October 2005 hot bumps - Nr. 5

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there you go

MP - im feeling like your DH!!! My dh is being the "it'll be ok" "its gonna be great" and im like scared stiff..... 15 month old and a newborn..... what have i done!!!

Aw jm! I just think it's sad because I don't think he's going to ENJOY any of it and before we know it we'll be sitting in our rocking chairs with no hair wistfully thinking about our glory days with young children ....

Mind you FIFTEEN MONTHS ARE YOU MAD!? ;)

I think i might be!!!

I know I wont feel like this once the baby is here, and surely being so pregnant with a 1 yr old to run after is going to be much harder than having a baby outside of the body!!!

Got some good news about my gran over the weekend. She isn't going to have a pacemaker fitted as the immediate problem is not a heart problem, it's a thyroid thing which caused the small heart attack so they are going to treat that instead. Not sure when she will be out of hospital but fingers crossed it's soon.

Fed up at the mo - got 11 weeks left, haven't yet brought the furniture or the pram. Should be buying the pram on Sat and the furniture on 19th.

Also feel a bit miserable and stupid and huge.

Seriously considering changing my maternity leave date as I cant concentrate all day long! Worst things at work at the mo being that a) I have a new boss starting next week and while I'm on maternity leave my job is going to change so much and I'm worried I'll hate it when I get back, and b) I said I'd work as late as possible while I felt well, and then found out that they've raised a staff req for my cover to start at the end of Sept which gives me 1 week to train them to do my job (while I'll be part time as well!), providing Boo hasn't popped out of the oven!!

It just makes me mad - they have known since March that I'm pregnant, wish they'd get themselves sorted out. Anybody else got this kind of situation going on at work??

Anyway, must stop moaning and get in the bath. Hope you're all well.

I know you feel responsible for your work Elf and that is a good thing but as there is nothing you can do about it - so don't worry (easier said than done). You have done everything you could to make the transition easier. It is not a crime to go on maternity leave .

Dh is definately panicing like yours mp. He is not really a baby person and although he really wants to have another child he will not want to do any childcare as such until dd is walking and talking. Our business is very busy (that is his baby) at the moment and he is hoping that he won't loose a single nights sleep as he needs to be on top of things (Ha). I think he is being selfish and unrealistic. Having a new baby is much harder and more important than keeping a few clients happy. Like MP I worry that he will regret not being more involved with the kids when they were small. I think his priorities are wrong. I have 10 weeks to convince him and I never managed it with ds and we were a lot less busy then.

Hey Yokefleet - so you're joining me in Wales - felt like I was the only Welsh woman due in October. I live in between Cardiff and Swansea.
Where are you having your baby? I've heard that the maternity care down Swansea way is really good - especially in the new hospital. I'll be having mine in Prince Charles in Merthyr. Don't fancy the extra journey to Swansea or Cardiff in the throws of labour!

Off to buy a cot now before all the sales end. Hope all well.

Help I'm sooo nervous about the 28 week mw appt today... NEEDLES! NEEEEEEDLES!!! No one's coming with me except DS.. and mws are bloody crap at taking blood...I want a phlebotomist A PHLEBOTOMIST!!!!!!!!!! Ahem.

bites nails

(I'll be fine I'm being pathetically wimpy)

OooOoooOOooh stupid morning sickness, seemed to come back and stay back from 26 weeks...

Thinking of everyone and their families, hopw you're all doing well and not getting stretchmarks!

hi all, (be brave about your blood test fastasleep!!) I've got mine in two weeks so that's something to look forward to! Anyway hubby home from hospital which is a good thing, but sofa bound and very demanding (which isn't such a good thing ) I'm still waiting for my turn to get pampered.

My sil had her baby on Sunday and I went to see her last night and she is TINY!! After throwing around my two year old the baby seemed so little (she was 8lb so not really small). Can't believe I'm going to have one of my own in about 9 weeks. I'm really starting to freak out now. It was quite weird going to the maternity unit knowing that before long I'll be there myself.
It was her fourth baby (i know she's mad) and the first time she has had an epidural and she needed forceps. All her other children were born without any assistance. It is making me think twice about an epidural now. Also her back is in a pretty bad way as it took them a long time to get it in the right place. I know there are loads of people who have had positive experiences of them as well, oh I just CAN'T DECIDE!!!! I think I'll just have to wait and see how I feel.

No stretchmarks yet but am smothering cocoa butter on twice a day. I'm on about my fifth bottle since I got pregnant and I swear by it. Very itchy bump though and it's really hard trying not to scratch! Heartburn bad as usual and am feeling quite breathless most of the time but other than that not too bad.

Hope everyone else is doing well

Glad to hear your dh is doing well, BBB, even if he is demanding. I remember when I had my third, the midwife said she "hated fourth deliveries". I told her I wasn't having any more. This is now coming back to haunt me. Wonder what on earth she meant - surely you can't generalise like that. Hope I do better than your SIL. I had an epidural with my dd but luckily no assistance required. It took longer for me to push her out though as I couldn't get on all fours! My ds2 literally plopped out in this position.

I'm with you Fastasleep on the sickness. Been throwing up again this morning & it is my DS1's birthday. But hopefully it'll pass as the day wears on. Not much choc cake for me - damn.

My dh doesn't seem over the moon about another newborn in the house come October. He keeps going on about finances/people carriers etc. - all the practical things. All I can think about is how on earth am I going to cope!

sits here looking jittery and avoiding getting dressed lol

Aww jockey happy birthday to your ds!! Hope you do get to eat cake, I'm ok once I do my weird routine thing I slowly eat a bowl of cheerios... and then I have to sit there until I've done 2/3 big burps... if I get up before then I puke everywhere!! Lol!

Bonnie, I hope you get to be pampered soon, must be good to have him home though!

FA - i know how you feel! Got my next lot of bloods on friday and dreading it.... to the extent ive asked dh to try and get the afternoon off work! My MW comes to the house, and the thought of jess trying to "help" the MW is seriously NOT helping my state of mind!

New nickname for my bump is "Becky bump" - im trying to convince myself its a girl now so im not dissapointed, and we have FINALLY settled on Rebecca Alison for a girl!

(Still secretly hoping its Aiden James in there but Becky bump will have to do for now!!!)

Thanks fastasleep I'm going to try that cheerios thing! Keep getting up in the night for plain toast and then becoming absorbed in Big Brother (I know, sad) and I actually watched a repeat of Desperate Midwives one night which reminded me how good pain relief is.

Think DS (8) is having a good day so far - not a peep out of him yet which is always a good sign.

Jess&Becky(?)mum - like the names & Rebecca goes really nicely with Jessica. I know what you mean about convincing yourself you are having one sex or the other, just so as not to be disappointed. If I didn't know already, right now I would be programmed for a boy coming (but secretly hoping for a girl - I just wouldn't be able to help it!).

I forgot my notes duh! so have to remake my appointment...

sigh

I was all hyped up too!

Oh no! How annoying! Sort of thing I would do.

Thats why home visits are SO much easier!!! All i have to remember to do is a wee!!!

Why can't we sleep anymore??!!!!!

Doing my head in - trying to not to kip in the day as well because I know I'll get into the habit and won't survive the last few weddings I've got left to film. Never mind 4 more weekends then I can sleep whenever I want. Can't wait.

SIL is due on Sunday so we're all getting excited about that.

Is it too early to start washing the baby clothes? Don't know how I'll manage to iron them all by next month.

hello all!!

slightly more cheerful this week you will be glad to hear! Now "the week" has actually arrived it is not as bad as i expected. hopefully my 2 week downer was hormone related and i am not actually spiralling into pre-natal depression .

i have finished my nct classes and have one more local parentcraft class to go to. the local ones have not been particularly educational, but there are lots of lovely people so have made some new friends. strange how that gets harder as you get older?

bubba is still fine but i am yo-yoing between being desperate to meet him/her and being terrified of how i am going to cope once it has arrived.

also have just realised that my proposed csection date is the first anniversary of ds1's death. not ideal. think i am going to have to talk to the consultant about avoiding that. sharing birthdays i could cope with, but i think this would be too much.

anyway, little traumas make up the rich tapestry of life!!! best get on with trying to look busy and not fall asleep at my desk - 4 weeks to go!!!

btw thank you all for your cyberhugs last week when i was all sulky!!

Hello all.

The fact that I am having a baby is FINALLY starting to sink in. I was at an antenatal physiotherapy class yesterday and we covered labour. Somehow I have been putting off thinking about it as it has always seemed so far away, but yesterday made it hit home for me..... gulp. My biggest concern though is how to persuade DH that I don't need to get bundled into the car the instant that I have a contraction.

I am feeling fine, other than being a bit tired. Weight gain is now 16lbs with another 12 weeks to go, so on target for 2 stones which is fine. I was weeding the garden at the weekend and must admit that it is getting a bit difficult now unless I do down on all fours. Not a pretty sight I must tell you

I have a stream of visitors coming, starting at the weekend and then we are going up to the north west highlands for our last ever holiday before we become three. I thought camping was not the best idea, so we have booked a little hut which seems like luxury compared to a tent!!

Hope everyone is doing fine.

MB

hey girls!
not much to report really
just that i am feeling dead tired lately!!!!!!!
and somehow i think the time stands still

it's getting really difficult now to do anything!
walking, sitting, crawling, you name it!

oh well, at least we are 'healthy' - just a big bump

Had my 28 week check yesterday. Needle didn't hurt but my arm is black and blue! Baby is transverse (sideways), exactly the same as dd was at this time - and she didn't shift. I think I've got some doolally-shaped womb and that's why my babies have been forced to lie like bananas and why my placenta has no room to move up! Oh well, this will be my last anyway - I cannot go through 9m of this palarva again.

BTW, db is doing ok - had to have a chest drain yesterday to remove fluid which wasn't pleasant but has relieved a lot of his pain.

Started to get excited about having another baby now. Had quite mixed feelings about it up to now which I felt very guilty about as we'd ttc for this one for 2 years but I felt so rotten with the sickness and when the spd came back. The end is now in sight though, and I remember how much dh and I enjoyed having dd. We've chosen a name now but will keep schtum until she's born (despite dd telling us it's a boy's name and she doesn't like it! It's not a boy's name, btw! she's just sulking cos we haven't taken her advice on names)

Ahahahaha Jolovett, classic, iron baby clothes? When on earth are you going to get time to wash and iron everything your babe poops/pukes on when it pops out!!... brilliant, what a thought... ironing baby clothes... (Or is that just me? !)

I want home visits damnit, I was hoping that because the hospital had screwed up and made an appt for me at the gp and the hospital for my 28 week mw thing that I'd be able to go to the hospital, but it's the same day as DS's scan...grr..

Josey, I'm glad you're feeling better! I think all of us would have gone a bit funny for a week or two at the very least if we were in the same boat, I'm sure your consultant will change your date! Big hugs

Hi all. It's lovely to catch up with your news. I am fine but TIRED. Feel sleepy all day and then can't sleep at night. Am being crap at work - slow, bovine, forgetful; it'll be a miracle if they don't sack me before I go on leave. Am beginning to wonder if I'll make it to the end of week 38, as planned.

Saw the midwife this week and everything seems ok. My blood pressure has got really, really low which means i feel faint and dizzy a lot, but it's not a problem for the baby.

Have just gone through my diary and realised I am booked up every weekend between now and the birth - how stupid is that. I have left myself no time to do things like (a) rest, (b) spend quality time with dp before we become a three, or (c) sort out nursery, baby clothes etc. But the pressure to see everybody - before I never go out again - feels quite strong.

I'm so enjoying having her in my tummy, though. Part of the sleeplessness is my sheer excitement at feeling her tangoing around in the night. i can't resist staying awake to feel her doing all her cute baby things. no doubt those of you who are already mums will tell me I'm mad and need to get my sleep while I can

I'm doing that too Hester and I know better than to sit up all night with my hand clamped to my wriggling belly! And you will go out again! I'm going to go to DS's mum and toddler groups as soon as I can walk invest in a sling!

Not at all, hester- the sheer wonder dh and I felt when we finally saw dd after all those months of wriggling and kicking. All I could do was look at her and think 'oh it was you, was it?' like meeting an old friend.