Due October 2009 - Feeling better and feeling baby!

[princessmel]

I have started the new thread

Ooh - I've got a voucher for a pregnancy massage as well - looking forward to it.

HC - at having to go behind the bush. I get really wound up by large stores that don't have proper toilet facilities. it doesn't encourage you to stay and shop, does it?

HappyTangerine - happy birthday for yesterday - hope you had a good day.

Twinklegreen - I hope everything went well for you and your dd yesterday.

I've been sleeping really badly for the last couple of nights and am tired today. There's no particular reason for the sleeplessness - although I've got a limited range of positions in which I can feel comfortable now. How's everyone else doing?

Thanks for the warning Sparklytwinkletoes but I did read what they do so I'm prepared! Just hope it's performed by someone with kids so knows how tender they can get! I'm getting the works with a pedicure and facial too. Trying to make myself feel better and forget about work!
Would love to finish (currently working 8-6 Mon-Fri) but can't afford it. A bit worried about coping on just one income after the first 6 weeks, stat pay just doesn't look that great.

treats apparently you can try lavender drops on your pillow, although its an essential oil it's not one of the very strong ones so would be fine. Or a bath before you go to bed?
I'm not sleeping either, down to only 2 positions, one side or the other. Going to try a memory foam mattress topper...

Can't believe it's Thursday already!

Hope everything went well for your dd yesterday twinklegreen.

I'm exhausted too i think its a mixture of a growth spurt and ds. He stayed over a couple of nights at MILs and came back a little grumpy, whiny so and so! I had gotten him into a really good routine of, Milk in bed then kiss, cuddle and good night, he was happy to stay in bed listening to his lullaby cd chatting to himself until he fell asleep. Which allowed me an evening as apposed to sitting with him for up to an hour whilst he chats to himself and eventually falls asleep.
MIL stayed in bed with him both nights until he fell asleep, resulting in him sobbing when i left the room for 45 minutes (even with me checking in every 5 minutes to reassure him and calm him down) on his return home and into his normal routine.

So i have a had nights of sobbing and running out of bed, pretend sobbing and night waking! So i'm less than pleased and ds will not be staying over for a while as the hassle and week of disruption isn't worth the night off! Poor ds as well must be confusing for him. rant over!!

HC
Your wee story made me laugh. Can't believe you weed outside! wonder if its on their CCTV!

All these massages sound lovely! Love a good massage, not sure about my boobs though!

Hi newbies!

I have my 28 week appointment on Monday! can't believe it. Final trimester.

Can't wait to get my maternity money i'm itching to get my double buggy.

Hope you are all having a lovely week and am very jealous of all this home grown veg, bet its delicious!

Went for my 28+2 week appointment with the MW and measuring 27 weeks which she said is fine but wants to see me in 3 weeks instead of the standard 6. Hope he has grown a bit by then. Have got some itching on my bump and boobs so mentioned it and she immediately took another 4 pots of blood to test for any liver function problems. Results back tomorrow. Mentioned my poor bladder problem and she said the baby must be low and it is my 3rd. Thing is, when he presses I have to go immediately and can't hold it. It comes on without any warning so may have to carry a potty with me.

A big welcome to the newbies and congratulations.

Less than 2 weeks until I pack that hospital bag.

HC
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Hi,

I had my 28 week appt today too (28+4) and everything seems great. Blood pressure fine, bloods taken, baby's heartbeat good and measuring okay for dates (well I think I spied a 30.5 reading which is a bit big but the midwife just said I was fine and wrote on my notes that the bump was the right size).

Was meant to go back to work afterwards but felt really lazy so came home instead. Now I have to drag my lazy butt off the sofa and make dinner as a couple of friends are coming over tonight .

HC - I see my midwife in 3 weeks too but that is standard here. I see her at 31, 34, 36, 38 and 40 weeks. Hope LO has grown a bit by your next appt but I'm sure there is always a little variation in the measurements and it's nothing to worry about.

OK hc is that what I should do? Pack a bag from 30 weeks? And if you've done this before what should I take?!

Think I'd like a waterbirth if the pool is available - what do you wear in the pool etc.

Guess I need to start thinking about these things.

I'm also looking forward to getting a buggy - looking at the Quinny Buzz travel system if anyone's used one. Not new because they cost a ridiculous amount, but you can pick them up off ebay. I'm not really superstitious so I don't think it's too soon to be buying baby things is it?

Long weekend on the way for me thank goodness.

Hey, don't panic about the bag packing. I just need to do it so that it is one less thing to worry about and each baby arrives earlier than the last so want to be ready. I put in a few nighties, lots of big pants, maternity pads, slippers, dressing gown, magazines, novel, toiletries, baby vests, sleepsuits, hat, scratch mits, cardigan, maybe a snowsuit, nappies, wipes, and biscuits, sandwiches, crisps, bottled water as depending when you go in you don't always get food. Last time went in at 6pm and all vending machines locked so dad did me some packing up. Think that's all. 3 years seems a long time ago so if anyone thinks of anything please add.

HC
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kiwi I have a quinny buzz travel system. I loved it but it does have faults.

Small shopping basket attachment (which i never bought)
You can't hang shopping bags off of it. Quite wide when shopping, I hit into allot of fixtures in over stocked shops. Can't use it at the beach (sand gets in hydrolics [sp?]). Not sure where you live but i'm on the coast so this does apply to me.

But,

looks lovey, easy to push. Comfortable for Ds, Forward and rear facing. Really easy to put up and down. Hard wearing, i've had mine for nearly two years and still looks lovely.
The carrycot attachment is lovely for a new born.

Hc Things i would add to the list are my own pillow, the pillows at my hospital were very odd plasticky and sort of blow up ones i think... maybe this is for hygiene reasons. Muslin squares and bibs, ds was a very sicky baby from the word go! Also a nice comfortable outfit to leave hospital in. I had some awful tracksuit bottoms and a really miss-matching old top and felt really frumpy and unattractive leaving hospital.
Lip balm, tooth brush and paste, shampoo and conditioner, nice shower gel, moisturiser and towels(that you don't mind possibly getting blood on). Hair brush and bands. Make up if you usually wear it for all those pictures! And a nursing bra.

Oops you said toiletries, looks like i was being really thorough! lol

Thanks for the welcome I'm 25 weeks today and we're expecting our 2nd child who will be DS2. This pregnancy seems to be going pretty fast compared to the first as I have a 3yo to look after.

Looking forward to receiving two bras in the post from the NCT shop (thanks to an MN link). One is a night time bra - can't wait and the other a nursing bra.

Feeling pretty tired this morning as was up with DS every hour from 11 pm until 5.30am. He's now sleeping soundly I am hoooooooge so trying to get out of bed quickly is not easy!!

HC I think I would have been worried about toppling over into the bushes if I had to "crooky" outside. Hope you had something to hang on to?!

It's my birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy birthday to me

Will catch up later .....

Happy birthday princessmel - hope you're doing something fun.

I've started thinking about the hospital 'bag' but have realised that if I take all the things with me that I want to (and my list is very similar to HC's), that it will have to be taken in my wheeled suitcase! It's quite compact but I did wonder if the nurses/ midwives would think I was some sort of paranoid, over-prepared freak for taking a suitcase with me! Although ACTUALLY (defensive emoticon)if I have to go to the hospital by myself for whatever reason, it would make more sense to have a case that I could wheel than a large bag that I would have to carry. What have other people taken when they went to hospital?

DH and I looked at the Quinny Buzz, and were quite keen on it, but were put off by reports elsewhere on Mumsnet that the wheelbase was too wide and was a pain in shops and on buses, etc. We're STILL in a total fug of indecision about the buggy. On Monday, we were definitely having a Bugaboo Bee, but then someone showed us a Micralite Toro that we really liked. Then DH started looking at the Bebe Confort Loola but I've had my head turned by the iCandy Cherry..... This has been going on for months . Still we're seeing his parents tomorrow who have offered to buy the pram for us - I've suggested to DH that we just leave the decision entirely to them!

Happy Birthday princessmel to you and tour twin!!

Thanks for those of you that sent birthday wishes the other day. Cake still here for anyone who wants a virtual slice!

Hospital bag list is great. I'm thinking of adding one of those Patient Pak hygeine things as well, I've heard good things about them. Wish could find a way of transporting a bucketload of ice in, its all I seem to want to eat. Bought my firt baby bits last night, some sleepsuits.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Princessmel! Hope you and your sister have a fantastic day

Hi all!

Happy Birthday Happy Tangerine and princessmel hope you did have / are having a lovely day - and I never say no to cake

Late congrats meHimCatBob on marital bliss!

Welcome newbies {waves}

Felt the baby hiccup for the first time today, haha, was very perculiar! On the up side the baby is most likely facing downwards, I was thinking she was breech but I suspect that the hiccups which were quite close to the bottom of my bump confirms that she's turned?

Keep having anxiety dreams about the baby coming early and not having anything ready as I have litrally not bought a thing. Have been given a veritable MOUNTAIN of baby clothes though, and someone is passing on reusable nappies (I suspect that she didn't get on with them, hence may not be the best - but 20 unused - can't say no!). In my latest dream DH had to fashion a breast pump from a wooden spatula, was quite painful . So may purchase the sling, carseat (even though we are car-less and planning a homebirth - don't think we can avoid it!) and amby hammock this coming week which seem the most important items.

I think others are doing yoga already? There's so much of the 'weaving golden threads of love from your heartspace to your baby' that I find it hard to take it seriously. Nice women there though, and the 'camel walk' is supposed to be good for labour, so will persevere.

Have a nice weekend ladies x

28+3

Thanks everyone for all your advice on hospital bags and travel systems. I will make a note of it all.

I've been out to hobbycraft today for ideas for my wedding invitations etc. Not only am I 27 weeks pregnant but I get married exactly 12 months today! So trying to get ahead and be prepared because no doubt will have not much time nor money when bub arrives.

Laters

Hi everyone, I'm back. Thanks for all the messages, DD's operation went very smoothly, actually didn't have to do as complicated an op as they thought. DD was in intensive care yesterday but got discharged back onto the ward at 11pm last night. They decided she was well enough to come home today, so just arrived back

twinkle-so happy that you are home with her and all went very well. Wishing her a speedy recovery.

Happy Birthday princessmel and belated Happy Birthday to HT.

Had my blood results back and all clear so itching is nothing luckily.

I really don't know how I fit all the stuff in my bag for the hospital. Did have the food and magazines in a carrier bag and one of the MW's did kindly point out a cupboard so she didn't trip over them. Did take makeup last time but as I came home after 6 hours I didn't use it. I need a bigger bra but don't buy nursing bras I just hoist my boobs out. Need to write down everything suggested and then will have all the right things with me. Don't forget the camera and spare batteries.

Waves!

HC
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Happy Birthday HT and PrincessMel - hope you had a great day

welcome newbies

loved the comment about yoga - made me laugh - I'm doing pilates which is great and no need to visual golden threads of love or any other such!!

does anyone else not have an active bump? I'm 24+4 and rarely feel anything - i know its fine as i saw the consultant yesterday and there it was on the screen waving at us but it doesnt seem to move much - should be i grateful?!

have a great weekend - we finally completed on DP's house today so are very happy although we still havent had any interest in mine so its a little worrying - ho hum

Morning all, its been a while!

Happy Belated Birthdays. Ds1 was 5 on Thursday!
TWINKLEGREEN Im so glad the op went well
Ds2 will be 3 on the 20th of July and has Swine Flu! He has the Tamiflu treatment although its vile and makes him sick! Its actually not bad at all, just like a rotten cold, high temp from time to time runny nose and nasty croup/whooping cough.
Im fine, just have to keep an eye on my temp.
Ds1 is having his party tomorrow so Im cake baking all day, he wants a haunted house, 4 tiers non the less! I really enjoy it to be honest.
Can I add breast pads, maternity sanitary towels and paper knickers to the bag list, also Arnica Tablets.
My boys are summer babies so didnt need many clothes, this is all new to me, poor baby will probably look like the mitcheline man by the time Ive finished layering him/her up!
Welcome new ladies.

MeHimCatBlob Im 24+ weeks and have lots of wriggly movements plus the odd hard kick. I can see my tummy wobble move when this happens.
With ds1 I had an Anterior Placenta and so the feelings were muted like having a pillow covering the baby and feeling it through it.
It just means the Placenta is in the front rather than behind the baby. hth

Hey everyone

First i must say, Twinkle, so glad everything has went so well with your DD's Op...that is a load taken away from you. Hope she is feeling ok.

I need some advise, i cant really ask people who are really close to me, as its just not working. Here goes, and im sorry about this ....As you know, i am living in Germany as my DH is in the army. In 6 years we have lived in 8 different houses, my little DS has only turned 5 but has lived in 7 of those houses. All the moving about and the different schools (5 schools which were either pre-schools or P1) has taken itself on him, we have had so many behaviour problems, settling problems & mostly him not being able to mix with other kids. This school which is a pre-school has worked wonders with him, even though he has only been there about 3-4 months. He does love it & has started making friends with his class.
I dont like living here, nothing to do with the people as i think they are great, its just to different for me, and ive started to get a bit depressed. My DH also would move if he could (he has another 2 years to do here), so really the only thing we have going for us here is the school for my wee man. The problem is, my DH wants to send me & our DH (not forgetting Bob the cat!) back home to Northern Ireland, before September. This would be for good, no more moving about for us. This would mean that our DS could start school there with his couson (sorry about my spelling) who his misses alot. What is the problem....well, Germany is a year behind NI as is mainland UK, so he would be starting P2 instead of P1, he cant read or write & they can. Plus, should i stay another year here and let him really settle in to a school that is working for him, or should i move him now before he gets too settled? It would mean living without my DH & him flying back to see us twice a month until he is posted back??? I just dont know what to do for the best, any advise would be welcome....again i am sorry for this me me posting

Just quickly popped in to give littlepea a huge hug. I'm not really sure what to suggest. It does sound like you have had to move ds round alot and it would be good to settle him. But how would you both cope without dh? Plus a newborn? 2 years is a long time living apart-the flights might take their toll on your dh, and it could be very tough on you on your own.
But then again it doesn't sound like you are happy where you are and dh and ds having a depressed littlepea isn't good either. I think that if you think that you could manage apart (I assume you have friends and family that would be close by) then maybe you should move-it sounds to me as if that is the way you are leaning......

Sorry I haven't been more helpfull

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Oh littlepea, you need some help here. Please don't leave things until you get too depressed, perhaps a trip to the GP is first on the list then you might be able to see more clearly. Things will most definitely look better once your depression is being treated. The move back so DS can start school with his cousin sounds very good and this will help him make friends and give him confidence. However, how long would it be before DH gets posted back? Would it be 2 years because if it is that is far too long for you to manage with DH flying in twice a month. You need him around with your DS and new baby. If the army can swing it that he gets reposted by the end of the year then yes, I would make the move as he will get some parental leave after your baby is born which will help. Remember, we are here to listen.

Has turned warm again so huffing and puffing here and feeling whalelike.

Big wave!

HC
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Hi Littlepea,

I'm not sure if this helps but I moved to York a year ago (we both wanted to live further north closer to family and friends and we are hoping to settle here long term) but DP is still living in our old place in Cambridge. That wasn't the plan but the banking crisis has just made it extremely difficult for him to transfer or find a new job with a bank. We still see each other every weekend so it's a bit easier than your situation. It has been very very tough - I miss DP loads and worry about him missing out on time with the baby when she arrives - but we have made it work and we don't feel it has had any negative impact on our relationship. The hardest part is not knowing when it will end which you won't have to worry about it. Overall I think it has been worth it as we will end up better off (and I wasn't even that unhappy in Cambridge) but it has been much harder being apart than I thought. I am very independent and it's not that I can't manage without him but I miss him a lot. We have had to make seeing each other a priority even if that sometimes means missing out on doing other things or seeing other people (obviously he has still been to stag do's etc, I wouldn't ask him to miss those but we've tried to limit weekends spent apart) and I think you both have to be clear on how you want the arrangement to work.

I don't know if that helps? I just wanted to say living apart is really really hard but it can work and if you are unhappy in Germany then the positives about moving now could make up for the difficulties of being apart. Apart from the twice monthly visits (how long would they be as that doesn't sound like much time together?) can you plan in regular holidays together and once the baby is a few months old can you plan to spend some time in Germany (a week here and there) so you have a bit more family time. I don't know but I think the early days will be hardest - can he tag some holiday onto the end of his parental leave?

I hope you find the right solution for you!