Due November 2009 - we just can't stop chatting!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

A new thread!

re toddler care, planning on dropping him off at which ever grandparent's who is free, they all work, but neither has fri's or wed's off so those days could be a problem. dont know if they'd be allowed to leave work to be childcare.

katster obviously each to their own and all that but 38+6 sounds very late to me. You need to think of travelling to work in rush hour in London, standing up all day and that's before you even start teaching. And don't worry about trying to organise your time to please work-they will have to make arrangements to fit round you. I'm leaving 6 weeks before my due date due to hols but I'm relieved to be honest. have started to feel a bit uncomfortable now and still 12 weeks to go.

Had my 28wks appointment today. Got to have GTT due to raised BMI . Also no chance of water birth and prob no birth centre due to strep b thingy. The hospital have also cancelled all tours of labour ward due to swine flu and can only have one birth partner and no visitors while in hospital. (Although I'm secretly pleased about the last part!)

I might just go for a mamas and papas luna mix buggy. Bidding on one on ebay at the moment.

Scarlotti that's what I thought.. Don't think DH really gets what it's like, especially as I have an hour commute on train/tube, plus a class of 30 year 1s to run around after.

Hope everyone's having good days.

Hi everyone. Hope you are all doing well. Poor Katster with the food poisoning, that must be awful for you. Can you keep anything down at all?
I am feeling much better after my German vomiting nightmare. Everyone at work was so nice to me on Monday, I am so lucky to work with such nice people, especially as I work in finance where everyone is 'supposed' to be a self-centred git!
Since I started taking my iron pills I am a totally differnt person. I didn't realise how tired I was before, just put it down to the pregnancy. But on Sunday I went for a long walk with DH and felt great, and then last night I walked for an hour to meet DH after work and was still going strong at 11pm, completely unknown for me over the last few weeks. Those pills are magic!!
Did anyone watch a program called 'The Trouble With Girls' this week? DH and I watched it over dinner and it was sooooo sad. The girls just didn't have much of a chance in life. It just broke my heart to see them making all the wrong decisions but with nobody to guide them towards the right ones. I think I must be getting more maternal as before I probably would have just thought they were nasty yobettes....

Last time I finished work 6 weeks before and I remember feeling like I couldn't have worked another day. But then, I had delivered my biggest ever project the day before I started mat. leave, and I had a 1.5 hour commute each way, so no chance of winding down.

lemontop that's a shame about the tours of labour ward etc being cancelled but I suppose we'll be pleased when it's our newborns being protected.

lemontop, do you mind me asking which area you're in..? I'm terrified that Wiltshire is going to institute the 'only one birth partner' rule, as I'm really hoping that the doula we've hired is going to make a difference to how this birth goes (not being left completely alone post-haemorrhage in stirrups with bloody newborn on top of me would be nice for starters). I don't understand the logic which says a) swine flu is going to lead to mass shortage in midwives, therefore b) we are going to cut risk of swine flu by limiting the number of supportive birth partners.

Scarlotti, is the lucozade the GD test..? I don't have any of the risk factors for that, so I don't think I'll be tested - I wasn't with DS.

As for the toddler question - we'll be hauling my mother out from London, but if things kick off too quickly, I'm drawing up a short list of friends from my toddler group whom I could leave him with for a few hours. If it's the middle of the night, we're going to drag one of the local dads out of bed and make him sleep on our couch (hey, we offered to do the same for them two months ago!)

I always pride myself on being able to sleep..can't do it now..restless legs, having to pee and then not getting back to sleep. I HATE IT...with DD I slept till 11 am on mat leave, it was bliss...so am sympathetic to all of you..its so funny we're all having the same issue..I've also started putting lavender oil on my pillow...thing is am addicted to it now

Katster poor you...hope you're better now..what a mare. Don't worry about the bubba..if he's wriggling he's fine.. as for 38 +6..hmmm..you could prob work if you were sedentary but the commute plus the kids..I certainly couldn't..think about it.

laugs I have to fly my mother here a few days before the due date to ensure she's there to look after DD..if its earlier than we have great neighbours but I'd rather she be at home and not displaced.

pavlov hope the building work isn't getting you too stressed...good luck to your mate..can't believe we'll all be there in 12 or more weeks!

Has anyone started washing clothes yet.. i have, and realised I have WAY TOO MANY to wash...those little baby gros are ever so cute! I know its early but i just had to start something.

BTW I bought a Stokke for DD..it was the best ever for getting on the bus and down stairs as the front wheels fold in..go try it out in a shop..its ever so smooth and has a lovely carrycot that she slept in a lot, at friends houses etc..

scarlotti poor you with the cramps..are they only occurring at night..me too...how painful!?

I've done 5 lots of washing already..mum's gone and BIL and wife and child coming tomorrow. Beds done and towels done...anyone else want to come to Hotel Geneva!?? this time tho I have to cook..no mum to cook for me

eeyore2 I saw The Trouble with Girls. Truly truly distressing. What a train wreck of a life those girls were leading! The poverty, lack of education and then inevitable pregnancies - I was strangely glued to it though - serious car crash TV.

I'm also addicted to "Underage and Pregnant"! . I don't have very sophisticated taste when it comes to TV viewing.

I watched The Trouble With Girls but missed the ending - dare I ask if it turned out happily for any of them? It made me feel very sad too - the girl who kept going on and on about how she didn't want to get pregnant and then did anyway. It just seemed so inevitable, even though it shouldn't have done.

I need to wash some baby clothes at some point, but am tempted to just take a load to the launderette. Laundry is my absolute worst job and I can never keep up at the best of times, nevermind adding all the newborn stuff from the dusty attic into the mix.

I went to pick up something from Freecycle and have found my dream place to live! It is just a terrace of small red brick houses, but they have really pretty gardens and the streets (there are a few all together) are all pedestrianised. It feels so safe and friendly. I'm having fantasies of DD and the baby playing out in the street while I sit nd read a book in the front garden! My fantasies have become very suburban these days... Never thought I was the type

tamlin I'm in London but booked into a hospital in Croydon. It sounded like something they'd just started. I guess there's still time for rules to change etc

Me and DH are having a massive clearout to make room for stuff in nursery to be! Filled loads of binbags but haven't even touched the sides.

Got a big bottle of stuff which should sort my heartburn out though (fingers crossed).

tamlin yep, it's the first of the GD tests. I think it must depend on where you live as I had it with DS too. You drink your lucozade then 45 mins later get bloods taken. If your sugar levels are higher than a certain level, then you have to go in for the full on GTT test, which I had to with DS. No food from midnight, no water from 8am then bloods, glucose drink, wait for what feels like an eternity before more bloods. Last time it was nearly 1pm before I got to eat a mangy hospital sandwich and I was almost fainting from hunger!
(sorry lemontop am sure your experience will be much better )

sleepless I get the odd twinge during the day but flex my feet a lot to stop them. Nights are the killer though - maybe I sleep with pointy feet or something

kaster there's no way you'll do a huge commute at that late stage - and what if baby comes early? Anytime from 37 weeks is considered term. Stand your ground and leave at half term, if not before. I am only staying until 37 weeks as I can only afford a limited time off - if I had more leeway I'd leave at 36 weeks. I drive to work in an air con'd car and park in the same grounds as my office. Then I sit all day. Commuting then walking around a classroom all day is a different ball game imo.

Laugs - the show ended with the girl who swore she'd never get pregnant moving into a rotten council flat on her own. The other friend (who had a baby with the 26 year old) went on to have another baby. That's about it

Just trying to catch up.

I am going to ignore all of you and still pretend i can work till EDD!

back to reading

katster hope you are feeling better. Sounds awful. And you really should consider mat leave earlier than 38+6. I am leaving earlier, and i have a 10 min max drive into work (dh drives me) and a mostly sit down job. It is mentally draining, where yours in physically and mentally draining, you will need to rest for a week or so before lo arrives.

Builders - its horrible. they are doing the work, are ripping it all out and pretty much starting again. Its heartbreaking to watch them do it but if their boss had bloody fessed up in the first place to making a mistake, it would not need to be ripped out! So the house is chaos, there is not a room not covered in dust, and no point cleaning as tomorrow it will be worse, the house is a building site and is soul destroying. I have to keep reminding myself that this is to make it all right again so it will be worth it.

health - I feel quite odd. I feel v v v v tired, heavy, lathargic, unable to move quickly tired, I feel a bit out of breath, like I can't always quite catch my breath. Not quite that much but almost like I can't, if that makes sense. I have a horrid headache, and my muscles are heavy but that could easily be swimming yesterday, or rather, 'bobbing' . My heart is almost continually pounding, and generally I feel a bit weird but can't quite explain. I am putting it down to stress. Anyone else experiencing this? DH said its probably pg related somehow and that I am just tired after the events of the last few days too.

It sounds like you need a rest, pav. Slight breathlessness can be quite common I think (can be associated with anaemia, but you already take iron don't you?). Also the heart pounding thing - is it actually faster or just that you can feel the beats more? That could just be the fact there is so much more blood pumping round your body. I had both those things last preg and that's what I was told. But since you're v tired and headachey too I would get to bed asap! You need it after your stressful few weeks.

Actually just remembered I felt like this on saturday. I got up at 8.30am, went back to bed 11am-1.30pm and then back in bed for the night at 7.30pm - and I actually slept all the way through! I had a headache, achy neck and most of all felt exhausted. I convinced myself it was swine flu but was too tired to be worried about it. When I woke up in the morning all the symptoms had gone.

mumsiebumsie I'd hoped there might be some relief. It does really make you think about the kind of reality some new mums face and the situations their babies are born into.

Wow you guys don't have talk!

Katster I'd suggest taking mat leave at half term. Poor you getting food poisoning It cam come from the most unlikely sources. I once got poisoned by a mini milk ice lolly from my sister's freezer (both DH and I did - before the DSs came along).

I had a happy day yesterday as I went to meet a friend of mine who I went to Uni with and she has one little girl who is nearly 5 and she's been trying for a second baby for 2 years and had two MCs and she's 13 weeks pregnant! I was sooooo happy for her because previously she'd told me they were going to keep TTCing until October and then they were going to give up as she considered herself too old (38 - not too old I think but everyone has their own ideas when they want children). I was soooo happy I couldn't stop beaming.

I've had a bad today today because I'd arranged for my mum to come out with me for the day as her brithday present and I was going to take her to the village she grew up in, in Herefordshire, and have a nice lunch all booked - I even arranged baby sitting. But she never showed up this morning, she forgot. I rang her at home, rang her mobile, I even went to her house to find her in case she'd fallen or something or was ill! But she'd gone out. Should I be mad? Upset? Or just forget it? She hasn't phoned yet. I think she's too scared to phone me!

BBL you could just tell her how disappointed you are and what you had planned. The guilt she'll feel will do the rest for you

pav I agree I think it's the stress of the building work wearing you out more than normal. If it helps though, I get out of breath walking up a flight of stairs now and can feel my heartbeat. Sigh.

BBL, sorry to hear about your day. But I also feel sorry for your mum, I'm sure she is very disappointed herself. And as someone who has an incredible bad memory at the moment, I would like to ask you not to be too mad at her (I hope she is not suffering from pregnancy brain though). Maybe you can rearrange something and still enjoy a nice day together?

I've just spoken to my mum. I feel so awful because she feels so awful. She totally forgot and has been out all day! I'm not mad at all. I just feel so bad she feels so bad, if that makes sense. I'll rearrange it for next Wed or the one after babysitting willing.

BBL, you should just both laugh about it! In the end, it is good that nothing has happened to her and she has been out (and probably had a nice day until she found out what she has forgotten). Maybe you could bring her something like a new diary or send her an "official invitation" for the next attempt just to tease her a bit?

Thanks ursigurke for the idea. I was laughing about it on the phone just now to her. She feels so bad I just wish she would laugh too now!

Poor you Becky I hope you manage to rearrange and have a really nice time. My mother has the most appalling memory, I always make sure I call / tell her the day before something is happening just to make sure.

Found a car seat in the Friday Ad for the other side of me for the car seat that goes in the Urban Detour I bought the other day Going to see it tomorrow. Put the Travel System back in.

SS meeting went well - only lasted about ten minutes. And the social worker said she'll come with me to my meeting with adult services on Friday as well, save me going by myself.

Feel so horrible for complaining about DP earlier this week. When I saw him today I was shocked at how down and withdrawn he is Never seen him this bad. He's talking about going to see the doctor - which is huge for him, usually avoids them like the plauge because of his ED.

Hope you're all feeling good tonight, hope you'll forgive me for not reading through everything, quite low and stressed tonight

Erika I loved using the car seat in the uran detour, it made everything so easy. tho sometimes it doesnt clip in properly and needs a wriggle to go in.

Took me an hour to get onto mumsnet this morning!!!