Due Jan 2010 - watching our beans grow into bumps :-)

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As we all talk so fast the last thread is nearly full so thought I would start us off on a new one

that is not too bad, will have a scoobies.

Sitting here and all I can hear is the neighbour's daughter yelling at her kids, give it a few mins and the kids will start yelling and screaming back!...oh no, there they go I keep saying to myself that I won't turn into that...please tell me we don't all turn into screaming harpies the minute we give birth!

Oh I can't stand that! Poor you! Fortunately they are in the minority here - the same ones that refer to their 'weans' in such a derogatory manner...
Skye is a beautiful name! I have heard it used a few times recently, all after the island though, not wannabe hippies!
It is our music festival this weekend and a such all our family are descending on us; my mum, PILs, SIL, BIL + 3 kids under 5. Luckily the old house won't exchange for a few weeks yet so we have plenty of space. I have a course to organise starting next week for 18 youngsters, really need a break, and I just want to run away! Do you think that is allowed?
Oh well, just going to have a looooong shower while I have the house to myself and make masses of lasagne so people can help themselves...and take in a few gigs along the way!
Jealous of all the scans btw, glad they all look well though.

somewhathorrified no we don't all turn into screaming harpies and I'm sure you won't either! I think most of us have our moments when we're frazzled etc. (which is allowed) but you don't need to scream at kids or as you noticed they learn to yell/scream back. How horrible for you to have to listen to.

Have a lovely/busy weekend Fraochsmum.I'm craving your lasagne - mmm. We are off to have dinner with MIL and SIL shortly. MIL has a big garden and it's lovely and sunny here at the mo so I'm hoping dd will be nicely tired out by tonight! We're hoping for another trip to the beach too if the weather keeps up.

Have a lovely weekend everybody.

Ooooh that sounds lovely and relaxing!
I am looking forward to it and to seeing everyone, but I just want to sleep now! Sunday is a huge concert called 'Survivor's Night' and for the first year ever I might be selling tickets as opposed to searching for them...
Enjoy the beach quirkychick

evening all - just a quick check in whilst I am sat waiting for DH to bring a chinese back. Am enjoying an end of week bottle of alcohol free beer !
Been knackered for weeks but feeling a bit better this week.
Lovely scan news for those who have had them. I have the 20 week scan in a couple of weeks after our hols. Look Huuuuuuuuuuuuuge already ! We are not going to find out the gender - like to have a surprise at the end. My bets are for a DD but I am not bothered either way - happy and healthy would be good.
Happy weekend y'all

Our 4D scan was £175 Bethoo, was my birthday present! That included the scan with a few measurements (weight, limbs, head), and the whole scan (~ 45 minutes i think) filmed on DVD and VHS set to music, the best pic printed and a further 44 photos on a disk which we printed off ourselves.
We knew the sex, but weren't telling anyone else, so had to jump up and cover the screen at the willy shots when our mums watched it!!

Mmm to lasagne too, must be having similar food cravings as we just had marrow stuffed with bolognaise mixture, with cheese melted on top and spagetti, hit the spot! Had to get some veg into DS1 after party food lunch!

I'm off on holiday today! Hurray. I doubt very much that the caravan will have an internet connection so will catch up with you guys in a week.
Take care of yourselves and your bumps

i love lasagna and when i make a big dish of it i live off it for two days and eat it breakfast, dinner and tea! lovely warmed up in microwave with a dollop of ketchup on top!
we will be looking into hte 4d scans after 26 weeks as was advised on here earlier!
now will have my blackberries with greek youghurt, yes i sound healthy but you should see me pigging out on chocolate brownie buscuits in the evening and there is an unopened box of pringles in the house! all my weight has so far piled onto my thighs!
hope everyone has a good weekend and i am so tired i dint want to leave the house!

Still ok to join this thread? I'm due on 25th Jan, it's our first and I am based in SE London.

welcome Miia, it is never too late to join!

Welcome, Miia. Congratulations! I am due on 21st so we are pretty close on dates.

bethoo I'm jealous of your blackberries and yoghurt, I keep craving yoghurt but I can't keep it down. Chocolate tastes odd still - I was like this with 1st pg too. Loved marmite and hated chocolate . I am usually the other way around. I have just eaten a huge curry with a bit too much chilli for dp. Blardy delicious, though. Is anyone else obsessed by food?

Feeling a bit rough today been to out of hours and I've got a water infection

Been looking at prams and I'm thinking about a pilko pramette.

Hi all
Not been on for a while, as was away at my mum's for a bit, and then back to the hecticness of building our extension (and the layer of building dust).
Congrats to all on 20 week scans, couple more weeks or so until mine, but I know it's going to fly by. Am tempted to find out the sex (if only so I can stop reminding dd that it might be a girl or a boy), but DP not keen on knowing, so I think we will keep it a surprise.
alibobins, I have a pramette and really love it. Used it up until dd was about 2.5 when I got a cheap buggy that was lighter, but still used the pramette as well.
Bethoo, my weight is heading to my thighs too, much ripplier cellulite than before...

alibobins I had a pramette for DD which was great. We switched to a Micralite Fastfold when she was a year old because DH thought is was funky and used the excuse that we were going to Goodwood and thought we needed something that was more "off road" although the pramette would have coped easily. I have to say I love the Micralite and we still use it for DD now (she is 3.5), it is a dream to push and folds to nothing.

Having said all that, the pramette is a great pushchair. Its fab in pram mode which lies flat and also in pushchair mode which also is almost flat when reclined, DD was always very comfy in it and always slept well. Given the choice, if I was buying from scratch, I would go for the Micralite Toro every time (a friend who has just had her 2nd child has recently bought one and got rid of her mountain buggy and maclaren). I am working on DH, to convince him that we need a Toro which is suitable from birth (with a carry cot) to replace the pramette and fastfold - I can see ebay in my future!

will have a look at microalite, i always thought they were quiet flimsy looking and a bit odd looking!

Hello all, just back from 2 weeks hols. Couldn't wait to get back as missed this thread (how v v sad) and also, was way too hot. We hired a villa in northern spain, drove down through France and have done the same kind of thing for past 3 years. Normally love it but this year, it was just all too mucyh. Too hot, no air-con, too grumpy, too uncomfortable, couldn't sleep properly - blah blah. Anyway, congrats to all on scans - I have quite a week ahead of me. 3 hospital appointments in one week!!!! I may have posted earlier that last September the vertebral artery going up neck to head split (dissected) - all v scary, lucky to be alive etc, and falling pg was really not planned. So neurologists, consultants having a few fits about it all and wanting to do more MRI scans, put me on anti-coagulants and discuss whether I need a c-section or assisted delivery. Both previous pg's no problem and vaginal deliveries. So, I get back from hols last night to find 3 appointment letters:

1. Tomorrow for a consultant neurologist
2. Tuesday for MRI scan
3. Friday for my 20 week anomaly (whoopee)

Found out sex with my DC2 and now have one of each. Have been thinking for ages that I really don't want to know sex and want the surprise, but now the scan is in a few days, think I might have to ask!! If nothing else to prepare the whole name thing. We're fixed on boys names (which is my inkling anyway) and girls names I just can't decide on - perhaps its nature's way of saying, don't bother!

Anyway - a big wave to everyone and I'm glad to be back!

bethoo my first reaction when DH pointed one out was that it looked flimsy and odd! The bar between the front wheels is not really for standing on, but DD uses it to climb in and out and we haven't had any problems. I just love the fact that it is so light, easy to push one handed (essential when you have a toddler who needs restraining!) and is so easy to put up and down. It folds to nothing and the back wheels come off if you need more space in the boot. A couple of friends have them and haven't had any problems, including one with a very energetic 4 year old boy!

I am having a planned section this time due to an awful delivery with DD and lightness is a key factor for me as DH is only having the normal 2 weeks off (4 months last time!) so I am working hard to convince him we need a new one! We could just get a carry cot for the fast fold, but I wouldn't be happy putting a 6 month old in the pushchair bit, its really not suitable until DC are older.

CantThinkofaFunnyName good luck with all your appointments - at least you are being well looked after!

CantThinkofaFunnyName I am on anti-coagulants - heparin. What have they/are they going to put you on? Good luck with all your appointments too.

FifiForgot have you already organised your planned section? I am thinking I would like to discuss this with the ob/gyn at my appointment after my scan. They gave me info for VBAC at 6wks when I first went to the hospital. MW said, how ridiculous - far too early! They did say it was up to me as my pelvis hadn't been "proven". I think I want some control over this birth after last time.

quirkychick I'm waiting for an appointment to see my lovely Consultant to book the section. He looked after me when I had DD as she was a result of fertility treatment. DD's birth was complicated, to say the least, and I ended up having 4 hours of emergency surgery under a GA, following a very quick emergency section (cord prolapse), while DH was left with a 20 minute old baby. All very scary for us both. When I saw my Consultant for my 6 week check following DD's arrival, he said that next time it wouldn't be advisable to have a VBAC and that because of what happened they would prefer to have a "nice calm elective section at 38 weeks". I did say at the time there wouldn't be a next time, but here I am! I'm not expecting any strong arm tactics to convince me to go for a VBAC, but I'm taking DH with me just in case.

I have spoken to my midwife and GP both of whom agreed that I wouldn't be a good candidate for a VBAC and I don't think that I could actually go through it. Just thinking about it makes me feel sick and I am terrified that the same thing will happen without such a good outcome.

I would discuss your concerns regarding your previous delivery with your ob/gyn, I can't imagine anyone making you do something you are unhappy with and there are always second opinions. I totally understand your need for control. I have to say that the only time I felt a loss of control with DD's birth was when her cord prolapsed and there was a real sense of panic in theatre, I was going into shock and it all felt very unreal. All the time I was labouring normally, the midwives were great and just let me get on with it. Looking back, I can't believe how laid back about it all I was, even afterwards I wasn't really that bothered, its only now that its becoming a horrible reality that I'm beginning to panic!

Hey quirky - just plain old aspirin. Was put on that last September and now back on it again. Not a problem really. Neurologist this morning was just great. Indeed, he thinks I'm fine, pending MRI results tomorrow. However.... have a confession that now my mind is around the whole c-section thing, I am prob going to ask the consultant to move ahead with that, whether or not I'm ok for vag del. You see, I'm just FAR too posh to push.... LOL. Well, not really, but I have done it twice before, have nothing to prove AND I quite like the idea of everything being planned and coming out when I know etc. Also, far better to be safe than sorry under the circumstances. Am I a wimp?

Fififorgot thanks for your message. You sound like you had a really rough time, but they seem to be looking after you this time.

I had severe pre-eclampsia (sorry if I'm repeating myself) at 39wks and was rushed in. I was in non-established labour but it quickly stopped in the hospital due to emergency situation. They couldn't stabilise my blood pressure, so I was put on a drip to stop me from fitting which made me feel as if I had flu. They attempted to induce me but in the end I had a c-section. Part of my problem is that I am now on heparin which affects epidural/spinal/surgery so if it is planned then I can come off it in time to have c-section, I think.

I can't believe how innocent and calm I was in my first pg, either. Now I will just be relieved after the baby is born, especially if I don't have pre-eclampsia/dvt.

Really sorry to scare any first timers. Most of my friends have had natural, uncomplicated births. I know I was exceptionally unlucky.

CantThinkofFunnyName cross-posted! I wish I was on aspirin, much simpler! No you are not a wimp for wanting a section. Just make sure you have lots of help lined up as you need to rest loads to recover .

Tbh with dd, I had been poked and checked and felt so awful that by the time they suggested a section I was relieved.

quirkychick poor you it sounds awful. I totally understand why you would want to have an elective section this time round - if I was you I would be exactly the same! I have spoken to friends who have had electives and they say it is so much better than an emergency section, very calm and relaxed, and recovery seemed easier. I think that the mental state of the mother has a lot to do with things. As I said before, I don't think I could go through a VBAC this time, I would be terrified of the same thing happening again.

CantThinkofFunnyName I don't think you are a wimp at all considering the circumstances.

As QuirkyChick said, I don't want to scare any first timers, I was also very unlucky and what happened to me was very unusual, 99% of my friends have all had "easy" uncomplicated births.

Hello ladies, Just to say hi to you all. I'm a newbie due Jan 14th, expecting with first baby. Had 20wk scan today which was more emotional than I thought it would be. Couldn't tell baby's sex though as junior had its little legs closed!!
Why is the football on a Monday night - grrrr