Due in October 2009-Part II. Waiting impatiently for our scans!

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Over here ladies-can't believe we have a 2nd thread already.

HC
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Hi Hattie,

I have been having stomach cramps every afternoon for 2 or three hours- accompanied by feeling ill but not actually nauseated if you know what I mean.

I'm taking it as a good sign. Don't know if that's stupid or not.

Hope you start feeling better.

Hattie i cant believe how many different cramps you can get! Ive been so worried about all of them when they happen, but the worst ones where from wind! They are sore, strong, and have you doubled over and feeling sick. But if you are really worried then phone the doctor or MW, you dont even have to go in, just explain over the phone. I keep trying to compare this one with when i had my DS, but nothing is the same, this one is so bad with the pains, MS, headaches the lot! And i have never been so tired in my life...wondering if it could be a girl this time?? Hope everyone is feeling ok...xxx

Sat here sobbing. No reason why. Feel slightly sick, but not like I have done .

I need to make lunches and get dressed, get children dressed, yet I am sat sobbing in front of a pc.

Got to love hormones

Oh mustgetsleep hormones are crazy!!! I remember going to choose curtains when pg with dd and having a breakdown in the shop!!! I was sobbing-the poor woman in the shop!!! I'm quite bad at the moment.....
I hope you feel better soon x

Sponge I am keeping my fingers strongly crossed for you-hopefully you were just early and next week everything will be fine. It is very good to hear that everything has progressed since the last scan. Sending lots of love x

I had all day cramp yesterday low down on my left side-worried me sick, not there today and thinking about it it felt more like a pulled muscle-and I did do too much cleaning before the midwife came on weds-think that must be what happened

Have quite a bump-and it fluctuates a lot if I have eaten/drunk/need the toilet to the extent that I look massive!! Not going to be able to hide for much longer-will keep a low profile next week, then hopefully all going well with the scan the following tues i'll not try and hide and just answer people q's-decided (other than close friends/family) i'm not going out of my way to say-happy to leave it as long as pos. and just say yes if asked iyswim?!!!

Feeling quite sick at the mo-not a good sign for me so early in the day!! Hopefully i'll get through the swimming lesson!!! Roll on the 17th

Hope everyone is ok this morning-need to ty and come on here more than once a day to try and keep up!!!

Thank you so much for all your lovely messages. My lovely IVF consultant has agreed to scan me on Tuesday morning. I feel so much happier knowing that this will be done by someone I know and trust and that if it is bad news I would want to hear it from her.

So just got to get through the weekend now .

sponge I'm so glad you've been able to move your scan forward, fingers crossed for tues.

I've got a ridiculously busy weekend coming up, going for lunch at a friends, then my sister is coming tonight til mon, another friend coming sun night til mon and my BIL coming on mon night. I'm going to have to force myself into some food shopping as I've got nothing in. Bleugh. Fortunately they are all people who I don't mind telling so at least I don't have to hide ms from them.

V envious of all the house hunting, my mum did ring yesterday to say if we need to move they could help us out, but I think we can stick it out a bit longer.

Like everyone I just wish the next few weeks would hurry up. My scan is on 17th March - but don't know how I'll wait that long!

Spongebrain - I think that all you can do is take it all one day at a time. I'm trying not to worry about what might happen with this preg (I've mced the last 2), but I'm also not letting myself get too excited about having a baby - in case it all goes wrong.

We haven't told anyone yet - trying to hold on til after the scan.

Being preg after mc is miserable - I just want to be excited, a baby brother or sister for my DD would be the most wonderful thing in the world, but I just can't believe that we will make it that far.

Every pain or cramp has me worrying, every lack of pain or cramp has me worrying! I just wish that I could feel as excited and happy as I did when I was preg with DD.

Sorry for the miserable rant - no-one in RL to talk to!

Lal, I totally get where you're coming from - those few friends we have told keep talking about when the baby arrives while we're constantly "if" this and "if" that.

M/c just robs you of the joy - it's so cruel .

I also think that if we tell folk we'll jinx it somehow. I had my first mc about 3 days after we told my Mum, and the last one was 2 days after I told my boss. SO WE@RE NOT TELLING ANYONE THIS TIME!! (Though they may guess by about 5 months if we get that far!)

We've told close friends and family on the basis that we'd tell them if anything went wrong and I need their support. But we haven't told our wider circle of friends yet - although it's hard not to .

Plus my friends are helping out as much as they can with childcare, etc to ease the burden at this stressful time.

But it's a personal choice isn't it? Very hard .

sponge - pleased to hear that you can get an earlier scan but sorry that you're having to go through the weekend with all that anxiety. I've got my fingers crossed for good news for you.

mustgetsleep - have found myself welling up at the most ridiculous and inappropriate moments over the last few days. DH has gone off skiing for the next few days with his best mate, and I got all emotional the evening before he went - usually I can't wait to see the back of him!!

HC - It sounds a bit intrusive to us, but I think the MW has to ask certain questions to try and assess what sort of risks you're facing. If the baby wasn't planned, that could indicate a higher risk of depression - either pre- or post-natal.

I heard that all MWs are supposed to ask expectant mothers if their partners beat them (DV often begins during pregnancy). I know that I would once have thought that an outrageous implication but my mother (a retired HV) gave me the other point of view. Asking everyone as a matter of course means that no judgements are being made. Asking the woman outright gives her 'permission' to talk about it, where her instinct might have been to keep quiet about it. Thinking about the women who might now have a chance to deal with a frightening and dangerous situation as a result of one simple question is enough to stop me getting huffy about any intrusive questions.

I say that - I haven't had my MW appt yet. Expect me back on here in three weeks complaining about how I was treated!!

Passed a dubious milestone yesterday - I had to undo the button on my trousers after lunch as they were unbearably tight. I've never had to do that before. Might just be the chips I ate of course.......

We have told people close to us, and our familes, like you Sponge, if anything happens to us this time, i will need them again, friends here have been told because living in germany, we have no family here. At least you are seeing someone for your scan who you trust, it makes all the difference.

For me at the moment, my worry is that im losing weight! I am about 2 stone overweight. At the start i had the tummy getting really big, but now its disappearing, even my DH noticed and asked where it had gone to. My jeans are falling down. Im wondering if its because ive been feeling sick and not eating alot, im i just losing weight because of that. Has anyone else noticed weight loss?

Treats, my MW asked me if my DH beats me....and then asked if i beat my DH!!!! Strange question but i suppose it does happen to people!

hello all
sorry not been o,i was rushed to hospital on wed after pain started in my side,a blinding headache blured vision and sickness,they thought it was eptopic or my ependix,i had a scan and my little bean is in the right place and i could she the heartbeat
the pain then moved into my back with cramp in my legs a constant temp and headache,i have been on fluids ,just got home but need to rest they now think i have an infection and have started me on antibiotics,i have another scan on wednesday and my edd is now 30.09.09 sorry a very me,me,me post but i'm so tired i will catch up later,hope your all well take care x x

Very happy you are ok Boob....get loads of rest!

theboob-no wonder you were worried. Now rest!

Cramping here is horrendous so of course freaking out but still over 2 weeks until my scan. Still feel sick.

Big wave to everyone, am going to have to have some bread to soak up the acid.

HC
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10+1 or

9+4 according to the MW

Hi

Boob - sounds like you have been looked after well. It makes a change to get a positive story here!

HC - why are you cramping? I get it if my jeans are too tight or digging in.

Spongebrain - sorry you are still in limbo, at least you don't have to wait quite so long for another scan. I hope it goes well for you.

I am feeling sick again today as I didn't sleep so well.

I am finding that chewing on an airwave has the same effect as brushing your teeth in relieving the morning sickness. I have about 10 a day!

boob Glad to hear that you and the bean are ok! Hoping the meds work and you feel better soon.

Cold even worse today, called work to let them know i probably wouldn't be coming in tommorrow.

Ds is still at his nana's and i really need to do some house work but just can't face it.

Found some lovely houses online which we would have probably been priced out of before the property crash. Hopefully we can go on some viewings in the next few weeks.

I don't feel pregnant but felt normal last time so feeling optimistic! 20 days until our scan!

Hi all, just had a massive catch up and feel much better for it. So many of you expressing how I'm feeling, physically and emotionally, right now and it feels great to not be alone.

Sponge, so sorry to hear the scan didn't give you definitive answers, thinking of you and hoping as others have said, that you're just a little earlier on than thought. Pleased that you're consultant is doing a scan on Tues for you, much better.

Theboob, so glad to hear from you, was worried after your last post, pleased to hear you've been looked after - def. time for some tlc from your DP/DH!

Lal - what you said is just what I've been feeling like. The only remotely positive thing is that the EDD for the one I mc in August is about a week before this one's 12 week scan - I so hope I get to it this time (MC four days before scan at 11 weeks) and that its good news this time ...

"Being preg after mc is miserable - I just want to be excited, a baby brother or sister for my DS would be the most wonderful thing in the world, but I just can't believe that we will make it that far.

Every pain or cramp has me worrying, every lack of pain or cramp has me worrying! I just wish that I could feel as excited and happy as I did when I was preg with DD."

And lord, when will I stop eating! My tummy seems to have popped out this week, having to wear looser tops than normal (and they weren't that tight to start off with) and wondering how on earth I'm going to keep this a secret from work colleagues for the next few weeks!

STT 8+4

Willmouse-it is crampy period like ache and it isn't going away. I am weeing lots as if something is pressing on my bladder so perhaps it is stretching etc. Will monitor it.

HC
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spongebrain - pleased that your scan was moved up, hoping the weekend doesn't drag too much for you and sending you good vibes for Tuesday.

theboob - so glad you and baby are okay. Hope the antibiotics kick in soon and you start to feel better.

Had a bit of a panic the last few days as felt my pg symptoms all but disappeared (apart from the tits of torment which seems to be a permanent thing now.) Spoke too soon. Cramping and vomiting back with a vengeance-all I did was load a pile of washing into machine this morning and that was it-hello breakfast(again). Am blaming dh's smelly socks. So can cross toast off my list now. Is this some kind of hormone surge?

Have a great weekend everyone x

HC- hope it goes away soon. Have you tried putting your feet up and doing absolutely nothing to see if it goes away. That's what I usually do.

LittleMissBliss - Get well soon, lots of honey and lemon

Mustgetsleep - big hug for you. Hormones are mad aren't they. My dh looks at me quite oddly sometimes and keeps saying "you lied, you said there'ds be no more pmt! This is so much worse, at least pmt was once a month!"

Lal and Sparkly -pg after mc here too which is why I'm so adamant that I'm telling no-one until the scan-even then I'll probably wait. It really does take all the joy out of it, you're right.

HumpreysCorner-I'm having v similar cramps to you plus am going to the loo a ridiculous amount. Hoping that its just stretching

Sorry to anyone I've missed, find it hard to keep up with the thread

spongebrain - just wanted to say you are not alone in having a nervous weekend. My scan 2 weeks ago said the gestational sac was too small for the baby, and the next scan is on Tuesday so like you am killing time til then. Good luck!

happytangerine and HC - I am going to the toilet lots too, four times last night and it's really disturbing my sleep.

theboob - get well soon.

sparkly - I am eating for England too. I am hungry all the time and at night when I am in bed and reading a magazine I fantasize about the recipes!

Just wanted to check in and say how I identify with lots of you!

I was on my feet all day Weds and alot yesterday so after standing over an hour ironing I am now comatosed on the sofa. The weeing is dreadful in the night, am bursting every hour. Don't remember being like this so early last time.

HC
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