Due October 2009 - To nest is best....

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My first thread!

Morning all, dh is taking 2wks paternity. He only took one last time but as I was in labour/hosp for so long I came home on the sat and he was back in work on the weds. I just about managed but this time I've got dd to entertain aswell. Its only just struck DH that he's only going to get £123 for two weeks and given that I'm a sahm we basically won't survive! As long as we can keep the wolves from the door, I don't care. I've got a load of shopping in already and we can dip into the overdraft for the mortgage. Its not like we'll spend much money in those first two weeks!

carpal tunnel I get this intermittently although mostly when I was bfing dd. Good posture, try to keep your hands elevated and keep circling your wrists occasionally. I got some nerve exercises from the physio which are most unpleasant but did help alot.

HT I sympathise with you, at my antenatal class with dd I was due the first and was much bigger than everyone else, yet I was the last to go! Very annoying, why don't these babies understand due dates

hackney I had so much BH/slow/false labour with DD I will refuse to believe "this is it" until I've tried EVERYTHING to stop it. Couple that with knowing that I need sleep, this time (rather than being too excited to) I'm more than happy to go to bed and think, I'll see if I'm still here in the morning!

arrghh.
more blood, more back cramps. not much else.
feeling so uncomfortable.

scan tomorrow afternoon to see how big baby is. i'm wondering whether they'll want to give me an internal after having a show.

i called anc yesterday and they said if i had too much fresh blood loss i'll need anti-d again. we'll see what they say tomorrow.

taking ds to playgroup today. can't be bothered but must keep doing things or i'll go out of my mind!

ruby, what's the reflexololgy for? to bring on labour? i could do with a foot rub

aw Devils ... so frustrating ... something is happening though - see what they say at the hospital tomorrow

Reflexology is to try to get things going

Morning all,

DA - I hope you're taking it easy just in case, and I would give anything to lose some weight at the moment.

SammySam - Re your question OH will be taking his two weeks in two seperate chunks, one will definitely be during his parents staying for a week, as lovely as they are and I do get on well with them they can be a bit much to handle so he'll be around for moral support.

As long as the lo arrives on time, my mum will be staying for the first two weeks, then his folks and then my little sister (who is over the moon at being an aunty) and then he'll probably take his second week once she's left.

Blimey, Newbee you're a braver woman than I!! Make sure you set your ground rules, like if anyone, they have to leave the room when it comes to bfing etc, make you tea, and generally wait on you hand and foot. No way I could cope with that postnatally.

DA hope something happens today. I'm having weekly reflexology and its utter bliss. Helps to relax you, sooths the aches and pains, helps you sleep and can be used to induce labour. If you look on the AOR website you can search for one in your area.

Ruby Hope your headache gets better.

re: paternity

dh will take two weeks smp (can't take as holiday as dh is a teacher). well hopefully as we still don't have the matb1 form. gp should have sorted it today.

I love that this thread is now going so fast, but its stopping me from doing anything else!

DA thats a bit harsh that they're making your dh provide a matb1. He can def take unpaid parental leave and then sort out after if necessary.

Hi all,
I am having a duvet day today. My friend has offered to do all the school runs. I am feeling coldy still and genrally groggy.

Last night after my 1 hour long BH I had more normal length ones, but these felt a bit different to normal. Dare I say they hurt a bit... but nothing in night (as far as I was aware) and nothing now.

I did put a waterproof mat under my sheet last night though. Just in case. And put a few vests, babygros and hats in the hopital bag. I realised when I was doing this that we have no newborn sized babygros . Very odd. They could still be in the loft..but otherwise I'll make do with bigger ones and wait for gifts!!

DA Keep positive, something is happening and it's all going in the right direction. x

paternity leave , dh is not using this as we can't afford to live of it. So he has saved holiday up. We didn't go anywhere all summer because of this. At Christmas he will be on call from Xmas day till New years day, 24 hours a day, all 7 days of the week It's his turn on the rota and very crap.

littlepea great news about getting a date So fab!!

Hi Smallone thankfully my mum and sister and I are very close, and they know the boundries, and even better know that if I say enough is enough then they'll biff off and do their own thing, or even take the lo off me so I can sleep/eat/bath etc...

My inlaws are my only real concern, but I can't exactly tell them they can't come and see their new Grand Daughter. Unfortunately due to other things (which I posted a rant about a few weeks ago) they can only make it that week, and we won't see them again until Xmas. Hopefully having the OH at home will support me and give me the chance to get rid of everyone if I need them to go.

Sorry rant moment - please just ignore this post - I have to vent.

Just found out one of the girls I work with, who I go to lunch with occasionally has the flu and didn't tell me because she didn't want me to cancel lunch with her (she is a bit clingy like that)

She knows I've not been able to see some really good mates for ages now as they've been on and off ill, but still wouldn't mention that she's not well.

Well at least now I know where I got this sodding cold from!!!!

ARGH!

Morning all,
sammysam re paternity leave, as we own a shop that DP runs he just can't take 2 weeks but has promised me that he will be taking some days off in the early stages (instead of the usual working 6-7 days per week, I tell myself it's because it's trying to get ahead before the baby comes!).
Also, I see you're making wedding plans too - when is the big day? Mine's not until next July but I'm trying to get as many things done as poss before baby comes. I think you're local to me, do you mind me asking where you're getting married? I have the name of a great home-visiting beautician too if you fancy a pick-me-up after the birth or just a trial!
I'm so jealous re everyone's families planning to visit and cook/clean etc. Mine are all on the other side of the world (thank goodness for SKYPE) so we are relying on MIL2B. She didn't realise what she was letting herself in for when she offered any help that I need!
Have a good day everyone.
KK

Sounds like you've got it under control newbee. I've got the inlaws coming to visit at the hosp, and then bog off home again. My parents are coming to look after dd til I'm home from hosp and then they'll go home too. They all live 100-150 miles away but I can't cope with them in my house.

I was imagining cuddling my baby this morning, its the first time its struck me, I think I might be finally coming to terms with the fact that I'm having a baby!

Thanks Smallone thankfully mum my has reserved a room in the local B&B just in case we get under each others feet, and well my sister is as low key as you get, she's already said I'm not allowed to do anything and that she'll be running around after me. Has even said I have to teach her to change nappies!!!!

kowaikiwi-I'm originally from Farnham but live in Poole, Dorset now! My sister is getting married in December though-she works near you and lives near Aldershot. She hasn't sorted a beautician out yet so could I have the number for her?!
Our wedding is set for the 19th June-so a little way off-but like you we're trying to get all the major things sorted before the baby arrives......might have left it a tad late though

Thanks for all the info re pat leave. DP's work have said that you have to take the 2 wks together and the government say you can't pay more than the £123. Is that a load of bollocks? They are normally very very good and generous so I find it hard to think they are making it up-maybe they just haven't read it right?! DP is worried about the money thing and is thinking he might only be able to take a week. We were both really relying on the 2 wks. How are you supposed to live on that money?! We wandered if you could take one week pat leave then one holiday and the next month take the 2nd pat leave wk-anyone know if you can do that?

Re caterers-no tastings yet -though prob best as most food makes me feel sick still so prob not the best time!!

Going to see the florist on thurs-don't want to have to cancel the appt so the baby will have to wait!!! Just want to get some of the big things sorted so we don't have to worry about it

Think my mum has just pulled up so better go! Hopeing we can get the rest of the cleaning/sorted done-phew!

Hope everyone is ok x x x

Morning All

What a lot of posts for this time of the morning - all made before I got out of bed.

Only had about 4 hours sleep tho' as DS1 has decided after vomiting at night for a week and then consequently suffering from constipation that made him cry with pain on the nights that he was vomiting - that he does not want to sleep at all - other than when completley exhausted.
Lay down with him last night for 2 hours - was almost completly silent but no sleep - when I swapped with DP (not so DP at the moment due to his crapness) he kicked off screaming for an hour after which DP fell asleep but not DS1 - DS1 instead came to find me. I then tried to get him into his own bed for another 2 hours - which resulted in a 2 hour long tantrum finally suceeded in getting him to sleep by giving in and letting him sleep in our bed which I was trying not to do but DP doesn't back me up and gives in way too early and told him several times to get into bed with us.

For a child who has been a really good all night sleeper for months - in his own single bed - I'm wondering if it is not only s left over from him being sick and super clingy to me or whether he realises that he is about to be usurped as mum's no 1 son.

Am so glad that my mum arrives from NZ on Friday - hopefully the fact that we are very similar in appearance and voice will work as well with DS1 as it did when he was born.

Sorry for the long pity post - but am so exhausted and DP is still in bed - has day off and is meant to be getting on with building the bathroom and installing the shower in time for mum on friday - but he is really selfish and self-centred and is like living with a teenage boy at the moment. Hopefully I can persuade him to get out of bed so we can take DS1 for some fresh air and to wear him out, so he will have a nap around lunchtime.

As to paternity leave he is taking 2 weeks and then however much leave probably another 2 weeks. We were really lucky when DS1 was born a month before Xmas because he pretty much had all of December off, not as much this time but pretty good when Xmas does come becasue of the dates of the Stat hols.

Waiting anxiously to hear if there are any babies making appearances - sending good vibes to everyone.

JDM

Hi JamesDavidsMum - I'm from NZ too but been here almost 6 years now. I really envy you having your mum come over. My family have already planned to come over for the wedding next year so it's too much for them to come now as well My mum did say she would come for Xmas but as we won't have a spare room (baby is going to have to share the office!) it would just cost too much.
Grizzle over! All 2nd (and 3rd etc) time mums - you are complete legends for going through this with little ones in tow, respect.
sammysam the lady I've been recommended is Tina's Treats 01252879241 (think she's in Blackwater over by Camberley way but can come to your home) www.nu4u2.co.uk/shop-about-us.html.
I'm going to stop posting now - can you tell it's the first day I've had that I've got nothing to do! (There's only so much daytime TV you can watch, and unfortunately I can't waddle far anymore).
KK

Thanks re carpel tunnel advice HappyTangerine - in fact my doctors were great and got me a hospital appt with the physio within 24 hours of me seeing them, so have a hand brace to wear at night now which should hopefully make a difference.

Also, re Paternity Pay Sammysam - that must be a load of bollocks that your DP's work has told him - we are very lucky in that my DH gets two weeks fully paid paternity leave, so it must be possible for them to pay more than the statutory amount.

Devils I casn sense your frustration and sympathise hugely. Hang on in there, sending you all good vibes for tomorrow

JamesDavidsMum you sound like you've had a helluva night, no wonder you're exhausted. If your DP is still in bed, grab a hammer and act like you're doing the bathroom yourself, that should shift him or at the very least wake him up! Alternatively, I could send my legendary next door neighbour round-he's been hammering away next door for days (we think he's building an ark) and am sure would love to help. Hope your DS has a better night.

sammysam not sure of the rates but DH also has to take the 2 weeks together, its non-negotiable where he is.

princessmel enjoy the duvet day, hope it does you the world of good and you feel better sooon.

My mum and sister are 200 odd miles away in Wales so will only be able to come up on a weekend. They'll probably stay with my MIL,we took them all on holiday to Ireland a few years ago and they all get on really well-it helps that both mums are very Catholic. I think the only issue I may have is with my SIL who thinks she can drop in as and when but hates it when people do the same to her. Think she's slowly taking the hint though. Most of my family are going to meet the baby when I take him down to Wales-bit concerned that he'll be in a car seat for 3hrs+ but we'll just have to take long breaks in between.

I slept for almost 8hrs last night..in the same bed as DH all night. Slept so deeply that I didn't even hear his snoring.Dare I say it but this old does seem to have its advantages!

that was supposed to read this Cold does seem to have its advantages!

lol ht. i was wondering what you meant!

i am so impatient. i was better before i had my show. i think it has gotten my hopes up a disproportionate amount.

thinking of braving a long walk this afternoon. gah. roll on tomorrow!

Feeling sorry for all those struggling to sleep. I'm very lucky and have slept well generally this pregnancy, unlike poor DH who was kept awake last night by my loud snoring . I only do this when pregnant (I think!)

Hello everyone. It's been a while since I posted but there's not been much to say really - I have been keeping up with everyone's news though.

I'm officially on maternity leave now (and really enjoying not being at work!) so I should be able to keep up with the thread.

Congratulations to theboob on the safe arrival of Madison and devils I am very of your progress.

I'm due next Friday and the head is down but isn't even slightly engaged yet which seems a bit unusual for a first baby, but my GP assures me it's fine. Not sure I am completely reassured. Nothing I can do but wait. Has anyone got any experience of good outcomes with a first baby where the head hasn't engaged until after 39 weeks or until labour they can cheer me up with ? I really don't want to be induced and the thought of a CS really terrifies me.

Adding myself to the list...

Don't Know
KleineMaus - 27/09/09
Rubyslippers - 04/10/09
Fidelma - 06/10/09
Sparklytwinkletoes - 06/10/09
Treats - 07/10/09
Saraheb - 08/10/09
Sugarkane - 08/10/09
Devilsadvocaat - 09/10/09
Heylottie - 09/10/09
Smallone - 11/10/09
Hackneybird - 15/10/09
Mossop - 21/10/09
Peachespaige - 26/10/09

Boy
Humphreyscorner - 29/09/09
HappyTangerine - 30/09/09
BellaCullen - 02/10/09
JamesDavidMum - 02/10/09
Willmouse- 06/10/09
KKKKaty - 10/10/09
SassJ - 12/10/09
Princessmel - 21/10/09
Cookiemonster1 - 2/10/09

Girl
Idreamofbeanie - 27/09/09
Sammysam - 27/09/09
Twinklegreen - 28/09/09
Calypsoflame - 30/09/09
Jules888 - 8/10/09
Lix - 10/10/09
Littlepea72 - 12/10/09
MeHimCatBlob - 25/10/09
Lal123 - 26/10/09
NewbeeMummy - 21/10/09
Jellytotz - 21/10/09
MrsHappy - 23/10/09

Arrivals
theboob - Madison Rose born 14/09/09

sammysam my dh is taking his paternity leave over three weeks but getting paid 2 weeks paternity pay and working days in between. This is because he is project managing some important projects and needs to be available for everything to go smoothly. This suits his work as well as us. Work are going to process it as 2 weeks together but that is not what is actually happening. Luckily his work can see the benefit to them and have no problems in being flexible.

Went to see the consultant today and she thinks the baby will be about the same as dd - 9lb - so not bad. And.....it has turned and is no longer back-to-back yippee. All that time spent looking undignified on hands and knees and then having to get back up was worth it.

She has also now signed me off into the widwives care only saying I can plan for a normal birth and they won't try to induce me early - double yippee.

Only negative is that my urine tested positive for blood, protein and leukocytes - but midwife didn't seem concerned and consultant didn't either. Midwife said I was either brewing an infection or was in early stages of labour. Anyone else have this?