Not yet November but already three babies down! Ooooh oooh nearly there!

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Lissy sounds really annoying. Money issues are an issue in my marriage with both of us wanting control, and yes, it extends to shopping too- dh says I am 'too extravagant' in the supermarket, although I never actually go more than £20 over budget, even on a bad day. We haven't really resolved this one but do find it really helpful to make a weeks' 'menu' in advance, then form the shopping list from that. Takes half an hour on a Saturday morning so a hassle, but ds can chip in too, and it does save some money. There's always at least one night where we go off the menu though and get out the frozen pizza or whatever instead.
of you having some frozen meals though- we've eaten all ours since me and ds were ill and now we have to start again! Can't face more cooking!

Was coming on to moan about dh's old university friends, but a bit silly really. They have decided to visit for the weekend- knowing that it is my due weekend, though in fairness they are not staying here, thankfully! But they are expecting to see dh for a pint or two every day they are here and I am a little bit . Dh has been a saint while me and ds are ill and deserves the chance to kick back and relax with old friends, but I feel kind of vulnerable this weekend, and I need him around, for me. Selfish of me, but I was really cross when they rang earlier and made a bit of a fuss about dh going out . Doesn't help that I don't really like one of the friends anyway. I just think, why would they have ever thought that this would be an appropriate weekend for a visit?????????

Am I being unreasonable???

Nappies Anyone not decided on reusables, I just have to say that I got my Totsbots fluffles easyfit all in ones with star pattern yesterday, washed them, hung them up and they were dry in an hour. They are brill, just as easy as disposables. We also got three bamboo ones and they took MUCH longer to dry so fluffles are the way to go for convenience/ not needing a tumble drier. Wish they had been invented when ds was born!!

Phew! I've been away since Monday afternoon and have just spent about 3 hours catching up on all your posts! I've forgotten most of it...
Great news Comma that the baby has turned.
Fruitpastels and Scarlotti hoping we get some baby news soon (Fruit it is my DD's birthday on Monday too. How old will your DS be? Mine is 3)
Lissy I did an online shop for the first time the other week, and I'm sure I saved money as I didn't have any impulse buys. Also, with Tesco I think the delivery cost £3.50 (if you get it for a time noone else wants), which is only £1.50 more than it costs me to get the bus to town and back, and definitely worth it so I don't have to carry a heavy load.
Wizzy Nice to see you back. I was convinced you must have popped!
Erika Hope things are better with your mum. It was a horrible thing for her to say, but I agree that she is probably stressed out with her own daughter's pregnancy and the lack of money etc.
Ursi You get around £20 a week Child Benefit, at least, and possibly more if you are entitled to Tax Credits. Have a look at www.direct.gov.uk I think you just ring the tax office when your baby is born.
I hope the rest of you are managing ok with all the stresses and strains of the last few weeks of pregnancy. I'm having a lovely time at my parents', but I'm quite missing you guys.

I've been reading Can Any Mother Help Me and getting very sentimental about our little thread. I love how we're all from different places, backgrounds etc, would never know each other in real life, but here we all are sharing this experience together. I hope we can stick together when all our babies are born - and beyond. I'm looking forward to the "Born Nov 2010, Bring On the 18th Birthdays" thread in 2028

I'll be back next week...
(Oh, and I'm having a little family tea party for DD's birthday on saturday, so will be trying out Kyte's infamous cookies)

wook I knew someone would post while I was catching up. I'm glad you're back, I was worrying about you! Would it be a wild guess to assume DH's friends don't have children of their own? Some people don't have a clue.

laugs I thought too it'd be so sad to not read each other again! Def let's have a new non-birthing thread after.

Hugs to everybody that needs them!
Kyte gets some for the cookies and the bad tear. So sorry it happened and hopefully this time you'll sail right through!

erika gets some for diffiucult family and the financial situation. I think you are being very kind helping your mom out and all fingers crossed you dad will keep his job! What a stress.

Lissy my fab relationship book says to, if possible, smile and ignore stupid stuff like that. Tell him he's right and then go and order online exactly what you want, as well as setting up the payment thing. I think all but your DH would say you are smart for doing it. You both get what you want, he can feel like he's right and you can have your online junk food, which you are perfectly entitled too. DPs don't have to sanction everything. You have to pick your fights. And he can eat his veggie soups himself.

wook hug for having to put up with stupid friends...poor thing, bad time for sure. I guess they don't have kids then, otherwise they'd be more careful about intruding like that. Enjoy the time when DH is out if you can.

I know there were plenty others stressed out or sick but can't remember specifics....hope you'll all feel better soon though!

fruit and scalotti Full moon is coming on!!

Wow I really do have the memory of a fish atm, just read everything from today and have already forgotten most of it so sorry if I haven't replied to someting important!

Firstly just to update you on my scan. Had it this eve (for measuring small) and baby looks ok, currently measuring 6lb 7oz so looking at 7.5-8lb at birth which sounds fab to me given last 2 were bigger than that! She seems to be growing fine but just looks like she hasn't laid down much fat yet. So good news on that front.

Comma YAYYYYY that is absolutely fantastic news. I am so pleased for you

Erika Try not to worry about tearing, if you have a good MW you should be fine, also I am only teeny (usually!) and my last 2 were 9lb 4oz and 8lb 13oz, no tears here. Oh actually what does that say about me lol?!

Lissy I am sorry dp is being a totally inconsiderate twonk. Ignore him and do what you want to do. You're pregnant, that means you can do whatever you think is right Sounds like he is just trying to be difficult for the sake of it

Southern I'm sorry you had to see the evil old witch again and she was just as bad I'd definately seek a 2nd opinion if I were you. You are more than entitled to ask. I hope you aren't in too much pain now x

Scarlotti Oooh sounding more hopeful for you now Fingers crossed for tonight!

Wook No you are most definately NOT being unreasonable! I cannot believe some people are soooo stupid. What were they thinking coming to see dp this weekend Lets hope you go into labour tomorrow or Sat morning and spoil all their plans

Right am off to bed now, good luck for anyone who decides to have a baby tonight/early hours, hope all goes well

Laugs are you a year ahead or having the worlds longest pregnancy. Personally, despite being the size of an Elephant I plan on having a 2009 birth

Shopped for 4 hours today! Actually managed to get three sets of pjs, baby socks, more pants and arnica. Whoo hoo watch me go!

Whwn do we start the arnica? is it after birth?

A song for the babies of this thread waiting to make their appearance www.youtube.com/watch?v=a0WMBYQL14U
just imagine them singing the chorus

ninja That's what i was thinking, but was worried it was me being daft

Have i got a rash or stretchmarks? I know none of you can see me, and it doesn't really matter each way, but that is currently what is on my mind...

Morning all,

Fruitpastels thanks for posting Kyte's receipe again, I know what I am going to be doing this weekend!

wook enjoy your nursery sorting this weekend. Your dh's friends definately sound like they don't have children themselves, otherwise they would be a bit more considerate. Maybe let dh out for a couple for good behaviour but make sure he is in contact at all times. Then curl up on the sofa with something yummy to eat (kyte's cookies?!) and a pina colada

southernbelle sorry to hear about your evil consultant, hope you are feeling better this morning and that you can get a second opinion. Hopefully your little one will be here soon and you will be more comfortable.

lissy your ds is being very unreasonable. Think you should just do a shop without telling him and set up the dd's yourself. Why make life harder for yourself by having to traipse into town. Do you think he is taking out his tiredness on you? Not fair I know but maybe he is feeling a bit stressed about the baby and this is how it is manifestering itself, hugs to you.

Ds is doing my head in. He woke me up at 5am this morning and would not go back to sleep and is really whingey. I am shattered Got peppa pig on at the moment and think that cbeebies might be the order for today whilst I have a doze!

Morning everyone.

Hope all is ok with everyone. I am knackered! DH is asleep, has interview today and and is exceptionally stressed. He is very very upset with me and it affected his prep for interview yesterday, made it clear its my fault. Also thinks I think he is thick, stupid, an idiot, a dickhead because he struggled with the presentation, really down on himself and we argued all evening as he refused to work, but instead got stressed. However, thinks it is me who was stressed, angry with him blah blah.

Basically, we popped to local shopping street so DH could get his hair cut after I had Dr appt (in place of MW). I had no glasses so could not drive, DD and I went charity shopping. Agreed he would come and find me when he was done and if we missed each other we would meet back at car at 4:15pm. We only left each other at 3:30pm and there are a lot of charity shops to visit, I walk very very slowly and time passed so quickly. Before i knew it, it was 4:45pm and we rushed back to the car. DH had been looking for us, very very worried, and was really angry at me. I apologised immediately, and he will not accept it. He said I worried him sick and for no reason at all (i probably did not help by saying 'what do you mean No reason? Would you prefer there was a reason?)

So, he has just got up, and you can cut the atmosphere with a knife.

But. I have just checked, and there is a full moon on Monday. He always goes weird with his communication around full moon, he becomes impossible to talk to, he becomes incapable of having conversation about anything, misunderstands or fails to understand me, like he is working on a different level to me, he just seems to have this failure to reason or see any logic. He showed all the signs, hence I looked it up. 4 days before full moon, about right. I have always called it Pre Moon Stress! We have had a biggest arguments around full moon, 12 years and he still refuses to recognise it.

Wook, how silly is that? there are about 51 better weekends this year! I suppose your husband can't even really enjoy meeting them anyway. But I'm sure he will be watching his phone all the time and be there for you when you need him. Is there anything nice you could do to keep you busy? I have a similar (and opposite) problem:
My husband has an Arsenal season ticket for this year (an opportunity he just really had to go for even if it is probably not the best year) so tomorrow (due date) is one of the most important matches of the year and since weeks he is telling everybody that his baby is supposed to be born on this day. I actually told him that he can go there if there are no signs of labour (as I always thought and think I will be a little bit late, and it will be more difficult once the baby is born) but he is not allowed to have a single beer! I really don't want beer smell when in labour. Surprisingly he considers to not going there at all as he couldn't really enjoy it [hmmm]. He is really convinced the baby will come on her due date. He is a mathematician, so if it says 31st October in my notes there is no other possibility! And I think he would love the idea of telling the story how he missed this important game for the birth of his first child... (he proposed to me on the day of the european championship finals in Vienna, a day he had been waiting for for years and therefore missed the game! In his world the biggest proove of love ever)
Ok, actually that has nothing to do with this thread, sorry! But I blame laugs who made me all sentimental with her post (and thanks for the Child benefit info btw). Ok, off for my pineapple breakfast (I have to get this baby out tomorrow otherwise I will have a husband who doesn't understand the world anymore

Sorry that was a right ol moan .

Morning all,

Oh Pav and lissy man can be very strange creatures can't they?! I hope both your ohs came round today!

wook What has your dp said about going out with his friends? Does he want to go? Could he maybe just meet them once over the weekend but be the driver so he can't drink and can therefore be available for you?

Comma so pleased your baby has turned.

FruitP Thank you for posting Kytes recipe again, I'm just about to do a ASDA online shop so will add the ingredients on mmmmm

Southern Sorry you are having such a bad time of it, I really hope you can get a second opinion.

erika I wonder if your mum's financial struggle this week had anything to do with her outburst at you? (still no excuse for what she said though) very kind of you to help to help her out though!

Ursi Your Dh is so romantic, hope your baby turns up on time

Well my step dad had his heart bypass yesterday, helips thank you so much for asking after him, his heart was alot worse than 1st thought but they feel they have sorted it and have said he is a very lucky man to still be alive. He will stay in ICU until Saturday at the earliest, then they will start pushing him to get up etc.

Morning all

Am so fed up nothing is progressing despite another evening of cramps and tightenings. My tummy is sore where the muscles have been contracting and the muscles in my back and legs are sore too. Was sure things would progress last night so feeling deflated today. Doesn't help that the midwife indicated it would only be 24 hours or so until I gave birth ... 3 days ago! Feel guilty that Mum has come all this way just to wait around a lot, although I don't think she minds.
Am grumpy and irritable but trying to keep it under wraps so I don't take it out on anyone. Sigh.

Sorry for the me, me post but need to rant.

southern hope you get a 2nd opinion soon, that consultant sounds awful.

lissy I too think your DP is being a bit of an arse and a little controlling. Do what you want anyway, we've always saved money shopping online as you don't pick up anything you don't need. Direct debits also stop you missing deadlines for bills and incurring late charges.

Pav sorry your DH is being a bit edgy too, hopefully it's just nerves etc. at the interview and his pre-moon-ness. Hope it goes well for him today and you have something to celebrate tonight.

Oh scarlotti any news??

x posts scarlotti

scarlotti sorry things aren't progressing very quickly, am I right in thinking this is your 3rd? This is my 3rd and mw has told me they often play around in labour!

tigger glad your step dad's operation went well and he looks as though recovery has started well. Hope he continues to get stronger

Laugs DS will be 4 on Monday. I feel bad not holding a party for him. But Ive no energy to organise it. Also, don't want to cancel if I go into labour and dissapoint a group of 4 yr olds! Instead, he has a friend visiting for lunch and we can have a nice family meal of an evening with lots of cake - I'm looking foward to that Are you doing anything for your DD's birthday?

Scarlotti It's so hard to keep upbeat, I know how you're feeling. We both seem to be going through the same process the past few days. I'm sure things will move on soon enough. Maybe we'll have Halloween babies

scarlotti hope things move along quickly for you. Holding thumbs.

DD's concert was excellent last night. DD looked beautiful - my little flower! I almost cried looking at her. She is getting so big! drying off tears....

well, I kept her home today so we will be having a mum and daughter day. Off to bake some cookies (just getting the energy fairy here....)

Oh yes, and tomorrow DH and I will be taking her for a haircut at a special hairsalon for children, the place is so cute. and after that we will be taking her to feed the horses and lamas and monkeys at a farm and having ice-cream. So looking forward to it.

Well, have a nice day everyone

pavlov, sorry had x-posted with you. Poor you, but I can understand that your husband is under lot of stress, especially as this time he seems to be so close to get the job. (and in addition his moon-problem!) I suppose there is no way you can actually do or say the right thing, so let's just hope you will have something to celebrate tonight.
scarlotti, sorry to hear that things aren't progressing. You should probably try and find other things to do then waiting. Maybe you could do something nice with your mum as she is already here?

morning all, felt very crampy/stomach upset-like, with back-ache, last night and through to this morning. thought it may be the onset, but after having a drink and paracetamol it eventually calmed down at 6.15. am disappointed, as that is how everything started with ds, but it could start up again i guess.

hope you are doing better than me scarlotti, and progress.

pav, men can be stange things sometimes, I suppose it is just worry, but he was definately a bit ott. hopefully after today he will have calmed down for you.

Morning.

pavlov keeping my fingers crossed for your dh today. Sorry to hear about the argument, just put it down to stress. I hope he gets the good news soon and the warewolf side disappears.

comma so pleased for you at the baby turning!

scarlotti don't be sorry for moaning on here. That's what we're here for and it's much better than growling at the family in rl. Sending you hugs and maybe play ninja's song to the lo to get him moving.

lissy sorry to hear about dp. This is a bit strange, how he feels about the internet banking - with all its faults, this is one of the brilliant things that the net offers, making life easier for millions of people. Just do it yourself and don't worry about him. Sorry he's causing you all the stress at this time, though.

tigger good news about dsd, sounds like they caught it just in time. Wishing him a speedy recovery so that he can enjoy his grandchildren to the full.

laugs my thoughts exactly - to the last mushy detail. I don't really have anybody in rl in the same situation - apart from a friend with a 4 month old and my sister, who's all the way back in Poland - so sharing this time with you all on here has been fantastic. And still so much more to come.

Have a good day everyone. xx

Thanks for all your lovely posts am feeling a little better now and have worked out that Mum has only been here 2 days with no progress, so not quite so guilty now that nothing is happening.
tigger yep, baby no. 3 and it does seem true that it's a stop start affair. Part of the issue for me is that I've always had breaking waters, a short bit of time then good established labour with a baby a few hours later. This is so alien I don't know what to expect.

Am hoping the fact it's the Fonz's birthday today will make a difference

trikken fingers crossed this is the start of it for you too.