Due November 2009 - we just can't stop chatting!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

A new thread!

Awww, I'm all mushy over the stories about the big brothers/sisters-to-be!

How does the baby get out? I too bought some books for ds as well (6 to be exact) about making babies like Osbourne and incl. Mummy laid an egg etc. I think in the end he was happy with my explanation though. He thought you just cut the belly open, so I said well in some cases its true but I told him that mummies have extra hole (as opposed to two bottoms as he calls it) and yes he did ask if he can see it! so I said that NO it?s not ready yet it will only be ready when the baby comes out and he was ok with that! Phew!

His biggest worry in regards to the baby is ? the baby is not allowed to play with his Playmobil toys as it would get eaten?. AND the baby NEEDS to buy him a new train AND he will buy him a baby one so she can play with her own and leave his train sets alone. I can see sharing is going to be a problem here! Lucky there is a big gap here and hopefully will have moved on from the toys by the time the baby is actually interested in them!

We will be buying 0 car seat I think. Maxi cosi that can be used with our Mountain buggy. But didn?t know that 0+1 can go rear facing for longer. Might have to look into that. Apparently it is so much safer to drive them backwards as long as possible. The think my babies tend to be on the larger size so outgrow the first ones really quickly! I think ds was in the front facing maxi cosi at 9-10 months already.

Pavlov thanks for the fashion advice. I have actually seen some necklaces in M&S the other day. I might have a better look at them with dh at the weekend (dragged along for second opinion poor bloke). I would still love to receive the document. Could you please email to kamcinbob at hotmail dot com? Thank you! You are a star!

I meant the thinG is oops

Thanks, Laugs. I've requested to join the local group on Yahoo now, seeing everyone seems to be talking about it

Broodzilla - Thankies I'm feeling a bit better today.

For all of you who have a PoundLand near by - (Hear me out!!!) They have some cushions in there at the moment, and they are the most comfy thing I have ever had to sleep on. I bought three to support my back and bump after getting some for DP's room, and last night I slept better than I have in the rest of the pregnancy.

Off to try and finish Bryn's shawl now, I think... Really got into my crocheting again. Just need to find some instructions that are in English rather than fashion designer for booties and I'll be away!!!

By the way, does anyone else have itchy / painful stretch marks? The ones on my hips are killing me

Ooh I will check out the Poundland cushion - is it one of those V shaped ones? I always wanted one of them last time round but all the ones I saw seemed so expensive for just a cushion.

While you are in Poundland... the other week I found The History of Love by Nicole Krauss and hardback The Line of Beauty by Alan Hollinghurst - two books that I absolutely loved, I couldn't believe they were in there like bargain basement cast-offs. Still, at least a few xmas present sorted - I can now join the super-organised gang

In fact, I am feeling quite domestic goddessish today. Since being up from 2.30ish I had done a load of washing, washed and dried dinner dishes, cleaned kitchen and bathroom all before 7am! Admittedly, I've been rather slack since then though... by 2pm I predict I'll be strung out, hollow eyed and loopy.

ninjacat I love Babette Cole so will check out that book. Although the fact DD hasn't expressed any interest in where the baby comes from/ how it gets out probably means its too advanced for her. What age are your DCs southernbelle and tamlin? DD seems quite happy to think that all babies do is cry constantly, so I'm not rushing to explode that myth and hope she may even be plesantly surprised. She is not good at sharing though. She's fine in public settings/ other people's houses, but when friends come to play here she is very possessive. Fun times ahead!

broodzilla was it you talking about bilingual babies? I would definitely do it if I had another language. It is such a huge asset in so many ways. And I can't imagine it's that hard. My parents are both linguists so speak to DD occassionally in a variety of languages and it is mind-boggling how quickly she picks them up. When we do her inhaler, we count to ten in different languages to keep her sitting still and she can already do it in German and Basque without help and French and Spanish with prompting. I wish I was strong enough in another language to teach her properly.

hmm, I hope that didn't sound like I think my child's a genius! I meant, they are like sponges at this age and so used to picking up new words on a daily basis that it appears almost effortless.

No, they're not V-shaped, unfortunately, just square, but so damn comfy! Go you for being so on the ball... I've only just got dressed!!!

Must be nesting, I am normally a slob!

See, I've gone entirely the other way - I'm usually pretty tidy, and now everything I touch seems to turn to mess...

Any one else have pains in there bump? If I sit for too long I have a horrid pain just at the very top of my bump on the right hand side.
I also woke last night at 3am itching all over and couldn't sleep.
Oh and the heartburn is becoming intolerable, the leg cramps are agony and I am a missary to be arround.
DP is off to Big Chill today and won't be back until Monday night and ds's Dad has told ds he is 'going to court to fight for him' because he's 'entitled' to 'his' two weeks when DS said very reasonibly could he just come for a weekend then see how he feels after that .
Spoke to a solicitor who said we'd need approx £2K in funds and were probibly not entitled to Legal Aid but as he is he will always have the upper hand and caan take us to court when ever he so chooses.

Sorry to rant, just feeling a bit at the end of my tether. As you were...

Poor you, Ninja Really feel for you... And your DS.

Ninja sorry to hear it's all going so sour with DS' Dad. No court will force him to go though if he doesn't want to so hang in there, they'll probably suggest some sort of mediation compromise instead which would put the Dad's nose out of joint.

Erika will mail you later to sort out details, freecycle is great, I've given and got all sorts on there. You have to be quick though, and always give a good reason why you need the item as some people choose who to donate to based on level of need.

Whoever said about the car seat expiry, I'd be interested in what you find. I'm starting to think that we'll be ok if the seat will be about 5.5 years old at the end of baby's use but am still worried about taking the risk.

No itching skin here as yet, but leg cramps, heartburn, horrid constipation and the odd twinge in my pelvic area - so you're not alone

oooh Ninja that's just so unfair! Try to hang in there, no judge is going to side with your ex. He's just making an arse out of himself officially! Do you think he'll really go through with it or is it just blackmail tactics? (Not that that makes it any better...)

I'm sorry, but I've got to have a moan now.
I've just vomited AGAIN. I'm 27+2 friggin weeks pregnant and I'm so SICK OF IT!! I mean, I love the bean, I love feeling him squirming around, I love getting ready for his arrival, I am SO happy that I am pregnant, and that so far, all is well with him. I know for every single day I've felt sick there will be a thousand people wishing to feel the same, and then some, if only they could get pregnant (my sister being one of them) so I do feel incredibly guilty.

I've just ended up crying like a baby, because... basically, I suppose, I'm feeling sorry for myself. It's pathetic, I know. But I want to just crawl into bed and stay there until whenever the bean is ready to make an entrance.

AAAAAH. I just had to get it out.

Don't beat yourself up for it, I'm not surpised you're fed up Broodzilla! Anyone would be. I hope the sickness eases off, seems really cruel you're still suffering!

Just had a letter through about the teen antenatal classes - start this Friday!! I can't wait to have some social interaction with people!!

Ninjacat big hugs to you for your pregnancy pains and itching and indigestion (I'm there too).

Broodzilla big hug for you too You are allowed to moan and feel miserable. Pregnancy can be total pants! My mum calls it 'a condition' (pregnancy that is). I was feeling really low last week when I could hardly walk with my back and felt guilty for moaning but I think we need to moan to help cope with the downs. So sorry you are still being sick.

It's hot in Wales today.

Thanks Ladies. I've eaten and feel a bit better now. Will go and have a nap so I can get on with work...

On a more positive note, don't know if any of you are into reading blogs, but dooce.com has just posted an amazing natural birth story. Amazing. Her writing style is slightly unusual so if you've never read her stuff before you may find it a bit strange, but OMG, she had me in tears. (Had a quick scan through the comments, and it seems to have made some people go "I want that!" and some "gimme all the drugs", so I suppose be warned that it's very detailed.) I fall in the "I want that!" camp.

Hi everyone, hope you are all having a great week.
Broodzilla - hang on in there. I really feel for you still being sick. Crying sounds completely justified!
Ninjacat - that is horrible for you all. It sounds like you are very lucky to have such a sensible DS with his head screwed on despite all the rubbish that is being thrown at him.
I have just agreed to go on a business trip to Munich for one night tomorrow. My job usually involves loads of travel but I have been 'grounded' since quite early in my pregnancy as it was exhausting me and making me sick. It's also much harder to run around after clients, carrying laptops and documents etc now, especially as I have a bit of pelvic pain that slows me down and gets worse if I carry a lot of stuff. But I've been very quiet at work recently and I sort of miss my old 'jet set' persona so I thought what the hell, one last trip! I'm sure I will be really wiped out by the end of it but I'm quite excited now.
By the way, I had a blood test this week and found out I'm quite anaemic - have been given Pregaday pills to counter it. Has anyone else been given them?

southernbelle, I don't have any experience myself but my sister used a book for her under 3 year old to explain about the baby thing. He really enjoyed "reading" it. And I also still appreciate that my parents never told me any lies about it (well, I had been convinced that babies would come out through your belly button - why else would you have that hole? - and I just thought my mums explanation was wrong!)
Koumak, I think, at a certain age, sharing is just impossible for them. But maybe you could let him choose some of his old baby toys who would then belong to the new baby?
Ninja, sorry to hear that you are still having problems with your ex. That must be so annoying.
Broodzilla, I think, we all need to moan from time to time but it is also good to keep in mind that we are actually lucky because we are able to get pregnant and also because the pregnancy could be much worse. I too have only little problems but sometimes in the evening I just feel so sorry for myself because I'm having heartburn and restless legs in the same time and no idea in which position I could possibly sleep... But I think, as long as I still remember that actually I'm quite lucky, it's ok.

Hello everyone

Koumak - i tried the IO green dress with brown platform sandals which looked great (I'm quite tanned at the mo too which helps... would advise johnson's holiday body if need a bit of colour!). Have also got beige cardie which i think i'l wear with it if needed as am wearing it for work dinner so needs dressing down rather than up. But think black would look great too. Not sure about necklaces.. tbh my boobs are so massive now, they distort whatever i wear, have spent fortune on bras!

Had my 28 week check today, altho am really 27 wks, & all was good, except not sure whether i need anti D injection or not. Lots of complications over my blood type & DH blood type, felt like i was on the Jeremy Kyle show at times with all the comments about paternity being bandied around! Anyway they took another blood sample and i will find out next week, but hopefully i don;t need it as we are both negative.

And am having a surprise baby... the midwife listened to the heartbeat which was exactly in the middle of the range, normally its higher for a girl or lower for a boy, so no clues there.

I've been given a baby car seat... now think have to go home & check its not out of date

Thanks for ideas about the books! I will go and have a look as think that might be the best option! DD has problems with her bowels and I just think trying to explain anything that happens 'down there' will make her think of the problems she has! A book will explain much better than me!

Ninja sorry to hear about the probelms you are having. It must be really hard but I hope things turn out ok for you and for ds.

Broodzilla moan away. I feel like that is all I do at times. I don't 'do' pregnancy well and although I'm really happy about having a baby, I really don't like the pains and sickness that comes with it. I hope you feel better and glad you managed to eat something.

eeyore good luck with your trip!

Erika glad the anti natal classes have come through. I hope you enjoy them and enjoy the social aspect too.

I've had a really busy day, but a lovely one too. We walked round the country park and dd loved running round with her friend and climbing trees. Did me no good at all though and I'm now so tired that I think I will go to bed when dd does (dh is away so its not like I need to be sociable!). Much quieter day in store tomorrow me thinks! DD is off to her best friends house so it will be a lot quieter!

Broodzilla - this is the car seat we used for DD & DS rear facing, it's now in DH's car as a forwad facing.

www.lilimay.com/car_seats/concord/ultimax-car-seat.php

hope that works - car seat was great, DD was 8.1lb and went stright into it quite happily, as did DS at 10.1lb, it did mean that they stayed rear facing for longer as the only restriction is the length of their legs!! You can get rear facing car seats in UK for toddlers now, but they are not sold in most mainstream outlets.

Ninja - sounds like you're having a nightmare with your ex. Can't be easy.

DD has obviously been speaking to someone about the birds and the bees - she was telling me that mummy has to eat alot to make her baby big, when it's big it will pop out into a car seat and then she will sit in the middle of the shiny car (we're getting a new car!) so she can look after baby and DS. Glad she has it sorted!! Amuses me that she thinks it 'pops out' - she hasn't questioned where of, and that it pops out into a car seat - like it's between your legs ready to catch the baby!! bless her.

Broodzilla, I'm so sorry you're still sick. I remember reaching the stage with DS when I was really struggling to bend over the loo with the bump and the pelvic pain, and it all seemed like the last straw. Hang in there...

Word of advice to everyone re. the rounded-base carseats: don't leave your vigorous ten week old flapping away crossly in his carseat on the dining room table, because it IS actually possible for said baby to rock the whole carseat off the edge.

DS will be two in October. I'm not sure how much of the baby thing he understands - when I first explained to him that a heavily pregnant friend of mine had a baby in her tummy, he looked horrified and made the baby sign for 'eating'. Then had to explain hastily that no, she hadn't actually EATEN a baby. When she showed up in June with her newborn, I told him that the baby in her tummy had come out and look, here it is! He just stared, all round-faced and round-mouthed, looking completely gobsmacked. He does kiss my tummy a lot, and he knows that he has to be gentle with it (ie. he only hits me around the head, shoulders and legs with his little English Heritage wooden sword).

I read Dooce's birth story, and it just made me want to lock my knees together. Have not forgotten how much the whole thing bloody HURTS. Gnnnh. Wish I could make DH do it instead, would be ever so supportive...

to wire or not to wire...

went for bra fitting earlier and the woman said that at this stage pregnancy should be wearing non wire bras..i don't remember this from first time around and not a big fan of non wire...wore them after when b feeding...

what u reckon?

We have a book called 'What's in your tummy, Mummy?' and it's great. Simple language for toddlers and each month spans two pages. Page 1 gives information e.g baby can now hear you and page 2 gives a picture of the baby inside your tummy at the correct scale.
DS loves it and means he can understand the growth bit - the last page frightens me a bit as it folds down with a life size baby engaged and ready to come out!!
I'll have a read and see what it says about the actual exit!!

I know I'm extra hormonal and sensitive at the moment, but I feel really horrible. I got REALLY mad at dd and shouted at her really loudly because she wouldn't go to sleep (suprised I've not had a visit from social services with the neighbours making a complaint tonight). I'm just so tired. It wasn't warrented and she didn't deserve it. I did then go up and take her into my bed and cuddle with her until she went to sleep as I was so upset at getting cross. Bless her - she told me not to cry and that she loved me to the moon and back which of course made me cry more.

Wish I was a more patient mum