October 2005 hot bumps - Nr. 5

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there you go

bonnie - one stone sounds fine to me; I thought optimum weight gain was about 20-25lb. I don't have any scales, so have no idea how much weight I've put on. I feel pretty confident with whatever it is, though, because I don't feel or look as though I've added weight anywhere but the bump (though the bump is quite impressive!). Btw, I don't think it is standard to assess the baby's position at this stage - doesn't mean much, because they are still moving around. it's only once you get past 32 weeks that they start taking an interest in that.

jessicasmummy - I LOVE Edith/Edie! Actually, it's the name of my little niece, who was named after my grandmother. When they named her I was initially concerned that it was too old-fashioned a name and she'd be teased, but everyone assured me that Edie is one of the New Cool names in the playground - and it turns out they're right! I would have loved to have used it myself; too late for me, but not for you - you should go for it.

fastasleep - I love your posts

I slept well for the first time in weeks last night. Possibly because I was feeling a little reassured, possibly because I did some yoga before bed. But it was great. Normally (when not pregnant) I am a brilliant sleeper, but nowadays i can't seem to get comfy, and then of course there's the toilet trips...

Ok Guys, i'm sure this has already been covered before, but as a first-timer, i need a definative list of all the things (from nappies to moses baskets) that i need to purchase ready for Junior J's appearance.

Some stuff, like the cot and high chair, we were going to leave until post birth, but we wanted to start getting the other bits in soon just to 'be prepared'. As a starter, i already have the pram and car seat, some donated newborn babygrows, and a breast pump (freebie from a midwifery student pal ). Any other suggestions gratefully recieved, as i want to get the main bulk of it sorted before i get too main and bulky Ta x

jessicasmummy has changed her name at last - army are annoying me right now so this one fits quite nicely!

changed my mind - back as me again!

Heloo all. Sorry for my Kemal-type diva strop the other day. have been rather crotchety the past few days (or as dh says 'a complete b*itch'!!) Glad to hear your news, Hester.

Can't wait til end of term. My bump is really aching, methinks spd well on its way back, and the kids are acting like its already the end of term, i.e. being vile. I'm opting for my own children to be the type that miss out being teenagers, I've decided.

My brother has been visiting for the last week, all the way from the Maldives!! hurrah! Haven't seen him for 3.5 years so dd was a bit of a shock for him! He's a diving instructor and started his latest job the day of the Tsunami so it hasn't been exactly what he was expecting, shall we say! But luckily water only came up to his knees on the island he was on. He's invited me, dh and kids to go over there next summer for a hol. His new job is on a 4 star resort. Family of staff get special rates - he reckons $25 a day (that's £15!!!), all inclusive - yes please! Will be a contrast to this year's hol in Tenby anyway!

Dh and I are still very undecided about girls' names. We don't know what flavour the bab is so need to choose names for both. Have got a boy's. Dh likes Martha and Matilda but dd's name starts with M as well so I'm a bit hmmmmm about that. I really like Evie, Scarlett, Niamh and Orla but dh not overly keen.

just spotted - not much point putting a * into the word 'bitch' if I don't miss out any letters is there - DER

Sorry to hear about everyone not sleeping. I can't wake up at the moment - I'm like a zombie.

JM it must be really hard to have a husband in the army when you have small children. What have they done now?

As for buying stuff I would say that you need
a car seat
some vests/sleepsuits/cardigans (about 8 sets perhaps 2 cardis, they get through a couple a day)
a few fleece cot blankets,
muslins,
lanisoh for the nipples,
anusol in case you get piles (you can always say it is for a spot, dermatologist friend swears that it is the best thing),
baby sleeping bag,
cot/moses basket,
bouncy chair,
lots of clean pyjamas for lounging around the house and a decent cuddly dressing gown (it is going to be october)
a couple of packets of pampers newborn nappies and huggies sensitive wipes (cotton wool is a complete waste of time and effort IMO).
biscuits (breastfeeding always made me hungry in the middle of the night and you get hundreds of visitors)
Nursing pillow
vases for the flowers people bring you
portable radio
A comfortable chair for nursing in with somewhere to put your radio/cup of tea/biscuit/magazine (breastfeeding takes hours)

and that is just for the first week.

try wanting to send him away next week for 5 weeks, he will miss jess's first birthday. He's got an mri scan at the hospital on tuesday and if its bad, they want to operate asap... but his arse of a sergent reckons he can still go away! I DONT THINK SO! On top of that, one minute we are posted, the next we are not - too much going on to explain properly but thats the gist of it. Feel like poo and want to curl up and cry.

oh dear!! j&bmummy you sound properly miserable. i don't suppose you get much choice about what they want him to do, do you?
my dh travels a lot (although not army) and has been working locally for over a year. he finishes his current project at end of july and then i have the prospect of him disappearing to god knows where from mon to fri for the forseeable future. it is the uncertainty or not knowing where he is going to be that unsettles me.
anyway the point of that very long waffle was that i deeply sympathise with your situation and i hope they make their minds up (preferably in your favour) quickly.

re weight gain - i sat next to a woman at my nct class last night who is 32 weeks. she wasn't even in maternity clothes - the tiniest little bump you have ever seen and not a lb anywhere else on her!! proper celebrity type pregnant person. then i heaved all 11 stone of sweaty me down next to her and told her i was 26 weeks and you could see the pity in her face... wanted to die!!! oh well, no doubt it will get worse before it gets better

thanks jj - just feeling really down at the moment and cant seem to pull myself up out of the big black hole - most people think im being stupid and i should jsut get on with it, but its not easy will an 11 month old and being pg.... im so alone right now.

just found out he might not be home at 1pm as he should be either - apparently some trouble on camp last night, and if whoever casued it doesnt own up, they are stuck there and working a weekend.... FFS - I HAVE PLANS!

you are allowed to feel down - don't let anyone make you feel guilty. It is horrid when you are limited by factors that are outside of your control - very frustrating.
is your dh annoyed with them too or is he being irritatingly reasonable?

he's annoyed but not so much as me..... he is just sitting saying "not a lot i can do about it" which is not helping!

I love Edie and Evie... they were on my top ten list... hello MOOMIN () SPD sucks doesn't it, luckily I seemed to get it worse last time than this time, I was waddling like a hippo with something nasty up it's butt at this time last time!

JM you have such good reason to be pissy... I often feel alone and upset just for absolutely no reason - being pregnant, having a very small toddler and a husband who gets called away at totally stupid times has to make it so much harder... you're doing so well! Don't worry about having a good old grump.. I do it all the time! Hormones are awful, awful things and they can strike at any time

Glad you're sleeping Hester , I don't weigh myself either especially after DH pointed out my newly acquired love handles!

Can you tell that I'm babbling so that I don't have to think about all the stuff we have to buy... lol!

Sorry you're feeling down JM, you should try and have a nice 'me' day, arrange a babysitter and go out and do stuff you wanna do. I'm going to have one of those very soon - I keep promising myself.

Finally sorted out maternity stuff - going down to 2 days a week from week after next, then finishing end of August for full maternity leave. So glad its sorted out now, was playing on my mind. Can't wait to have some spare time!

We're all being forced to wear fake moustaches in work all afternoon - no apparent reason - making my lip really sweaty. I work in a wierd place!

Have a good weekend everyone!

Yay - 26 weeks today, and i've finally handed in my MATB1 and sorted out my maternity leave with my manager - i officially finish on the 20th August

Sorry to hear about your troubles JM - hope things sort themselves out soon ((hug))

Have a good weekend All x

Have been thinking about your situation, JM&B. It sucks, basically. I spose when your dh signed up to the army he knew that it is a pointless execise complaining about being posted anywhere so soldiers justaccept their lot and that's why he's being so 'reasonable' about it. But, like you inferred before: you didn't sign up but you have all the hassle of the implications. I get wound up if dh does weekend overtime and leaves me to cope with dd who is actually a very independent 3 and a half, so god only knows how I'd cope in your shoes. Hope things seems better for you soon.

Dh and I actually agreed on a girl's name last night - one of my choices for name no.1 and one of his for middle name. Hurrah! Now just watch as it turns out to be a boy and we'll never get the chance to use these lovely names now...

Someone with a lovely ds needs to have a word with me soon as I can feel I'm getting a bit twitchy about the possibility of having a boy. I know it's entirely unreasonable but whenever I say I don't mind what it is to people, I know I'm not really telling the truth . Why am i so horrid? I know lots of nice boys at school, what's to say mine wouldn't be adorable too?

BTW had a fab dirty dream that David Tennant was our new Headmaster and he shagged me in the staffroom!!!

lol Moomin It's good you've decided on a girls name. We were the same in wanting another girl even though I've got a boy (well nearly a man now!) We both pretended we weren't bothered but when they told us at the scan it was a girl we were both elated. Having a boy was great but in our case we wanted a sister for dd (2) and it also meant we could save a fortune on baby clothes. I must say though when I had my son I was delighted to have a boy and he really has been great fun. I think once the baby's born you really won't care what the sex is.

We're trying to teach my dd that there will be a baby coming but she's still a bit confused. I pat my belly and say 'baby' and then she smiles and pats her own saying 'baby'. I think she's under the impression that everyone's got one in there. Next we tried getting her used to the name which is 'Ruby'. She can't say Ruby properly and it comes out 'booby' so she spends the whole time patting her belly saying 'booby!'How's everyone else getting on breaking the news to their toddlers?

Oh well, she'll realise in 14 weeks!!

sorry to hear about your tough time at the moment JM It must be horrible being so unsettled at the momentxx

anyway hope everyone has a good weekend

Morning Bonnie, sorry its me again butting in on your hot bump chat
Just see your name up there and HAVE to say hello to you.
Hope you are ok, we missed you both on Thursday, hopefully see you this Thursday
Kisses for A xxxx

Moomin I have the most gorgeous snuggly wuggly cutey wooty little cuddlesome boy in the universe (he's a total mummy's boy ) they absolutely rock don't you worry!

Bonnie - booby! That's classic that is! mine's too young for calling it names but he keeps trying to poke his finger all the way up my belly button whilst slapping Sophia's feet as she kicks...which is a bit weird lol

JM - can't believe that stupid troll had a go at Jess last night, hope you didn't get too wound up xxx just glad I didn't put a piccy of Theo up!

Hope you're all well, I slept in till 11 and then DH and Theo stomped off for a snooze the second I set foot downstairs I'm feeling guilty now, poor DH was up half the night cos he's hurt his leg somehow...oh the guilt! (I was up till midnight making jewellery lol!)

have sent you an email, donbean

fastasleep, i wouldn't feel too guilty about having a lay in. My poor dh was on a dummy hunt at 2am this morning. DD always takes a couple to bed, but try finding them in the dark!! I just pretended I couldn't hear the cries of 'dummy dummy'. We're pregnant, we deserve to be taking it easy

Just wanted to ask who else is getting tons of Braxton hicks?? My tummy keeps tightening constantly. It happened when pg with dd but only towards the end. This time I've had them since a couple of weeks ago. I'm sure it's nothing to worry about but would like to know I'm not the only one getting them!

I started getting BH at 18 weeks this time and didn't feel one last time round (only got to 37 weeks though)... so I was a wee bit freaked out! I was doing well at ignoring them, but for the last week they've got stronger - enough to make me gasp...I think it's normal

awww jm, hope it turns out nice than it sounds atm! everything crossed that your dh can take some time off and don't get sent away too far

moomin: i have a lovely ds - really!!! - he's 14 months and just a sunshine. laughs all the time and is happy as anything (unless anything really bugs him like teeth, tired, hunger) but besides that he is very adventurous and cheeky!!

• btw, nice dream

bonnie at your 'booby' story! - my boy is only 14 months and i tried to tell him about baby in my tummy! but the only thing he does is run up to me and crash into my bump! and laughs his head off of course - i even got a book out of the library with 'bringing a little brother home' - well, guess he really is too young; he just wants to open the flaps!!!

pfff fastasleep, good on you for the long sleep! just keep reminding yourself 'you are pregnant and far more exhausted without even doing anything!'

and no, no BH for me.

hi girlies.... sorry about my rant the other day... feel quite now!

Im ok, DH is still on for going away next weekend, but the way his knee is i'm not sure! He has an MRI scan on Tuesday so will have to see how that goes. Think he might be going sick on monday though - he could hardly walk this afternoon, let alone stand in a kitchen cooking for 10 hours a day!

Bump is fine.... had a scare the other day after i missed the step into the bathroom and fell flat on my face, but lots of kicks so assuming all is well.

Jess driving me up the wall today - doesnt want to go to bed.... my fault for going to sleep this afternoon and DH putting her for a nap at 5.15pm!!! WTF?! Hence she is now crawling round thep lace happy as larry and not wanting to give in!

BH - oh yes! Never had them with Jess, but feeling them this time.... strange really!

Anyone else out there who cant stop eating at the moment?! Maybe its just me, but im being a real MISS PIGGY - just need to be feeding my face all the time!!!

Take care all and ill catch u soon xxx

Hi everybody,

I read these messages once in a while. I will try to post more often.
this is my first pg and i don't know how a kick feels like. can anyone describe it to me?
I am not sure if i am experiencing any kicks at all. Went for a scan recently and doc says everything is fine.