Anybody else due in NOVEMBER 2009 :-) PART 3

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Hopefully this has worked?

roomac - my husband got me a badge from London Transport with "baby on bord". I still feel very stupid with it but I actually get quite often a seat. Sometimes it takes a while until someone notices. And there are always people really staring at their shoes but on most journeys I can sit down. No chance though if it is so crowded that you don't even get near the seats.

Katster - even if you find NCT classes very booked up (I did even though I thought I was booking very early)you can still join and ask to be put into an ante or post natal group. I just joined a post-natal group; we were given a list of about 8 names of people in our area with babies of the same age and we then arranged to meet every couple of weeks at each other's houses. I'm meeting up with a couple of the mums on Friday - 7 years on!

Ninjacat - really glad all went well.

ninja- you really had a happy day! thanks for sharing it, it doesn't sound self absorbed, it's great for us too to hear nice stories about nice consultants and with unexpected scans of lovely babies! (there is a german proverb saying something like "shared agony - half of agony, shared joy - double of joy" - that's why this thread is so great )

Ninjacat that is lovely.

Evening all!

So pleased to hear about everyones positive scans. katster I remember feeling a teeny weeny bit disappointed when ds was born (although I blame a long labour and cs for addling my brain!) Anyway, it lasted about 30 seconds and then I fell in love with him and wouldn't swap him for the world. I have a big brother and we are really close, and he is as close to my parents as I am. Don't think gender really matters it's how you bring them up. My ds is very loving and always gives me kisses and cuddles!

pedalmonster sorry you are having such a nightmare at work, not what you need right now. Hope things sort themselves out for you.

I am so tired today as ds is teething and woke me twice in the night and was up at 5.30am. I'm thinking of putting him in nursery for a couple of mornings a week when he turns two, just so that I can have a rest and so he is used to it before the baby comes along. However, read a thread earlier that said putting babies in nursery before the age of 3 can have a negative impact on there development, it's made me feel guilty as I don't work so ds doesn't really need to go. I just want him to go so that I have some me time but am starting to wonder if thats a selfish reason...

ursigurke try this website for advice on rights, etc.

southern so that you're hating your job. People like you are an absolute godsend to people like me . I remember hating my job a lot before and during my last pg, and maternity leave just couldn't come soon enough. It's not nice, wishing away the days. luckily I'm so busy trying to squeeze my work into 4 shortened days so that I can leave as late as possible in the morning and as early as possible in the evenings in order to maximise family time, that I don't have time to hate it! It helps that the climate has changed a bit too.

scarlotti I hear you. I earn more than DH, and his wage doesn't even cover our mortgage, bills and food, never mind luxuries! No rest for those wicked women who listened to the teachers at school who egged us on to be the best we could be....

pedalmonster it sounds like you could be well rid of this place, but that does not take away the anxiety of the unknown. I'd hate to be in your position as I'm such a control freak but have you found the pregnancy way of letting stuff wash over you? I find I can do that much easier when pg. Something good will happen, really it will.

Ninja that is fab that the consultant was so lovely, and that you got to see the little wriggler!! You're right as well that big brothers are far nicer than big sisters!! (only joking to those with big sisters, of course)

Helips it's def how you bring them up and not gender. I feel really silly for even saying it, and in a way it proves you shouldn't find out (not that I wanted to!) because when it is born, you are presented with a baby, and not just a gender with its associated stereotypes/preconceptions etc.
Sorry DS is teething and you have had some sleepless nights. I thought that putting in them nursery for a short amount of time (like a couple of mornings, as opposed to full-time) was beneficial to their social development? Is that not true? Surely if it gives you some time to recuperate (!) then it would benefit you both? You could always see how he goes?

Just wondering whether it is too early to go to bed!! It is still light!!

Kaster If you plan on having more babies then just think of this one as a big bother and remember that big brothers are always nicer than big sisters (ok so I made that up but I have three big step sisters that I grew up with and the catty, bitchy infighting was just hell) My 12 year old boy is far less complicated.

I had my consultant appointment today. I saw the most lovely man ever who explained I was there because DS was 9lb 12oz so they just wanted to keep an eye on me. Any way he said I was young (ohhh I liked him even more then) and healthy and that there should really be no problems so other than a glucose test later in the pg he saw no need for me to be consultant led but to call straight through to him at the hospital if I had any concerns and he would see me again.
Then he said the least he could do was show me my baby and gave me a scan!!!! I could have cried. Baby is well and "playing" as he put it. He even gave me pictures to take home and told me this baby looks perfectly healthy.
I took a photo of the pic with my phone and sent it to my Mum saying "Hello Grandma".

It's so nice to have a happy day for once, please forgive me if I sound self absorbed.

The trouble with working women is on bbc2 at 9pm tonight - this might be a different episode though as the blurb says it's looking at why there's still a pay gap.

[whispers] scan tomorrow... Is there a nervous smiley face?

Good luck tomorrow, Claired. Think we are all familiar with that nervous smiley face!!

Speaking of working, does anyone else not feel remotely motivated at the minute, or is that just me? Whenever anything that would previously have bothered me happens, I just think 'oh well, there are more important things at the minute...' Not sure how long that will last, but I like it!

I have my scan tomorrow as well-scared!

def. with you on the unmotivation factor...i feel like i am on maternity leave countdown already...

Good luck for all those with scans today! I'm sure everything will be fine.

Good luck lissyglitter and claired with your scans today, and anyone that has theirs today too.

I am most certainly with you on the unmotivated front! Every morning I have to to try really hard to motivate myself on what we will be doing that day. So planning going on! Child initiated play is the theme of the moment

I've just booked my 16 week midwife appt. I am going to have to mention the onset of SPD as think physio now might help it not getting as bad as it did last time - thats the hope anyway! I'm also hoping I will hear the heartbeat as it seems ages ago since the scan (is only a couple of weeks!) and want to hear my baby again!

Someone said to me yesterday that I have really popped out in the last week! I really have. Honestly, I feel about 6 months pregnant even though I'm not even 4 months yet!!

good luck with today's scans

Good luck with your scans today claired21 and lissyglitter southernbelle I am with you on the popping out front! I feel huge at the moment but take it as a good sign that beany is growing well (and try to forget the mountain of food I've been eating!)

Morning all - good luck to thosw with scans today and well done Ninja for your happy news - so nice to hear.

So very very tired here today - DD keeps waking up in the night - settles back quickly but then takes me ages to get back off - got up this morning feeling totally unrested and burst into teras. NOt a great start.

Totally with you Southernbelle re the job - just so fed up of it all at the moment. Really cross with one mindee as he threw a shoe at my face the other day - and it really hurt! Worse, parent was there to pick up and didn't say anything - grrr. I said "That's not nice, we don't do that, do we?" and then felt v guilty, even though I think I was quite within my rights. Not sure I have the right attitude at the mo...

Anyway, will stop moaning and get ready for toddler group. Hope everyone has a good day! x

Morning all - WFH today so happy to not be in the office. Thanks for all your support - and I do agree that this may be the best thing for me in the long run. redundancy pay works out to about 4k - so not great but will help cushion the blow and DH should at least smile for that.... SIGH.
ursigurke that baby on board badge sounds great - will be checking the TFL site for one later!
katster I was exactly the same - secretly wanted a girl first and found out at 2nd scan it was boy - slightly sad then felt guilty that I was not grateful for a healthy baby! But DS is such an angel and Mummy is definitely the best at the moment - its a very special bond and you will just adore him from the moment you hold him. I remember the MW passing him to me and my DH and I just looked at him blankly and said what a funny looking little purple thing he was! Luckily they dont look like they have JUST BEEN BORN for long and it was a couple of seconds later that i thought he was the most gorgeous thing in the world!
ninja oooh lucky you to have the nicest consultant in the world - how wonderful for you, definitely a highlight on this board!
lissy and claired good luck with the scans today - fingers crossed for you!

Yes that was the 2nd part of "the trouble with working woman" last night - amazing - really makes you think. It just shows, from the minute you decide to become a mum it is all about making compromises, decisions and choices for the good of the family, and lest we forget it, damn hard work in every way! Bloody DH last night went to a work function and got home at 11 - i reminded him to put the bins out (his ONLY job at home) and he said "I can't do everything". Nearly punched his nose! was pleased to see him do it this morning - think he sensed rage!

Hi all, can't believe all that's happened since i've been away (and haven't got time to read all of it!) had good week, but absolutely shattered as up at 0500 with DS every morning, think cause he was in a 'new' place, but usually i'd leave him to winge a bit and he'd go back to sleep, but didn't feel comfortable doing that with others in the house!

Agree about being unmotivated at work - i've been having a nightmare lately to do with being pushed off a unit i worked very hard to get onto because i told them we were planning on having another baby, i put in a written report (but not complaint cause i knew the stress involved, just wanted to have it evidenced), but cause person was superior to me everyone closes rank and although verbally people admit it was appalling no one will put it in writing, just willing to say I misinterpreted the situation and what was said [qngry] Been going on since before i found out i was pregnant and really sick of all the stress now, that i have made my point and want to put it behind me for the sake of my health, and have told them such but they still feel the need for 'meetings' which are totally pointless.

Ninjacat - glad all went well with your consultant appt - bizarre how they vary from region to region - I asked midwife if I could get a late growth scan as DS was 10.1lb (and no one suspected he was going to be large), but told not as i had delivered him fine, and yes, it was probable this one would be bigger and that's the end of that - charmed!

PMonster - I remember when DS was born he seemed huge and puffed up - think he had water retention! but not the prettiest, but you're right - within minutes i thought he was the best thing since sliced bread.

Good luck all with scans today.

Sorry for long one x

Hi everyone. Good luck for the scans today and congrats on all the successful ones. raggie glad your was positive too, and you get to see your baby again on Friday!

pedalmonster Sorry you're having such a hard time at work. If you are made redundant at least the 4K will be a buffer and I think you get maternity pay (from the state) as long as you've worked 13 weeks of the 66 weeks prior to baby's due date. Or would you look for another job before November?

katster I always assumed my first child would be a boy (that just seemed to be how it works in my family!). Everyone thought my bump looked boy-shaped, and once this old man shouted across a busy street to me "You're having a son, love!". That was evidence enough for me. Anyway, DD was a girl, which surprised me for about 5 seconds on arrival before I fell in love with her. I think it's completely normal to have a preference. DH had openly hoped for a boy, but he couldn't possibly love DD more. Don't worry!

beepbeep sorry your DS is getting up so early. DD has started getting up at 6am every day, which I find really hard, but 5am is just ridiculous!

Morning all

Good luck for the scanners today and great news on your surprise scan ninja

I got my first proper kick today!! has really cheered me up as the fluttery movements were making me a bit uneasy. Think that the m/c's made me not want to feel anything, but this kick was so definite it can only have been made by a proper strong baby - does that make sense?

Hobnob yeah, maybe someone should have told us if we work hard we'll succeed and then live in a cocoon of guilt for evermore Wouldn't give up work though but 4 days sounds like bliss. What is it you do?
Are you in Kintore? (pg brain means I can't quite remember!) We've pretty much decided to move up now and are looking at Westhill, so not far from you.

Well, best get on. Motivation is low here too and am on maternity countdown - still have 20 weeks to go though!!

Good luck with scans today, hope all goes well.

ninjacat - what a nice story, thanks for sharing.

Hear hear to the lack of motivation at work. Things just seem so boring and insignificant.

pedalmonster - hope you're holding up OK.

Has anyone heard anything about eating pineapple not being good for you when pg? I love it but managed to find it mentioned as labour inducing. Is this only at the end? I'm already ignoring my GP's advice about honey - he mentioned is as a no-no, but my MW dismissed this.

pedalmonster and hobnob, thanks for your advice.
I haven't seen the bbc documentary, but family and career is really a difficult thing. I like working and also having my own salary, will be strange to completely depend on my husband. But I am happy that I'm working in a business where it doesn't really matter if I will be absent for a while or not. But my husbands female ex-colleague is really in a bad situation. She is extremely successful in her job, earns much more than her partner. But he also likes his job very much and wants to build up a career. So every time they are talking about having children, no one wants to compromise. I don't know if it is possible that both follow a big career and have a family.

And I really feel sorry for those with motivation problems or bad situations at work. I almost feel guilty now that I have very supportive boss and colleagues who make it really easy for me to go to work and actually enjoy it. But I have to say to that I'm only working between 4 and 6 hours a day which makes it a lot easier.

skorpion - I have about the same information than you. Didn't really hear that you are not allowed to have it but that it is labour inducing. So I avoid it (even if I think it wouldn't be a big problem in the quantities I usually had it) as I feel like I can't enjoy it anyway.

Had the scan today- everything is fine! One little healthy baby in there!