Due in Nov 05 - Part II

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Here we go all!

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Think Dangirl and Xena need that.
Dangirl- I'm so sorry hun. I know what you're going through (had to have my d&C done on Tuesday after mine died at 8 weeks).
Xena- Fingers crossed for you today.
Thinking of you both.
If any of you need me for a chat or anything, please feel free to cat me. I'm here.

My god, I dont know what to say to everyone, its such a cruel world, I hope youve all got your partners with you to support you(((((((((hugs)))))))))) xxxxxxxx

Dangirl - I am so sorry. I know how terrible you must be feeling. Take it easy and look after yourself.

Xena - fingers crossed for today, and i hope you're daughter is on the mend

Love and hugs to you all

Dangirl - I am so sorry. I know how terrible you must be feeling. Take it easy and look after yourself.

Xena - fingers crossed for today, and i hope you're daughter is on the mend

Love and hugs to you all

Busy- You summed it up exactly. A bloody cruel world.
I'm up and down like yo-yo this morning. Ds2 is into allsorts! Feel like I've been in the gym for an hour!
Xena- Please let us know how you get on.
Dangirl- Remember, we're here.
Thinking of you both today.

Morning all, good luck today Xena & I hope you dd is feeling better today.

This thread really is a roller coaster isn't it, you're never quite sure what you are going to read when you log on. Got to say I agree with you girls it is a cruel world and I can't believe how many of ou have suffered in the last month , makes me feel very priveleged and lucky to still be chugging along.

Chacha have you tried drinking cooled boiled water for your trapped wind, it should help.

Is anyone doing anything nice over the bank holiday? Ds has pre-school this afternoon then a party, then on Staurday he has another party and drama but the rest of our weekend is unplanned, might go to see dh's cousin in Brighton if the weather holds as ds is mad about the seaside at the moment.

Speak to you all later, here's to a quieter day for all today.

hi all
Thanks for all you messages of support. Dangirl I'm so sorry for you loss.
There has been no more blood but I am scared stiff of what the scan is going to show I have had lots of scans in the past with the other 3 and I keep imagining a still image on the scan machine unfortunatly I have to go on my own as DH is at work and my sister is going to look after my 2 DD's. With 2 preschoolers herself it wouldn't be practical to come to the hospital with me.
DD2 is on the mend she is so much better now she doesn't need the calpol or ibro because her temp is staying down and she slept right through the night last night so she is a lot happier. The only thing is she has started screaming everytime she sees me coming with a spoon or a syringe with the antibiotics in and last night she made herself really sick. If that carries on she will have to have a canular put in which would be awful. Anyway appointment at EPAC is 10.30am so will post when I get home.

Morning Beks,
Have some friends over tomorrow so am going to try and cook something tonight, can't guarantee how i'll feel in the morning. How's your son's Drama coming along?

I need to ask some really dumb questions. If you miscarry, it comes with bleeding right? So when they say 'missed' that means that the baby just dies right? What is the usual cause for this and how do you find out? Is it only with a scan? Is there anyway to detect that your baby is growing etc..? I had my last scan at 8 weeks, i'm now almost 10 and won't have another oen until 12, anything could happen and i wouldn't know?!?

Xena - hoping everything goes well. Please let us know as soon as you're home. Thinking of you xxxx

Xena- Hun you be alone in real life but not in spirit. We're all there with you. My fingers, toes and everything else is crossed.
Chacha- yep, basically missed mc means the baby has died but has'nt come out yet. I never bled with this one. Just had a week of brown discharge (no pain). Even after the scan and waiting for the d&c, nothing. Apart from one day of pain that was it. You should be fine. It is very worrying but at least you knew that just 2 weeks ago everything was ok. I think I knew deep down something was wrong as I did'nt feel "right". I just put it down to not being able to concentrate on being pg with running around after ds2. Have you seen your mw yet? Because after 11 weeks they might be able to listen to the heartbeat for you.
Beks- Sounds fun! Having a quiet one here. Maybe if the weather stays nice, we might venture to one of the surrounding villages for the day!
Dan- How are you hun?
Have a good weekend girls and take care.

Chacha sweetheart you have got to chill out or you are going to make yourself ill. Pregnancy especailly your first is supposed to be exciting and full of anticipation, not full of dread.

I can't answe your questions re m/c as I have no experience of it and please don't think I'm laying into you here, I'm just worried that you are stressing yourself out which is not good for you or the baby.

At the moment you have a perfectly healthy baby, you've seen it on the screen and you've heard it's heartbeat, there is nothing more you can do other than to take care of yourself, eat properly and take your vitamins. It is scary seeing all the others going through there miscarriages but if you weren't on this site you wouldn't be aware of how often it happens. To be honest I certainly wasn't and it has freaked me out a bit too.

You could by yourself a doppler which would enable you to listen to the baby's heartbeat at home but to be honest you just need to relax, the more stressed you get the more likely something bad will happen. Just enjoy feeling crap, as this is a good sign and then enjoy getting fat you'll feel a lot better after the 12 week period and when you can see a bump develop.

Now if the sun is shining where you are get yourself away from this computer and enjoy it. Hope you're not offended by the straight talking

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That's my girl Beks, telling it how it is!
Chacha- She's right. I knew it was common but not like this. Stress is really bad for a baby anyway and for you.
When dp and I get pg again, I'm going to do my best not to freak out (probably will a bit) because it'll do no-one anygood. The only thing I'll ask next time, is that someone could do the heartbeat just before the scan. Otherwise we'll be a bag of nerves.

Thanks Beks
I am doing myself no favours. Just so worried after what's been happening on here. I think i'll walk round to my friend's house for some breakfast and chat..it's been a while. Thanks Beks, DH would go mad if he thought i was this worried. I really needed that. Off to enjoy being PG today xx

That's my girl Beks, telling it how it is!
Chacha- She's right. I knew it was common but not like this. Stress is really bad for a baby anyway and for you.
When dp and I get pg again, I'm going to do my best not to freak out (probably will a bit) because it'll do no-one anygood. The only thing I'll ask next time, is that someone could do the heartbeat just before the scan. Otherwise we'll be a bag of nerves.

How did my comp type that twice?
Bloody thing's been a pain in the backside all morning.
So glad you're feeling positive Chacha! Well done.

Thanks girls, I felt a bit guilty for being that blunt and wondered what the response would be!

Chacha please keep asking those questions when you need to, as we can answer them and hopefully put your mind at rest when necessary and as you can tell I'll be as honest as I can with you even if it is a bit harsh at times .

Hk can totally understand what you mean about wanting to hear the heartbeat before the scan next time. I had this with ds and it did make walking into the scan easier, where as with this one the scan was the first time I'd seen or heard the baby and I was terrified, especially as a very close friend of mine lost her baby last year and found out in the same way as you did at the scan and it must just be heartbreaking as you go in excited to see bub on the move and it just doesn't happen and you have no where to run to or hide from the reality.
It was bad enough that this one was sound asleep, the sonographer had to turn the heatbeat sound up really loud before I'd believe her that everything was ok and even then I kept asking her if she was sure that everything was ok. Why do we put ourselves through this?

Glad to hear you are planning to have another try and I'm sure you are going to be giving us the good news soon, this time we'll have you rapped up in cotton wool!

Lol thanks hun!
It is an awful way to find out. Mind you, the mw could'nt detect a heartbeat and was thinking maybe I was'nt as far along as I thought. So after that, we were on edge.
Poor you! Can't believe the babys' debut and it slept through it! Ds2 was doing somersaults on my bladder.

I would have loved somersaults the lazy little bugger languidly stretched out each leg in turn just to show it could move then shimmied back into it's position. I think if it could it would have flicked us the v's for disturbing it it would have

I've been teasing my dh this morning telling him that I'm going to his preschool and then to the party and that he's got to come home do the shopping, the ironing the dusting and the hoovering then pick me up from school and take me to the party where I'm going to eat the birthday tea and play the games and he's got to sit around talking to the mum's. I've even given him the shopping list!

He thinks it's hilarious but has decided that I'm a silly wombat and that he's going to school and the party and tht as ususal I've got to do all the chores!.

Gonna go now and make a start on the long list of jobs I've got to do, speak to you all later.

Sorry just reread that and meant my DS, there's absolutely no way on earth my dh would do all those jobs or find the idea hilarious!!!

Argghhh What is happening to my spelling and ability to talk in normal sentences

Cha cha - sorry you are so stressed. It is dificult to come on here are read about all the problems - of course you are worried. If you are still feeling all your pregnancy symptoms and you have no pain or bleeding then chances are that your baby is Ok. Most( not all) of the girls on here who have lost babies had some pain or bleeding or their symptoms went away.

You asked about the usual cause and i think the answer is that they just dont know why most miscarriages happen. For some women that makes it even harder as they feel they must have done something "wrong" or its their fault.....its not of course.

I know it seems a long way off but when you get to about 20ish weeks you will be able to feel your baby move and i think that will reassure you a lot .

Beks mum - there is NO WAY that a woman in your condition should be shopping, ironing and hoovering. I order you to have a cup of coffee and sit down with your feet up . Its quite obvious to me that all this housework is affecting your brain and the only cure is rest and relaxation.

Thanks Kristina I'll print this off and show it to my dh and then take your advice!

By the way if you've got the number of the housework fairy please send it my way otherwise my house will be a tip for the next 29 weeks and beyond!

Xena- How did it go? Thinking of you.