Due October 2009 - To nest is best....

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My first thread!

Congratulations HC!

Do we need a Post-natal thread? Any ideas what to call it?

Well done HC...glad everything went well.

Got back from the hospital, and im sooooo mad . Things havent went the way they should have leading upto the c-section. Im meant to be going tomorrow for tests, that i didnt know anything about, and i should of taken all my GD stuff today, also didnt know anything about that either....so bloody doctor had a go at me! I dont know the German way of doing things, nor have i ever done anything like this before, but the b*st*d man stood shouting at me! Had to cancel loads of appointments tomorrow to fit this all in, and now my Hubby isnt speaking to me because he has to drive me to the hospital again tomorrow. He is blaming me for not asking questions before...i didnt know about any off this...i just wish i could walk out the door & not have to come back. He has also told me he wont be going into the theatre with me. Sorry this is so me me me.....

Congratulations HC!

LMB- that would be ok if I could drink tea and eat chocolate.

Feeling bit better as i'm ignoring everyone and throwing myself back into the nesting-I don't want to relax-it was just getting me down! So after a lovely long bath with dd this morning I've spent the day doing more washing, sorting and loads of weeding in the garden. Feelmuch better for it!
I'm determined not to feel bad any more-well at least not til after sunday when I'll be 41wks-the day dd was born. After THEN i'm late (I'll be eating my words come monday though!)

Good luck everyone......there should be a few more on the list as there were some cs booked and inductions booked at the start of the week-if I remember correctly? x x x

Huge hugs littlepea-what a bastard-teh doctor and your dh (if you don't mind me saying) they shouldn't be making you feel bad for something you had no way of knowing plus at your dh for saying he won't go in with you!!!!

Littlepea the doctor actually shouted at you. What an arse!

You really can't be blamed for not knowing their medical procedures!

Wow, the arrivals list is getting longer! Congratulations to CalypsoFlame, Twinklegreen, Fidelma and HumphreysCorner! How exciting

Sorry to hear about your horrible doctor Littlepea, that's not nice at all

Yesterday I was hoping to find out if I could have my home birth, but they want another 2 weeks of my blood glucose results before they'll decide, so I'll be 39 weeks by then. So I'm hoping baby doesn't arrive before then!

I have actually started getting ready for this baby and have washed some clothes and bedding today. Might even get around to packing my hospital bag this week!

Littlepea your doctor and DH are way out of order. What re you supposed to be- a mind reading expert on the German public health system? Hope your DH gets over his tantrum soon. Is there someone else you'd like to take into theatre with you? If so, perhaps mention that to him-might stick a rocket up his backside. Very very angry on your behalf

Littlepea

Name for post natal thread.... Oct 09 - you gits have your babies. (Not at all impatient.... )

littlepea I am so mad at the doctor for treating you that way. He should never have shouted at you. I'm disappointed in your dh too, but I am sure he will calm down and change his mind. My dh would probably have reacted the same way as yours in the situation. Men, eh!

It's easy for me to say, I know, but don't worry about it. it could not be helped. you did not know. Hope all goes well tomorrow. Hugs to you.

Congratulations hc and Calypso

Well done ladies, names are lovely too!

littlepea I really feel for you. Im sorry this is happening, can you talk to someone about that dr?

I got a telling off for not having my bloods done at 30weeks, nobody told me was meant too! Also because the mw forgot to write down my blood pressure results and urine sample results, I got the bollocking for not asking her what they were "its your blood preassure not mine, why didnt you ask her"!!!

Shocking!

lol flame

congrars calypso an hc.
love ALL the names on the arrivals list!

lilpea, sorry to hear those around giving you a hard time. you'll have your baby soon and this will all seem like a million years ago x

littlepea , what a nasty experience for you, I hope your dh sees sense soon.

Names for postnatel thread

Oct 09**Who fancies some Pumpkin(cutie)Pies??

or

Oct 09**Our pumpkin bumps are all treats! No tricks welcome

natal

i like this one: Who fancies some Pumpkin(cutie)Pies??

Littlepea - your doctor is an arse and your DH is being silly ... how are you meant to know these things? Hope things feel better in the morning

xx

looking for a mum and newborn baby as part of my training to be a child psychotherapist. its a really important part of learning about the relationship between mother and child and it involves me observing a mum and baby from newborn for two years. its once a week for an hour in your home. i live in north west london so anyone local who is interested please get in touch. i have had full police checks and work as a volunteer counsellor at childline.

pmsl at Flame love the suggestion! (but then I'm biased and also impatient)

saraheb forgot to say earlier, sorry that the dates for all the building work seem to be messed up, it's stressful enough without being pregnant. Imagine how fab it will feel to have carpet underneath your feet at last!

Mossop keeping everything crossed for you that you can get your home birth.

I've slept so much today must have needed it. Had a big cry earlier, more frustration and hormones I think, I just SO want this baby out.
Todays irritating statistics:
No of phone calls asking "any news?" = 6
No of people that felt the need to tell me first babies are always late and I'll probably need to be induced = 9.
Sometimes having a huge extended family is a right pain!

thanks HT yes I can't wait for the feel of carpet upstairs once more. I know the house will look great too. It's just hard work at the moment but will be worth it.

I am loving reading the birth stories and can't wait to share mine when the time comes.

Also getting the same "any news" stuff and I am not due yet! Even mil phoned today to say she was going out for the day and to ring if anything started at all and she would come straight back. She was only going about 1 hour away. Bless her - I had to promise I would phone her on the mobile.

Hi all,

I had a bit of a crappy midwife appointment today. The baby still hasn't engaged at 40+4 - she is at brim but even when I sit up she doesn't drop into my pelvis. I was trying to ask them how common that is, what my chances were of going into labour naturally and how likely an induction was to work smoothly if the baby isn't in a good position (know lots of people who have been induced when late and it has finished up as a c-section). I was just looking for some info and a bit of reassurance or for them to give me an opinion based on their experience but both midwives were really indecisive (couldn't even decide between them whether to make another appointment for me) and didn't give me any info. They asked if I wanted a S+S but said it would probably be difficult to find/reach my cervix and would probably be very painful even if they did manage so I should just let them book an induction for next Friday. Whenever I asked a question they just kept saying what a shame I wouldn't be able to have a home birth and would have to be induced which I clearly didn't want. I have refused to book the induction as I was quite upset and wanted to go away and think so I have an appointment for next Wednesday to agree a date. It's rotten luck my own midwife who is great is on holiday for 2 weeks. She would probably say the same but she would sound confident and give me the facts so I felt more comfortable.

Sorry for the moan, just really hacked off.

hi idreamofbeanie - I just wanted to let you know that not all inducements end in a c-section. I had a sweep when I was 10 days late but nothing happened. Then I went in later in the same day. I was examined and it was decided to break my waters to try to start labour. I went straight into labour and had a very straightforward birth in less than 6 hours for my first. I have known of others who were induced (including my mum and auntie) and they didn't have c-sections either.

Don't give up hope and take the time to decide what you want to do. It is your body. Go back on Wednesday ready with the questions you really want to ask.

Hugs to you.

Idreamofbeanie sorry that your midwife appointment left you feeling so worried, thats not what you need at this stage.I had an attempted stretch and sweep on Wednesday and was warned it would be very painful because the neck of the womb was closed. It was uncomfortable but not the agonising pain I was expecting, I managed to breathe through it and looked at it as free practice. I know pain is a v subjective experience but for me, I've had worse smears. So they definately did the stretch bit and had a good rummage but no sweep.

My second attempt at s & s will be on Monday, if that doesn't work, 3rd attempt Wednesday. I was given an induction date of Sat 10th and had a major wobble at first. But I started searching on here and found loads of threads with positive experiences of induction(like you I know of quite a few that have ended in c-section). Those threads helped a lot and I keep referring back to them.

Go in there on Wednesday armed with info and bombard them with questions. It's your body and you have the right to know all the facts that will influence your birth experience. Things can progress very quickly (read Twinkle's birth story!) so I don't see how they can completely rule out your home birth. Is it definatly them you are seeing on Wednesday or is there a chance you'll get someone else covering? Hope its the latter-I never saw the same midwife twice until recently. Thinking of you and sorry if this is no help-am a first timer so my experience is a bit limited.

beanie - that is very frustrating. I think a S & S shoudl be tried before an induction. Just seems like common sense IMVHO

HT - hope things get going for you soon as well

i had a bloody show yesterday and that has been followed by more (TMI) mucous and stuff throughout the day and this morning

am seeing my MW today and hope she will give me a stretch and sweep to hopefully get things going even more

love to all

xx

beanie Both my ds and dd were induced and I didn't have a C section with either of them.
Ds because I was 12 days late and dd because she had mecconium in her water, they saw this when I went in after they popped spontaniously at home. Please don't lose heart.

ruby Oooh exciting!

Periody pain here, on and off. And sometimes niggly pulling pains down under my bump.

It's hard to know what's coming out of me as I have this damn Canneston pessary resdiue leaking out all the time. (tmi I know!)

Idream- I'm sorry your appt. didn't go very well. You know that you can refuse to be induced. I'm seriously considering it. As long as you agree to all the monitoring they offer there really is no problem (though they may not like it) They'll check that everything is ok with the baby-maybe daily-eg heart rate etc. I just don't believe that all babies do things the same way/grow at the same rate etc etc etc.
I have a s&s booked for sunday but am really hoping I don't get to that point-i'll be 41wks (though really 40 by my fertility friend charts) DD was born at 41wks (didn't chart as she was unplanned so think it would be the same iyswim?) I had a s&s booked for the day after she was born.......I REALLY hope that hapens this time as well
The added pressure is the homebirth-I really want it-we have put so much into planning it and if I don't get my waterbirth this time I'm going to kick off!!!! Why does all this happen to cause so much un-needed stress hey?!

Just washed my car and cleaned it out and started to clean the windows but then my dad called and dds new bed was delivered so stopped. Will carry on tomorrow
I'm going to start to make more plans to try and fool the baby
Have to go and collect dd from pre-school in a min so better sort myself out!

I hope everyone has a better day today, and good luck for any arrivals!

x x x 40+5

Hello

idreamofbeanie I'm having exactly the same experience at 40 weeks. Head is still at the brim of my pelvis - feeling lots of pressure down there and strong BH but the head is not engaged. My cervix is also still too posterior to be reached so a sweep is out of the question. Plus my midwife is reluctant to do a sweep because of the risk of cord prolapse if labour starts before the head is engaged.

My midwife was also very evasive when I asked if this was common at 40 weeks and what the chances of successful induction were in my circumstances. Like you I was just looking for a bit of reassurance but I didn't get an answer either way. From what I have read induction seems to often be a long and unsuccessful process for first timers if the head isn't pretty well engaged and the cervix more favourable. I really don't want to be induced or have a CS but I am reluctant to go through a couple of days of them trying to induce me if they know the odds of it working are really small.

All my midwife would say is that things can change pretty quickly so not to despair . So I am trying to go with that and stay cheerful. It's so frustrating though. I have another appt on Tuesday so will take a list of questions to ask again. Let me know if you manage to get any answers before that!