Not yet November but already three babies down! Ooooh oooh nearly there!

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Right, you lot have made my mind up - I am now going to the tesco website and ordering junk food to my hearts content. He is pretty much working 7 days a week, 9 - 6 anyway at the mo (poor bloke, no wonder he is tired tbh, but it is agency work so he can't afford to refuse shifts) so he probably won't notice - last two nights he has had chips for his tea that he has bought on the way home.

I had another sleepless night. Sore back and belly, BHs and every time I went to sleep I got woken up by a contraction. Yet again, they tailed off. This has been going on for weeks now, I am starting to resign myself to making to the booked section date. At least I have that date though. I would be going insane if I had to think there could be an extra three weeks on top of that! I have to keep reminding myself that things won't get back to normal after the birth though, for a start I will be recovering from the section, but I will also have a newborn! Don't think this whole thing resulting in a baby has really sunk in yet...

Just checking in, I did take the advice last night and called the midwife, she told me that they wanted to see me so my friend came round to look after DS, and DH and I went to the hospital, I was on the monitor for 30 mins, then she did a swab which tested positive for amniotic fluid and then she told me I'd have to stay in and see the consultant in the morning as he would probably want to induce me. I saw the consultant who said it was the hind waters that had gone but as they're no gushing he didn't see a problem with me going home. My midwife is coming round tomorrow to check my blood pressure and as long as nothing changes I don't have to see anyone until Thursday which is a day after my due date. I'm so relieved that (at the moment) I don't have to be induced. I was induced with my DS and it was a really bad experience, ending with forceps and DS having a trip to the NICU.

I hope everyone is doing ok this morning, fingers crossed for you Trikken sounds promising. scarlotti I hope things get started for you soon

Although what if I do a tesco order then go into labour? Bugger it, the ILs can come round and receive the delivery. In fact, it might make the baby come, sods law and all

HomeintheSun, glad you got checked out and those news aren't too bad. You still got a couple of days to go into labour naturally and maybe this was just the start of it? (But please keep in mind, DO NOT JUMP THE LINE )
Lissy, had the same problem when placing an order last week. So I ordered quite late for the next days earliest option. At least your IL could accept it for you. I wouldn't have had anybody. I don't think, I will order again before the baby is born.

Just had one of these moments, staring at the baby stuff and feeling really strange. I can simply not imagine my life in one weeks time, or in one year or in 10 years,... I suppose even the first days or weeks will feel as surreal as they do at the moment. I wonder if I am part of those people loving their baby from the first second or if I need time to develop deep feelings (and it usually takes time for me, I never had this love at first sight thing). Well I'll find out soon

Hi All

Pavlov Such a shame your DH has wound himself up into a state, today of all days. Really hope that his interview goes well.

tigger thanks for the update about your dsd. Sounds like he is doing as well as can be expected. Amazing that they think he'll be moving about by Saturday or Sunday. Really hope he makes quick progress.

kyte jealous of you leaving the house! Have a lovely potter around the shops. After a couple of days of low energy I'm now full of beans & keen to get out into the autumnal sunshine but forgot that we're getting a coffee table delivered today. Have been given a delivery window of 8am - 4pm. Ppptht.... You just know they won't turn up until 3.45pm. Online shopping and Homes Under The Hammer it is then...

Scarlotti at no progress. Fingers xd that your LO stops shilly-shallying and puts in a apperance pronto! You must be tired out. Certainly a long 24 hours by any measure!

ursi all I can say about the bonding thing is not to panic if it isn't immediate. With DD I remember at first not even liking her that much (horrible birth) but then kind of getting to like her in the way you like someone elses baby or a lovely kitten - ie I liked playing with her and didn't want her to come to any harm, but it was only when she was about a year old that I remember casually glancing over at her playing on the floor and suddenly being overcome with this incredibly powerful rush of love. I had heard about it, but thought people were exaggerating. They weren't. It really is a completely new feeling, there is nothing more powerful in the universe than a mothers love for her child. It makes it all worthwhile.

ursi I know where you're coming from, I've got DS who I love to bits, even on days where he's been less than pleasant to be with, but then I go in and see him sleeping and I could just burst I love him so much, I'm worried I won't love this baby or that I won't love her as much.

I must say I have been worrying the same - what if this baby just isn't as ace as DD? She is an absolute gem, she is clever and funny and well behaved, she hardly ever has tantrums, she will eat anything, she slept through from an early age, she isn't clingy, and of course she is the most beautiful child to ever walk the earth

How can a second child live up to that? Plus me and DP are both eldest children, what if we can't relate to DD2?

Southern what a cow I hope you?re in less pain now. And yes, definitely seek a second opinion. The midwives around her tend to be of the opinion that if one consultant doesn?t say what you want to hear, see another one until they do!!

Lissy sounds pretty rough right now? Try to stay practical about it though; you know what you need so it would be silly not to have it delivered. Also, he really should have his phone on at the moment. Even if its business regulations, they will make an exception considering how close you are to your EDD.

Kyte thanks for that

Wook you?re totally not being unreasonable. I?d be doing the same. In fact I do the same, even if DP is going out just for a few hours ? he?s usually pretty sensible, but with a certain friend (whom I totally distrust) kinda forgets. I worry he?ll get rather tipsy, and I?ll go into labour etc. Can you have a word with DH about it? Suggest he does lunch with them or something one of the days, but that you really need him around at the moment?

Laugs awww you soppy thing x

EasyEggs glad to hear it was good news at the scan

Pavlov poor thing he sounds very tense right now, which is not what you need! Will keep my fingers crossed for him today for the interview.

Tigger good news about the operation, will keep him and you in my thoughts, do keep us updated.

Scarlotti I hope things start to happen soon. Think of it as a chance to see your mother and for your DCs to see their grandmother during the half term

Trikken hope this is the start of things for you!

HomeintheSun glad you got checked out ? and hey, at least something is happening!!

Usi I?ve been thinking about that too? Hit me really strongly the other day when I was sorted the storage boxes. This little person that is growing inside of me is going to be with me for the rest of my life? Kinda scary. I just don?t want to mess it up.

Today am in a rather optimistic mood. The possibility of renting a friends flat next year while they go away has come up! Would leave DP and I a little out of pocket but we could manage, so long as we managed to rent his place out in return. Nothing certain yet, but am happy at the thought. Though slightly irritated that he has told his mum how bad things are at home. I tend to keep it to myself ? obviously tell you lot as you?re all strange people online and that?s perfectly logical So I feel a little as though he?s broken my trust. Totally illogical of course, and very unreasonable of me, seeing as he was doing it to make sure there was somewhere else we could stay if things get too bad. But still. Bloody hormones.

Am fed up with contractions and BHs now. grumble I have been having BHs almost constantly for days now and yet nothing is happening. Maybe its just the Raspberry Leaf Tea, on reflection? Didn?t think of that until just now

Thank you for all your well wishes, much appreciated

Hope you?re all well today, and someone please pop, we need another thread baby

Lissy and Home, I suppose what you both said is just true, mothers love for her child is just really big and I think, it will be the same for your second one as well!
I suppose it will take time to get to know this new little stranger who will change all our lifes, doesn't matter if it is the first or second one, there will be a big change but we will all end up loving this one. (But I suppose I will need some time like you did, Lissy)
Well, I'm off to the Birthcentre. Lets hope they have some interesting news for me.

DH got in trouble with me last week when he went to the pub instead of being home to accept a Tesco delivery The driver left all the crates outside our door anyway, so DH reckons I was making a big fuss over nothing! We have a side entrance with a gate, and it wasn't raining, so I suppose they decided it was safe to leave them.

have just found out something annoying, dh is being made to go to two conferences, one he definately has to go to whether the baby is here or not, which is 2 days before my due date and two hours away and one which is 4 days after, which he doesnt have to go to unless she's arrived already, cos its at least 6 hours drive. am not happy that he will be at least two hours away next wednesday, and both mum and mil will be working. so am definately hoping these signs will turn into serious labour soon, would hate for dh to be away when i am in labour.

Really not the point though, is it? Ugh. Men... Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em...

What is it with DHs and DPs..do you all think its the full moon?? mine is getting stressed too and snapping. I do think its work related but its never been so bad.. Maybe our state is getting to them...

wook you're not selfish just feeling vulnerable and I would be the same..its your time to demand and his friends are really silly to be around at this time. But as the others say, try and enjoy a couple of hours to yourself and hope your DH will get a wee break.

Pavlov hope DH calms down..mine is like that at times and he doesn't take being late for any appointment, pregnant or not..don't stress too much, you've been so busy and tired.

tigger so pleased your stepdad is doing well, what great news and a huge relief.

Went to see the wards and delivery room at the hospital today..it was surprisingly quiet and the wards are almost empty! I was told to expect something different as it was very unusual. I must be the only expat to be giving birth at the local hospital..usually private healthcare (obligatory here in Geneva) means you get a hotel suite to deliver in and a gourmet champagne dinner post birth!!....no thanks...I'm going to the hospital where I and baby will be cared for..Got a little nervous as I saw the delivery room with that empty set of baby scales...yikes! Lovely place though.

Have a nice day folks..and enjoy halloween

Sorry I didn't get back on yesterday to read everything that had gone on during the day. I was rather emotional and in agony so did nothing. Bless dh he sorted dinner and put dd to bed without even being asked!

I'm feeling a bit better this morning, emotionally anyway. I have spoken to the midwife and told her that I understand nothing different may able to be done, but that I would like to see a different consultant as I am very unhappy with the treatment (physical) I had yesterday. So now have an appt next Wednesday. On a down side, I am still in total agony. I barely slept last night and was lying in bed in tears half the night (poor dh!) with the pain.

Lissy sorry your dh is being so unreasonable about the internet shopping and banking. Seems bizarre for him to be so against things that would make life so much easier. I agree with the others, definitely do your shopping as you need to make sure you have things in. He also really needs to keep his phone on.

Trikken I really hope that your dh will be there when you go into labour. I can't believe his work are making him go to a conference (or two) so close to when you are due. My DH has been working really hard to make sure everything was sorted for this week onwards. He was still going to have to work from home but at least he would have been here. He had gone back to work anyway now as nothing is likely to happen with me forever, but at least I know he is going to be close by (apart from maybe Monday but seeing as apparently I'm not anywhere near giving birth it's probably not an issue!).

Erika that's good news about your friends place. I hope things work out well for you and dp and I hope things settle down at home too.

hi everyone hope your all doing well , sorry i haven't posted for a while!! is anyone at home and going crazy with boredom like me?? this is my first baby so im home alone on maternity leave at first was loving it but now getting a bit bored!! due next saturday but hopeing she will arrive sooner ( we can dream cant we !!!!!)
what is everyone doing to keep themselves entertained??? im the first out of my friends to have a baby so no1 to keep me entertained!!
saw midwife on wed and im 3/5th engaged anyone else at this stage or further on?? did you notice the baby drop??? i didnt lol (blush)
xxx

Misssese - I know how you feel! Also my first baby and have been off work for nearly 3 weeks now, due next Friday. Baby is also engaged but MW didn't say how much.

I kept myself entertained at first by househunting on the internet and viewing houses until it got too much. Our landlord has decided to move family in so we were told a month ago that we have to move out by the 2nd January. Great timing!

Given up looking for the moment as got too hard so will move in my old room at my mums with DH and LO once s/he gets here. Bit of a squash!!

Now I just watch TV and try to keep up with this thread on MN!

What are you doing to keep yourself entertained?

And can any of you lovely ladies suggest anything to stop me going ga ga from boredom?

xXx

ursigurke I think I'm the same. I just cannot comprehend that - all going well - in just over four weeks we will be parents. I will be somebody's mama. Just can't imagine it. I can sometimes see pictures in my mind of looking after her, feeding, spending time just the two of us. Or the three of us. But it still doesn't process in my brain as a lifetime thing...

BTW whenever I see those pictures it makes me cry. Especially when I create a soundtrack for them, too. Like this lullaby... WARNING: I am crying now having listened to it!!!

snif snif...

misssese books, books, books for me. And films. I'm told this is the last chance for a looong time

southern that is horrible that you are still in pain! What did she do to you??? Def very well done on asking to see somebody else. When I was in hosp with rib pain a really young doctor pressed me down to make me lie flat so she could examine me. I was screaming so loud in pain (and grabbing for random support to keep me up) that an older doctor came in and saw me flailing panicky about...didn't look too good on the young doc, especially as the nurse was staring at her with open mouth ( I had told young doc I couldn't lie down). Can you put in a complaint on your old consultat so she won't hurt anybody else at least?
Hugs and hope you feel better!

Aww, you first-timers, makes me remember how unimaginable and scary it all was...
The first days when baby was home were this huge love fest for us, where I regularly burst into happy tears that dd would be with us for the rest of our lives now.. You'll love them more than your life, so don't be apprehensive of the change. You'll deal with at all just fine and one step at a time.

I've been remiss and not taken notes as I was reading, so forgive me if I miss out on anyone's important news!
turtle so glad dSD was caught in time from the sounds of it. Hopefully the op will mean the end of worrying for you all, once he is up and about again. Will you be able to visit in ICU?
erika sorry to hear what your mum said. I think when everyone's minds are full of worries and unknowns (financial, babies, etc) we are all prone to unnecessary outbursts which are hurtful and unthinking. Are you able to forget about it?
Lissy your DH does sound a bit controlling to me. Maybe I'm just used to wearing the trousers in our relationship! Online banking, direct debits and financial spreadsheets are the best things we ever did.
home good news for you! So glad you've avoided induction for now and that you know that things are underway in some respect. Stay chilled!
Scarlotti the same goes for you. You're probably having a marathon latent phase and will be fully dilated before you know it once contractions start. How close are you to the hospital?
wook could you insist on accompanying DH to the pub? His friends are being really inconsiderate, but are probably just unthinking and expecting it to be 'fun' if you do go into labour without having a clue of the emotional investment the two of you have been through in the past 8 months. I had to escort DH to a work evening quiz on my due date last time. I made the team exceed their numbers but had to promise I wouldn't help. Our best man once did a similar thing to your friends - I was in Japan and DH (then BF) was in Czech Republic for a year. We hadn't seen each other in months when I visited him. Best man phoned up to say that he was visiting for the week THAT WEEK and would arrive in a few days, including the day I was due to leave so I had to share my last 4 days with DH as a threesome. Best man seemed oblivious to his gaffe.
Comma SOOO happy for your rollercoastering baby! Fingers crossed it stays put for you.
Trikken and FP I hope that things get moving for you too
Southern what a crap day you had! Keep taking those painkillers and SIT DOWN won't you? Glad your MW is being supportive and helping you find avenues of hope. I hope that you survive 'till Weds at this rate. Have you got a ribbon for your knees for delivery?
Easyeggs glad scan was encouraging for you.

I'm currently obsessing about engagement. I know 2nd babies rarely engage before labour, but as DD didn't (and later got stuck) I always wonder if I just have a weird pelvis. Does anyone else feel like if the baby tries to move down that it's just banging off the front of the pelvis? Do I need to sit with a really hollow back and tilt my pelvis all the way forward to let the baby down? I felt a couple of weeks ago a few times that it might have managed to get down there, but if I moved or bent over (occupational hazard with a toddler) that it just popped back up again. I've got better at sitting forward on the edge of chairs/on ball etc. during the day but it's the evenings when LO becomes active and starts squirming, and by that stage all I want to do is crash out on a pile of cushions on the sofa. And as soon as I lie down the baby moves back up again Humph.

We've lost our favourite neighbours today . They've been here as long as we have and were good friends and also DD's childminder. They've only moved to the next town temporarily until Xmas, but will be of to Spain after that. All this change all at once!

Pavlov how strange to have dh go mad at full moon! Never heard of that. Maybe there is some tea to stabilize his hormones?
Sorry you have to deal with it though. Maybe sit him down when the moon is low, tell him about your theory and ask him to try and be aware of this. You could mark his outbursts on calendar so is scientifically proven (can help with men), and just refuse to fight with him or leave the room but be friendly when he emerges out of whatever hole he fell into? Ugh. Good luck!

Durgh I've done it again - tigger not turtle!!

pav forgot to wish your DH good luck today. DH gets really difficult when his mind is on something else, and an interview presentation is a prime candidate for us. I can just imagine his reaction being the same. Leave him be until he comes round again and then forget about it.

hobnob my baby bangs off my pelvis too, especially the left side. Neither one of them engaged, which might have been due to lots and lots of amniotic fluid and enough space to float in. But I had a good vb with DD1, who engaged after they drained enough water to wash her out, sort of...

Funny to think I would have had my baby by now if the csec would have happened..instead she happily sleeps in my belly until she is good and ready.