Due April 2009 - Episode 14: Fanjo Warriors attempt to be "clean" during this thread?? NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!!!

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And so it continues...

Mar
29 Mar : WhatFreshHell, DS 2.4 born on Easter Sunday
30 Mar : BabyBolat: 1st timer

Apr
01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 3 years, and DS 2 years in March
01 Apr : Chickenbalti: DS 4 years DD 17 months
02 Apr : BoffinMum: BOY! dd(21) ds(10) ds(7)
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: GIRL! DD 3 years
03 Apr : skiingone: DC1
03 Apr : purlease: 1 m/c, 1 DD 3 years
03 Apr : Kalikaroo: SURPRISE! (28), 1st timer, lives in Scandinavia (but too shy to say where!)
04 Apr : Bleuravin
04 Apr : Bumpalump
04 Apr : babypringle: 1 DS 2yrs 1 month
06 Apr : ToastnHoney: first timer
06 Apr : Mummyontherun: DD 22 months
07 Apr : Picklelala
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
09 Apr : Oddeyes (30): GIRL! DS 17 mths, 1 mc. London
09 Apr : Barbarella: 1st timer, TRIPLETS
10 Apr : hopeful1
11 Apr : mrsfossil: 1 DS 6.5
11 Apr : Bubbaluv: 1 DS 1yo
11 Apr : SpringySunshine: BOY! 1st timer.
12 Apr : Brettgirl, 1st timer
12 Apr : Mumblemumhome4lunch (37, Swindon): DS will be 4 on 11th April, DD 2yrs and 1month
13 Apr : Dungungirl(30): BOY! 1 m/c, DS 4 years
14 Apr : AuldAlliance: DS3.8 BOY!
15 Apr : claireykitten: GIRL! DS 12 months
15 Apr : electra
15 Apr : Sarahmum: DS 10yrs
16 Apr : tristaleejac(25): 1 ds, 3 years
17 Apr : Surprisenumber3(32): DS1 9 DSS 9 DS2 5 GIRL!
18 Apr : gingersarah: 1st baby
18 Apr : salbysea: (28) 1st timer
19 Apr : Kittycatisgettingfat (29) 1st timer
21 Apr : B52s: DS will be 2 and a quarter
21 Apr : Staryeyed
21 Apr : Schulte
22 Apr : PuzzleRocks: DD 21mths GIRL!
22 Apr : soon2befamilyof4 DD 13 months.
24 Apr : conkertree (27): DS 17 months
24 Apr : Bronze (Gawain) - 4th DC
24 Apr : Frekkles
25 Apr : Swaliswan: DD 17 months
27 Apr : Bicnod
27 Apr : Carameli
27 Apr : ilovesummer 3rd dc
27 Apr : purplemonkeydishwasher DS 3yo
30 Apr : Nutty Taff (27) DD nearly 5 GIRL!

I knew you would appreciate that Schulte, being a proto-queen.

Oh yes, of course, Nutty.
You are the perfect mum.

What kind of box did you use?

Smutty sounds amazing but shoes???? Does she have princess shoes and fairy shoes? Just a coupel of glittery ballet pumps would probably work!

Boffin - lol i am sooooo not lol

hats and shoes of course (she has ballet pumps and jazz shoes but they are for stagecoach so cant really let her "play" with those, right will order.

A general point. I kid you not, those lads have left a can of Wickes' Penetrating Fluid in the bathroom.

They think of everything ....

ROFL Penetrating fluid you sure it's not lube

OMG I just spoke to my boss!!!!!!! first time since the middle of November. On the phone. A full 7 minutes.

He says he is fine for me to carry on working from home (phew). But notphew: chatting about what might happen about maternity cover, "not sure how long I will need it for, given the circumestances, and so on" he says - which means that my job may well not exist for ever given the state of the company.

I knew that anyway but it is not nice to hear it "officially".

Oh well just keep plodding on I suppose. I don't know what else to do!

Well Boff I had to look that up first... proto-queen... do you think?

i have no box yet, i want an old fashioned trunk really, if not an old paddington bear type suitcase will do (will have to send dh out to trawl charity shops, cutting it a bit fine though as birthday's on the 8th eek)

Gingersarah oh no! ((hugs)) xxx dont know what to say

Schulte, am I mistaken in thinking queen was one of your preferred ideal jobs?

good memory Boff!!

That's a bit worrying, Ginger. But at least you heard it from him and didn't just get a P45 in the post.

I am so stealing the idea if I have a DD!!

Ginger tis hard but still nothing is definite yet x how long were you planning to go on mat leave for? you will still be entitled to gov stat pay wont you? Did your company offer you a lot more?

Nutty, that present sounds really, really lovely. Your DD is very lucky! (& definitely get yourself a tutu )

Penetrating fluid! That doesn't even need a dirty mind applied to it!

Ginger, hopefully your job'll be fine - & if not, you'll work something out. Try not to get too stressed about it at this point (I know that sounds really flip, but there's little you can do about it & you really don't need the stress!) xx

I just showed DH my spurting colostrum (my boob now feels like it 'clicks' when I squeeze it to hand-express, just as it comes out - is that normal? It's certainly interesting, although strangely mechanical!)... No wonder married people report less sex than unmarried people - it suddenly seems okay to share these things & it clearly is not

Ok my body is seriously craving sugar have just made a double decker cake (now cooling on the side) and literally licked the bowl cleaned and have had three cans of 7-Up in straight succession - baby is on an energy high now and squirming around!! Do need to have a clean tho - the kitchen looks like it has been attacked by a nuclear bomb!!

oooh a trunk would be lovely and an old suitcase..

thanks for the sympathy!

I would have had SMP only, which after the first 6 weeks I think works out pretty much the same. So - not worth worrying about. In fact, totally not worth worrying about because I can't really be going out looking for another job now, so what can I do?

Smutty, the dressing up box sounds lovely. we used to love our dressing up box... I can still remember really clearly some of the things that were in it.

Hi all how are you today?
Boffin - good to hear you talked to AP sounds like you may have gotten through to her at last.
Mrs Springy - lovely wedding story and you look stunning in the pics. You look very happy, congratulations

I've been having crazy amounts of BH contractions too. On sat I had them all day and at least 10 every hour. It got to the point where although I knew it was BH and not labour, I phoned MW just in case, as I though it was a bit weird to have so many.
They've totally calmed down again since, so no idea what that was all about.

I saw you were talking about alcohol for a bit there. I have given up booze and fags since getting BFP, but have a fantastic image in my head which is keeping me going on shitty days: sitting out in the garden on a beautiful warm evening (optimistic I know) with a glass of wine in one hand and a big fat roll up in the other. I just cant wait to get my body back just to spend a wee 5 minutes doing just that.

I'd love it today actually, it has been a nightmare. I can honestly say that for one reason or the other I've been on the verge of tears all of today.
Poor DS is not well again so I've been up since 6.30am with him. Took him to doc and gave them a stool sample as he seems to have had diarrhoea (sp) for far too long for it to be a stomach bug. They think he might have a food intolerance or something. So while he is still my lovely wee happy man, it's awful seeing him shooting off to the toilet all the time and having a sore tummy.

Also had homeless asessor in from council today, interviewing me to see if I qualify as homeless. She was so rude and judgemental I just felt awful. However I stood my ground and think I did ok.

It's DP who's ruined it for me today though. He lives 2 hours away and usually comes up every 2nd weekend. He's due to come up this weekend and when I text him today to ask him to bring all baby stuff he has collected at that end for me, he casually text back saying he might not come up this weekend as he has not much money and has been asked to help his gran as she babysits her grandkids.
This left me totally gutted. I've been feeling so shit lately that I look to these weekends as a focus point. Plus after the BH episode on Sat (I had him on standby just in case it did turn into early labour) I thought he'd realise that he needs to be up here more often in case anything happens.
The lack of money is a lame excuse IMO. BUDGET. I'm sick of telling him. Can't he sacrifice a new computer game to make sure he has diesel? What if I went into labour? He'd manage to get here then.
Anyway, I didn't know what to reply to him saying he wasn't coming, as I didn't want to appear controlling etc. And also talking over negative issues never works over text as I never manage to express myself properly and it comes out wrong. So I just text saying I have no words just now can we talk later on phone. Back came "why what's wrong?" Again said didn't want to explain in text as can all go pear shaped. Back came "well at least give me a clue so I'm not stressing out all day" Fair enough. I just replied saying it's about weekend visits. Back came "I know it's hard but there's nothing I can do"
Ok rant begins: a) BUDGET b) get off the computer every weekend when you're not at mine and get up to mine and be a dad.
Am I being totally unreasonable to expect that once the baby comes, he makes the effort to come up and be a family every weekend? Or should I allow him to just come up every fortnight so he can have every 2nd weekend lazing around playing war games? Why should I be a full time mum to 2 kids while he just casually comes up when he feels like it?
Sorry guys but I'm so upset and annoyed. I just don't know what to do. I've told him I'll phone him later but I don't know what to say. Obviously you can all see what I want to say but he's so huffy and very good at turning it back at me and making me feel like I'm being unreasonable and controlling, which is the last thing I'd want to do.
Sorry again I seem to be all negative shit just now.

Yeah it is only about £2 a week difference or something very small, will you get a redundancy package also? Right attitude tho there is nothing you can do but wait to find out and when you go on ML just have a look around to see what is out there for when you do want to return!

That's true Boff and you're right anyway

Ginger - I know the feeling, my company isn't even getting a maternity cover for me. Wrapping up for maternity leave this time does feel like actually leaving for good but we're keeping up appearances on both sides. Fingers crossed though you'll be fine.

LOL at clicking boob Springy, I can't remember mine making any sound at all though.

Sorry if TMI but diarrhoea... do you think it could be bad for the baby? I have slight period type pain as well.

Tristal

You are so not being unreasonable - he should be up EVERY weekend, in fact he should be making hte effort to ensure you two are able to move closer together permanently so that you can be a family and he can spend some proper time with his child! I think you are being very reasonable about it all to be fair alot more than I would be - he shouldn't be focusing on his computer games at a time like this!

Schultes - re diarrhoea - well I think it is the dehydration more than anything that needs to be a concern - not sure the actual act itself is a problem just keep your fluid levels and calorie intake up.

x

Oh, it's not a clicking noise, it just feels like a bit of a click. Very difficult to explain

I've had a lot of diarrhoea, Schulte. I gather it's fairly normal, especially towards the end as your body's clearing out extra space.

BB, good call on the cake - fancy coming & making me one?

Trista, YANBU - he needs to realise that he has a serious responsibility & to start acting like it. Sadly, I think it can take the baby actually being born for men to realise that, which obviously isn't ideal - but there is hope for him yet. Try not to get too stressed out & angry, but make it clear what you expect from him. Hopefully he'll understand sooner rather than later.

& I hope DS is okay xx

Trista, sorry to hear your woes re DP. I hope he wises up soon.

Springy - you have boob guns!!!! the clicking must be some sort of triger when doing the hand sqeezey!!!

Gingersarah - perfect attitude to have! it will all work out in the end ((hugs))

Trista your poor lil man. YAsooooNBU he should be making a huge effort to be with you as much as possible!! will you be moving in together soon at all? games are for after all parental responsibilities are fulfilled and not before. is your ds his? (sorry to be nosey)