Due October 2009 - To nest is best....

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My first thread!

Congratulations Sugarkane on the birth of Aiden. Take care now and hope the transfusion goes well.

Ohmani-so true the things you put.

Calypso-sorry you feel down but agree it doesn't always turn in PND. Feeling a tad weepy myself today, it is when I try and do too much which means Matthew gets left and he starts crying.

Infact, he seems to cry alot today. Must be a growth spurt as he is feeding lots too.

Love to all.

HC
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Hi all, just wanted to say thankyou for the kind thoughts, am still reading posts every few days. Congratulations to the new arrivals. Still cry whenever I "open the box" of the labour but its a little bit better every day. I think I'm going to try and write it down at some point as that will prob get it straight in my head. Am really anxious about seeing my friends coz I know they'll ask me about it and I know I'll lose it.

George is horribly jaundiced so am a feeding machine at the mo trying to get it to clear. MW back tommorow and if he's no better we may have to go back into hosp.

Thinking of you smallone and calypso. xx

for all of us feeling weepy or a bit down.

1. eat little and often even if you don't feel like it.

2.sleep whenever you can.

3.take painkillers if you are in pain.

4.ask people (DH/OH/friends/family)for help even if it is just to let you sleep.

5.easy food,children will be fine with beans on toast,boiled eggs etc for a few weeks.

6.sleep and eat whenever you can it makes a huge difference.

7.don't sweat the small stuff.

8.Have a dam good cry.

I have been doing all of the above and I now feel much much better.

HC congratulations on baby Mathew.I bet your world has turned blue !!!after my girls and then DS people used to ask what I had I would awnser "a blue one" !!!!

I am looking forward to xfactor with my girls hopefully the boys will both be asleep and DH watching endless rugby in the other room.

calypso just take it a day at a time and I hope it feels better for you soon.

smallone we are here whenever you are ready to share. Thinking of you.

Sorry to feel some of you are feeling down

Be kind to yourself and do all the fidelma suggests.

xx

big hugs - this parenting thing is bloody hard

ruby fed every hour last night - as i am breastfeeding she is permanently attached to me and i have sobbed over her head at some points in the night

i have learnt to feed her laying down which at least means i can rest a bit too - anything to get some sleep IMO

sleep deprivation is the pits - Fidelma's list is excellent

Hi all, sorry to hear from those finding it tough 'on the other side', makes me think twice about being impatient with this stubborn little one - 40+4 today and no signs of any progress.

Ruby, that sounds like a really tough night, hopefully it will settle down and space out for you soon - at least with the BF you can stay in bed together, well done for mastering the feeding laying down so quickly - it took me ages to get the hang of it last time, but am hoping it will be easier this time as at least one of us will have done it before!

Fidelma's list is fab, wish I'd had that first time around and I hope it helps those feeling a bit down - hopefully it won't last long and you'll all be back to your 'normal' selves again soon.

Am being really naughty tonight and having a glass of red wine - had a curry last night but all thats done is increase the trump rate and raise the whiffometer a few levels - so, have decided to try and chill, but to be honest, just feel completely obsessed and is if life is on hold until baby arrives now.

Sorry for selfish post.

Morning all.

Calypso I remember when ds1 was born. Id waited so long and had all of these ideas about how it would be, totally wonderful etc and when we brought him home I was terrified!! Dp started noticing that every time he left the room we were in I would follow him, so scarred in case ds woke and I had to deal with him. I absolutely loved him wholey but was totally unable to bf and felt like a complete failure, my confidence was so badly knocked that I was scarred of him plus dp was so brilliant.

We are only human and will make mistakes, get scarred, feel down etc you are perfectly normal and sleep is a mighty emotion effecter. Dont try and be wonder woman or super mum, take it slow and do like Fidelma says. The fact that you feel wobbly sometimes is because you love this baby sooooo much.

Ps when ds1 was born it was pretty traumatic and I actually said to the mw "You know when people say, as soon as I saw the baby I forgot all about the pain, it was so worth it.....when will that happen for me"!!!. It took me a long time toadmit that!

Now Im having number 3 .

smallone i hope its getting easier for you too. When your ready to talk we are here o listen.

smallone, can your oh just prewarn your friends that you aren't ready to talk about the birth yet? i think writing it down might help. maybe just give a very brief story with things you are comfortable saying?

calypso, another thing you can do if lo snuffles a lot at night is to raise one side of them with a blanket so they are lying more on their side than completely flat on their backs. i have done this with both dss now as they make so much noise otherwise. not sure where it fits in with the advice but my hv didn't see it as a problem.

fidelma thanks for the top tips, you are so right and I will make a point of following them as best I can.

devils thanks too for your advice - DH did take Annalise after her 11pm feed and said that he'd express-bottle feed her next time and then bring her to me when she wanted the feed after. As she's feeding every 3.5 - 4hrs during the night that left me with 7hrs straight to sleep - but did I? Nope, lay in bed crying and feeling on the verge of a panic attack. DH was quite frustrated with me when he found me in a worst state of mind than he left me
My mum left me yesterday after being her since the birth, and has gone back to France, so I think that's upset me quite a bit.

Have started to put her directly onto her side but she's still whining, grunting and sighing very loudly all night, I hope she's not in pain...?

peaches I'm having that same expericence! Annalise had a feed about 1 hour ago, and then was... wide awake! Felt quite panicked, pft. I really need to pull myself together, its not suprising that she's not going to only sleep and feed forever and ever

ruby gosh that sounds really tough on you, lots of hugs back and hope that little ruby gets into a longer feeding cycle very soon X

ok - off to lie in bed and hopefully get a little bit of sleep. Hope when I'm next on there'll be new babies!

Just a quick one....Faith Scarlett was born on wednesday at 8.25am, weight was 9lb 6, just got out of hospital, so will catch up later xxx

congratulations littlepea - gorgeous name! good weight too!

Just a quick update ... Artemis Arte was born yesterday at 8.12pm, 6lb 6 and hungry after 23 hours of labour including 2 hours of screaming like a banshee (and I thought I had a high pain threshold!).

Home now, though had to discharge myself - ususal to stay in for 3 days.

Will catch up more asap.

congratulations jules888 - goodness you had a long labour especially compared with some. Wow - 3 days stay - here it is 6 hours.

Hi and sorry for not being on sooner-we were only released from hospital on Friday evening due to (non-existent) feeding problems and high blood pressure.

Congratulations to all the new arrivals , I shall catch up when I have a moment. Baby out vibes to those of you stil waiting.

Huge hug to those feeling a bit down. Apologies in advance but I need to join you..

I'm struggling a bit at the moment through sheer lack of sleep and the energy of near constantly breastfeeding. Joseph has his day and night back to front (remember how active he was at night in the womb?) so the nights are a nightmare. He absolutely will not go down into a moses basket at all (day or night)and at the moment will only drop off to sleep on me. Sometimee DH gets away with taking him off me, at other times-no chance. Its not helped by the fact that my iron levels dropped dramaticlly after delivery-its currently at 8.1 and should be 14.5. We didn't get any sleep at all last night bar 20 mins when he fell asleep with us in the bed and only got 3 hrs on Friday night so we're walking around in a bit of a daze. My stitches are tightening which is making sitting a bit uncomfortable but at least I can wee without feeling like I'm pouring acid on my bits.

Please someone, tell me this gets easier.

Ruby, I've just reread your post and sobbed with relief that its not just me.

HT Madison is 4 weeks old tomorrow and it really does get better, my stiches are now gone and my body is now used to no sleep, feeding is ok but nights are still a little unsettled but were getting there, she is more alert and also hates her moses basket, but my pillow case in with her helps , just remember everything seems 20 times worse with no sleep ......nipples are also ok now and engorgment has calmed down x x

Happytangerine IT GETS EASIER! It really does

Congratulations jules and littlepea

Congratulations to everyone who has had their babies . I've really enjoyed reading the birth stories and hope that you are all recovering well. And you've picked some really beautiful names .

If you are having a hard time with your baby, please don't dispair. I promise that things get easier - they change so quickly in the beginning that before you know it they will be rewarding you with fabulous gummy smiles and it will be worth all of the stress of the early days.

Have you seen Princessmel's thread over on childbirth? She's (was?) due a couple of days before me so it is very exciting!

Smallone It is a really good idea to write down your birth experience while it is all fresh in your mind, even if you are not yet ready to talk about it. And when you are ready, you'll get lots of support on MN if you want it. I hope you're ok.

I am struggling with a lot of groin pain and those "stabbing-cervix" feelings at the moment, but hopefully there is not too long to go. Although I am only 38+4-ish so might have another 3 whole weeks to go if this baby is anything like my last one! Having said that, this pregnancy is so different from the last (I even have low blood pressure whereas last time I had PIH!) that maybe the baby will actually come on time. Gosh, I hope so, as we are planning a VBAC and the longer this goes on the harder it is to keep my nerve! I still can't quite fathom how a baby is going to come out of my relatively small bits...

Am 40+1 now and think I'm definitely in early stages of labour with TENS machine. Cx every 5 mins or so lasting a minute each time. Wish I could sleep tho but don't think so. Hope this is really it and not just a false alarm!

At moment feel quite relaxed...strange as second time round and thought I would panic a lot more remembering pain, still early on at moment and not too painful.

Will let you know...

Morning all 38 weeks today, lose bowels and low period like pains. Hopefully not too long. both boys born at 39 weeks....

Congratulations to littlepea and jules.

Dp taking laptop so off line for a while.

good luck andrea and peaches!

dh back at work today and ds1 was up being sick last night, how do they know?! how it isn't contagious...