Due November 2009 - we just can't stop chatting!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

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10. Please do not at any point tell me how hard this pregnancy is for you too, if I dare suggest I might be suffering for not the first time.

11. Do not eat my chocolate. Ever.

easyeggs and thoughts for you tomorrow. My DB and SIL lost their first, their DD Lauren at 26 weeks, and she carries a photo of her now after 6 years, in a locket around her neck and they celebrate/remember her birthday.

In relation to small babies - i measured 3-5 weeks out with DD too, had scans at 30wks, 32, 34, 36, 37 weeks, each time, she slowed down further and further. She arrived on her own at 38+2, after I was threatened with induction due her stopping growing completely at last scan at 37 wks. They wanted to induce me there and then and I said not ready! She was born 5lb exactly and apart from small and a little jaundiced, perfectly healthy, strong with a good set of lungs. They never found out why she stopped growing and she has had no health problems, in fact she has a v good immune system and is very clever (I would say that!) At the scans they checked the placenta and air flow and all was fine. Just seemed to be one of those unexplainable things. I am consultant led now though just to keep an eye on things (first appt tomorrow as they have been v v slack!). I hope things are ok for you.

tamlin so sorry for your friend. Hugs to her and you too. It must be so hard.

turtle meant to post, sorry to hear you are having DH trouble too. How inconsiderate is he? I hope you are able to rectify your relationship and that this is a blip due to pregnancy but I would not be impressed that some meditation weekend is considered a priority.

So for all those having a really tough time. Can't stop to chat more, but taking heart from hearing other DH stories (turtle, all fingers crossed for yours). Mine read my rant on MN and is seriously wounded. We need to have a very long chat when we both get a minute.

He is very good at bins but I second nos 7 & 8

Development plan done, lesson planning to go...

If I disappear for a while, it's to mop up the aftermath.

Oh gosh, I feel for so many of you.

turtle I really hope you can sort things out which is best for you and the children. We are here to listen so like others have said, come and tell unburden to us if it helps.

easyeggs Will be thinking of you tomorrow. (hugs).

tamlin sorry to hear about your friend. I'm knowing that you are there for her will be a comfort.

beepbeep sorry about your hob, but your plum juice story did make me giggle!

Loving the list for DH's! Nearly all so far are appliciable to my DH

I had my 28 week check with the midwife today. All seems fine although apparently I need to eat more . That's not something I thought I would ever hear as I'm certainly not what one would consider small!! Its because there are ketones in my urine which since looking up online may be a sign of gestational diabeties? Midwife didn't seem overly concerned so hopefully should be ok. Also being referred to the consultant to talk about the possibility of needing a c-section.

It can be a symptom of diabetes, but not always.

Ketones are produced when you are using up your own body fat stores, rather than generating calories from your food intake. With pregnancy, especially at this stage, baby takes more calories that you might perhaps normally eat. Your pregnancy size is deceptive as your size is often due to genetics rather than what you are eating, and how baby is putting on weight, so while it may appear that you are putting on a good ol' amount of weight, it might not be the case (could be, for example water retention).

When I was vomitting constantly i was checked regularly for ketones. Luckily they did not increase signficantly, god know how!

So get out the ice cream and indulge yourself Seriously though, hope it is nothing serious. Will you be tested again?

Turtle Hope things get better soon. If you need to chat, do come on here and talk to us. Thinking of you. x

Beepbeep and Tigger - thanks. It just really got me down. Ironic really, I'd have probably been just as upset if someone had said, "My God you're HUGE!". Probably because I'm now in a lot of pain, it made me feel like I was doing something wrong, and that I was making a fuss over nothing. Ho hum.

Hobnob - Have you done your development plan???

Laugs - Thank you Will get the CDs off to you soon, have been terribly disorganised this week so far.

Katster I agree I have a tankini from BM, was second hand, but is so comfy. Their sizes seem rather normal - order the size you would order if you weren't pregnant. Also Mothercare have a sale on, I got some fab formal trousers for £10.

Easyeggs I don't know what to say really. I hope tomorrow is okay for you. x

Tamlin I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. x

Becky because DP has lived alone now for years, he's quite set in his ways, and epties the bin once a week on a Sunday. By the time I get there Friday night its starting to get full. I tend to have to nag him. Very ironic, as he's rather OCD in so many other respects!!

So today, more pain. Text MW, said to stick to taking the paracetamol and she'll review when she sees me at the labour class on Friday, and see if she reckons I need a referal to physio. Even aqua aerobics was painful, and that normally eases my pains Also had pains on top of my bump and saw flashing lights at one point - what's going on with me?!? My blood pressure was normal at my latest check. Guessing my blood tests were okay as haven't had a call from the hospital. Urine was fine. Bryn moving around as much as ever. But still - am worrying now. And it really hurts. Thought that any aches and pains I'd get couldn't be worse - surely - than my ME at its very very worst, but I trully am in agony. Was close to tears earlier. UGH. Sorry to rant.

Tomorrow am supposed to be going out for lunch with a friend, but don't know if I can face it. Mum won't be here so I can't take my wheelchair. On the other hand if I stay in my BPD flares up and I end up driving myself bonkers - AHHH!!!!

Apologies for the Me Me Me post. DP had an early night so couldn't rant to him. Am getting very scared about the whole impending motherhood thing as well - could have really done with him NOT being tired tonight!

DH has just bought me what he considers (and it is in his mind - which makes it so in mine too) a romantic prsent! He surprised me with it this morning. Can you guess?
a) a bunch of red roses
b) a pair of diamond earrings
c) an invitation for a candle lit meal out for two with him
d) a new keyboard for my laptop

Remember: he works in IT. Easy peasy! He's so sweet

Erika sorry you are in so much pain, I really feel for you and no-one, especially you, should apologise for me, me, me posts. You are so kind and considerate to all of us and always give good advice for all our woes in your posts

Is it a new keyboard for your laptop, Becky? Aaaaw. My DH would find that very romantic - he came home with a USB hub so you can have several USBs in the computer at once the other night and he looked very satisfied!

Erika I am sorry you are in so much pain Does the MW think it is SPD? Yuck, you poor thing. It sounds horrendous. I hope you manage to get out today to meet your friend. Is it possible that she could come round instead, so you don't actually have to trawl through crowds etc?

It is a new keyboard and he's just told me he waited until I went to bed and was up until 1.30am unscrewing the old one and putting the new one in! He's so sweet! My DH find USB hubs very exciting too!

Aw, it's like my DH and his allen keys and chain sets and wd40 for his bike! How sweet

erika I hope it passes, really sorry to hear you're in pain. And really don't worry about ranting - this is the place for it.

Wouldn't you think morning sickness should be over by now? I went out this morning without eating breakfast and about half way to the supermarket started feeling really sick. Just got back and eaten a slice of toast but I think it might be too late aready. I'm getting really fed up.

erika how horrible for you to be in so much pain. Maybe it's just your body's way of saying to take it easy. I know what you mean about needing to get out of the house as that always brings me down if I'm stuck indoors. Could your friend push the wheelchair, or you get a taxi to town?

becky lucky you with the new keyboard How sweet of him to fix it while you were asleep. (do you think he's been reading all our moaning posts??) My DH loves practical presents too. He can't bear to buy flowers - buys plants instead, so I can enjoy them for longer. But the point of flowers is that they don't last forever! The only time he's ever bought me flowers was when DD was born, which of course made it more special as I'd never had them before. He'd better not forget the flowers this time round, I am relying on them!

sorry, meant to say easyeggs I'll be thinking of you today x

Aaaw Laugs at the flowers when your DD was born!! I absolutely LOVE flowers, know all the names and always drool over them when we pass florists. Has DH ever bought me flowers? Err, possible once, now I think of it, but a very long time ago!! He is also a plant man, really likes plants and watering them, even though I would LOVE a gorgeous bunch of flowers every now and then! Also could not contemplate leaving the house without food - I am still the same. I think it's when blood sugar drops, because every time I feel vaguely hungry, I also feel incredibly sick. Am resigned to the fact that it will continue to the end.... Were you sick with DD?

Only twice in the whole 9 months - ha! I didn't know how lucky I was. She was also a very easy baby, so I'm hoping this high maintenance pregnancy is not going to be a reflection of his/her demands!

DH's ideal plant would be hardy and vegetable-growing; something nice and sustainable and self-sufficient He's lucky he didn't bring me one of those into the postnatal ward!

How are you getting on with your spare room?

Dont think I got anything when ds was born, but dh was incredibly helpful (for the first couple of days at least!) so that kind of made up for it. the mw's even commented on how doting he was. lol. hoping i might get that dh again when this littlen is born.

I really must go tidy now, I have ds's Godmother coming round this afternoon and the house is a right pig-sty. It'll e nie to see her, but in a way i wish i wasnt as im so tired today, and i might accidentally snap at her.

Yep - my DH is v much in love with his chilli plant...
Spare room is looking much better, thanks for asking! Paint is dry now so I need to start putting all the furniture back and filling the millions of built-in shelves. Will be a good job as the hallway and our room are full of clutter, it is driving me mad! DH has announced he is going to paint a jungle scene to go on the wall (on a canvas, not on the actual wall), and put us and our cat somewhere in it - thought this was quite sweet!! He loves painting and is much more artistic than me...

Am sure pukey pregnancy not reliable indicator or high-maintenance baby.... Maybe you are having a boy this time?! I must admit, knowing how pregnancies can vary so much symptom-wise, it really scares me about going through it again and wondering what I will get next time!

turtle so sorry to hear about the situation with your DH and you find the best solution for you and the kids. And rant away whenever you like.

tamlin so sorry to hear about your friend. I can't begin to think about how she's feeling.

easyeggs thinking of you today.

erika sorry to hear you're in so much pain.

big hugs to all

I've started back at work and suddenly feel a whole lot more pregnant! As predicted the long walks between home / stations / work are much harder than my actual workload. I have to allow myself so much extra time as I am moving slower than a snail and get a weird stitch thing when I walk too fast. Think it set off a few braxton hicks yesterday (I might be making this up though as still not entirely sure what BH are supposed to feel like!)

I've started to get really bad pain in my wrists. I tought it was just where I'd slept but it's getting much worse. I've heard pregnant women sometimes get carpal tunnel and wondering if it's that? Will ask doc next week.

I woke up this morning and think the baby must've been curled up in a tiny ball as one side of the bump was solid and sticking out. So cute. Having crazy mental dreams that I can't even begin to describe.

I'm 30 weeks tomorrow. 10 to go! Sounds so much closer to the end!

Sorry for super long post. Hope you don't mind me writing about my day to day trivialities when others are having such a hard time.

Lemontop I was thinking of you yesterday with it being your first day back. Yuck. Sounds like you really need to take it easy on that commute. That is the bit I am most dreading as well. And the comments of 'Oh aren't you HUUUUUGE!'. Atleast you have a bank holiday weekend to recover a bit. How many weeks are you working until? I am really undecided.... Will have to go until half term at least, but originally had said I would work for two more weeks after that. Suppose will just have to see how I feel.

On a ridiculously trivial note.... Does anyone have a bread maker?! I really want one, but not sure if it will be just another thing to clutter the kitchen up.

Braxton hicks feels like your whole tummy has gone tight, like what you expect the word 'contraction' to describe (whereas real contractions didn't feel to me like anything was contracting IYSIM). I've had them while walking too.

30 weeks, how exciting! You really are on the home stretch now.

katster how sweet of your DH to paint a picture. We spent hours sorting out DD's room and it looks much better, but still no space for the new baby! I had planned to put the cot in there early on, so DD wouldn't resent the lack of space later on, but now I think it's stupid to take much-needed space away before we have to, so I think we'll have the baby totally in our room until it's 6 months old or so.
I know what you mean about being scared by how different pregnancies can be. I wasn't on MN last time round and in a way I'm glad I wasn't as I think it would have scared me a bit. It's great for support though (and a good moan!)

trikken our flat is a pigsty too. I have been so lazy recently: just about keeping on top of the tidying, but not bothering to clean very often . You have reminded me to feel guilty about it, so I might get on and do some...

Hi lemontop, I wondered how your first day back went. I know what you mean about feeling more pregnant, I am suddenly tired, out of breath and find moving about more difficult. Get that weird stitch, too, when I walk and today just feel really out of it - had mild period like pains low down and I think the little one is doing something to my cervix - it really hurts sometimes. Only 26+3 though, so long to go yet... No idea what the wrist thing is, though. Seven weeks to go at work and it feels like aaaaaaages.

Katster - we have a breadmaker - can't remember which one but will have a look when i'm at home if you want. It's not small, but we haven't bought bread for over a year now, also use it for pizza dough, nann bread dough and things like that. it has a timer so can have bread ready when you come down on a morning. was about £100 and we use it tonnes.

Eating a very healthy chelsea bun for lunch - yummy!!

I always find braxton hicks make my bump tight across the top of my bump - just under my chest. definately different to normal contraction - can be uncomfortable but not painful.

I dont have a bread machine, I like making it tho as it seems to be a very good form of arm excercise. lol. never lasts long tho, as soon as it is ready i have dh and ds pandering me for it. I didnt know you could make nanns and pizza dough with it tho. sounds v useful.

plus beepbeep- chelsea buns r fine, are they not an essential part of one's pregnancy diet? (ps, the more the better)