so good for those of us who can't/won't/don't. Also she says she's showing the girls at her school that they can have it all; contrast the headmistress (no children) who was saying that girls should be taught that they can't have it all. Don't know about anyone else but as a teenager I wouldn't have listened to either because the whole idea of family was miles away in the future after achieving marvellous career then marrying super marvellous man. Consequently any focus in that direction was on avoiding children .

Pixie, well done to your DD, that's fab! And thanks for the lists, Pixie and Smac - now we just have to work out a way to keep Arcadie sane when the babes mess it all up.

Thank you so much for posting the lists. It crossed my mind today to ask if there was a latest list as I was struggling to remember who was due when. I remembered there was a bit of debate a thread or two ago about the value of them...perhaps it doesn't need posting every couple of days, but it is very useful imo.

I just cannot believe how quickly this thread moves on though...I only posted a few hours ago & there's been loads more updates since!

I have Sky+ 1 Born Every Minute and will watch in the next couple of days. Pleased I missed it earlier actually and Sky+ instead - this way I can fast forward through any bits that make me go

I took DD out for afternoon tea & cake at a local garden centre this afternoon and ended up having a right rant at the staff there! I ordered a pot of tea, slice of cake, drink for DD + a fairy cake for her and was told it was over £11! Then there were no teaspoons, and when I asked for one, I was pointed to a plastic stirrer. My response? "I have just paid £11 for tea & cake...I will have a proper spoon please". Then not one person offered to help me - I am (very obviously) very heavily pregnant, was pushing a buggy, trying to keep control of a wayward toddler and carrying a tray with a pot of tea and not one bugger member of staff offered to help, even though several did look at me Then I sat down, looked at the receipt and found I had been charged for several items I had not ordered So I asked for a refund. 20 mins later, was still waiting. So asked to see the manager. Who initially offered my DD a packet of crisps by way of compensation Eventually she agreed to give me a full refund. When she gave it to me she also gave me half a dozen beautifully decorated fairy cakes...which I can take to my friend's tomorrow to scoff after lunch. Result

That's a really long paragraph isn't it?

Actually, I should use these pregnancy hormones (which are obviously making me very assertive) more often. I sent an email to John Lewis today complaining that the very expensive goose down pillows I'd bought about 12-18 months ago were rubbish & shedding feathers everywhere. I had no receipt, proof of purchase or anything. By the time I'd got home from our trip out, I'd received an email saying they'd put a replacement pair in the post to me. Another result

Time for my nightly glass of milk to try & stave off my heartburn and then bed