Due November 2009: Second trimester thread!

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New thread for you as it was geting a bit big...

grace - congratulations on the scan and having a girly bean wriggling away in there! Haven't booked yet but think we'll go for the anomaly scan at Babybond, if I can persuade DP that it's worth the £159!!

On the personal comments front - I've been amazed by the number of people who asked if this baby was planned or had we been trying. I think that is really rude and family, friends and colleagues alike have asked!! Admittedly, we're not married, but have been together for 4 years... Grr! It's a question I would never ask someone.

I'm last on our Nov list so a bit behind you all but have felt little flutters occasionally, usually always just below my belly button on the left. Can't wait to feel more movement, just like I can't wait to have a noticable bump! Gimme a couple of months and I'll be fed up with baby movements keeping me awake and feeling like a beached whale!

Oh BBL, hope you feeling better soon. I can thoroughly symnpathise as DH leaves at 7.15am and is never ever back before 8 - usually at least half eight. Spend much of the time feeling like I'm doing it all on my own, especially as if it werent for DD thoughtfully waking us at 6.15 every moringin he actually wouldn't see her at all during the week.... He loves his job, but is a complete workaholic and as his family (and mine tbh) constantly remind me that he brings in more money than I do, guess I have to lump it.

Feel free to rant here, that's what we're here for - especially as he probably feels bad too. Go and have some chocolate! DH has gone out so I've just sat and scoffed an entire mint aero (large)while watching the Mentalist Baby seems to love it though as is now kicking like mad! xx

Katester37 - The next person that touches my belly is going to get my walking stick where the sun don't shine. What is it with people thinking that they can touch you just because you're pregnant?! How does it change things??? I'm not a walking pram, for goodness sakes...

Claired21 - Not just here then?? We're not married either, and the first question I tend to recieve after politely informing people that no, the father is not my husband but yes, he is sticking around, is "When's the wedding?" I remember the first time I was asked. I choked. Man, people are so damned rude!!

Anyway... Watched the new Greys Anatomy - sobbed my eyes out - and fell victim to the gluttony of crisps (Never used to eat them..!) - and made up with DP - we're going out for dinner tomorrow night so hopefully we can just carry on as normal. All in all been a lot better evening tonight than last night and this morning.

Hope you're all well. x

Hi everyone, just been trying to catch up a little and just one day takes ages.

Congratulations to those who have found out the sex of the baby! I'm so keen to find out but still have another 3 weeks until my scan at 22 weeks!

I've been getting myself into a bit of a tizz about not feeling the baby move so much lately, but in reality it's probably because I have been rushing about and not having a second to myself to sit down and concentrate! Every so often I get a bit of a bigger kick and feel it but would like it be happeing more often! I'm also worrying a bit about money as since I found out I was pregnant I have given notice to 2 mindees and have received notice from 2 mindees so I will be down about £1600 a month It's not that we can't cope, it just means learning to live without that money and the luxuries that it let us have. I am grateful though that we still able to manage ok it's just a shock.

Morning all! Thanks guys for your kind words a mint areo sounds good - I feel better today although DH has warned me he isn't sure what time he'll be able to get away from the office today. He's off tomorrow first thing for a weekend of punting and boozing in Oxford as well!

Grrrr Pinkfizzle at your awful cab driver. What a fuss over 20p? He couldn't even buy a Mars Bar with that! Why some people seem to delight in making other people miserable over something really petty is beyond me. Life is too short.

I get asked the 'was it planned' question sometiems because people can't believe I'm having another 'at my age' (hardly drawing my pension yet) and why would you want a third one when you've already got two? Sigh.

Southernbelle sorry about you having to loose two of your mindees.

Hope everyone has a good day today

How rude of people to ask if it was planned..? Even if you want to know..you shouldn't ask.

Hope you're better BBL. How do you manage 2 DSs on your own..?

southernbelle try and relax and lie on your back and breath in and out..you'll soon feel it. The work thing sucks..thats a big pay cut but after a while you'll adjust and forget about it.

Its a long ole day when DHs arrive home late..tabbycat I sympathise. DH doesn't get home till 7.30..so DD goes mad till 8.

Almost fainted yesterday its just too hot here...

Any ideas what to do for fathers day? last year we did a footprint painting..am stuck for ideas..

Morning all

Big day in our house today - scan is at 4pm and we're going to ask the flavour, and dd has her science GCSE today so lots of tension in the air!

Get strange comments too - a friend of mine said the other day that I looked like I'd popped since the week before and now looked pregnant and not fat I mean, I know it's true but heavens, do I have to be reminded all the time
Meeting my old nct gang tommorrow and haven't seen them since about 10 weeks so no doubt there will be lots of comments flying around!

southerbelle hope the finances work out ok. We're trying to work out what we'll have too - I'm the main breadwinner in our house and am waiting for the accountant to work out how much smp I can claim. Hopefully I'll know soon as am not good when I can't plan for things .... not that I'm a control freak .... much!

sleepless x-posts - we've done a mouse mat with photos of the dc's on it from snapfish @ £6.

Hi, Got our scan today too, at 2.30 excited and nervous but hopefully all will be well.

good luck with all the scans today, don't have mine for couple of weeks.

have 2 whingey little people here, both snotty and full of cold, today is going to be a joy i'm sure!!

Scarlotti genius idea.. thanks I'm on it.
Good luck for 4pm and the GCSE...poor little mites. I hated exams..
Trikken you too, have a lovely day.

beepbeep sorry for whingey los..hang in there, its friday!!! but I know its a long day with snotty kids..

Thanks sleepless I'll be on later with a scan update.

Good luck Trikken we can swap updates later

GCSEs are evil. And I think in the two years since I sat mine they've got worse... Removing coursework was a stupid idea... I'd have failed everything except maybe English and History without coursework...

Good luck Trikken and scarlotti hope everything goes well Am jealous, and getting impatient for mine now! Am up at the hospital this afternoon for a maternal mental health appointment I don't see why they can't do it at the same time! Want to see my baby again hehe!

sleepless we are doing cupcakes for daddy on sunday! (budget cuts!) Just in case snapfish does not deliver in time!

wow we are all around half way now (i'm only 17w!) and i have another few weeks to wait for my scan too... wish i could feel baby move around a bit more often. Today is D-day, i have my final meeting at 4pm to find out if I am redundant. don't really care anymore though. southernbelle I am with you on the financial-reorganising problems - have got an xls open with various calculations...!

ohhh Scarlotti what a week - your poor DD, hope all goes well for her. I was reading on babycentre that around now you DO seem to just "pop" and suddenly look pregnant! Of course some of us looked pregnant before we even started, but thats probably for another discussion...

Funny how people feel the need to comment. I have been wandering round our office and about 3 people have come over to rub my tummy! Honestly - is that necessary? I just rubbed theirs back, which was quite entertaining!

My mother is the worst though - she seems to need to provide a running commentry on my waistline daily (she picks DS up from nursery so i see her almost every day). Annoying.

Pedalmonster - the idea of you rubbing peoples bellys back did make me giggle, I might do that too!

Whilst my mother hasn't mentioned my wasitline - though she did turn round in shock at about 12 weeks and say, "Oh my God, you have a bump..!" as if the words "Mum, I'm pregnant" had not past her ears at all - she seems obsessed with buying anything not just baby, but child, related. Our attic now has two Moses baskets, two buggies, a car seat from birth, a car seat from six months, a carry cot and frame, a changing mat, a baby bath and frame, and some toys that she inisits were "just too cute not to buy". Silly woman...

Pedal my mother is the same..even tho i see her every 6 weeks she has to comment on my weight, waistline, skin, why i haven't blow dried my hair..yadda yadda yadda..She expects women to spend all their time looking good for their partners..hmmmmm ...If only i had the time to blow dry my hair!!

Am is Switzerland..no one would dare rub your tummy here!!! In England I always had to endure it..once the postman at work came up to me and rubbed my belly and said "ooooh thats a girl"!!! he'd had 6 so he knew!

Cupcakes! another good idea..will do those as well..

For another treat, its curry and samosa night tonight.. woo hoo..

I've suddenly popped in the last 2 weeks..and have started waddling thanks to SPD

sleepless suspect that I have got SPD too, but didnt with DS. Hurts when I sit, stand from sitting, climbing stairs v difficult, turning over in bed requires military planning and getting in / out of bath is almost impossible. Or I am a wimp. Going to Doc on Monday to have it checked out - but I definitely have a waddle. Unless all those cream cakes are weighing me down...

Erika you are so lucky thatt yr mum is getting all these things for you! I know it probably seems like she is an interfering Nan, but trust me, when you start getting closer to baby arriving you will be glad to know that you have everything you need.

We are waiting till 2nd scan to find out if girl or boy, then I will go into the loft and garage and go through everything, see what we need.

Sleepless we opted this year to make DH a booklet about 'why I love Daddy'. I made some very comical cartoonish drawings to try to illustrate each point, and she has scrawled scribbly crayon over them. I intend to get her to ask Daddy to read her this story book on Sunday

pedal good luck to you, and Southern sorry to hear about your earnings drop. It's times like these that I realise I shouldn't be whingeing constantly about having too much work to do and be very grateful for my permanent contract.

SPD is a shocker. Do get yourself an SI belt which someone posted a link to earlier and a lot of rest. Mine is really starting to kick in if I walk any distance in a day.

Got to see solicitor and sort out wills today. We were meant to do this 4 years ago but never got round to finalising things. I find it all too hard to make decisions on, especially what should happen to DD & LO in the case of double calamity, and how to divvy up belongings. Made especially harder by the fact that we live close to DH's family, who are healthier than mine, but I know my mum feels deprived of grandchild time living in NI. And should we divvy stuff up between family members of just give the lot to the kids? So hard.

Can't wait to hear about the scans today!

I'm feeling really tired and shattered today - DS is full of beans, of course, and the baby is kicking up a storm as well. Yikes. My husband just called from London to say that he'd be taking an earlier train so he can cook dinner and help me get DS to bed. Am v. grateful!

Hope today's scans went well.
I haven't had many people touching my belly so far. Just my mother in law (without asking, I didn't like it at all, would NEVER do that) and my colleague (who asked and it was fine for me, she is very curious and want to know everything about it). I quite like your reaction pedalmonster.
I guess it is also a cultural thing. I was on a wedding, my Japanese friend was there with her two month old girl (at the size of a European newborn). A Spanish woman came, shouted: "how cute, can I hold her?", Japanese (polite) husband said: "yes of course" and the poor Japanese baby got even a kiss on the cheek! I almost fainted (not to speak of the poor Japanese mum) and my pale husband only whispered: "What will we do, if that happens to us?" (TBH, I think, that his side of the family will have no problems to kiss our children all the time, as they have my genes too, they will probably run away
I get lots of comments from friends about my bump but I take it very well as I am sooo proud of finally having a noticable one. Maybe it is because it is my first?
Questions if it was planned or not seem to be a bit rude but maybe not for the person who asks. I suppose it depends how and why they ask. One, rather young colleague asked me, I think she couldn't imagine that anyone would really plan to have a child. I didn't mind, I guess she just wanted to know but I probably would mind if the question sounded like criticism.
hobnob - making wills must be tricky. but it is definitely better if it is done, especially what happens to the children. Hope your solicitor can help you to make it easier.

Just got back from the hospital... Silly physcatrists, they can never make up their minds about a diagnosis! This guy is convinced I have rapid-cycling bipolar. Hmm... Funny, I suggested that one to my physc a few months ago and was told I was wrong. Ah well.

He thinks I should go back on my meds... I'm going to think seriously about it. I don't like the idea of the baby having withdrawal to deal with, but I am really struggling right now. I've been off them 14 weeks.

He also informed me that I'm more than likely to have a physcotic break after the birth - well thats something to look forward to! Last time I had even an episode in a hospital I was treated appallingly. Not to tell the whole story, but I was called a pathetic attention-seeker by the nurse for thinking someone was coming to kill me. So I was just left alone, screaming and crying, hiding under a chair while I was being laughed at. So am now terrifed of having a break on the maternity ward... Gah!

Pedal - I know, and I am greatful, it just drives me bonkers! She's worse than me, and I'm the one who's pregnant!!!

They are doing some building work at DS1's school and one of the builders rubbed my tummy the other day. I'd never met him before! So I rubbed his back

I hope all the scans and GCSEs went well today. I cam remember clearly how stressful exams are. I used to work myself up into a frenzy the night before and hardly sleep. Drove my poor mum batty waking her up at 3am to say 'I can't sleep and I have an exam tomorrow!'

DH has just phoned 'I'll be on the 7.24 train if I am lucky so home at 9pm'. Pah. Ah well. I'm just grinning and being all chirpy for him.

Hi all, haven't posted for a few days as just too tired but have been lurking! Good luck to everyone having scans today and congrats to everyone who has just had them. Mine is next Tuesday, can't wait!

Lots of dh's relatives have touched my tummy at a recent do, I got really annoyed and told his Aunt that I didn't like it. She just told me not to be silly and that we were family, I thought only by law not blood now get your hands off! Honestly, my family wouldn't dream of touching and prodding me, bloody family-in-laws!