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**August 2010** Tired days and Sicky nights, fear not ladies the end is in sight.

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KayloHalo · 04/01/2010 16:46

shiny new thread for us to vandalise

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cakeywakey · 20/01/2010 10:29

I know what ou mean about vivid dreams Vix. Last night I dreamt that a hideous red and yellow snake had bitten my neck - leaving a fang in it - and I had to wrestle it to the floor and stand on it until DH could come and help me. It was horrible!

KayloHalo · 20/01/2010 10:35

Vix what an odd dream!!! I keep dreaming that I'm going on holiday to a sandals resort with my mum and dad. Be slightly difficult that one as my dad passed away 2 years ago!!

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aendr · 20/01/2010 11:37

Well, my dreams about twins seemed to have stopped... I had one about giving birth to an Andrex puppy instead!

Aussieng · 20/01/2010 11:38

Hi all - Not around too much over the last couple of days since ms is back with a vengeance (now 14 weeks so not at all impressed). I'm puking for England and virtually building up abs in my stomach with all the retching. Worryingly I'm starting to struggle just keeping down liquids so if I drop any more weight I'm going to go see my Dr. Very sorry for those of you going through similar.

Just wanted to say especially sorry though to Alys and Smiley. Take good care of yourselves and please do come back and let us know how you are etc.

Fingers crossed for all of you with appointments and scans etc over the next few days and weeks. We'll soon all be out of the danger zone.

BunnyBaby · 20/01/2010 11:51

Unfortunately we had our scan this morning. Although we have a perfect 11+2 baby, there was no heartbeat. We have some beautiful pictures of him/her. A little angel that shone too bright for this world.

Perhaps someone can update the thread and take all us recent departures off.

I'll be back on an antenatal thread very soon. But right now grieving and missing this beautiful child.

vix206 · 20/01/2010 11:57

Oh no BunnyBaby I am so sorry Please take care of yourselves xxx

vix206 · 20/01/2010 12:01

I've had a go at updating the list but please feel free to amend if I have done anything wrong

Jul/Aug cazzybabs #4
20 July Aussie #1 Nottinghamshire Age 35
22 July- 4 Aug) Chulita #2: Dorset
23 July BigMomma3 #4: Essex
27 July Vinocollapso #1:
30 July (1 Aug) Nikalah #1: Dorset
1 Aug KayloHalo #3: West Yorkshire Age 24
2 Aug Dibbydab #1: Devon Age 34
2 Aug Bouncingblueberries #2: South London Age 33
2 Aug JamieJay #1:
2 Aug Missus84 #1: Bristol
4 Aug Kinnies #3; Cornwall Age 26
4 Aug Shmoo #1:
6 Aug driedapricots #2 Surrey Kingston hospital age 34
7 Aug Rubena #2
8 Aug Bewler #1 South London
8 Aug ElusiveMoose #2 Kent
8 Aug HerbalHolly #1
8 Aug Girlsyearapart #3 surrey. Kingston hospital. age 31 (30 now though!)
9 Aug PopAwheelie #1 EAST LONDON
9 Aug NichyNoo #1
9 Aug possiblenewmum #1 - Guildford
10 Aug SayAnything #1
10 Aug Mummy369 #4
10 Aug Flexab23 *1 South London, King's
11 Aug Allstarsprincess # 2 South London
11 Aug acatcalledfidget #1
12 Aug Floweryboots #1 NorthLondon(NorthFinchley)
12 Aug Crazycatlady #2
13 Aug luth #1
14 Aug bigmuther65 #3
15 Aug Plant #2 KENT
15 Aug Soontobefat #1 South London Kings
16 Aug Neenz #3 North Liverpool
16 Aug Tah2 #3 S.Wales
16 Aug Alice #2 West Suffolk, Addenbrookes, age 25
17 Aug Doodleydoo #2
18 Aug irishmumwannabe #?
18 Aug Ladyjadey #2 West Yorks
19 Aug Liahgen #6 kent
20 Aug Asquashandasqeeze #6
20 Aug aendr #2
21 Aug Yuletidedog #4
21 Aug babyducky #2 Brighton age 23
22 Aug vix206 #1 Leicester
22 Aug TwinkleToes76 #2
23 Aug cakeywakey #2
23 Aug sparkle #1 KENT
23 Aug loobyt #2 Devon
25 Aug isheisnthe #3
26 Aug MrsZaC #1 Glasgow Age 26
27 Aug Littlemiss72 #1 S London
28 Aug K8M #2
28 Aug booreeve #2
29 Aug starshaker #2 & 3 Ayrshire Age 29
31 Aug MrsS77 #1 and #2 NW London

Alicetheinvisible · 20/01/2010 12:11

Bunny There really are no words that seem adequate in these situations. Take care of yourself xx

I got a letter through today telling me to ring the hospital to make an appointment with the obstetrics clinic. Apparently it is because i had a cs last time. App is on 2nd march. Should get a scan date through this week too. I am a bit concerned about which mw i get. Apparently the one who does most of the area now is the one i don't really want. Two of my friends have become very sick with problems that should have been picked up by her and both ended up in hospital after calling an ambulance for themselves it was that bad.

bouncingblueberries · 20/01/2010 12:12

I'm so, so sorry BunnyBaby that must have been so devastating. Take care of yourself.

KayloHalo · 20/01/2010 12:16

Bunnybaby That is so sad
I'm so so sorry, I've no idea what to say. I'm glad you have pictures to remember your little one. Make sure you are being looked after honey xx

I have sadly removed you and the other ladies who have lost from the list and added newcomers

Jul/Aug cazzybabs #4
20 July Aussie #1 Nottinghamshire Age 35
22 July- 4 Aug) Chulita #2: Dorset
23 July BigMomma3 #4: Essex
27 July Vinocollapso #1:
30 July (1 Aug) Nikalah #1: Dorset
1 Aug KayloHalo #3: West Yorkshire Age 24
2 Aug Dibbydab #1: Devon Age 34
2 Aug Bouncingblueberries #2: South London Age 33
2 Aug JamieJay #1:
2 Aug Missus84 #1: Bristol
4 Aug Kinnies #3; Cornwall Age 26
4 Aug Shmoo #1:
6 Aug driedapricots #2 Surrey Kingston hospital age 34
7 Aug Rubena #2
8 Aug Bewler #1 South London
8 Aug ElusiveMoose #2 Kent
8 Aug HerbalHolly #1
8 Aug Girlsyearapart #3 surrey. Kingston hospital. age 31 (30 now though!)
9 Aug PopAwheelie #1 EAST LONDON
9 Aug NichyNoo #1
9 Aug possiblenewmum #1 - Guildford
10 Aug SayAnything #1
10 Aug Mummy369 #4
10 Aug Flexab23 *1 South London, King's
11 Aug Allstarsprincess # 2 South London
11 Aug acatcalledfidget #1
12 Aug Floweryboots #1 NorthLondon(NorthFinchley)
12 Aug Crazycatlady #2
13 Aug luth #1
14 Aug bigmuther65 #3
15 Aug Plant #2 KENT
15 Aug Soontobefat #1 South London Kings
16 Aug Neenz #3 North Liverpool
16 Aug Tah2 #3 S.Wales
16 Aug Alice #2 West Suffolk, Addenbrookes, age 25
17 Aug Doodleydoo #2
18 Aug irishmumwannabe #?
18 Aug Ladyjadey #2 West Yorks
19 Aug Liahgen #6 kent
20 Aug Asquashandasqeeze #6
20 Aug aendr #2
21 Aug Yuletidedog #4
21 Aug babyducky #2 Brighton age 23
22 Aug vix206 #1 Leicester
22 Aug TwinkleToes76 #2
23 Aug cakeywakey #2
23 Aug sparkle #1 KENT
23 Aug loobyt #2 Devon
25 Aug isheisnthe #3
26 Aug MrsZaC #1 Glasgow Age 26
27 Aug Littlemiss72 #1 S London
27 Aug Dollishillbilly #2
28 Aug K8M #2
28 Aug booreeve #2
29 Aug starshaker #2 & 3 Ayrshire Age 29
31 Aug MrsS77 #1 and #2 NW London
?? Aug Vitapulchra #4

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Dibbydab · 20/01/2010 12:19

Thinking of you and your DH BunnyBaby at this very difficult time. Will send a prayer up to heaven for your angel tonight x

liahgenisuptheduff · 20/01/2010 12:28

Oh bunny I am so so sorry for your loss. A terrible way to find out. Please be gentle on yourselves and I really hpe you'll be following us later in the year.

God I am petrified of actually going for a scan now. We have had such an awful lot of losses on this bus.

Hope everyone else is well, not much else to say at the moment now.

bouncingblueberries · 20/01/2010 12:37

liaghen I'm petrified too.

Really, truly petrified.

Had no idea that you could go that far along and still lose everything. Honestly had it in my head that if I made it to 10 weeks, all would be fine.

I just want to hide in loos and sob for bunnybaby and all the other lovely ladies that we've lost from this thread.

vix206 · 20/01/2010 12:39

I'm scared too, and I haven't even got a scan date yet so feels like a lifetime of waiting and worrying to find out if there's a heartbeat and a healthy looking baby in there

KayloHalo · 20/01/2010 12:42

lia I'm the same. I feel so bad for everyone's losses but I'm now so petrified of seeing my baby of Friday.

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bouncingblueberries · 20/01/2010 12:44

Maybe we should have a successful scan graduates list? Keep us thinking positive?? Sorry if anyone thinks this would be insensitive or just plain rubbish. Just need something positive to hang on to at the mo.

vix206 · 20/01/2010 13:02

bouncingblueberries I think that would be a great idea

Dibbydab · 20/01/2010 13:03

I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow afternoon - should be 12 + 3 - please send some postive vibes girls. Bunnybaby's tragic loss has really hit home.

Just looked up some stats and 3% of mums will be told at 12 week scan that baby has not survived. This is on top of those that lose their precious bean before their scan

Missed miscarriages are one of nature's cruelest blows. Life is really shitty sometimes.

Perhaps those of us that are having our 12 week scans coming up can update the list to say "12 wk scan fine" or something to at least provide a bit of positive hope for those girls coming up behind us that it's not always bad news - they'll all be worrying at least as much as us early August due daters are at the moment.

neenz · 20/01/2010 13:04

Bunny, that is so so sad . I know how you feel as I had the same, baby died at 10+4 but I didn't have a scan till 13+3 . You do feel like you have come so far and it's just not fair. Have some wine and focus on the future because you have got LOs to come and they will be all the more special.

Blueberries, what do you do for a living? Even though I had a loss at 10wks I also thought that was very unusual and that if you get to 10wks you are usually fine. Crapping myself about my scan but oddly reassured that everyone else feels the same - it is just normal to feel this way. I didn't join this thread till I was about 8wks PG because I couldn't bear to hear of other ladies losing their babies and thought after about 8wks there wouldn't be so many - there have been far too many

bouncingblueberries · 20/01/2010 13:05

That's a good idea dibbydab rather than a separate list.

Good luck for tomorrow - fingers, legs and toes all firmly crossed for you.

driedapricots · 20/01/2010 13:34

ladies
all too sad...my thoughts are with those of you who have lost. Of course it's worrying for the rest of us who have come this far...and i have started to dread logging on here for i know there's going to be more bad news.thank goodness for the support of each other and friends and family
good idea to create a more positive list dibbydab
my scan is next tues and i've started to relax about things going wrong as am now 12 weeks but Bunny's story has really shaken me up.
I hope to not appear too frivolous about the losses but shall we try and move the conversation on to something lighter? This may well be thinking too far ahead at this stage, but has anyone thought about names yet?
A new girl has just started at work and has a child called by the name i've set my heart on for a boy..and now it's gonna look like i'm copying her!!!

bouncingblueberries · 20/01/2010 13:41

Ok, on a lighter note, today I am mostly craving dailylea triangles

ElusiveMoose · 20/01/2010 13:45

Bunny, I'm so sorry . Look after yourself, and make sure you take all the time you need to grieve for your little one.

Bricking myself about my scan next week now, particularly as I'm going to have DS with me (and DH, thank goodness). It makes it harder that all the people I've told (mainly my parents and ILs) just see it as a mere formality, and breezily brush aside any worries I voice. At least my sister understands - although she's never had a MC, to my knowledge, she did have a high risk nuchal scan with her second, so she knows that these things aren't always straightforward (baby was fine, by the way).

Also feeling a bit weird today because I got a date for my 20 week scan in the post, which seems a bit premature when I don't even know if I have a viable pregnancy yet! I've also got a letter telling me about an obstetric appointment on the same day, which is a bit weird because I didn't know the MW was referring me to a consultant. Might be because my last birth wasn't entirely straightforward - ventouse birth followed by retained placenta - but you'd think she might have told me about the referral.

Another random question/paranoia - is anyone else's bump inexplicably high? My bump/fat/whatever seems to start directly under my ribcage! I don't remember this from last time. Maybe it's just all the other bits and bobs being pushed up out of the way, because there sure as hell shouldn't be any baby up that high yet !!

ElusiveMoose · 20/01/2010 13:50

Sorry, apricots, yes you're right, happy thoughts . We've always known what name we'd choose for a girl (and no, I'm not going to tell you - nobody knows ), which is partly why we were so shocked to find out at 20 wks that we were having a boy last time (stupid, I know - it's a 50/50 chance - but we were just convinced it was a girl). Struggled to agree on a name for DS, so he was just 'baby' for 3 days after he was born, and don't have any ideas for boys' names yet this time. Don't want to revisit my original lists - think I'll have to sit down and come up with more ideas if it turns out to be a boy (we'll try to find out at 20 wks again). Actually, I think I'll have some quite different ideas from last time around - partly because I know so many babies and toddlers now, so I'm familiar with so many more 'current' names.

Dibbydab · 20/01/2010 13:51

OK - my lighter note - my very protective boss (who knows about PG) just told me off for using the stairs in my "current condition" (he still refers to maternity leave as "your period of confinement" bless him)

He told me to come downstairs to see him , the lift is not working and he knows this. How did he think I would get downstairs - abseil? mores to the point, how did he think I got to my office on the second floor this morning?? Perhaps I floated up on my magic carpet... At least he didn't offer to give me a piggy back to deposit me safely at my desk.

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