Due Jan 2010....watching our beans grow into babes!

[dal21]

Hello all! Thought I would start this off as our existing thread is full!

hi all,

we went for our second scan yesterday (private nuchal fold as still not on the NHS in Manchester grrr!) anyway it was so much better than the NHS experience, better scan equipment and a big screen actually facing me so I could actually see what was happening (unlike first scan where monitor was pointed away from me so only hubby got to see what was going on )
I actually felt like crying when I saw everything, could see its ribs and it putting its hand into its mouth.
The funniest part was when we came to go and the lovely sonographer gave us our pics, she burst out laughing as the first photo she has is the baby giving what looks very much like the finger to the sonographer, how rude!!! I definitley blame my husbands side for that sort of behaviour .
I'll post it on my profile when I work out how to use my scanner

hello,

Congrats to all the waving little beans! well had a look at my scan picture and nothing can be seen so maybe a girl...;-)

Nausea seem to have improved, which is good, and I'm starting to be hungry again...

Crumpette,congrats and I think in a way it is good it is a boy, you might not compare as much and it will be different-

i cant beleive i will have to wait another 8 weeks to find outthe sex. i think alot of hospitals will not give the sex so early for two reasons a) in case they are wrong and peopel complain/law suits (it has happened) and b) some people for whatever reason may have gender preference and if not what they want then couild take the abortion route . i know that in some hospitals they will not even give gender at 20 week scan as my friend was at one.

will have a look at the scan thing and see if i will be able to guess at my 13 week scan though i can barely make anythign out on a 20 week scan never mind the 13 week!!!

right i have had a look and will be looking ofr a nub when i have my scan nothing else! prob not even notice it doing the bird!

Hi salvadory

I'm in Manchester too and didn't realise you couldn't get a nuchal scan on the NHS here. Where did you go for the private scan? (We went for our early dating scan at the Alexandra Hospital in Cheadle, and I was very impressed with them there)

On a separate note, I am quite literally about to spontaneously combust as I've got VIP tickets and passes to see Take That tonight.

(My poor child has no chance of having a decent taste in music when s/he grows up )

Just got my scan date through... Wednesday 8th July... at 7.30pm! I'll be 11 + 1. Funny time, but at least dp can look after dd here, although does mean he'll miss it.

Can't believe some of you know what you're having already. How thrilling.

Last time at our 12-week scan the sonographer said he had a good idea what the sex was, but he'd never tell so early as it's easy to make a mistake. We didn't want to find out anyway, so I wasn't bothered.

Interestingly, after my son was born, my friend who's a GP said he'd known he was a boy because of what the sonographer had said at 12 weeks. He said you can only see boys' bits that soon. He was obviously wrong though as some people here have been told girl. Mind you, my friend was also "99%" sure his baby was a girl after seeing the 20-week scan. He's a boy!

How is everyone feeling? My sickness has pretty much gone - although I've been quite nauseous this morning. Just tiredness to contend with now. Counting the days until my scan (on Jul 13th) and first midwife appointment (Jul 6th).

Love to all. x

Hi All

I'm sorry, I haven't been around much over the last few weeks, I have been feeling so awful, its all I can do to put DD to bed before crashing myself! I keep reassuring myself that feeling this terrible is a good thing and that the little bean is safe and growing, but I really wish I felt just a little bit better!

I haven't had a date for my 12 week scan yet, but then I haven't seen the Midwife yet either! I should hear about a date shortly, but will be away on holiday when I reach the magic 12 week mark so hopefully it won't matter if its a few days later.

I'm so sorry for all those who have had bad news over the last few weeks, my thoughts are with you.

Yippee for all the good scan news.

I hope to be more alert in the evenings from now on - but I can't promise anything!

Love to all x

Hi everyone,

i cant believe time has gone so quicly and people have reached the big 12 week mark thought it would never come. Congrats to all those who have seen there darling little babies, i have mine 2 weeks today.

For those of you who have been told the sex does ms correalate to the sex in any way, more ms is a girl as people say or is that rubbish interested to know what the female/male symptoms are and if they differ. I had constant nausea with DS and v fussy eater, but this time much less so and seem to be more hungry and less fussy???
My ds is becoming a v fussy eater now
irrelevant point not sure why went off on that point about ds.
Hope all well today

verytiredmummy they saw the 3 vertical lines on the scan that means it's a girl .

Crumpette I have a ds and he is lovely.

there is more info here on early scans if anyone wants here

alibobins the sonographer didn't give me a new due date...basically here they are really limited as to what they can tell you. She sends a report to the midwives and then they tell me at my next appointment (which is almost 2 weeks off) Its just a PITA!

Hi coffeeicecream no I have exactly the same symptoms as I had with ds and they think this one is a dd - so no indication of sex. Have had all day sickness this time and had it last time for 8 months and was really quite ill - I have lost quite a bit of weight already this time.

Hi all
Is anyone else already suffering with pain in their hips? I am having to clench my bum to walk, or it really hurts (so much that I squeal). And I can't step sideways or twist, it's agony. Just wondered if it's pregnancy or not...

Hi Biccy. Sounds to me like the beginning of SPD for you. I had it with my ds and it makes walking and even turning over in bed incredibly painful. When I had it my midwife recommended getting an aerobics ball like this to sit on. It basically forces your back straight to keep your balance and I found it really helped. The bad news is if it is SPD then it will get worse throughout your pregnancy and generally goes a few weeks after the birth. I would see your dr or midwife for a real diagnosis though. If it gets too bad then they can refer you to a physiotherapist. Hope that helps.

Wow coincidence, I was about to post about exercise balls, not sure if same everwhere, but this morning I bought an exercise ball from Debenhams in the 70% sale for £4.50. Even included pump, strip to make sure doesn't over inflate, exercise band and DVD (latter two be great after preg)!

I paid about £15 for the ball alone when I was preg with DD.

I didn't have hip probs (just achy back), but found it good to bounce and move on, particularly in late preg and early contractions, and even to bounce my DD to help with her colic!

Forgot to say, I had 2 friends with SPD, one found bump bands (thick elastic ones, not soft material) useful, physiotherapy really helped other one.

Hi, everyone
I am already showing, which makes me a bit uncomfortable at this stage, but I am very petite and have read with subsequent pregnancies you can start showing very early on. I guess dh and I will have to tell our 2 dds soon or they'll think I am keeping their ball under my shirt . My dh thinks we should wait until the scan, but surely 12 wks should be okay? Hope everybody is feeling well

Thank you kittykat and lilac for advice on SPD. It's a bit depressing really... I had a ball last time, so I will definitely get one again, and I might see if I can afford to get to a chiropracter, get myself aligned properly and then start wearing something supportive. Can't live life with a 3 year old for the next 30 weeks or so yelping in pain everytime I do more than a waddle, so will need to take some action to try and minimise this one.

misschatterbox I am horrified at how obvious I am already this time - am only 9 + 3. Am trying hard to brazen it out with people I haven't told, but it's getting harder.

hi all - happy scan news for everyone who has been over the last couple of days.

I had an awkward situation in my open plan office today where my colleague was very loudly telling my other colleagues (as a way of trying to get me to fess up) that she thought I was pregnant. She kept on and on and was saying that I must be cos I wasn't denying it. I felt so bullied. When people had cleared off later I told her that I was and that it was too early for me to start discussing it in an open plan office with my colleagues and that her behaviour had made me feel angry and upset. She apologised and think she was genuinely shamed. What is the matter with some people ? how insensitive is that ?
Two other people who I have told have both asked me if it was planned. What a bizarre question - I can't think of a situation when I would ever ask someone that.
Is it just my pregnancy hormones or I am being unreasonable to feel slightly aggrieved ?
rant over

That is insensitive sazlocks. Well done for letting her know though, she needed to be told. I went out with a group of mums last night, and although I drank nothing but sparkling water, only one commented, and even then it was just 'not drinking?', and when I said 'no', she just smiled and shut up. I'm sure people must be wondering about me, because it really does show now, but I'm just relying on people not feeling they can ask. Does your colleague have children?

I remember from last time people asking things like 'was it planned?' and 'were you trying long?'. It's a bit weird, but you do seem to become fair game once you're pregnant, like everyone owns a little bit of you. And, when I think about it, in a funny sort of way, they sort of do.... humans are sociable animals, and we are bringing some new members into that society; in a funny way, they're not just ours, but something we're brining to everyone's party... I'm rambling dreadfully, don't know if that makes any sense. Still feels intrusive when people think they have a right to ask you intimate details of the whys and wherefores of your baby's conception....

thank you all for your kind words but im gonna leave mumsnet for a while. its too painful and im really not coping at the moment

sorry to hear starshaker hope you are able to access some support in RL

thanks biccy I realised I x posted with your post about SPD. Hope the ball helps.
No she doesn't have children herself but she has a lot of friends who do and is senior enough to know better I think. I don't know whether to take it any further or just leave it with me having given her a piece of my mind.

I sort of think of my DS as a bit of a community baby if that makes sense cos where we live is a small community and everyone was very excited when he was born and has enjoyed getting to know him. Its lovely that everyone feels that sort of connection to him and it has made us feel more connected to them as well if that makes sense.

Thanks Kittykat, I was think a little confused as to why one of my pregnancy syptoms was literally a pain in the butt. I'm going to book a physo apt as they seem to offer them pregnant women in my area - always worth reading the small print.

But what on earth is a belly band?

Hello, taking myself off the main list (though will follow everyone's progress with interest!) as I had a miscarriage a few days ago while on holiday in Spain. I am very sad and disappointed, but am optimistic that after a couple of months we can try again, hopefully with a better outcome. It has been really helpful to me to have this thread to look at, to read about what everyone's going through, the positives and the negatives. I don't know anyone else in real life who's had a mc, and it does help to know that there are others out there going through the same thing. Best of luck to everyone!

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