Heeereee comes June, its the home streeeeetch!

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Here ya go, new thread! We're almost there!!!!!

lauraloo - 10lbs is nothing and from now on your body will want more calories. The baby puts on a lot of weight - it is around 800g or so and has to get up to 3.5kg. It is all natural and necessary. When people worry about putting on weight, they are talking about a lot lot more.

ermintrude - I am considering home birth. Some concerns - possibility of heomoragghing (sp dreadful) and the fact that I am booked into a hospital from one Health Authority but if I have a home delivery it would be with midwives from a different Health authority. They say it works ok, but I am going to ask a few questions first. Also, I hear the service is patchy. They only do on average one home birth a week and some are not that keen on doing it. I would only want to do it with someone who felt confident.

Hello ladies, my God how this post flies!

Have been really busy since I last posted ? my sister threw us a surprise baby shower on Sunday, which was absolutely lovely! Am really glad DH was there along with some of ?his? friends and their other halves, too, so that he could enjoy everyone?s excitement and open presents, too. Something to think about if any of you are thinking of having some sort of pre-baby bash (Littlesarah?). Ours was at a gastro pub in a private room, so pretty ?man friendly?, but then it was like a pink bomb went off in there w all the decorations etc so also pretty ?lady friendly?.

Have also been house hunting ? oh the joys. Am not asking for much, either. Just perfection. At a modest price.

Ermintrude - thanks for the lovely advice re how much you love your DCs, regardless of how they look to the objective observer, think you are right!

Juicy - Thank God all OK after your emergency visit! I would have been about advice from Dr that isn?t relevant, too. DH has been on a few ?benders? recently and have surprised myself by how grumpy I am at him about it ? am I jealous?! Re Boots, yes I joined and I think when I buy some Boots nappies (MN advice seems to be that they are good), then they also throw in their carry bag.

June - I haven?t booked NCT either, just NHS, and am tempted to (have heard some of the NHS attendees not great ie Vicky Pollard), but then 280 big ones does sound steep. Esp as British Gas have ?helpfully? been deducting far less than they should based on our estimated electricity usage, so got a statement of actual usage today showing that over the course of the last 18 months we are now 2000 big ones in the red. Now I am and ! at your ?my daughter? - lovely! Sorry to hear about your MIL, though ? very sad that she is drinking heavily ? she must be very unhappy right now. Although feel very for you that she is involving you in her divorce. Inappropriate.

Littlesarah - am hoping IVF works for your uncle and aunt. Your in laws sound very opinionated about something that is none of their business (your buggy, NOT theirs)! Your DH?s brother?s girlfriend sounds v optimistic to me to think that she won?t need a buggy. I am a first timer, but have held babies before, and they start to weigh a ton pretty quickly!

MrsMcJnr - am that you have only put on 3kgs so far! I don?t have scales, but something (ie my butt size) tells me I passed 3kg a while ago! . Love the frozen sandwiches tip ? thank you! And thank you to you, ermintrude,bigcar, choccie and littlesarah, too, for your honest comments on what its actually like once you have had your baby. I have been thinking about it, and good to be prepared. Now I just better try and break it to DH gently...

Ineed - hope IKEA was kind to you! That place is mayhem, isn?t it?! If only they had all products online w a 5 pound delivery service, think the world would be a better place!

Snowwombat - are you in Sydney?? That?s my hometown! Where are you getting married (we got married in Neilson Park, reception at the stone kiosk ? 2 years today!!!)? CONGRATULATIONS by the way ? wonderful city to get married in and you won?t be too pregnant so to have a bit of a knees up! I don?t get calf cramps, but do in my shanks (upper legs). Also have this pain in the top of my stomach, which DH said is probably caused by DD2be kicking my kidneys up into my rib cage . I am carrying quite high so imagine it is what was formerly a stomach muscle stretched or something.

Doris - I am pretty sure we are getting a Phil & Teds, so I will be your long distance copycat. Good luck w the car and house plans ? all sounds v exciting!

Laura - thanks for the Tesco tip! I will have a looksy... How lovely to see your DH with a little one ? must have been beautiful! DH tried on a Baby Bjorn on the weekend, and he looked so gorgeous to me all fitted out ready for our little girl! Congrats on the new pram, too! I can?t wait to buy mine, but have to wait until we find and move into our new place.

Daisy - at ?my son? - gorgeous! And glad to hear your palpitations weren?t serious! Completely agree w balance in diet, rather than obsessive list of ?good? and ?bad? things!

Choccie - how lovely that you and your DH got away for the weekend, must have been bliss. DH and I are off this weekend to celebrate our 2nd wedding anniversary ? I love a mini break!

Dreamy - so sorry to hear your little girl hasn?t been well, although glad for her she enjoyed hearing your baby?s heart beat.

Have to run, but loving this thread!

Hello! I was at work today and I feel farkin' knackered now....

This thread moves so quickly I can't keep up.

I agree with choccie that labour is far easier than bloody pregnancy. Over in hours and lovely reward. The post-labour part is like one big period with tummy cramps though, again, not as bad as late pregnancy.

I've put on 1.5 stone so far I think that 16-22 is average so I'm still within that bracket. I've been eating lots of bad stuff though, so I think I'll cut down on that for a while so I don't look like the hippo I was at the end of pregnancy with DS. It's such a bugger not being able to be active due to SDP as I can't burn it off walking or anything.... oh well! It'll be back to Slimming World for me as soon as the baby arrives....

Got busy week ahead, nice busy though.....

Hope you're all well x

Hi all

Also snowed under at work and no time to read the thread!

ermintrude I will not be having a home birth as my diabetes care is consultant led. I will be in the hospital for sure.

For some reason labour isn't worrying me at all. Maybe it will when I get closer. Don't know!

Absolutely knackered.

I'll try to catch up with everyone later!

daisy5 It's a shame the care isn't consistent where you are, forces you to make decisions you could do without having to make. Although, for both my labours I ended up with MWs I'd never met before despite having seen nearly everyone on the teams, and they were brilliant. One lot was at a birth centre and the other part of the community MW team so in both cases they'd positively opted into attending home births. You're right that the last thing you want for a homebirth is an unconfident MW! Hope you get your questions answered and are in a better position to decide soon.

bunnymother the shower sounds like a lovely surprise. Hope you had a glass of fizz. And happy anniversary

Littlesarah we didn't use a buggy for DD until she was around 6 months old and then we had a second-hand McLaren. She loved her Baby Bjorn sling, and then the backpack, and until she was 2 yrs old I used to take her to nursery near where I worked which involved a train and a bus in London rush hour, so carrying her was easier than faffing with a buggy. I was extremely fit and strong! However, DS was a big baby, I was 4 yrs older and had a bit of prolapse after the birth - nothing serious but too much to be lugging him around - so had to go and get a from-birth buggy quickly! Your SIL can plan not to have a buggy but will have to keep an open mind - like most baby-related subjects!

dreamydowler I am sorry, I meant to mention your DD's illness - so sorry she was poorly, and how horrible for you to have to stay in hospital when it must have been so uncomfortable as well as worrying. Glad she's out now.

Tee You do right; worry never helped anyone. There will be all manner of minor traumas and changes of plan but we'll all be fine in the end

Hi All,

I'm due 24th June. Have just been lurking on this thread so far, but wanted to say hi. I'm having twins - which will be baby three and four for me.

thanks ermintrude - it is really annoying actually, as I do actually love the idea of a home birth. I would be the only one of my friends and family to do so, but although I thought I would be the last person on the planet to have one, after my first experience, I'm quite sure I would really really like it. Hospital only 8mins drive away (non rush hour time) so pretty close.

bunnymother - sounds like a great bash. I bet you felt really really special. Actually that's a nice positive for baby showers - as you get all the attention and have a lot of fun. Afterwards, it's the baby getting all the attention, and most likely you're not having a great deal of fun. I mean, the first few months are lovely, but hard to exactly call it 'fun'.

Hello chocmonster hope your pregnancy has been going well and welcome to the june thread the people on here are great and very supportive (if i say so myself!)

Well i'm sitting down to my last bag of mcCoy's crisps and chocolate seen as lent starts tomorrow

Hi girls!

More DRAMA just had an awful pain in the right hand side of my tummy, reduced me to tears & threw myself on the floor- bloody scary & I dont care what the dr said yesterday, it's not 'growing pains'- aghhh

lauraloo- good for you sticking to lent & still choosing to cut out choc & crisps, this year no one could have said a word if you wanted to cut out - brocoli for example !
Re nappy bags, did you know that boots are offering a freebie one which would great starter I think, JL have a nice selection, we have a bugaboo & the ones that match the pram are too plain for my liking! If not check out 'yummy mummy bags' they are really cute! very girly but it doesn't matter in this house as dh informed me that he is going to carry babies bits in his 'football kit bag'- my dad said 'but lets hope the footie boots dont get squashed' bless my fav boys! (I am the only child my parents ADORE dh which is so sweet!)

daisy- i hope that you reach the right decision for your birth for you, to be honest 'my midwife' says she wont be there on the day anyway!

Welcome chocmonster! great name , this is the best thread!!!!

ineed- we all need 'bad stuff' some times, says she who bought a 6 pack of cadburys creme eggs (dh has already eaten 4!!! in 1 hour!)

bunny- congrats on the baby shower- it must have been lovely!!!! What a great surprise & a nice idea to have the 'boys' along too!. dh has now told me he is off abroad on a stag do! 4th april for 3 nights- fine by me I am going to my parents my daddy will look after me! God how much do I miss 'the source' I used to be such a party animal!!

choccied- hope all is well with you? thanks for the 'honest labour' info!

june- why is your alarm set for 4am????!!! Sorry to hear about your mil- NOT what you need & very unfair also. I completely forgot pancake day until I came on here so we had chicken for supper! ANd don't forgot I am not allowed eggs anymore according to that stupid dr!

Big hi to everyone else! _ i am off for a creme egg

Is anyone going to make the baby show on Sunday?
x x x

Hi all

Welcome to chocmonster, twins at no 3 & 4 OMG!!!! (am slightly as was convinced I was going to have 2 this time, dh otoh was very relieved to be told it was just 1!!!)

Well three of my best friends (from school way back) have delievered in the past three weeks. The last one emailed me on sat eve to say she'd been canadian canoeing and done a 3 mile hike and was just getting her "normal pains" she emailed at 8.30pm and delivered at 02.22am So ladies the moral is a short paddle down the river and a 3 mile hike should definitely help move things along .

June - re your docs I would check with the business section but dh is under the impression that financial stuff needs only to be kept for 7 years for tax purposes so may be worth checking the validity of the request before trawling through old files!!! Particularly if she just trawling to create bad feeling.

Now we're starting to get into the preparation for birth stuff, i know just touching, can i just recomend feme pads for your first few days post birth ( if I haven't already, particularly if you end up with stitches/ grazes. I used them for dd1 (I had a graze that was incrediably painful) and they are like gel packs you put in the freezer then cover with a gauze sleeve, which help reduce swelling and pain (i think mothercare and boots both do them. I have to adnmit with DD2 i didn't need them as much as there apeared to be less fanjo related trauma but they also do something similar for breast engorgemnet aswell. (No i'm not on commisison

Right sorry it's short and sweet, dh is limiting mycomputer time this evening as I am so tired but have an inability to walk away from the screen!!!!

Night all

I love the way everybody gets terribly religious this time of year - all those Lenten promises

Welcome thechocmonster (there are a lot of choc references in names on this thread. Hmmm. Wonder if that's significant re the Lenten promises...). Twins, my goodness, congratulations! Is the due date they give you adjusted because twins are usually born nearer 36 wks? Hope all is going well for you anyway.

Hello ladies

Choccie ? glad you and DH enjoyed your time away I have the same fears as you re getting to the hospital on time and the arrangements for my DS, my Mum is being really stubborn saying that DS will have to get used to the cot at her house, which he hates rather than her come to our place to let him stay in his own bed and familiar surroundings

I would agree with Choccie?s tips and would say that I was told that Always Night were the best sanitary towels to buy and did find them good. I used Lavender oil on them to help with healing. Also, jelly babies are fab when you are in labour, pure energy!

Dreamy ? sorry to hear about your DD being unwell but glad to hear she is on the mend. Your pancakes sounded delicious I forgot to make any

Ermintrude ? had a similar experience with bits of placenta felt very odd ?passing? them.

Littlesarah ? so where were you reviewing last night?? Which sling do you have? I was warned about the stinging but luckily didn?t experience it but I had a little plastic jug in my hospital bag (and those Femme Pads) in case! Good news on the SMP sorry can?t help with your research.

Laura ? not everyone feels worse post partum, I know people who felt wonderful afterwards, it just came as a shock to me how weak my body felt I think and my back was really unstable, should be making more of an effort to do the AN physio exercises I was given when pg with DS as Ermintrude says, it does all feel worth it when you look into your baby?s face, nothing beats that hypnobirthing is fabulous in my opinion I am not giving up anything for Lent, there are enough things I have given up due to being pg!

June ? sorry to hear about all the divorce stress I was a family lawyer for several years and found it all so depressing, people at their very worst

Hello and welcome thechocmonster how exciting having twins!! On my last AN thread there was a lady who had triplets and was expecting twins!

Hello llynnnn, Bunnymother, Doris, Daisy, Ineedmore and Tee and anyone else I may have forgotten

Good morning all!

Well, the rotten child once again stopped his/her active kicking as soon as DH laid his hand on my bump! I was definitely feeling things on the outside, DH runs over...dead still. Poor DH. He so wants to feel it!

thechocmonster welcome! We are a chatty bunch, I'm warning you now!

I hope everyone had some lovely pancakes! Mine were not very good, stupid pan heated unevenly so they were half burnt and half fine. BLECH! DH ate them anyway!!

Hello chocmonster - I am quite that you are having twins! Although some people have asked if I am , so it would seem we look the same anyway!

We didn't have pancakes yesterday, but I "make" them for DH most weekends. This means I buy the ready made Scotch pancakes from M&S and toast them. What a good, loving wife .

Tee - I am also like the lady who cried wolf re baby and kicking, so you aren't the only one. DH has felt a few good ones, but nothing like the ones that keep me awake...

have a lovely day, ladies!

tee even tho Dh has felt baby kick once he is desp to feel it again and as soon as I have felt baby kick I call on him and then she stops kicking, its a shame for poor DH

morning to everyone else

Well I've been up since 3ish with the pains in my arms, damn Carpal tunnell Syndrome well roll on Monday afternoon when I have my physio appointment hopefully they can give me the splints that may help when i'm sleeping

In Laws are driving me mental they are complaining because I bought my pram as they wanted to buy it I told them last night that they can still contribute to the pram as I had to use my credit card to pay for it so they could help me pay it off...but no that aint good enough they keep telling me to stop buying things for my baby as other people (namely them) want to buy stuff but I worry that I wont get the things thet I like/want (sorry if that sounds too selfish)
Not only that there have been times where they have said that they will buy us things for when we moved into our new over nearly 2 years ago that I am still waiting on them to give us

Sorry for the rant don't know who else to turn to as I can't discuss this with DH

Talking of hospital bags, I bought so many things for my anticipated long labour so when it was so short, I had used nothing except the TENS and my pink pashmina to throw over my boobs for the obligatory first photo. The midwife then asked for the clothes to put my baby in and I only had the one super warm outfit for taking her home in, which wasn't appropriate for the warm hospital environment and just three nappies! It was a real look from the midwife and a real expression on my face. I ended up staying in hospital 2 nights and dp bought six bodygros from home and I went through the lot. In my pregnancy addled frame of mind, I had thought I'd spend 24 hours in labour and then take my baby home 6 hours later and packed accordingly!!!!

One of the best things I remember while I was in hospital was seeing a 'bathing baby' demonstration, which was surprisingly handy as it can be a bit difficult to get your hands in the right place and to know which parts to clean and which parts to be gentle with. I can barely remember now

juicy - worried about you honey. Are you going to get yourself back to the doctor?

Your friend's canoeing experience sounds delightful. I would love to go into labour that way. A lovely day out and then out pops the little one.

Welcome chocmonster. Are you a fan of industrial size Fruit & Nut like me .

Speaking of which, have put on 10kg now. It is about 2-3 kg more than ideal, but am allowing myself to put on 5kg more between now and birth and am going to concentrate on filling the fridge with fruit.

This talk of weight and NCTclasses reminds me of something that happened in our NCT class. On the first night our 'trainer' bought in a shopping bag with various things in it and asked our partners to come and lift it and tell us what they thought. Some could barely get it off the ground. All were surprised because it didn't look so bad, but was actually very heavy. She then took out the jumbo size Lemonade, the huge bag of flour and other things, and each one represented the weight we put on in different areas during pregnancy. The total shopping bag was the extra weight we carried during pregnancy - 30lbs on average. The men looked at us with total respect in that moment .

They are (on average):
baby 7.5 lbs 3.5kg
placenta 1.5 lbs 0.7kg
amniotic fluid 2 lbs 0.9kg
uterus enlargement 2 lbs 0.9kg
maternal breast tissue 2 lbs 0.9kg
maternal blood volume 4 lbs 1.8kg
fluids in maternal tissue 4 lbs 1.8kg
maternal fat stores 7 lbs 3.2kg

TOTAL 30 lbs 13.7kg

juicy meant to say been worrying about you please go back and get yourself checked out x

Morning all,

Lauraloo- what is it with bloody il's at the mo? Had a very similar situation over here sweetie, so as soon as I had passed the scary 12 weeks pg my il's went shopping for baby, fine & sweet BUT my mil told me fil had been testing the buggies out in mamas&papas to find one with 'good wheels' & ohhh they are on sale right now- good for the buggies!!! . I am sure I have mentioned before but I always new I wanted a bugaboo& a bugaboo I have! I don't know what it has to do with him- he ain't going to be pushing it that often anyways! (note my mil was the one that said usually the maternal parents contribute to the buggy anyhow!) so dh & I went & got the pram that WE wanted & we paid, pls also note MY parents let us choose 100% what we wanted & they ended up giving a cheque for it also bless them! So once dh told il we had got it, fil was like 'how much did that cost?!' pls tell me what it has to do with him? So the next thing a couple of weeks later guess what the il back in m&p now looking at nursery furniture they found ' the perfect set for MY baby' so then I said we aren't spending £600 on a 'set' we are buying a cot from jl & storage solutions from ikea that's it (& no I don't like bloody beige for my baby & I have decided I don't like m&p anymore ) she was so put out that we weren't doing it HER way she had nothing to say! They have now offered to pay for the cot!
And note to all my mn pals I do like m&p just told them I don't so they will leave me alone - am I a bitch?

Anyway lauraloo- I don't see what your il problem is? Why can't they just give you a cheque, especially considering the world we are living in now!

daisy5 was the increased breast tissue represented by a couple of melons? LOL @ your inadequate baby clothes - if you go to hosp it seems you have to pack for every single possibility, which is a bit mind-blowing.

lauraloo that's really mean of ILs to say they'll 'buy' you a buggy but then say that doesn't mean pay for it . My MIL has often said - ooh, I'll get that for you - to DH and never does and he won't ask you. Makes me . She may well have just forgotten but I'd nudge my mum and she'd pay up at once, but his family is so mad about money - like they are about sex, farting and making a will - that it's just never discussed!

Lauraloo- sorry on my phone! - anyway what I was trying to say was stick to your guns, if your dh is anything like mine there is no point discussing it with him he doesn't understand- you get what you like for your little one- it's your baby! And if history repeats itself don't rely on any £ (our inlaws sound so similar again the same thing happened to me!- DONT let them stay with you if they aren't going to help either my poor long suffering sil said that when her ds2 was born all fil did was watch how she was dealing with HER baby- such a strange man!)

Thanks for your post, not sure what do about pain think I will go to dr not going back to hospital ad they made me feel like such a prat!) aghhh all this drama! X

juciy & ermintrude thanks for your replies, I just had to let that rant off my chest it has been bugging me all night they have now said they will pay for my cot (Ive already paid for half of it) and the car seat I want (britax Group 0+ range the one from birth to 4 yrs) I have told them I want the car seat bought on the day of my 4d scan which is in 2 weeks time so lets see if they 'come up with the goods'

Just want to say MN is a great place to escape to when you can't discuss things with your DH

My mum is buying my buggy by sending me a cheque! Even though she went when I told her how much my Quinny Buzz 3 was going to be!

Hey everyone.
Feeling crap again. Yet another cold!!!! I think I have a never ending cold tbh. As soon as I seem to shake 1 off, along comes another

Juicy - glad to hear you are going to DR this afternoon. It is best to be on the safe side and get yourself sorted out. Let us know how you get on.

Daisy - You aren't doing too bad with your weight. I have gained the same as you and I'm nearly 2 weeks behind you .

Buggys - I bought mine from ebay but from a reputable nursery shop and saved myslef about £200+! My parents gave me £200 towards it and I was thrilled as this is my 3rd child and I really didn't expect them to contribute at all.

My parents have always been very good with my dc's, before the birth, after the birth etc . My PILs on the other hand have at times been somewhat interfering and I have had to bite my lip. They are minted but never contributed anything to new babies.Thats fine, I can live with that as they have helped us in so many other ways. I do however clearly remember the interference I got from MIL though on DS1's 1st Birthday (she wanted to hold his birthday party at her house, bake the cake etc). The she interfered with his christening and then more recently it was which junior school he would go to. My advice - Stick to your guns. Make your own decisions and don't ever let them dictate. It's your child.

wow - I feel all revved up now

Welcome chocmonster!
I had dreams about having twins, evrey scan I asked them if they were sure there was only one in there.
At the last one I said something along the lines "not being funny but I can really see another placenta there" to which they say, "no love, that's your bladder"

We were talking about twins the other day and how you would name them which puts perspective on how to choose a name for one child. Ie do you decide on two names and whoever comes first gets the first one or do you have several names and depending on how your newborns look give them the name that suits them most out of the list.
I think we have decided on a name "for now" so that I stop doing dh's head in about it ;)
We have a couple more names we like in case the one we chose really does not suit her.

Laura It's difficult isn't it, reminds me of my wedding where everybody had their own idea of how it should be. I let mil plan it as I knew she would do a wonderful job.
I guess the good thing about my ils being so busy with their divorce is that they won't have time to interfere
My sil is always saying she will get us things and then never actually getting us anything. She offers help as well but then never follow it up with actual help. I just ignore it and get/do whatever I want.
I don't think you are selfish at all, you need to get what suits you, how do they know what size is right, how it feels to you etc?

I'm quite that you have the buggy/car seat sorted.
We're maybe getting a new car as both ours only have 2 doors and mine particularly is getting old so not sure what to get.
dh wants to get one with isofix and says that lets you have whatever car seat you want.
I think that's only true if your car seat is compatible with isofix, isn't it? (or is it really the miracle cure for all seats?)

We're thinking of getting a swinging crib as we already have a bed that we can add a guard to. The shop assistant insisted we would still need a cot even then.
The swinging cribs are so cute though I think we're definitely getting one and see whether we need a cot later on, I would imagine the crib will be good for a 1 year?

I'm adding the plastic jug and feme pads to my list....

Might go to tkmax today to have a look at bags to carry all this maternity stuff :S

I have paid for the NCT classes which start tomorrow(!!!) and are all in the evening round the corner from us and I'm quite looking forward to them. The NHS classes schedule has come through this morning and there are 4 antenatal classes of 2 hours each all from 2pm to 4pm, they don't clash with NCT so I will try and do them as well (middle of the afternoon though, not convenient with work, don't think dh will be able to come??)

juicy I hope you don't get any more pains, i would get it checked out by the GP. Let us know how youre getting on.

On the subject of changing bags, I'd strongly recommend getting something that DH or DP is happy to carry too - ie not something pink and fluffy because he'll go out with a nappy in his pocket rather than carry it, mark my words . We got a good John Lewis black nylon rucksack with a front compartment holding a fold-out changing mat and a net bit inside and out to hold bottles/jars/cups etc. which worked well on our backs with babe in sling, or across a buggy, or just out and about, and we were both happy to be seen in public with it.