Heeereee comes June, its the home streeeeetch!

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Here ya go, new thread! We're almost there!!!!!

juciy I hope everything goes ok today, please let us know been thinking of you over the past few days.

Well my morning is horrid I was trapped in a lift on my own for over 1 1/2 hours and i suffer bad clostraphobia and now i'm out i feel worse than what i did in the lift, cant stop shaking and all i want to do is leave work and go home, too scared to ask been waiting on someone to say to go home but thats not going to happen. All i want to do is go away somewhere and cry all day all i kept thinking about was the added nerves/stress and what it was doing to my baby...i want me bed

Now at hospital but allready I am pissed off saying they are not going to monitor heartbeat just check it and that sounds about it, please help girls what can I say to these people I am not prepared to be ignored & what happens if it happens again?

Louise The way we feel probably depend on each situation. We've always known we wanted children, we'd been talking about ttc for years before I actually stopped the pill.
Our friends from France all have kids, some of them have 2 already and are the same age we are (32 and 34) and we were starting to feel like we were wasting time just talking about it.
Our best friends either live abroad or just moved abroad so there wasn't much partying going on prior to my pregnancy and with our closest family splitting up we're really eager to start one of our own.
So in my case there isn't much loss to be felt, maybe when the baby is actually here and I have no family or friends around I will feel differently?

littesarah Feeling the same here, I just want to go to the shops to get baby/maternity stuff so that I'm "prepared" as much as I can, but I have to wait until my wages come in to actually buy anything.
Seen muslins squares for cheap on ebay, signed up to the "Freecycle" group in my area and saw a couple of things there that would be of interest (but you have to be quick, free stuff doesn't hang around ;)

bunnymother was your offer accepted? Looking for a house was the single most stressful thing we had to do, even organising the wedding was "fun" in comparison!

choccie scales this morning are saying I put on 11kg (@ 25w+5) :S (and we didn't even have pancakes!!!
I feel uncomfortable, just moving is getting harder and I'm starting to dread the next 15 weeks.

Thanks for the post-partum warnings, no one ever mentions it and if you start looking it up you only ever find horror stories.
And thanks mrsmcjnr for making us all cry this morning ;) I cannot wait to see my baby daughter and hold her.
at the ear piercing! :D

juicy Are you on your own at the hospital?
do you have your midwife's number, mine is usually more reassuring than drs.
When they do check the heart tell them you are really worried and ask that person what else can be done to put your mind at rest.

laura I don't know how I would cope stuck in a lift, claustrophobic as well. I know how it feels, just awful.
I would just go and take the rest of the day off if I were you (and take the stairs out), don't wait for someone to ask you.
In fact, I'm asking you, would you rather go and take the day off? (there you go).
Ask yourself what you are scared off exactly, it's not like they are going to make you stay? Go home, have a cup of tea/warm milk and try and relax, please don't spend the day crying, it's over now.
I wish I was there to give you a hug.

Maybe call your doctor or midwife and explain what happened as well for a bit of reassurance.

Morning all

Juicy, hope you get some answers soon and everything is ok x

Anyone that doesn't want to fork out on a changing bag, if you have a Boots advantage card, sign up to their mother and baby club and they'll send you a voucher for a free bag when you buy a pack of pampers newborn nappies (about £3-4 I think). It's a black one with grey/silver pocket flaps, has a changing mat, messy bag and insulated pocket for bottles, not bad for a freebie!

MrsMcJnr, stop it, you'll have us all blubbing For me, I love the way newborns move and wriggle (including their built in homing device for finding a nipple!), the first time you hold them is magic, and the first proper smile is absolutely heart melting

Juicy, i'm now quite good at putting my back out and I can honestly say that has had me screaming with pain and demanding strong medication. Childbirth never has. For me it's a very different sort of pain, it has a purpose and being fully imformed of what was going on with my body during labour helped me focus and understand what was happening, takes away a lot of the fear. I've always said as far as pain relief goes, i'll see how I feel at the time, I honestly thought first time round i'd be screaming for an epidural but i've never used anything but gas and air for dd1 and dd3 and nothing at all for dd2 and ds (I think having short labours help). You've got to go with what is right for you at the time, i'm not trying to get into competative birthing, just offering an alternate point of view.

Loooiuse, I think it's lovely your babyfather wants to be involved from the start Is there anyway to find a compromise, totally understand you don't want him in the room with you if you're not comfortable with that, maybe the old fashioned way of him pacing the corridor or waiting room outside might be worth thinking about, if he does manage to get over in time?

June, I love swinging cribs! We've never had one as we've always borrowed or got cheap moses baskets, but the friends that have had them have only used them for about the first 4 months. Once babies start rolling over and pushing themselves up you really need something with higher sides and a bit more space I would say the majority would use a cot for the first 18 months at least, unless you've got an escapologist like ds who could climb out of his cot at 16 months!

tee, bet you're looking forward to tomorrow

I'm off to the hospital again this afternoon, hopefully they'll bother to find my notes this time

June & lauraloo - yes on my own, dh is at work & mum is 1 hour away. Laura you should just pack up your stuff & go, yes under 'normal circumstances' going home after being stuck in a lift for an hour & half does sound dramatic, as does going to the dr for a second time with tummy pain BUT this us not a normal situation! Of course no one is going to suggest you go companies don't care personally, just about work. (all though it us awful that no one has suggested it). Me I am going to stand my ground, June 'my' midwife is somewhere in this building but I don't know where & she isn't really mine as I have only seen her once!!! What a bloody sham the nhs is! Getting really angry now! X

juicy Deep breaths, can dh come and meet up with you in hospital? (where are u btw)
I always find it really hard to calm down when I am angry/scared and dh ends up begging me to take it easy/stop crying for the baby's sake, which usually works.
Try and keep positive, anything else just stops you thinking clearly.
I know how the robotic receptionists can be and how matter of fact the drs who've seen it all can be too, infuriating as it is I'm sure they will look after you properly when you actually get to see someone.take care.

Juicy do stand your ground and demand to know what may be causing this pain and what can be done if it occurrs again, I've found drs to be a pain in the backside but my midwife(s) has been great with me, esp over the leg cramps and carpell tunnell syndrome.

Well I'll not be going home, the office will be low on staff if I were to go home, maybe it's best that work will keep my mind off what happened...

Juicy, thinking of you lots and hoping that you're feeling 100% reassured within the next few hours. But you need to put your ffoot down and say that you are not leaving uuntil you feel that reassurance. I hope you're not alone! Remember to speak slowly and look the doctor in the eye, and remind them that it's your body, your baby, and you're not going to be fobbed off by them just because they've got A level sciences. (This sounds a bit mean, but when I asked a 24 year GP for a cervical scan because of my leetz last year and he said no, I asked how many months he'd worked in obs and gynae during his training, and how many women he'd seen post-leetz? Hundreds? No, he said, more like dozens. He gave me the scan)

June - the babyfather is in Brussels, but there is a direct flight to Leeds/Bradford, which is only 30 mins away from Harrogate, where I will give birth.
Bigcar and Ermitude - I agree, I need to look on the positive side of this and see it as a blessing that he wants to meet baby straightaway. I think the old fashioned pacing the corridor is a very very good idea!

But ultimately I am determined it'll be just me and my mum, so thanks for your solidarity girls. I'm very happy to have him in once I've delivered the placenta and been stitched up... So THANK YOU xxx

MrsMcJrn - How come you always seem to know when to say exactly the right things? Your blissed out baby list is gorgeous. You must be a fab mum!

June - your sister in law has got a bloody cheek and I'm really sorry to hear about this divorce nonsense they're putting you through. Stay strong!

Juicy, hope you're getting some answers, don't be afraid to keep asking, they might not be able to tell you why this has happened but they can only come to that conclusion after a full investigation. If your mum or dh has made it there, get them to ask too x

laura, you have my sympathies, i'm not claustrophobic but would hate to be stuck in a lift. Can you sneak out at lunch and get yourself a little treat, a bit of chocolate maybe?

just a quick post, Juicy, I'm thinking of you and have everything crossed for you, must be worrying. Make sure you stand your ground and don't leave until you feel more confident that everything has been done.

Louise - great the the baby father wants to be involved, but totally agree with the others you arent being unreasonable at all, you need to feel as comfortable as possible during the birth and dont need anymore distractions! Hopefully, by the time he does get there it will be nearly over anyway and wont be too long for him to wait outside!! You could always send him shopping for last minute 'essentials' you NEED immediately to make him feel useful!!

sorry meant to say, Laura, what an awful time you had!! one of my worst nightmares!!

def agree with bigcar, treat yourself to a nice lunch and chocolate to get you through the afternoon! x

bigcar I would love to go and get a piece of chocolate, but in an attempt to being good I gave it up for lent yesterday along with crisps I could do with a big cream eggg right about now esp cos at the moment my cravings are mini-eggs and cream eggs

question does 'snack a jacks' count as crisps??

Hello, can I join the June crowd?
Due by scan on 30th May but 6th June by dates and as it is my first I am sure the baby will hang on til mid June at least if he has his way!
Do I just copy the list and add myself at the right space?

laura, cream eggs are just that aren't they? Eggs, surely, not counted as chocolate at all Think these are exceptional circumstances! How about a bar of fruit and nut, one of your 5 a day Snack a jacks, rice based I think (!) so officially not crisps

Welcome MrsExton yes, just copy and paste!

louise - yes, it's not right he should be in with you unless you really want it. But an extra pair of hands can be useful for getting drinks and food and chauffeuring duties etc. It sounds like he wants to be involved and supportive. Maybe, he can watch the baby while you get some sleep and stuff like that. Do you think he will stay for a few days after the birth?

Sorry mrsmcjnr to hear about your horrid cold. It is so hard not being able to go to bed when you are sick.

juicy - when you ask the doctors/midwives 'what do you think this might be?' what do they say to you?

Hi all,

At uch on warren street I have now been seen by a dr who was ok (didn't feel too :0) when I heard the nurse who I had seen on monday whispering to the new dr about me!!!) anyway booked in for a scan in the gyne dept this pm great news is that baby is doing fine mummy not so fine, suspected cyst or problem with my appendix. I will keep you posted. Sorry for me me will catch up with everyone elses news later - dh on his way x x

Juicy what a horrid morning; hope you find it's something tiny and transitory. Small cysts on ovaries are v common and once baby starts getting bigger they can be squashed/kicked by little limbs, which really hurts. Good that baby is happy in there anyway!

Welcome MrsExton there are a lot of first-timers on here, along with some old hands, so I hope you find it a useful and supportive thread

Bigcar you are evil. Next you'll be saying that Nutella is basically Marmite and therefore extremely good for us.

lauraloo getting stuck in a lift is one of my nightmares. Hats off to you for not having to wee in the corner - my bladder wouldn't last an hour and a half!

LittleSarah My DD had just started school (we were in London so she started in Sept despite only having turned 4 in May) when DS was born. Her hours were 9-12 for 2 terms - terribly hard for working mums but great for me on maternity leave. It was lovely going to fetch her with DS and the weather was great so we'd just go off to the park for a picnic or go into the garden for the afternoon. Once they get to school they're so much more independent and she really enjoyed being a big sister and helping out with baby. I didn't have her friends round at first because I felt that might be a bit much but once we were settled we even managed a bit of socialising - it's good to be a playground mum for the first few months, it really helps your DC's social life. I think the age gap is much easier to deal with than having a toddler and a new baby; they were very happy times for us and hope you'll enjoy them too. You'll miss her when she starts school!

juicy Glad to hear your baby is well, shame that your not tho, hope they gave give you something/help you with the pain your having!

Louise happy to hear that babyfather wants to be involved from the start, however I do feel that it is up to you who you have present at the actual birth, maybe he could see the baby once the baby has been 'cleaned up' after labour iykwim, and watch him/her while you have a nap.

Mrsexton hello and welcome to the June thread, poss the best thread on mumsnet if i do say so myself. We are a friendly, supportive and chatty bunch

mrsmcjnr sorry to hear about your horrid cold hope you take it easy and get well soon x

Well just went and bought a cake from greggs, I know I shouldn't substitute chocolate with cakes but hey I need SUGAR!!!
Not been able to eat anything since my lift nightmare and baby is hungry now

Hi all,

Juicy hope your getting the answers you want/need now and good luck with the scan..

I've struggled to keep up again but someone mentioned ISOfix and car seats, whilst most are universal many of the 0+/1 stage are actually semi universal so DON'T fit all cars (the ones they do fit they fit well tho') as they have an extra leg that fits into the footwell. Just food for thought.

Now embrassing admission time the boots changing bag hss been my changing bag since before dd2 was born (am thinking about rejoining the baby club to get another as it's beginning to look a lttle tired) I also have the pampers one in the loft which was a little to large.

FWIW unless you are planning to bottlefeed the insulated pockets etc are all a waste of space but the changing mats are handy, (although you can buy these individually quite cheaply) again it's just another thing to throw at new parents that they have to buy....

Oh and totally agree with big car about the rocking cribs they are gorgeous but don't expect much more life out of them than you would a moses basket, as as soon as baby is even slightly more mobile they will need the protection a cot give ime ( they are recomended to 6 months max) DD2 is still in her cot at 19 months and not showing any escape tendencies YET!!!

For post birth stories I loved having this little newborn but remember the after pains the few days after the birth and not expecting them. And the intial night feeds in the days after the birth thinking I must be the only person on the planet up at such a ridiculous hour (despite the fact I used to work night shifts )

Hi to Mrsexton and welcome i came over fro the May thread if you've been there too!

Juicy - Glad to hear baby is well, I hope the scan goes well!

ermintrude - Your experience sounds lovely. Hopefully mine will be similar! Certainly I'm very happy it'll be summer so we should be able to get out and about.

June - Freecycle stuff certainly does go fast! When I moved a couple of years ago I put up a microwave, buggy and cot and they'd all been picked up by the end of the day! I'm going to have to have a very frugal month now sadly. The uni have buggered up my childcare payment which goes to nursery fees, now I won't get it until end of March and fees are due on Monday! Going to borrow from my dad so should manage to pay at least but certainly won't have any spare cash. Argh.

Looouise - I've been thinking, it is lovely the babyfather is keen to be around. My ex and I didn't speak until 3 weeks before dd was born when he was finally 'ready' to deal with it. Then it was like 'you don't want me there at the birth do you?' No certainly not but glad you're so keen darling. Then when he came to see dd for the first time he brought nothing and was awkward and strange and I had to persuade him to hold her. Totally hideous experience, I feel sad remembering. To be fair he was obviously just totally freaked out and he got MUCH better VERY quickly and he is great now, but still, I shudder.

juicy - am thinking of you. Am glad you have been seen by someone now, hope all's well with you

Laura - glad you have found some cakey treat - there's nothing like cake, is there?! V sorry to hear you were in a lift for an hour and a half! My bladder would have been unlikely to last that long

June - haven't heard back from the real estate agent yet. The landlady (imagine if we were buying - MUCH more stressful!) is in India travelling apparently. We have plenty of time before we need to more. Only... Jacqui Smith announced on Sunday (clearly not a day of rest for her, was she preparing more expense claims and so decided to make a few announcements while she was at it? ) which mean that, as "highly skilled" Australians, its no longer certain we can be here once our current visa situation changes in a few months. A little extra stress that I don't really need right now. So, that's on my mind, too. Agree, organising our wedding was less stressful than this! As MrsMcJnr will understand, I had a big spreadsheet and tracked all wedding tasks and costs that way. Actually, have one for baby clothes and prospective properties, too! Surely this is normal?

MrsExton - welcome! MN is fab and I hope you enjoy this thread.

MrsMcJnr - hope you are feeling better soon, your cold sounds awful.

Hello all you other lovely ladies!

Think I need a nanna nap, just ate too much apple crumble w custard so am a bit dozy now...

Laura - Oh yes almost forgot you! Poor you in that lift, I would have hated that too. I'm not too claustrophobic but would be if I was in a lift that long!

My turn for some reassurance girls...I just took a really hard fall over a curb at city centre. I fell on my right arm, knee and apparently breast because it really hurts! I don't think I hit my bump at all, it doesn't feel sore and i remember thinking, 'don't land on your bump!'

I am trying to not worry and sit still, which usually leads to baby movement, but if someone could once again say 'babies are well protected in there, the baby is fine' I would feel a lot better!

Oh, just got kicked! whew

Could still use the reassurance though!!

tee My auntie fell down some steps, quite hard right on her bump and the baby was absolutely fine, as you said, they are well protected in there.
How did you fall? I find myself really clumsy at the moment, things seem to drop off my hands and going up the stairs is a bit of a balance struggle.
I usually feel movement when I lie completely still for a while.