Due October 2009 - To nest is best....

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My first thread!

Happy Tangerine IT DOES GET EASIER! The first 6 weeks are the worst.

smallone - to your friends if they ask about the birth just laugh and say 'you don't want to know'. They probably don't want to know and if they don't have children they won't understand anyway.

I had a horrendous birth with DS1. Everything went wrong. I did talk about it a bit to people but they didn't understand. It took me a long while to get over it and only recently when I discussed the birth notes with the midwife was I able to deal with it fully.

Deal with it in your own time and don't worry about saying anything to anyone.

Hi everyone - am 40+6 today and thoroughly miserable.

Baby wasn't moving much at all yesterday, so went in to be checked - trace is fine, got a scan at 11 this morning.

But, baby's head is still high so they won't do a s+s, i've had a previous c-sec so they won't induce and the only path it seems I have left is an elective cs or sit and wait - but I feel like the baby blues are kicking in and I haven't had it yet .

IDOB is having an induction today I think - hope it all goes well.

Hi sparklytwinkletoes I am 40+4 today and know how you feel. I just want the baby to come so much - especially after a sleepless night. Every feeling of pressure in my pelvis I keep willing to turn into full cx but no luck so far.

Glad trace was fine. I keep thinking how long 42 weeks is and despair at the thought. Sending cx fibes your way.

DA what bad luck, I am in total awe of those of you with newborns and other LOs!

Big congratulations jules and littlepea well done to both of you!

Ruby and HappyTangerine hope you both had better nights last night. I'm seeing a small improvement - managed to sleep through 1.5 hours of Annalise's whining... I can't believe it's not something wrong. It seems so strange that a baby would fidget, arch her back, stretch, whinge, whine, sigh ALL NIGHT LONG - all whilst seemingly asleep?!

She's also a very pukey baby, fed her for around 40mins at 7am, then she brought what must have been all of it over my arm, pillow, herself and the sheet Then had to start again on the other boob for another 40mins.

any ADVICE please! Annalise isn't so pretty these last 2 days. She's 14 days today and has a red rash over her cheeks, red spots with white heads over her chest and tummy and very dry skin. What to do? She seems so young to have all these already?

All the best to those on the verge of birthing

Good luck Andrea and Peaches,
Hugs to STT

I agree that it does get easier. You need to try and say to yourself that all these things pass.(easier said than done) And that it wont spoil your baby if you hold them all the time or let them fall asleep in your bed etc. In time you can try and change these things, if you want to..
I am expecting to need to hold this baby alot for the first 6 weeks (just like dd and ds) and am expecting to be feeding ALOT aswell. I agree that if you can manage it, lying down feeding is really fab. You can dose and feed at the same time.

Those who are overdue, I sympathise. I was late with ds and dd and it was very waring after a while. But just think it can't be much more than a few weeks at most and then all this will seem so far away.

Calypso those spots are really common. They look like teenage spots don't they? They do disappear after a while.
I agree they look odd on such a tiny baby though!!

Re the noises, babies can be really LOUD!!! I ended up wearing earpulgs. I could still hear dd if she woke up, but they dulled the teeny noises iykwim.

ds has white spots, red rash and peeling skin! not very attractive. put olive oil on peeling skin, not on spots tho

hello all

another miserable night for us ... she is very hungry

MW suggested top ups which i am not keen to do as it will intefere with my supply - am going to try and ride it out as long as i can

sparkly - sorry you feel so low ... i ha dno signs of anything doing and then BAM. Fingers crossed

princess - i hope you are doing ok too

devils - my DD is covered in peeling skin. Will cover her in olive oil tonight

calypso - i was weepy when my mum went home and she only lives 3 hours away

I think i have cried every day TBH

hormones still a bit wonky

Lots of love to all - and lots of birthing vibes to the overdue ladies

Hi everyone

Just want to sympathise with everyone who's finding it hard - DH and I have had some really bad moments, although the good bits are now outnumbering the bad bits. When you think about the huge adjustment you have to go through - not just physical, but emotional as well - it's not surprising that we find it hard. DH and are I getting through it by making plans for each day and for each time she goes through a difficult patch - i.e. I'll stay awake for a couple of hours to try and calm her enough to do a feed, then i'll wake him to settle her to sleep while I catch up on sleep before the next feed. Teamwork is the name of the game.

Calypso - to hear that you're suffering. Look forward to catching up so that you can tell me all about it. BTW - we registered Isabel in Wandsworth. Strictly speaking, we should have registered in Lambeth, because that's where she was born, but they couldn't get us an appointment until after DH has to go back to work, so we did it in Wandsworth instead, where we could get seen the next day......

Thinking of all you ladies who are still waiting to give birth. It must be very frustrating having the rest of us gossiping about feeding and sleeping.....

I am reading what everyone is going through and feeling . I was nervous before, but am even more apprehensive now!

Waiting for a baby to arrive just has to be one of the most surreal experiences ever. I'm not even due until Thurs.

I am thinking of you all and sending virtual hugs.
xx

rubyslippers thank you. I'm 40+2 and have had no signs of anything so yr post has cheered me up a bit today! Funny how this thread is split now but keep it going, I'm soaking up all the tips I can get.
Keep smiling everyone x

It's a bit of an emotional rollercoaster for everyone isn't it? Am sorry some new mummies are struggling a bit. I have been told it gets easier but what do I know?!! Haven't even had my first yet!

Baby was due last Friday and I tell you, I have no twinges or anything, so I don't think this baby will budge. Unless baby arrives by stealth and takes me by surprise but i doubt it.

Am booked for induction on Friday. Sigh. Will jig up and down a bit in despair...

Congratulations jules and littlepea

More hugs for everyone feeling low.

Andrea and peaches - thinking of you, will check back for news.

heylottie and kowaikiiwi I had prett much resigned myself to an induction when I went into slow labour so there's still time x

sparkly So sorry you had such a scare, how was the scan?

IDOB-thinking of you today

We had a slightly better night. DH and I took turns to sleep during the day (Treats I so identify with what you said about teamwork). In the night, I fed Joseph in bed for a little while and we co-slept. Got 2 lots of 1.5 hrs sleep. DH kept walking in to check on us and said most of the time he checked we were both asleep but on 2 occasions, I was asleep and Joseph had latched on on his own and was suckling away. I've been a bit iffy about co-sleeping but midwife has been v reasuring about it today and hey-we got some sleep.

Speaking of midwife, she came and did all the checks plus heel prick. Says Joseph is feeding well and latching on fine. We talked through my nightmare experience on postntatal(you don't know abou this yet but I almost gave up bf due to the rash actions of one cow of a midwife-will inc in birth story).I explained how negatively I still feel and that I am considering taking it further and she is actively encouraging me to lodge a formal complaint. I want to wait until I can think a bit more rationally but am seriously considering it. The birth experience was amazing and to have it ruined was heartbreaking.

Love to all x

Sorry, forgot the most important bit- THANK YOU for all your words of encouragement x

Congratulations jules and littlepea on the birth of your babies.

Baby blues here a tad so sobbing on mums in the playground. Matthew is sick and screaming in pain most of the night so even holding him doesn't help. Have bought some Infacol today so trying that. Sympathies to those going through the same thing. Never had this with either of the girls. Baby blues and no sleep is the pits!

Love to all.

HC
x

Hi all, have had a much better day / afternoon / evening after my scan. Saw a lovely sonographer, bit too nice really, she made me cry!

I felt baby bumping around in the taxi on the way to the hospital and when I was scanned we couldn't see baby's head as its disappeared into my pelvis! Hurrah! Its also flipped from right hand side to left hand side which sonographer said was best position for labour.

So, I got home and collapsed in bed and slept for just under four hours! When I woke, I booked myself an appt with a reflexologist my midwife recommended, so she's coming tomorrow at 3. I've also got tesco's delivering in the morning so maybe just having plans will encourage baby along?

Also, went round to a friends for tea, walked there (about 2 miles) and could feel baby's head bumping around the whole time, not painful, just a bit odd really, I never had that feeling with DS. I hope that's a good sign.

The sonographer calculated that the baby is currently only about 7lb 10z, which compared to DS' 8lb's on his EDD is a lightweight - makes me feel better too as both MW and consultant have said it was a 'big one' .

So now, I just need labour to start...

40+6 and still no signs......

heylottie, can you please CAT me. I emailed you, but got your out of office message. Thanks!

Ps. Sorry for butting in!

just caught up, congarts to all of you that have had litte ones since thursday - seems to be so many of you.

Really hope thinbgs get easier for those of you that are struggling with new arrivals sleeping/bf'ing etc.

Just waiting for mine to arrive, only due wed next week, but have had enough, constantly getting cramps across my lower abdomen, and lower back, so hoping it's a sign that things are going to happen soon. I'm also really struggling with my right side of my hip, sometimes when I wake in the middle of teh night to go to the loo I can hardly walk and end up having to hop on one legand use the railing on the landing to get there, not easy when I'm feeling so huge and unbalanced.

Went to see midwife yesterday, but had a stand in who was next to useless and wasn't really able to help with my questions about the cramps and back ache.

Sorry to moan, just feeling generally down, not helped that DP is really keen on the arrival of lo and I feel like I'm anmoying him by not delivering (he's not said anything but I can see he's getting a bit impaitent)

Hi all.

sparkly glad the scan went well.

Ive just got back from my antenatal appointment. Ended up on the trace machine and then in with Consultant as I mentioned the babys movements were quiet yesterday and after being measured Im 2-3 weeks bigger than my dates.
Anyway baby is moving around fine and they arent too worried about size as its only 2 weeks bigger.

Babys head is still 3/5ths engaged but as its my third it might not engage until labour.

Im not due until the 26th but both boys came at 39 weeks so Im a bit impatient!

Hope you are al having a good day.

Hi all, much better here, I'm coming out of the clouds I think. I've booked my debrief with my consultant today for the end of oct. and I'm managing to talk about the birth a bit more. Everytime I tell it it gets a bit easier. Am writing it out on comp at the mo so when I've finished I'll c+p here. Its a bit epic tho. I've discovered since writing it that actually I did better than I thought for longer than I thought and really its only the last few hours that I need to go over.

Any overdue's, look up acupressure points on you tube, I did the one above inside of ankle bone for a couple of days and got DH to give it a really good poke the night before I went into labour (39wks).

George is very sleepy so I may just be lucky with the nights but we're topping him up with ebm. I express in the first feed of the day and then in the evening I feed him at 9ish, DH tops him up with about an ounce from a cup (mileda one from MW). Then we go to bed at 10.30ish and I give him one last feed and that generally sees him through for a good few hours. That extra ounce makes all the difference IMO, otherwise he's fiddling about returning to the boob for hours.

I hope everyone is having better days.

I am glad that YOU are having a better day smallone. xx

What a quiet day.I hope you are all getting some good R and R (not likely!)

Same old day for me school madness in the morning then feeding sleeping, playing with DS1 and general housework and food preperation.My mum comes over every day and gives me a hand I am soooooo lucky.

Breasts now setteling down a bit.We are still awaiting the results for swine flu but I will eat my hat if it's not been it.Everyone is now back at school.I still feel a little bit worse for wear.Connor does sleep in his moses basket,sometimes especially if I put a warm sheepskin in firstThen during the night he is in bed with me.(anything not to get up)

Thinking of you all. x

Well it has gone quite on here, hope it's because you're all off having your babies

Sorry to hear that some of you are having a hard time with lack of sleep/hormones/unsettled babies, I was exactly the same with my first, I remember it well. You just have to remember that every week it gets easier.

Well my dh is back at work tomorrow so that's the end of my babymoon trying not to feel to sad that it's the last time I'll be doing this. It will be interesting coping with three dc's on my own tomorrow! The lady who is meant to be covering for me at the playgroup I run has just cancelled on me so it looks like I'm running it tomorrow too! Have to dig out a story and prepare a craft activity between now and tomorrow morning

Oh well back to real life! I'm very lucky really, Amelie is just delicious, she's a very contented little soul. She is only waking twice in the night so I'm really not feeling that sleep deprived, in fact I'm getting more sleep than when I was pregnant (due to having to wee every hour during the night). Just sitting here watching her sleeping thinking what a miracle this pregnancy and birth thing is We're all producing these brand new little people!

Hello, I'm here!
I'm not posting much as I just have the same things to say.

Loads of twinges, tightenings, bh, shows but no baby. I'm boring myself let alone you.