Due October 2009 - To nest is best....

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My first thread!

Thanks for the tips re pressure points smallone will give it a go, why not?! Glad you've had a better day.

fidelma I have a lovely sheepskin I wanted to use but wondered if it's ok to put in the moses basket as it's quite big. Not sure why it wouldn't be & I'm sure baby must like it being warm & soft.

kk

Sparkly glad scan went well
Smallone-so glad you are feeling a bit better

fidelma that sounds like a tough load you've got there, sorry to hear about the swine flu but glad you are on the mend. Try and take it easy

twinklegreen blimey, that sounds like a day and a half. I want yor energy!

I got 3 - 4 hrs sleep again last night so feel vaguely human again today. Bit of a panic this morning when I felt a hard lump on the side of Joseph's face but rang midwife anf the first thing she said was "Was it a forceps delivery?" Er, yes. Apparently its really common for various lumps to show up a week or so after birth - DH said that if I'd seen the force they used to yank Joseph out, I wouldn't be surprised. Still panicked me though.

Breast feeding going well, I need the reassurance of that weigh-in on Thursday though. My boobs were leaking for all of one day and now they fel empty but he still seems to be getting lots of milk from them and I can express. Most odd-is this normal?

Already I see his little features changing each day, he's so delicious.I think I'm in love

Hugs to you all x

HT if your boobs aren't leaking that's a good sign, it shows you're producing just the right amount of milk that he needs.

Morning all. Hope you had good nights everyone, pg and not! . Well, don't know if it was the reflexology I had yesterday or not, but I slept really well last night, best nights sleep in ages in fact - I woke at 5 this morning, which isn't like me, and had a few irregular BH's but they died out after about an hour, so just nosied about on here for a bit before sorting out the washing etc. DS and DH now left for work, so all quiet, and planning on heading back to bed again shortly - I was absolutely exhausted by the time I got to labour with DS and am determined to sleep at EVERY opportunity this time, regardless of whether its night or day, to make sure I don't get to that same ridiculous state of utter exhaustion.

HT, agree with TG that your milk is producing at right levels if not leaking - I'm sure your weigh in will give you confidence you need.

I'm sure we must be about due a flurry of birth announcements, as we haven't had any since the 8th

Idreamofbeanie - 27/09/09 Girl
Cookiemonster1 - 2/10/09 Boy
dogstar - 4/10/09 Girl
fluffycats - 4/10/09 Don't Know
Sparklytwinkletoes - 06/10/09 Don't Know
Saraheb - 08/10/09 Don't Know
Sugarkane - 08/10/09 Don't Know
Jules888 - 8/10/09 Girl
Heylottie - 09/10/09 Don't Know
Andrea75 - 10/10/09 Don't Know
Kowaikiwi - 10/10/09 Don't Know
Smallone - 11/10/09 Don't Know
SassJ - 12/10/09 Boy
Littlepea72 - 12/10/09 Girl
Princessmel - 21/10/09 Boy
Hackneybird - 15/10/09 Don't Know
HalfMumHalfBiscuit - 15/10/09 Don't Know
Flamesparrow - 16/10/09 Don't Know
Mossop - 21/10/09 Don't Know
NewbeeMummy - 21/10/09 Girl
Jellytotz - 21/10/09 Girl
MrsHappy - 23/10/09 Girl
Ronniemummy- 24/10/09
MeHimCatBlob - 25/10/09 Girl
Lal123 - 26/10/09 Girl
Peachespaige - 26/10/09 Don't Know
Hattie05 - 30/10/09 Girl

theboob - Madison Rose born 14/09/09
Devilsadvocaat - Charlie born 25/09/09
LittleMissBliss - Marley born 25/09/09
Mrs Kitty - Eliza born 26/09/09
CalypsoFLame - Annalise Francoise born 28/09/09
Ohmani - Patrick David born 29/09/09
Wibblydibs - Louis Dashiell born 29/09/09
KleineMaus - Magnus born 30/09/09
Twinklegreen - Amelie Eva born 30/09/09
Fidelma - Connor Ben born 30/09/09
Treats - Isabel Rose born 30/09/09
HumphreysCorner - Matthew John born 01/10/09
Willmouse - Henry John born 02/10/09
Rubyslippers- Ruby Francesca born 02/10/09
JamesDavidsMum - Alexander Ngawaka born 03/10/09
Neon - Thomas (Thom) Laurence born 03/10/09
Lix - Phoenix Tabitha born 05/10/09
BellaCullen - Nathaniel Alexander born 05/10/09
HappyTangerine - Joseph Richard born 05/10/09
KKKKaty - Hamish William born 06/10/09
Sammysam- Girl born 06/10/09
Sugarkane - Aiden Riley 8/10/09

Hi all, I'm the same as princessmel - but it's the builders last day today for the major work. finishing off stuff is being done later. Radiators just before half term and carpet the week after so gives us time to relax for a while and have baby.

If lo doesn't arrive before thurs when I go to the midwife, I am thinking of booking my induction for sunday. does anyone know if they book inductions for weekends? That's when I'll be 40+10.

Carpet on landing being fitted on first floor landing tomorrow then all carpets being cleaned on friday. Seems this baby has hung in for us but I'm desperate for it now and just need to get through today with the joiner, electrician and window fitting that really need my supervision. After that noone who's coming really needs supervision.

Warning - RANT don't read if you don't want to just made me feel better to get it off my chest -
The joiner in particular has been a nightmare - doing what he wants rather than what we want. In fact I told him today to just leave some jobs completely. DH is going to do them how we want them as we don't trust him. He has even put a doorframe in that isn't level. this is a joiner with nearly 30 years experience. it's just so frustrating. The reason this job is so late is all down to him too. When the bill comes there will be a lot of discussion about how much he will get paid I can tell you!

OK rant over - it's been lovely to hear all the birth stories and hear about the dear little ones. Even the problems - reminded me of what's to come and prepare me. I do like to be prepared. Hope everyone who is having trouble with sleeping finds it eeases soon.

good idea sparkly to sleep during the day - wish I could too, but will after today. I am planning on sleeping when baby sleeps when it finally arrives too. I know my dear mil will clean for me as she has already volunteered. In fact she is coming tonight to help me clean the house after the builders have cleared off for the day. We are rewarding her with a chinese meal which also means I don't have to cook - yippee.

Those with sweet (and not so sweet ) littles ones born please keep us updated with the good (and not so good) happenings.

love to all

PrincessMel I feel the same way, funny how we're both due on the 21st as well, maybe we'll both be early.

My mum and mil both hope she comes today, as it's Cliff Richards Birthday and they seem to think that will be a good thing - me I'm not too

saraheb I'm glad to hear the builders are now almost finished, and sorry to hear you've had a nightmare with one of them.

Had my builder round on Monday only to be told he'll start next week, and needs to strip off all the wallpaper downstairs (joys of open plan living) and repaint the entire downstairs inc the ceiling once the wall has dried out. Given I'm due on Wednesday he says I'll probably have to stay else where for a week while he does the work these things are sent to try us!

Its amazing how total exhaustion has allowed me to sleep for several hours through Annalise's tortured guinea pig-like slumber noises. when people say it gets better, please please tell me my baby won't continue to make such a racket!

Oh HC I'm sorry you're feeling blue too, I hope that it has already passed, but if it hasn't (and for anyone else finding themselves utterly miserably and anxious)

1. VENT verbally to everyone - especially us!
2. CRY and don't cry a bit and think that you should pull yourself together, a really good sob breaks down stress hormones so let it out!
3. CAKE I've made it a prerequisite that anyone visiting should bring some, makes me feel much better!

princessmel haha - I check quite often, just to see if you've popped yet!

Sparklytwinkletoes, NewbeeMummy and peaches hope it also happens soon for you!

smallone glad that thinking about the birth is cathartic, hope you are healing well emotionally and physically. George sounds lovely!

twinklegreen how on earth do you manage! I'm am amazed, feel very lazy now

HT glad its not just me - my breast pads are always dry and I was wondering if all was ok.

I have questions (again)!

1. Piles: I had before the birth and they're still there - what happens to them? Do they shrink and then what - dutifully retract back inside? Fall off?!

2. Annalise has remarkably changed in the last 2 days, she's suddenly very awake and alert during the daytime whereas for 2 weeks she just snoozed between 3 hr feeds. She seems confused as to being awake but not on boob, so what the hell do you do with a 2 week old baby? Seriously, I have no idea! I'm buying this even though I think its fugly, to pass some time, but what else? I can't keep walking up and down the stairs (she likes that ) but doesn't seem interested in YouTube...?!

3. Annalise can now go from 11pm (expressed bottlefeed of c65ml) to 4am boobfeed, is this too long? She's very deeply asleep, but after 4am feed, sleeps for 3hrs until 7am and then see above question. Would you be ok to leave a 2wk old for 5hrs in the night like that? Not that I get 5hrs of sleep though

oh saraheb - having spent most of last year on a very large renovation project I completely empathise with rubbish tradesmen. You feel its a small miracle that a job is completed on time to your spec, argh! I do know a good joiner/carpenter though, are you in the London area?
{shakes fist at the shoddy workmanship we had to re-do ourselves}

And hope the birthing thing happens soon too!

Any news on Andrea? She popped in recently to say she thought she was in labour and nary a word since!

I thought it might be happening for yesterday as I was having pains and diahorrea but I took some paracetamol and it all disappeared.

Updated the list as a few lovely ladies had been left off....can you tell I have a lot of time on my hands?

I dreamofbeanie - 27/09/09 Girl
Cookiemonster1 - 2/10/09 Boy
dogstar - 4/10/09 Girl
fluffycats - 4/10/09 Don't Know
Sparklytwinkletoes - 06/10/09 Don't Know
Saraheb - 08/10/09 Don't Know
Sugarkane - 08/10/09 Don't Know
Heylottie - 09/10/09 Don't Know
Andrea75 - 10/10/09 Don't Know
Kowaikiwi - 10/10/09 Don't Know
SassJ - 12/10/09 Boy
Princessmel - 21/10/09 Boy
Hackneybird - 15/10/09 Don't Know
HalfMumHalfBiscuit - 15/10/09 Don't Know
Flamesparrow - 16/10/09 Don't Know
Mossop - 21/10/09 Don't Know
NewbeeMummy - 21/10/09 Girl
Jellytotz - 21/10/09 Girl
Dizzytrout - 21/10/09 Girl
MrsHappy - 23/10/09 Girl
Ronniemummy- 24/10/09
MeHimCatBlob - 25/10/09 Girl
Lal123 - 26/10/09 Girl
Peachespaige - 26/10/09 Don't Know
Hattie05 - 30/10/09 Girl

theboob - Madison Rose born 14/09/09
Devilsadvocaat - Charlie born 25/09/09
LittleMissBliss - Marley born 25/09/09
Mrs Kitty - Eliza born 26/09/09
CalypsoFLame - Annalise Francoise born 28/09/09
Ohmani - Patrick David born 29/09/09
Wibblydibs - Louis Dashiell born 29/09/09
KleineMaus - Magnus born 30/09/09
Twinklegreen - Amelie Eva born 30/09/09
Fidelma - Connor Ben born 30/09/09
Treats - Isabel Rose born 30/09/09
HumphreysCorner - Matthew John born 01/10/09
Willmouse - Henry John born 02/10/09
Rubyslippers- Ruby Francesca born 02/10/09
JamesDavidsMum - Alexander Ngawaka born 03/10/09
Neon - Thomas (Thom) Laurence born 03/10/09
Lix - Phoenix Tabitha born 05/10/09
BellaCullen - Nathaniel Alexander born 05/10/09
HappyTangerine - Joseph Richard born 05/10/09
Smallone - George Robert born 5/10/09
KKKKaty - Hamish William born 06/10/09
Sammysam- Girl born 06/10/09
Littlepea72 - Faith Scarlett born 07/10/09
Sugarkane - Aiden Riley 8/10/09
Jules88 - Artemis Arte born 10/10/09

Morning all

So much to catch up on. Still can't sort Matthew's days and nights-when he sleeps alot in the day nothing will wake him. He woke every hour for a feed last night. HV coming this morning which I always find a challenge. When I cried in the playground one of the mums said it is worse for her as she has to get up 6 times a night to test her diabetic son's blood so felt really bad for complaining.

Good luck to anyone approaching labour time.

Big wave!

HC
x

Hi ladies

Calypso - mine regularly sleeps for 5 hours at a time. It takes so long to settle her to sleep sometimes that if I stuck to a rigid 3 hour feeding pattern, she'd only sleep for half an hour at a time b efore I'd wake her for the next feed.

Hoping to start moving towards more of a routine once DH goes back to work tomorrow. Will have to be more organised once he's no longer at my beck and call .

HV coming tomorrow. Keen to get baby weighed to see how the feeding is going. Not really enjoying bfing tbh. It just takes up so much time and I have no idea how much she's taking or needs. Get quite irritated with the whole thing at times and am tempted to move to ffing.....

Apparently the MW is coming this morning. I'll believe it when they're here. Today is Day 15 and I've been expecting them since Day 6. I've only had 1 visit and the Guthrie test is more than a week overdue.......

Took Isabel to the osteopath yesterday. Not really sure what they did and doesn't seem to have had an effect yet, but will go to the follow up appointment next week and see how we go.

Quick post,

I am of the view that if they are asleep don't wake them. dd used to sleep for hours in the day and if I tried to wake her to feed, she just wouldn't feed well atall.

HC I know that playground mum has a point but it doesnt take away from how you're feeling. Your struggles are different from hers, but just as important. I sympathise as dd and ds woke loads in the night to start off wih (well till they were 2 actually!!)

treats I also know how you feel about bf as ds was a constant feeder and I felt quite lost over it all with him , but it really does sort of click into more natural spaced apart gaps if you can stick it out till 6 weeks. And then it is easier (imo).

HB ooh fingers crossed. I'm almost ignoring all the twinges/bh and aches now as nothing ever happens. Untill the head is coming out of me or my waters go I am not getting excited.

HB if you still have loads of free time maybe you could do this.......??
Update the list and write next to the births whether they were born early or late. Like +1 or - 3 days etc. I'm interested in that!!

I cant do tricky things like that

Hey everyone, still havent gotten caught up with the thread, been so busy with DS, meetings at the school etc as they think he is a special needs child, but at least we are getting the help now. Faith is great appart from only wanting to be awake at night, sleeps all through the days. Had to give up on the BF as a week later & my milk still hasnt came, so im afraid the bottle is what she is having. I hope you are all doing well....good luck with any new arrivals

princessmel psml at your comment 'Until the head is coming out of me or my waters go I am not getting excited'.

If I haven't had the baby next week and I have finished all my 'projects' at home (sorting out photo albums, filing old recipes, washing summer maternity clothes and packing them away, really interesting stuff like that) then I might do what you suggest. But I would have to have a A LOT of time on my hands.

Treats I am that you haven't seen a MW yet.

HC I agree with the others, just because someone else is also having a tough time doesn't demean what you are going through or make it any less difficult.

thanks everyone for the supportive messages - much appreciated.

newbeemummy thanks for reminding me it was Cliff's birthday today. My mum is going to his concert today and I rang her to ask if she realised it was his birthday too. Now she is even more excited about going. Funny thing is that I managed to escape (sorry - was so disappointed I couldn't go ) going because I am due - my aunt has gone with her instead.

thanks calypso for the offer of a good joiner - unfortunately I live in yorkshire - a bit too far away. I do have a friend who's husband is a builder and I'm going to ask for a recommendation, and also my husband works for a builders merchant (as IT manager) and is going to see if they recommend a local one.

Also my dd slept for 6 hours a night when she was 10 days old and I used to worry and virtually stand over her after 3/4 hours just in case she woke up. Took ages to get used to the idea she was ok and just didn't need the feed. must have been something in my milk I always said. I certainly know I could cope with anything when I got a straight 5 hours sleep in the night. I really feel for those who are sleep deprived - nothing worse (well almost)

I noticed there seems to be quite a few of us past their due dates - shouldn't be long before we have a few more births

HC I'm quite at your treatment in the playground, what she's going through is hard, but doesn't make your experience any less difficult! Plus, you've got hormones going on, and each time you wake up with babe, you've got to suss out what it is they need - you could argue that its straightforward for her, she only has to get up and repeat the 'routine' and go back to bed again - far less stressful, even if it is very tiring.

I don't really mean that of course - just making a point that you can't compare people's experiences - we're all individuals and what is hard for one is easy for another. What makes us the same is that we all struggle at some point, and what makes us human is sympathising with those that are struggling - not competing with them. Have a hug >.

princessmel - I think I'm at the same point as you, I'm doing my best to ignore the fact that I'm even pregnant today, baby will either come on its own accord or be carved out by the consultants team of surgeons and it won't be much longer one way or the other as I'm 41+1 today.

HC, everyone can feel the same way, just because there is a medical reason for her getting up, doesnt mean she is feeling worse than you are. I think she is very small minded, hasnt thought about what she has said, and really would of been better keeping her mouth shut! Please put her out of your mind. I really do hope it gets better for you real soon, in the mean-time, we are all here to listen xxx

Congratulations HappyTangerine,smallone,KKKKaty,Sammysam,Littlepea72, Sugarkane, Jules88

Hope to everyine overdue that babies will make an appearance soon.TO those with cramps,pains and BH, I had cramps and strong BH for 3 weeks before Nathaniel finally decided to come and my labour was only 4 1/2 hours.So those cramps are definitely doing something hope you will have quick labours like me.

We are waiting in for MW today seen them twice now cant believe poor <strong>treats</strong> hasnt seen one again.Have they done the heel prick test yet?

Have had a rollercoaster week in last week as at the baby check last wed they found a problem with Nathaniels left eye. It didnt finish developing properly and he has some tissue behind his pupil and veins in his eyeball that should have disappeared.So went to Great Ormond Street hospital last thu to see a specialist and are going for more checks tomorrow.Luckily the lady we saw knows specialist there and could get us appoinment for next day.
He will need an operation to have tissue removed and then need glasses to help his eye and patching on his good eye.They cant tell us how much hell be able to see in future but just hoping for best now.Was all a big shock as you never expect there to be a problem with your newborn.DP still hoping it will just dissapear on its own but I am feeling calmer now and just want to do everything we can to help him.Its good to write it all down as havent told any friends in rl yet,which is hard as everone wants to meet him.Not sure whether Im ready for that yet though.

Otherwise hes gorgeous and really calm baby who only cries when hungry or done a poo and is uncomfortable. Might still change though.Feeding was hard in beginning as he wouldnt latch on properly and didnt open mouth wide enough but getting better now.Hes also more awake now during day and I just hold and look at him then might start putting him under baby gym soon so he has something else to look at.
Lots of labour vibes to everybody still waiting x

HC Ignore competitve sleep-deprivation playground mother

Princessmel You sound like me on the Sunday I went into labour. After my false alarm on the Friday, I was determined not to do anything until my waters broke. Spent te whole day giving the bedroom its umpteenth coat of paint, then shopping for cushions and curtains. Had to stop every few minutes with strong twinges and at one point knocked over a soft furnisnhing display in Matalan! Finally agreed to go to hospital at midnight and they told me I was 1cm dilated. I opted to come home and told them I wouldn't be back until my waters broke. Went back 5hrs later on DH insistentce as he thought I was going to have the baby there and then. MW checked and I was almost 6cm dilated!I would honestly not have gone in had DH not begged me.

Thanks everyone for the reassurance re the breast pads. We have had the morning from hell-first endless phonecalls re that news item on the BBC about cot death and co-sleeping (mum and MIL particularly insistent that we stop but can't offer alternatives). Then Joseph decides to scream his head off since 10.30am, with a few short breaks in between.He latches for a little bit the pulls off screaming. Managed to get up some huge burps then he fed again but he seems so miserable today.He's worn himself out now and is asleep.

What do you do with a baby that absolutely refuses to go down in a moses basket or cot? I ned to sleep but it's impossible without cosleeping.

Its our third wedding anniversary today and instead of it being a happy occasion, we've both been here in tears. Have sent DH out to have a bit of a break.

Sorry for the miserable me post

Hi everyone sorry I havent been around, only just got out of hospital the second time after my transfusion, but wow the difference I feel is amazing.

Firstly I have found it hard to catch up sorry about that but I will try to read more posts later.

HC dont let that playground woman bring you down, grrr to her .

BellaCullen Sorry to hear about Nathaniel`s eye problems, understandable why you have had such a rollercoaster week, I will say though at least you have found out early and have been given all the information you wanted. Fingers crossed your DP is right and it will correct itself.

Treats Put your foot down with them and get the care they should be giving you, im angry for you .

princessmel You are having the feelings I had for about 2 weeks before Aiden was born, will be keeping my fingers crossed things start moving soon for you.

Congrats to all the new babies, im sure we are due a few birth announcements very soon as has been quiet for a while.

Good luck to everyone who is having building work done, maybe try a few extra sugars in their tea to give them added engery .

HT Sorry no alternatives for co-sleeping as I did with DD and am currently co-sleeping with Aiden, im trying not to look up the BBC News item or I may scare myself, all I do is follow the cosleeping guidelines to the letter sorry I cant offer more advice.

I think that BBC item was confusing. I didn't think it was saying anything that hadn't been said before:

Don't sleep with baby if you're on drugs that make your drowsy, have been drinking, are a smoker etc

Don't fall asleep on a sofa holding the baby, or put the baby down on a sofa to sleep...

Apparently NCT have been backing co-sleeping the 'right way', which does not involve sofas, coz that's not co-sleeping anyway.

princessmel I'm with you - haven't even had many (if any? just put them down to annoying pregnancy twinges) pains/BH so won't be getting excited until the midwife is saying you can push now.

If one more person texts/emails me (because they're too scared to phone?!) to ask if there's any news, think I'll scream. I also much appreciate the comments which imply that it's my fault the baby is late, not really the best thing to put across to someone hormonal, frustrated and overdue

I've given into the fact it may be next week now so am trying to enjoy my freedom whilst it lasts. Really enjoying planning and cooking dinner for DP each night (as is he) but that won't last! I'm just racking up some brownie points and portions for the freezer.

Full respect for all you mums out there who are doing/have done this with other little ones in tow, at least having someone else around would keep me occupied but I can barely walk let alone run around after a toddler. Also for those of you who decided on renovations whilst pregnant, I think you're nuts, but can understand why you feel you want things ready. We 'almost' moved house about 6 weeks ago and everyone thought I was mad. It didn't work out so the baby still has to share it's room with our home office.

Re: the BBC news thing, like most things in the media you should take it with a pinch of salt and listen carefully to the words. sparkly you're right, people could find this confusing and I agree with your points. Surely people can understand that it's just using a bit of common sense???

I do love reading all of your posts, at least gives me something to do each day! Big hugs to everyone feeling a bit blue, and fingers crossed for everyone else still waiting.
kk

kowaikiwi you and I are in the same overdue boat, almost to the day!
Some days I am brave and venture forth in the autumn sunshine, enjoying my freedom. Other days, like today, I fret about my waters going in the middle of the street and just sit in the garden, twiddling thumbs. It's not so much the frustration of it, for me it's the thought that the baby is getting bigger and bigger, and it was big anyway... yikes

I have a sweep tomorrow getting to know yoooooou, and then am booked for an induction on Friday when I will be 41w exactly. Not sure why I am having this so soon - I thought 41w 3d was standard but still. I do worry though that the baby is in no mood to come out and therefore induction will be even more horrific. No one has a happy induction tale do they, not really?

Love to alll