Hi everyone,
I've had a few days off MN and have just spent ages catching up with a cuppa.
Lemontop Sorry to hear you're struggling with the commute. Is there any way you could work from home some days? Do I remember right that you're a teacher? I know I'm a bit ignorant, but aren't employers supposed to make reasonable adjustments to the workload if you're struggling whilst pg? Is there any way someone else can take some of your classes and you do marking/lessonplanning etc from home?
Katster Awww, how sweet your DH is doing a painting! It's nice to see some happy positive DH stories too!
Laugs I think because the beans are growing so much now, they basically leach everything from us and our bloodsugar levels are even more volatile than previously? It's almost like we're forced to go back to the munching every two hours thing from the early weeks (besides, whenever I eat a normal sized meal it makes me really uncomfy as I've clearly not got any room left in my belly for my own gut! )
Skorpion at the allen keys. They're all over our house too. Millions! And you'd think they all look the same but if ever one goes missing it's a disaster! I also find random metal things that basically just look like rubbish that's fallen off something and SO many times I've nearly chucked them in the bin only to find that they're v.v.important...
Becky What a super sweet thing for your DH to do, especially with staying up late to install it! As I said to Katster, it's nice to see some happy stories too!
Erika Sorry to hear you're in so much pain. Could you try to see your MW/GP earlier? With any luck, a visit to the physio will sort you out - a friend of mine who is 29 weeks just got referred, and found out that she was basically all out of kilter with different bits of her being misaligned. The physio managed to put everything back in place again, so while she was feeling a bit bruised after the apt, she's feeling like a million dollars now! Fingers crossed!
Easyeggs Glad to hear the bleed stopped. Must have been so scary for you! Also, thinking of you and your angelbaby today. It's a shame you can't get to her grave. Where I'm from, we have a tradition to light a candle for someone who's passed away - I do that every year on my grandpa's birthday and the anniversary of his death. I know it may seem silly, but maybe give it a go. That way, her light is with you. Big hugs.
Tamlin Hope you've managed to get some rest after your trip! Sounds exhausting! Sorry to hear about your friend, that's so sad... there really don't seem to be any words for situations like that.
Turtle I'm really sorry to hear you've been having such a rough time. I would say the same as Katster : how did you feel while he was gone? Was it a relief not to have him around, one less thing to worry about? Or did you feel like it's nice to have another adult around, or maybe even miss him? I think whichever it is, says a lot about the situation. Put yourself and your little ones first - lots of people would say that the family should stay together at all costs, but I couldn't disagree more - nobody is going to be happy in a home with an atmosphere and staying together "for the kids" is doing everyone a dis-service. And as others have said - we're all here to "listen" and to share the ups AND the downs. We may not be able to help much, but sometimes just getting things off your chest helps and writing things down makes your thoughts clearer.
Finally - even though I know this has turned into another Broodzilla marathon post - I just wanted to say thank you so much to all of you and your kind and supportive words over the weekend. You really did make me feel less alone, and your advise was invaluable and sensible (just what I needed in a hormonal mess!).
Have spent pretty much all day, every day, since then getting the house back together. I was so angry that I ended up moving a load of furniture (which I did regret later on, but at least it's done) and had a look at flights home, until I came to my senses thanks to you. If I was to go home now, due to it being a plane ride away, there literally would not be any coming back until some time after the birth, so DH really would miss the birth and the crucial first few days/weeks. I know I've got to give him the option to be a part of it, and a chance to do the right thing. So I'm staying put and hope that I'll find that was the right thing to do. Now that the house is all ready (I've even packed the hospital bags for me and the bean) I feel far more calm and relaxed. I do realize that my state was not only induced by DH and his behaviour, but also hormones - I guess the nesting instinct is there for a reason, and with the whole house upside down, boxes everywhere and nothing getting done, it was just too much... Imagine the good ol' days when pregnant women just swept the cave clean of cobwebs and were done!